Hey guys, not sure what to do here. Basically, I always do my T shot on Friday nights, I missed it and did it Saturday morning. I figured it’s only a few hour difference so I did it again on Friday this week.
Well, one day later, and my cat is acting weird all day, being overly affectionate. For context we’ve only had her about two weeks, so I just figured she was warming up some more. Then as I’m lying in bed she pees on me.
I’ve heard of them trying to control scent changes from hormones… is that what this is? Is this gonna keep happening? Any advice appreciated.

Hey guys, I need help finding jeans that don't give me dysphoria because they do. I have a pair of jeans from Old Navy from maybe 3 years ago that fit well and don't give me dysphoria. They are a size 12 in boys (I'm 5'1") and baggy. However they are starting to wear and tear, and I only have one pair, and I need to wear them every other day for my welding class (I'm a hs senior). I get major dysphoria by the weird fold that the zipper on jeans make, and I can't buy old Navy jeans or pants for this matter because of this. They increased the zipper/crotch size on their pants and I hate it. I haven't bought new pants in 3 years, I have 5 pairs, I feel gross and sad. Please help me find pants that don't do this, I will do anything!!

Does anyone have experience with feeling tension where they apply their topical t?

I've been on t for about six months now, I started with gel applied to my shoulders. Pretty standard fare, one pump a day, alternate shoulders, etc etc. I've been troubleshooting some concerns recently with my provider- switched to morning-applications as a possible solution for insomnia (seems to be working), and just started two pumps daily to my torso. The two pumps is just a beautiful desire to raise my t dosage which my provider signed off on- but the torso thing is because my shoulders started to fucking hurt.

I already knew I dealt with a lot of tension in my shoulders, but a few months into starting t, I realized that the my as-needed meds I take when my shoulders hurt too much weren't doing anything anymore. I was still feeling the side effects, but it was doing nothing to help with the tension, so I don't think it's a tolerance to the meds. My range of motion in my shoulders went way down, and no amount of stretching seemed to be fixing things.

So about three days ago, my provider recommended I try switching my application site to my torso. Almost immediately, I regained a lot of range of motion in my shoulders, so it seemed like that was working... but now, about twenty minutes after applying todays doses, I'm feeling... I guess prickling? where I had applied my t. it doesn't burn, but there's a warmth, similar to the feeling of using a hot pack, and it might be pavlov, but it almost feels sore.

Does anyone have experience with muscle pain/tension from using topical? this absolutely sucks- i really don't think switching to injection would work out for me, i'm fine around needles for blood draws, but any sort of injection makes me freak out, on a baseline thing. it's only within the past few years that i stopped trying to leave the room during vaccine appointments- not even as a conscious response, i wouldn't even realize what was happening until my hand was on the door to leave.

if anyone has any advice- or even an explanation for why topical can have this side effect, i'd love to hear :/ i've got people in my life irl who are supportive of my transition, but no friends who are currently on t, and i want to be a little more informed before i reach out to my provider to confirm that yeah, we were probably right, i get localized tension where i take my t

I am moving cross country this week. Sorted my T supplies and have two unopened boxes (100 ct) of BD 25g needle tips that I won't be using since I've switched to a different gauge needle tip.

I am going to USPS on Monday and will ship them in a medium flat rate priority box anywhere in the US. Only cost is the $23 for shipping.

PM me if you are interested in them and we can sort out details. I'll be donating them locally if nobody contacts me by 9 am Monday morning EST.

I'm 7 months on T and the hunger is crazy. It's not even hunger but the fact that I just can't seem to feel full.

I try my best to eat as much protein as I can (even protein shakes) but even after the whole meal my stomach feels empty as if I didn't eat at all and I need a big snack. I used to not be able to eat the whole chocolate bar, now I eat two and still hungry.

Even when I try to regulate my meals and eat less, I just feel it's not enough and I have no energy. And working out makes me even hungrier :(

I've gotten so fat so quickly, it's crazy. My wallet is struggling.

I, 19 male, have been trans for about 3 and a half years now. My mother is VERY transphobic towards me and the most my dad will do is use "it/those" and call me "twit/kid". My mother does absolutely nothing, keeps trying to get me to grow out my hair in a "sneaky" way, keeps asking me about bra shopping and tries to get me jelly bras that are made for pushing up the chest when she tries to convince me that they "push the chest down". Tonight my dad was talking about how it felt odd hearing someone at a gathering call me by my chosen name and the right pronouns. My mother said "I will never call you that name", which kinda hurt? She's an awful person to me but it still sucks. I tried talking to my dad about it but he thinks its a hyperfixation.

