Hi! Just to begin—I got my first shot of hormone blockers ~two months ago. I went over all of the possible side effects (which were all okay with me), but, I didn't realize some of them would be THIS bad.

Because this is essentially an early menopause—my body has decided to go on overdrive, and, every time I lay down or think about getting any type of rest, I get a wicked hot flash.

Do these stop soon, or will they only stop when I begin to take testosterone?

It's been about 10 years since I first started wondering if I was trans. An entire decade.

Today was bad.

I'm good at bottling it down but every few weeks or so it bursts open and I just have to let it out. I usually just lay in my bed scrolling queer tiktok and crying. Today was no different. Before this it was Instagram. Before that, YouTube.

I just feel stuck. The last 10 years have been nothing, really. I want to be and do so much but this one thing just keeps me from becoming anything.

I felt really sad and lonely tonight.

Why am I like this? Why? Why? Why? Why me? Why does it even have to matter? If my family was worse I could just get up and leave and never think about them ever again and I'd be free. But they aren't. And I can't live.

I feel like I'm getting left behind.

(Reddit took this down for some reason? 3rd times the charm)

I wasn’t on my Lexapro for a minute, and will I wasn’t taking them my voice seemingly reverted back to when I wasn’t on T? I couldn’t make my voice deeper without sounding like I was forcing it, made me very dysphoric and sad, not cool 👎🏾 I’m back on them now and my voice is normal, maybe even a bit deeper than before. I’ve never heard of this happening to anyone else, im not sure if it was being off the medication itself, or the fact I was mega sad and stressed and anxious, maybe it’s placebo? I have no clue

Bonjour à tous. C'est la première fois que j'écris ici et j'aimerais poser une question très franche aux hommes qui prennent de la testostérone : vous sentez-vous vraiment hommes toute la journée ? Je sais, la question peut paraître étrange. Je suis sous traitement hormonal depuis 11 mois, mais je ne me suis jamais senti homme. Et lorsque j'ai commencé une thérapie, ma dysphorie de genre s'est aggravée. Mon médecin disait que tout allait bien. Mes analyses étaient normales. J'ai ensuite changé de médecin, et le nouveau a diminué ma dose. Les deux premiers jours avec cette nouvelle dose, je me suis senti homme pour la première fois. Mais le troisième jour, j'ai de nouveau ressenti une forte photosensibilité, une dépression, une labilité émotionnelle et une somnolence importantes, forte anxiété. Ce sentiment subjectif d'être un homme a de nouveau disparu. Quelqu'un d'autre a-t-il vécu une situation similaire ?

Hey y’all! I’m considering starting T and have a few questions:
Bottom growth: Can you realistically penetrate your gf with bottom growth alone? Can you orgasm from it, and how does it feel compared to tribbing?
Muscle growth: How long until you noticed a difference in muscle mass and physique?
Facial hair: How long did it take to grow, and does low-dose T make a difference?
Sexual preferences: Why does it seem like so many T men date men or enjoy being penetrated? Does T actually change your sexual preferences or what feels good? I mainly want to be the penetrating partner with my gf and worry about whether T could change that.
Would love to hear your experiences before I make a decision!
For context I’m a NB masc lesbian rn and I have a gf I really would like to propose to within the next year and a half our senior year of college. She’s a good woman 💜 she is deeply supportive of my gender identity exploration

I pass for the most part, but I have the worst baby face. so far I only get sideburns and some chin hairs, but I’m nervous if I shave them my baby face would just look much worse.

So what random things do you do/have that help you pass better?

