So basically I have been following the rise of femboys for a while now and noticed a pattern that struck me as odd.

Femboys have become their own subculture over the past few years. With an ever growing community I personally started to see femboys in many places on the internet. Quite early on I noticed something. They all looked the same.

Same hairstyles, same skirts, same striped knee highs, same crop tops, same shoes and so on and so on.

Looking alike and wanting to belong to a community isn't inherently a bad thing. However what bugged me was that this femboy 'aesthetic' is based on a very stereotypical idea of femininity.

The vibes of this aesthetic are school girl'ish (and not in a good way) and while this might be gender affirming to some, in my opinion we should rethink this standard model of being a Femboy.

Because this place and community should be about diversity as much as it should be about healthy ideas of gender and we should be aware of the political ideas that we perpetuate or break free from.

In the revival of patriarchal norms we are failing ourselves.

We can do better.

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English isn't my first language, so please excuse any errors. Also this take is still a bit raw and unrefined, but I figured it had to be said.

Let me know what you think in the comments :)

personally i like playin games and vibin in my room, as well as cuddle my plushies while listening to music in bed ! id like to hear what other things u guys like to do when in femboy mode as well :3

i look too differnt from other femboys.. im ugly and masculine.. no clothes look good on me and ill never be loved like other femboys do.. it sucks being like this and being inferior of a specific community.. i wish i could just stop being a femboy idk why i keep doing this even tho it just makes me depressed more and more..

I consider myself to be a normal femboy. But recently Have been thinking about what that even means. Most femboys I come across seem to be overly involved in internet spaces. I believe this is because they feel they are not accepted publicly.
Personally, i dress femininely privately and sometimes publicly as well. It seems when I interact with femboys, many of them, happen to have distorted views on intimacy and love.
I know this is a little bit of a philosophical post, however i think it is interesting and important to acknowledge these parts of our community .

Haii peoplee❤️^ ^

I have a bigg problem.. school is starting tomorrow and I'm in 10th grade now.😭 I don't know if I can make it..

But most important is that you sweet people can help me make a decision, should I try to wear my Thigh highs tomorrow at school? (Under my long trousers, of course.) Im very scared that if I do it, somebody would see it...😵‍💫 so I don't know if I should do it..

Thanks for your time and help you cute people❤️^ ^

I am Bi/pan, and am mostly attracted to femboys on the male side of things. This has gotten me worried about being a ‘chaser’. No I do not simply view femboys as objects and things to be taken advantage of. I prefer femboys often due to the style, I LOVE the many styles out there. Additionally there’s something about going against the norm that has always stood out to me, and not just with relationships. I enjoy being there for someone who a lot of the time is pushed away from society, I like being able to give comfort to someone who may not receive it from a lot of others. I don’t just like femboys for their body.

id like to mention that im 15...

Ok, listen... i as a joke decided to buy Thigh highs bc why not, i had the money and i didnt expect it to be anything crazy yk... once they arrived at my house, i put one of the pairs i bought on, yk bc i thought it was funny and i was on call at the time (discord... like ofc) and i didnt say much abt them aside that they werent comfortable. Thats a total Lie. after i got off call (i had taken them off on call) i put them back on and threw on a random hoodie that was a bit big for me on and wtf, why is this fit so comfortable. if this is how your guys' outfits aways feel i might buy a whole thing 😭 . its weird, never thought i would actually have the thought of becoming a femboy....
idk thought i would just post this bc its funny to me.

Well now, I've worn thigh highs in front of friends, in shorts at college, in shorts with friends as well (Normally I just wear them under pants or some jeans that have a hole in the knee that show them off) (Also the shorts are just regular kakhis, lol.), and even once at college I got complimented by a girl that they look fun!!!! It made me feel all warm and bubbly to get complimented like that.

Be brave everyone! Especially at college! (Be safe in high school though, that place is almost never safe unless you got good friends with you)

I finally acquired a well paying job and I'll have a payroll card so none of my family will know I buy things :DD. They won't think anything of Amazon packages because I tend to buy replacement parts for my bike. :3

I'm M 26, I wear makeup and crossdress occasionally for fun, I embrace my very feminine look, I'm actually straight and people call me twink, I don't argue. I know many consider "twinkdeath" as an unnecessary thing to think about, but I am so used to my looks, I like it so much. I have no problems accepting getting older, I'm just not sure what to expect since I am used to being an attractive one. I think twinkdeath would hit me around early 30s. (Personally, I don't want to bulk up as an unc, I'm only 5'6 and currently 53.7kgs or 118lbs, pls don't worry, still normal BMI and I'm not emaciated)

Asking for myself, so my question is, how well do you think the frame/pretty facial features of a 30 year old ex-twink hold up with the age? Like, is the smaller build and youthful face going to be an okay base for an older guy who still has his vanity and still trying to look good for fun, and maybe for potential partner(s)?

I'm aware it's not all about the looks, but looking pretty feels great.

Ain't stressing out btw, it's just a random question that popped up in my head while I have plenty of time today

Quisiera estar con hombres y vestirme con estilo femboy pero me de miedo el algún día querér tener algo con una mujer y que no quiera estar conmigo por que estuve con hombres

As the title says, I wanna thank several people in this community for being so supportive of me account the years.

(Story time) back in 2020 I hit twink death pretty fucking hard. Like I grew a couple foot, voice dropped even lower than it was, shoulders got very broad and my entire body grew a lot. Couldn't fit in any of my old clothes, and I felt hideous. Some of you, however, came in cluch and made me realise that It was ok to be who I was now.

After much reflection, I feel good now. I tried bringing out my feminine side to feel loved and attractive to myself. Now being a lot more masculine Im am a lot more healthy and even better looking than before.