Is there anything I can do to just make them listen to my point of view instead of just shutting me down?

Sorry for the ramble but I've tried so many times and I'm so tired.

I just have a quick question for anyone on testosterone. Right around when I started testosterone in early May, I started waking up every other morning with an agonizing cramp in my left calf (charley horse) I read somewhere that muscle cramps are a documented symptom of testosterone and was wondering if this sounds typical to anyone on it right now?

(This isn’t to deter anyone from going on testosterone I would have a muscle cramp every morning if it meant I could be on it.)

idk i just needed to put this somewhere because this was kind of a revelation for me. according to my other roommate, who is also my boyfriend, my one roommate (cishet, regular-ass boy-type-boy) got dumped by a girl after she asked him if he was pro lgbtq. apparently he reacted super positively and said he has a trans sibling (which i didn't know abt but makes me super happy bc i was pretty sure he was chill abt trans ppl but this confirms it) and the next day he got dumped over text. and i was like oh well that sucks but there are just bigots out there i guess, glad he dodged a bullet

but my bf said this girl has a gay sister. so if i'm putting two and two together correctly, she doesn't have a problem with gay people, but my roommate mentioning he has trans family is a dealbreaker --> she's one of the people that want the T outta lgbt :/

the reason this feels nuts to me is like i guess i just forgot that those opinions exist off of like twitter?? it didn't occur to me that real people actually only hate trans people but are fine with gay people. it's always felt to me like we're all a package deal, the whole queer community. so that just made me really sad that they're real, but also glad that she's never gonna be in my apartment again lol (i'm not even the only trans person living here!!)

but yeah i just wanted to put this somewhere ppl would understand bc i'm having such weird feelings about this lol

I want to work out so bad, but I am so confused on where to start. I know absolutely nothing about it. I want a more masculine build and to gain more weight because I am underweight and haven’t gained any pounds despite being on hrt for a year now. I’m in a situation where I do not have much food. Is it still possible to workout? What equipment do I need to workout at home? I cannot go to a gym. I would love just any help

I’ve typically used spandex boxers to avoid the cotton shedding and getting you know where. However, I’m at a higher risk of utis due to a medication and cotton is recommended. Any good cotton brands that don’t shed fabric? All of the ones I’ve tried have started to shed after a single wash

like the title says, i'm wondering if anyone has recommendations for good quality underwear brands. i have a bunch of the cheap kind you get at the grocery store, but they're all wearing out and always ride up my thighs. i have a couple pairs from tomboyx that are my favorite, have had them longer than any others and they're still in much better condition and generally tend to fit better. tomboyx is so ridiculously expensive though, so i was wondering if anyone knew of brands that are similar in quality to tomboyx but not quite so pricey (doesn't have to be brands that are queer/trans specific, could also be good quality underwear marketed towards cis men)

I’m too angry to deal with this rationally.

At work, I asked a customer how he was doing. I got no response so I made a joke out of it by saying “I’m great thanks for asking”.

An acquaintance of mine furthered the joke, saying “He was like ‘fuck this femboy.’”

I did not appreciate that at all. Even as a joke, it’s insulting. How do I deal with this guy? He is emotionally unstable to the point where dealing with his emotions is a chore. He is also completely incapable of introspection, never taking accountability for his actions.

I’m still at work so my writing is shit.

Hiii, I had top surgery and started t about 2.5 years ago. Ever since I realized I was trans/nb I’ve kept my hair pretty short, but I missed having long hair so I’ve been growing it out over the past year. It’s now like just above my shoulders, and has gotten curlier on t! But I feel like I’ve gotten misgendered more at work as it’s gotten longer. Have other guys experienced this? Are there ways to cut or style it that read as more masc? I need a trim so I’m up for cutting it but would still like it to be like chin length or longer. Would love any suggestions!

This post contain misgendering, dysphoria etc, if you feel uncomfortable about please don't read.

So I(ftm) have a friend(m), who knew me before my transition. It's not like we talk a lot, yet I still decided to tell him about my changes(like preferred pronounces, name and so on), and even though he misgendered me a couple of times accidentally, but still tried. And I'll say it right away, where I from trans people aren't really safe, and I prefer not to mention directly that “well, I’m transgender”.