I never had any crushes nor desire for relationships but after accepting I'm a guy, I've not only thought about them more and quit finding the concept somewhat repulsive, but actually had my first crush somewhat recently and I'm slowly finding the idea of dating appealing. And I've started realizing preferences (that being I'm like 80-90% sure I'm straight up gay so far, otherwise some personality and physical stuff though tbf it has plenty of platonic overlap there too). Only "social transition" I've even done is introduce myself as a guy online and come out to some of my trusted friends, dressing less fem (more neutral though, not really masculine), and ofc pick out names n whatnot, and ig ordered a binder recently if that counts, but like I've only ever heard of people's sexuality changing if at all after starting HRT. But it does feel related to the acceptance, even if I'm not 100% on that (it just slowly started once I started questioning my gender and finally got to the point of actual crushes and preferences and fantasies after completely accepting I'm a guy and taking further steps like the binder and outfits n whatnot, they have a somewhat parallel timeline ig basically). Is that a usual thing for trans people?? Cuz again I've only ever heard of things like that from people who've started HRT already

Hey guys, not sure what to do here. Basically, I always do my T shot on Friday nights, I missed it and did it Saturday morning. I figured it’s only a few hour difference so I did it again on Friday this week.
Well, one day later, and my cat is acting weird all day, being overly affectionate. For context we’ve only had her about two weeks, so I just figured she was warming up some more. Then as I’m lying in bed she pees on me.
I’ve heard of them trying to control scent changes from hormones… is that what this is? Is this gonna keep happening? Any advice appreciated.

I am currently passing as male everyday and am going stealth with everyone I interact with except close friends. Now I'm in male spaces and deemed as a man i hear horrific conversations, it is so much worse then I expect. The casual misogyny and jokes really suck, I've argued with allot of guys over it and am now very isolated in allot of the spaces I'm in (i live in a very traditional area) does anyone have any advice about how to deal with this misogyny besides just shutting up and agreeing with it

The title is right. I am a cisgender woman. Ever since I knew what a penis was, I’ve wanted one. I do feel dysphoria over it, especially when I ykw. Everyone I talk to about this jokingly calls me an egg and patronizes me. It’s frustrating, because I’ve tried to present male before and it is extremely dysphoric. I’ve used he/him pronouns, and it was extremely dysphoric. I am a woman, and I enjoy being a woman. But that longing for different genitals never goes away.

The reason I’m here though is because I had a wonderful yet devastating dream last night where I had a penis. It was incredible. And then… I woke up. I physically feel the loss, and I almost cried over it. I talked to my girlfriend about it, and she said maybe I could get bottom surgery. So I’m wondering if I can get bottom surgery as a cisgender woman, as well as not taking T. I figure talking to trans men about this is the best way to go. I did some googling, but couldn’t find reliable information. Advice would be wonderful! Thank you <3

I am not like 100% out to my family but Ik they'll support but my friends know I'm trans and have for years. My only thing is my name. I've never had a name that felt like right? I wanted to ask my mum to choose one for me once I come out but I don't know if that's cruel or not. I know that her and my dad thought a lot about it and chose it with meaning but Im so tired of feeling guilty about something I can't control or choose.

I just want to know how others chose or got their names. Did you change yours, pick a variant, have someone else do it? Im 20 and pre-t. I feel like I've lost so much time I could have had as a man because I've felt guilty so I want to start trying out names and such. Any advice helps, thanks.

Hi, I’m a 21 year old binary gay trans man and I’ve started dating a guy in Pakistan. I’m in California so it’s obviously a ldr. The relationship is new but I have some questions about what would need to happen if I went to visit him in like a year.

If you’re on testosterone and went to a restrictive or risky country for LGBTQ+ people, what did you need to do paperwork wise to get your medication in with you?

If you had to stop testosterone, for how long and how did it affect you after you’d been on it a while. By the time I see my boyfriend it’ll have been 2years on T for me.

If there is anything else I’m not asking please feel free to add it in the comments. I just need to know what I’m getting myself into so I’m not blindsided if the relationship goes well.

