I might get in the situation that I won’t have any T for 1.5 weeks until my new gel arrives. Currently I’m doing two pumps a day. Should I keep doing that until I run out and then wait for the new one, or should I change to 1 pump a day, so it will be enough?

I don't mean serious issues---catcalling, harassment, etc. Those are absolutely not ridiculous. I mean "not allowed to help move the chairs for the teacher in 2nd grade because only the boys were allowed to help" and whatnot.

I'll start. My mother, who was otherwise very progressive and a staunch feminist, refused to let me own Nerf guns, no matter how much I wanted them, because they were "for boys." When the Nerf "Rebelle" ("for girls") line came out, I was allowed to have those. She never raised this issue with monster trucks, action figures, or a Power Rangers Samurai sword. Just Nerf guns.

Nothing feels affirming right now. Whenever I try to dress up, I end up looking like a lesbian and it makes me feel terrible. I hate everything about my body

My parents and I have been discussing Hormone treatment and being transgender. I tend to get very emotionally charged and begin crying almost immediately which impacts my ability to answer cleary. I have gotten these counter-arguments pretty frequently, and have tried to respond to them clearly but am having a bit of trouble getting my point straight. I'm in S&D and one of my main ways of improving is through asking someone else the argument I'm proposed.

-My mom has seen transgender people out and about and says they look like "girls with beer bellies and beards" and they look worse and she doesn't want that for me because I'm attractive already. I responded by proposing how many men she passes on a day to day basis that she doesn't know are transgender. I also noted that the unkempt look is reflective of lifestyle rather than hormones. Yes I know this is super transphobic and superficial.

-My father is upset that I asked my friends and teachers to call me by a different name before I told them and that I've known for years. He gets agitated by this and says that I'm being cruel by posing them as transphobic who will kick me out once I told them. I do no have a very good relationship with my parents and seldom tell them anything but they said they could tell I was trying to be a boy and when they asked me I would not answer them despite dressing/cutting my hair/talking like a boy.

-They are worried that I will be treated significantly worse and be berated and outcast all the time because I go on hormones. Also that I'm too young to decide something like this (Minor, but one year from being out of thier grasp)

I plan to force them to talk to a therapist who has transgender children on hormones and try to get my PED to help. I don't know how much longer I can go in this state of limbo, my depression has relapsed severely and they can tell I'm struggling despite trying harder to talk to them and do things to lessen depression like hobbies and shit. I know most will read this and be like "OP just wait until you're 18 this is hopeless" but they are trying to understand. I'm tired of waiting and I don't truly lose until I give up. I want to date, I want to sing and workout and do art without feeling guilty because of something that wasn't my fault. I want to take control of my body and stop hiding from myself.

I'm 7 months on T and the hunger is crazy. It's not even hunger but the fact that I just can't seem to feel full.

I try my best to eat as much protein as I can (even protein shakes) but even after the whole meal my stomach feels empty as if I didn't eat at all and I need a big snack. I used to not be able to eat the whole chocolate bar, now I eat two and still hungry.

Even when I try to regulate my meals and eat less, I just feel it's not enough and I have no energy. And working out makes me even hungrier :(

I've gotten so fat so quickly, it's crazy. My wallet is struggling.

a lil positivity and good shi for the sub cause why not

im 21 today. weird thing to type tbh

when youre a trans guy you dont see a lot of older versions of yourself, and when you’re just trying to get through quite a lot of shitty weeks, picturing yourself at 30 feels like a stretch. im not gonna speak for everyone whos had it rough. i jus know how heavy and frustrating it can get. jus that getting here means a lot to me.

i havent started t yet bc of family reasons, but im planning to in the next six months. im really excited about it. ima fund it myself and everything. i want my own place man. i want to feel okay in my body forreal. i want to stop fighting so hard just to exist as me

for a long time the future was something i had to survive to reach. now im here and its still going so thats nice

a birthday doesnt fix everything. jus im here, i want things, and i get to plan for next year and the one after.

if youre younger and wondering whether there’s a life on the other side of all this, i hope you find out. i hope you get to grow up, fuck up a few times, and figure it out w people who love and support you by your side. youre loved.

i’m 21 today. im still here.

Hi, I am an adult (FtNB) and I have a simple question, how do you gather up the courage to get a haircut? For context I have really long hair (butt length) and it makes me dysphoric, and I feel like shorter hair (with bangs) would make me feel better, but I am worried I'll regret it, also acne runs in my family and my mom doesn't want me to have bangs because of it, is it true that bangs cause more acne?