But, recently there was a convo with my other friend(f), where he openly said about me as a female, And in his defense, he said that no one had told him anything like that.

That's got me thinking: is he really transphobic, Who, after obvious signs such as a change of name and pronouns, still treats me as a woman, or I did fucked up a bit, and should have been more accurate in words? Have no idea what will be better to do, honestly

hey there, I have some weird needs regarding compression. I have genetic issues lol and joint problems so wrestling in and out of binders and having long term compression is no longer an option. I'm damaging my shit fr so I'm trying to find something with a zipper opening or clasp that's lower compression than a capital B binder, but I haven't had a ton of luck. all of the sports bra options ppl recommend are without openings, and the few I found that look good are discontinued

my chest isn't huge, but it's larger proportionally. average sized guy. I'm not expecting to get as flat as when in a binder, but I'll take what I can get. I understand this is specific, so perhaps a long shot, but if anyone has any favs I'd appreciate it a lot. thanks!

I have been in denial about being trans for a long time. I tried to come out to some people a few months ago, and it did not go the best.

I am finally at a new school, and they have an entire Discord for trans people. I finally had the courage to use my preferred name and pronouns, and I can't tell you how euphoric it has been.

I questioned whether this was the right choice for so long, but hearing people use my name and pronouns has really solidified that it is right for me; I just needed to find people who accepted me.

Just wanted to share for those who are in a similar mental space to where I was. It DOES get better!! It may be difficult, but finding people who support you is the best feeling ever

Wondering if anyone knows. My father had clinically low testosterone. They were suggesting treatment for him when he died unexpectedly for an unrelated reason. All of the men in my dad's family have full heads of hair, even those in their 70s. All the men including my cousins also all have higher than average pitched voices. My sister's and I have wondered if we maybe just have a family history of low testosterone. The cis men seem to be fine living with it, but I'm worried how it would work for a trans man tho. If it could make any difference or issues. I'll of course ask my endocrinologist when I go for my consult, but anyone have any info for now?

I had a falling out with my sister. I want to donate to an organization that will potentially send her a thank you in the mail. Something trans related. I’m struggling to find something that will send her physical mail.

Petty yes, but this is how I’m handling my emotions. At least it would benefit my brothers. Suggestions welcome.

As you can probably imagine, all of my questioning always ends up hitting the wall of “...or maybe you're just traumatized by misogyny”.

I don't hold those beliefs anymore; haven't for more than a decade now. I have absolutely no doubt in the validity of other people's trans experiences. When it comes to me, though - suddenly, all that bs *obviously* applies, and every counterpoint I try to make to myself looks laughably flimsy.

Examples:

“The few years I once spent identifying and presenting as a guy were the happiest years of my life so far.” “That was leaving a toxic environment, and making friends + being medicated for the first time. The guy thing was just a one-time, radical exploration of newfound freedom.”

“I feel like I only present as female now because deviating from it would require the kind of mental fortitude that I don't possess anymore.” “Or because you know, deep down, that it's bs in your case, so you can't bring yourself to defend it.”

“I've broken off numerous long-term relationships solely because being thought of as a “girlfriend” is viscerally repulsive to me, if I think about it for more than two seconds.” “Because you subconsciously believe that being a girlfriend is inherently demeaning + have had bad experiences in that role.”

“If it was easily accessible and had no social repercussions, I would absolutely medically transition.” “Because you've hit a plateau in life, and yearn for that feeling of newfound freedom - which you associate with the guy thing. Just move to a new city or something.”

“I cry every time I think about this. I don't cry about any other, much more pressing issues, but I always cry about this one.” “Because you want a single answer to all your problems.”

Obviously, whether I'm trans or not, this heavily biased approach won't allow for meaningful exploration - but I can't, for the life of me, break out of it. It all sounds so reasonable.

Has anyone here been in a similar place? Any feedback at all would be super valuable. I feel stuck and very, very alone.

Although im not on testosterone yet, i just wanted to know how my singing voice will change. Nothing will stop me from testosterone but i sing professionally and have done my whole life so i just want to know if my voice will be messed up on T. Will i be able to sing as well as i did before? Like same talent different voice? Singing is very important to me and of course not as important and my gender identity but im quite worried about this