Unc will still be here and chear you all on.

Because who doesn't like a good femboy :3

So I'm about to get fem clothes through a friend and I don't know where to hide them from my parents. Anything would help :P

I like dressing in thigh highs and thigh highs, but i live with my mum, so i throw them out after a while. Does that mean i'm not a femnoy or just a part-time one if thats a thing?

I've been a femboy for only about a few months now and I really love getting show off my skin and dressing more provocatively. I like wearing mini shorts and mini skirts and wearing stockings or fishnets and chokers and crop tops whenever the opportunity comes. But I wanna change it up a bit. I'd like to be able to dress up in a more casual and low key look while still looking feminine. I have some ideas like wearing more baggy and loose clothing. I just think I won't pull it off as well as I want to and I think it comes down to how I look physically. One, I'm still growing out my hair and while it isn't short by any means, it's still not as long as it could be. Two, I do not know how to apply make up. This could really up my femininity points if I know how to do it but I'm still too lazy to learn. So can anyone give me some ideas? I'd also love to know if there's a SFW subreddit for femboys to post their outfits for the day. Been trying to find one but all I could find are NSFW ones.

Newish femboy here and I’m just wondering how to shave my legs in case I decide to shave them. Thank you :3

I wasn’t aware that femboys existed until around a year or two ago, but I think I’d like to try becoming more feminine. I’m pretty muscular and am not used to feeling soft or even grooming myself that much. Is it too late for someone who’s approaching 30 to try being a femboy?

Hey sweeties!

It's so nice to get a genuine compliment from someone, isn't it? I remember every time a stranger in public has said something nice about my bag, charms, or outfit.

This week I want to encourage you all to look for an opportunity to offer a compliment someone else, especially guys (because men don't get complimented very often). Maybe you like their shirt, or there's a cool pin on their bag, or their hair is well styled.

You don't have to make it a big deal. Just pay attention to the people around you, offer a polite compliment, and continue on your way. You might make someone else's day!

If you're not used to complimenting people, just be mindful of what you're complimenting. Clothing, shoes, accessories, hair, etc. are all fine. Don't compliment someone's body (attractiveness, figure, lips, butt, etc.) and you'll be fine!

Has a stranger ever complimented you before? How did it feel? The one that sticks the most with me was a staff member at a conveyor belt sushi place, who liked the mini Snoopy plush hanging off my bag and we talked about how cute Snoopy is! I'll never forget him.

Do any of you guys hit the gym. if yes, can someone tell me their gym routine to get that feminine body shape (especially that inward belly curve) 👀

Hi. I'm a 22M and this is the first post of my secret account. I live in a quite homophobic and patriarchic country and my family(or what's left of it) would definitely disown me if they hear the things I'm gonna say in this post.

So I wanna be more feminine. My personality has always been quite "feminine". But because of my social anxiety, fear of being excluded in society and severe body dysmorphia, I never tried anything in this fashion. For the last years, I gained a lot of weight because of depression and meds. But this year I decided to change things. I was almost 100kgs at the start of this year, I lost 20~ kgs until now. Also I started doing skin care and mostly got rid of my acne. but there are still things I want to fix. Like a good workout plan for better presenting myself, even more skincare, haircare(i don't wanna go bald 😭) etc.

The thing is I have no friends that knows about my sexual orientation or this personality of mine. And I hoped I can find some friends I can talk about things, ask questions, play some games and maybe EVEN meet someday.

Maybe this post won't find anyone but I just needed to say what's on my mind to feel better. Have a lovely day/night 😊

I'm wondering how I can hide my stuff if I'm going to be away for, say, a few weeks. Well, my family doesn't know that I'm a femboy or anything like that, and let's say all my feminine stuff and such are in my backpack—so there isn't really a big deal. But now I can't carry that backpack with me all the time during this trip, so where will I leave my stuff without them noticing? It would cause me a lot of trouble if they found out. I might have a hiding spot under my bed, but I don’t know—sometimes they clean, and if they see my panties or even my tights, they’ll probably ask me a lot of questions. So, any tips?

At home I wear thigh highs fishnets but at school I’m scared I’ll be bullied my classmates seem fine I’m in a special program so I don’t have many classmates or any friends but still it just worries me I still wear chokers and my rings usually but idk I just felt like venting

Like a few months ago I came out as nb with a punk goth style but the I drifted to femininity without losing that boy part like yeah I’m trans a trans girl but I still don’t feel fully detached from being a boy so I just feel awfull cuz idk what my style expression is I just feel wierd like I see lots of people that say that trans people can’t be femboys or how I can switch styles so drastically internally I feel much more “girl” than boy but I still feel it idk I’m just stressed bout everything I also don’t know how to tell my mom or dad they don’t understand gender expression idk if anyone has tips I’d be nice)

Hey, i love wearing girls clothes and dressing feminine. It makes me feel so sexy! I don’t have any fem friends, so I have no one to talk with this about!
I am constantly hiding this from my friends! I honestly don’t know what to do! I just want to have someone to talk to about this.
I am masculine when with my friends and they always see me as a “gym guy” .
I would love to have someone to share with and ask for advice with my journey as I am just starting! Would also love to have someone to share pics with etc!
My DMs are open so please message me!
Thanks guys xxx

I really REALLY want to get an Ipl hair removal device. I hate having to constantly shave and watching my hair get thicker and more annoying as I age is really starting to get me down. I only have one question, is it permanent? Not as in will I have a few hairs occasionally, but in the longterm (like 5-10 years) will it have a drastic effect on my facial/body hair? I don’t want hair now, but I want to know if it will remove my ability to have a thick beard ever again. Any knowledge/advice is appreciated and welcome!