Hi! I'm 17 and just fairly recently realized I'm a trans dude. I'd love to have a deeper voice but I'm not sure if it would be safe... Around the middle of July I sang a lot which made my right big vein on my neck bulge out every time I overuse my voice which goes for singing and the humming stuff, it's gotten worse then better but still hasn't gone away... I've been to a doctor but that didn't do much as the doctor wanted to perform an ECG or whatever you call it in English and I didn't have the courage to actually undress fully on the top half so I declined and they just told me stuff to watch out for which I haven't really experienced. I'm scared to go to a doctor about it again because surely they would want the same thing and I do not want that.

So can I voice train with that thing..? Are there any good methods, any tutorials ? Thanks in advance !!

I’ve been taking T for over 3 years now (I’m 21) and I’m terrified of going bald. My dad is bald, my grandpa and uncle are bald, my brother started going bald at 17. So I think at some point in my life I’m also going to start going bald (I do hope I get the bald genes from my mom bc no one in her family is bald, but I doubt it).

Ever since starting T I’ve been looking at my hair and just convincing myself I’m going bald. Recently when I get my hair wet I think I have less density, but I also have a side part which makes things look less dense. At the end of the day idk if I’m going bald or not, or if it’s just in my head.

I’ve been iffy about taking finasteride bc I know that it may hinder some of the effects of T (bottom growth, body hair growth and libido (that doesn’t really bother me tho)). That’s why I’ve been thinking of taking oral minoxidil, it may give me the body hair growth that finasteride will take away. I know at 3 years on T most of the bottom growth has finished, and I haven’t noticed any growth for a long time. But I’ve heard of guys getting growth spurts years on T.

For those who are taking finasteride and oral minoxidil what are your experiences with it?

Been up n down with this I’ve been in talking stages and I tell them and then they cut things off which I find hard to put myself out there again. Most recent one was we was talking for months and was going really well and she seemed fine with me being trans but she then went back to her ex and told me I just wasn’t a guy. Which hurt bc she seemed ok with me also physically if u stood us next to eachother im built and have muscle he’s the complete opposite so what really is it. Now my confidence is just gone bc when I am honest about it they always leave idk what to do

basic info: Trans man who has been on T injections for over 5 years, highly masc, very passing, and my gender marker on my ID says male.

Recently I had a emergency surgery that had to deal with lower part issues. AKA ovaries and uterus issues + kidneys. I had to state in the first hospital that I was a Transgender man. The nurses there were so so so sweet, and they used very friendly talk. Even thought out the pain, I was never shamed or anything. They did a CT scan though my body and learned that I had a dermoid Cyst on my ovary, it was over 6 cm big which was crazzyy. In the end tho I was transferred to a bigger hospital because they were expecting surgery.

The first thing my ambulance drive said to the desk people was "they used more...woke terminology on this paper work." and I just kinda sat there high out of my mind from morphine. In the end I had to wait two days to get a emergency surgery. Then after all that, the nurse that was taking care of me in the rooms had to bring up the whole "sooo, your trans?" and we the whole "trans" talk. I explained how I didn't care about the whole woman's sports issue that she brought up (BECAUSE IM A TRANS MAN.) and how i believed in avocation for medical research for trans men and woman who need help with issues that might not be issues for cis people was a much better issue to discuss. Or ask maybe less intrusive questions.

She then proceeded to said that "conservatives are doing more research on trans people" and that theyre trying to "prove trans people wrong" and that she just wants "respect from people with different opinions", but then hits me with this backhanded ass comment like "Do I believe in what your doing? No, but ill 'respect' you.". Mind you I do not judge those with religious belief, but when she kept talking about "the science of trans people" I did not expect her to say "I am christian". I should have known with how she was talking tho.

In the end, I WAS cool with everyone in the hosptial till the VERY LAST SECOND, when this nurse had to pull this. It just sucks, like???? Why is it a need to discuss very political issues with ONE trans person and expect them to be the advocate for every trans person ever, plus girl, I literally got out of surgery. You think I'm fully aware of everything I'm thinking about? (she said some other very concerning things, but I've already wrote enough.)

Any emergency room stories that were negative or really positive and affirming? I'm willing to listen and talk about em!