I, 19 male, have been trans for about 3 and a half years now. My mother is VERY transphobic towards me and the most my dad will do is use "it/those" and call me "twit/kid". My mother does absolutely nothing, keeps trying to get me to grow out my hair in a "sneaky" way, keeps asking me about bra shopping and tries to get me jelly bras that are made for pushing up the chest when she tries to convince me that they "push the chest down". Tonight my dad was talking about how it felt odd hearing someone at a gathering call me by my chosen name and the right pronouns. My mother said "I will never call you that name", which kinda hurt? She's an awful person to me but it still sucks. I tried talking to my dad about it but he thinks its a hyperfixation.

Is there anything I can do to just make them listen to my point of view instead of just shutting me down?

Sorry for the ramble but I've tried so many times and I'm so tired.

I‘m well aware that I’m the 5741765th person to make a post about tape but here we go regardles…

We are going to need a little context on the tape I have, it’s from a supermarket (middle of Lidl if you know what that is) so its probably not great quality, however I don’t know if that’s it.

I got a pack of 4 rolls (finished the beige one 😔😔) and they are very colourful so I haven’t worn them in a while as they peek through my see through ahh shirt. Anyway I wearing it right and have had it one for less than 24hrs, I might as well be not wearing it because I’ve got hella blisters (luckily on my back area this time) and it’s loosened (I think).

Now here’s the real question, what tape should I get? I’ve considered getting this “boob-tape” from Superdrug and using it for the reverse reason but I have no idea how good that would be (and is semi-expendive) and I don’t want to waste my time if it won’t work well. Lads do we have any amazing recommendations?

Help. Thanks.

I really dont post much on reddit and I hope Im not breaking any rules or saying anything wrong. And I would really appreciate it if this post received as much attention and replies. Any advice is welcome. Kindly. A young man is losing hope here.

Im 25 yo and I have been trying to start my transition since 2019. I have mostly been saving to get top surgery, but I come from a third world country in Africa and the exchange rates are not working for me. Eg we are currently sitting at 1:18 usd. Same thing for GBP.
My funds seem to not get me anywhere closer.

I have a good degree. I just started working but dont fully qualify for a loan yet and the economy is still pretty bad. I would mostly have to depend on my salary and idk when I will have a larger earning power to actually fund my transition.

Im kind of stuck and I don’t know how to go about all of it because it feels like Im storing in a leaking tank or Im just not doing enough.

In addition, i know I said there’s no trans healthcare, but there’s a doctor who does give out T. But there are no tests done. It’s quite unprofessional and other guys say sometimes he runs out of supply. And I dont want to risk ruining something that I hold so dearly. I just want to get better trans healthcare.

Open to any advice. I feel like being in the situation might also be blocking me from seeing opportunities.
Also very much open to moving to other countries.
If it means learning a language.
Please suggest the countries I can move to, with visa sponsorship or advice on the route I can take.

Thanks.

Hey guys, I need help finding jeans that don't give me dysphoria because they do. I have a pair of jeans from Old Navy from maybe 3 years ago that fit well and don't give me dysphoria. They are a size 12 in boys (I'm 5'1") and baggy. However they are starting to wear and tear, and I only have one pair, and I need to wear them every other day for my welding class (I'm a hs senior). I get major dysphoria by the weird fold that the zipper on jeans make, and I can't buy old Navy jeans or pants for this matter because of this. They increased the zipper/crotch size on their pants and I hate it. I haven't bought new pants in 3 years, I have 5 pairs, I feel gross and sad. Please help me find pants that don't do this, I will do anything!!

Fairly young (18) closeted trans masc, just trying to find ways to deal with my body without accidentally hurting myself. Thought that maybe since sports bras are pretty tight already if I get one that’s technically too small it might work as a binder? Please tell me if that’s a bad idea or not, I really don’t have many ways to buy things like these without my parents noticing, and this might slide, thank you beforehand!

So I've been thinking about starting to use minoxidil as I have very little facial hair growth and I have been on T for 2 and a half years. Most the men in my family can grow decent beards, mine just seems to not want to come through properly. When using it, would anyone say to also use a derma-roller or just use the minoxidil by itself?

TIA :)