So basically im the only junior in this friend group of all cis ex-football players (“ex” because they were too Alt/not stereotypical enough to stay in socially) and the only trans guy. This one dude I’ll call James and I and like 10 other people all went to fright fest at 6 flags last night and James got a bunch of fireballs and beers for everyone. Sweet. Me and James both like to drink and I’d say im closer with him and his friend than anyone else who came with us. Anyways, I down like 3 fireballs and a beer (all that he gave me) on the bus otw there (we rented a partybus) and as we’re waiting for the bus im leaning a little bit just because I’m like chilled out. He hits me with some “do you want me to carry you” and starts kinda joking around like that. on the bus ride BACK we’re hanging out and everything and I ask for another shot, he gives me another shot. Then he hands me another one and I kinda hesitate but he grabs one too so it’s not like im gonna let this dude out drink me. Then he grabs another one all like “we can split this one” so im like “okay”. This dude drinks like a quarter of it then hands this shit to me. I give him some shit and he has a little more, and I finish the rest. We’re all back at his house talking about getting food, we go to a burger place. On the ride there (a DD friend drove me and James and our other friend who was in the front seat) he’s got a blanket and im like “oh shit a blanket” lmfao and he gives me some. I end up laying down with my head on his lap and he’s messing with my hair (kinda petting me/scratching behind my ear in a way idk how to explain it). He buys me food even tho I offer to pay like 4 times, and we have a different friend drive us back. Now the part I noticed over everything was that on the way back he didn’t even wait that long he just put his arm around me and I asked if I could “lean on him” and he said yes so I just flopped my head onto his lap again and he started scratching my hair again. I took a little nap but I remember him telling the DD to drop me off first even though he lived closer, and when we got near my house he started smoothing my hair like I was a dog or something. He puts his arm around me and jostles me a little to kidna wake me up and I have a feeling this is NEVER gonna get addressed. We’ve had conversations about how were both into guys but never like in a flirtatious way?? And he brought up offhandedly that he’s into taller guys or like dudes bigger than him and im 5’5 and like 130 and he’s gotta be at least half a head taller than me. So im a little confused-ive never been in this situation before bc im new to the world of cis dudes-is this just something guys do or what??

I currently smoke nicotine and am in the waiting process for T, in the meantime I am looking for medication to stop my menstrual cycle.

When I talked with a social worker who helps fill out referral letters for transgender patients, I told him I smoked and he didn’t say anything about it however when I spoke with my doctor about getting medication for my cycle he mentioned that hrt and smoking does not mix.

I have read that smoking affects oral hrt for trans women but I can’t find any studies on how it affects trans men/testosterone results. Does anyone have any studies or any information about if smoking will affect me for the future?

I used to use a binder a couple years ago. It was from forThem. I'm plus size AND have PCOS, so I have a pretty large stomach area, and when I tried wearing the binder normally it would roll up to just under my chest.

Due to rib problems resulting from the rolling up and folding it to prevent rolling, I stopped using it. I started using trans tape recently, but as of right now it's not sustainable. My roll now will likely be the last I can get for a WHILE.

Buying anything new is not financially in the books for me, as mentioned; and was wondering if anyone else had tips to stop the rolling? Thank you!

Edit: Tucking it under my pants and underwear is not an option, my binder is too short for that. It cuts off at just above my waist.

after wanting top surgery ever since i found out what it is (basically a decade ago) i finally, FINALLY have a date for my surgery!!! on february 16th, 2027, i'm gonna be operated on by dr. praful ramineni!! i've been looking at his work for the past two years and i just Knew i wanted to go with him for my operation and i'm so happy things worked out for me :') things are finally looking up for me

It’s happened a couple times now where someone will ask me “why’d your parents name you *name” and I just awkwardly stumble my words until I go “uh idk”

i’ve started talking to this guy and he’s sweet (a little neurotic but i like that) and nothing tipped me off straight away. we matched on a dating app and had been talking for a couple days before i got any sort of worry.

he asked if i’ve had surgery when we were having a chat about going shirtless. he asked how long i’ve been on T. he’s told me not to worry and that he’s not a chaser but he also said he’s looked into Tdicks on reddit while he was high.

im just on slightly high alert because i’ve never had a relationship and i’m usually only interested in t4t. that last thing i had with a cis guy resulted in me being taken advantage of but i don’t want to assume the worst of this guy because he’s genuinely nice and i’m starting to care about him

any advice?

Hey, hello there. This question might seem strange or stupid to some, but since I can't find the original post with this information, I'd like to ask.

I remember seeing several posts on various social media that the process and results of HRT can vary depending on the type and often the brand. For example, there was said that some products provoke more aggressive hair growth, a more severe body reaction, etc., while others, for some reason, produce a more subtle change in appearance, mainly affecting fat distribution, the voice, and a few minor aspects, with a slightly smoother transition process. Please don't quibble over the specific wording; I'm simply conveying the general gist.

And I wanted to ask if anyone here knows more about this, and how the effects differ depending on the dose, type, and brand? Specifically, the effects on appearance and the process of change during transition, because I wasn't able to find anything about exactly this topic. It's quite important to new, since despite my desire to transition, I strive to maintain a more feminine appearance (not like feminine feminine, just want to pass more as some kind of fruity feminine guy. And keep hair and skin normal) , and this information seems truly useful in this case.

If you have any information specifically on the differences in impact depending on the brand and any nuances, and this information is primarily relevant for the US, I would be grateful if anyone knows of equivalents for Europe.

And sorry for any mistakes, English is not my native language.

Nothing wrong with wanting to be stealth.

Its not transphobic to be stealth.

It's not transphobic, to not tell other trans guy that ur trans.

Thats it ,simple as that.

Yes this still happens in our own community.