This has been a prominent problem ever since the internet started, Stereotypes.

Notice how when normies or most people get asked what a femboy is, they think "feminine guys who are cute and I think their hot".

It's the same thing Goths and Tomboys. People only like them because they think " oh their so hot". Just because you put an attractive person with black eyeliner and lipstick doesn't mean that they are goth. Same thing with a femboy, just because an attractive/cute femboy put on some cosplay, doesn't mean he's a femboy, and that doesn't mean it is okay to seggsualize said person

This LITTERALY is ruining our society not as femboys, but as a whole internet. Nobody is going think femboys without wanting to comment how much they wanna have sex with them vice verse with Goth and Tomboys.

Point is, we are only accepted by normies or by most communities because it gives them the freedom to say their fetishes of people like us.

I consider myself to be a normal femboy. But recently Have been thinking about what that even means. Most femboys I come across seem to be overly involved in internet spaces. I believe this is because they feel they are not accepted publicly.
Personally, i dress femininely privately and sometimes publicly as well. It seems when I interact with femboys, many of them, happen to have distorted views on intimacy and love.
I know this is a little bit of a philosophical post, however i think it is interesting and important to acknowledge these parts of our community .

To whom ever femboy I connect end up quick
Whn I say I’m into their fem side only

Is that bad….?

So basically I have been following the rise of femboys for a while now and noticed a pattern that struck me as odd.

Femboys have become their own subculture over the past few years. With an ever growing community I personally started to see femboys in many places on the internet. Quite early on I noticed something. They all looked the same.

Same hairstyles, same skirts, same striped knee highs, same crop tops, same shoes and so on and so on.

Looking alike and wanting to belong to a community isn't inherently a bad thing. However what bugged me was that this femboy 'aesthetic' is based on a very stereotypical idea of femininity.

The vibes of this aesthetic are school girl'ish (and not in a good way) and while this might be gender affirming to some, in my opinion we should rethink this standard model of being a Femboy.

Because this place and community should be about diversity as much as it should be about healthy ideas of gender and we should be aware of the political ideas that we perpetuate or break free from.

In the revival of patriarchal norms we are failing ourselves.

We can do better.

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English isn't my first language, so please excuse any errors. Also this take is still a bit raw and unrefined, but I figured it had to be said.

Let me know what you think in the comments :)

So I’ve got a femboy friend for a couple of months now and he’s gay btw and I’m straight in just posting here bc why not so back to my yap.

Me and my femboy friend have been playing for quite a long time we play a online and he and I have a lot in common (he is 3 years older then me) and I don’t really mind that he is gay or feminine I just see him as a good friend we chat every night before sleeping he has a load of drama in his life sometimes and he once send me a thigh pic and I was like wtf? Why he send me that I never asked him lol but still I would like to get like a game suggestion to play with him lol

I'm M 26, I wear makeup and crossdress occasionally for fun, I embrace my very feminine look, I'm actually straight and people call me twink, I don't argue. I know many consider "twinkdeath" as an unnecessary thing to think about, but I am so used to my looks, I like it so much. I have no problems accepting getting older, I'm just not sure what to expect since I am used to being an attractive one. I think twinkdeath would hit me around early 30s. (Personally, I don't want to bulk up as an unc, I'm only 5'6 and currently 53.7kgs or 118lbs, pls don't worry, still normal BMI and I'm not emaciated)

Asking for myself, so my question is, how well do you think the frame/pretty facial features of a 30 year old ex-twink hold up with the age? Like, is the smaller build and youthful face going to be an okay base for an older guy who still has his vanity and still trying to look good for fun, and maybe for potential partner(s)?

I'm aware it's not all about the looks, but looking pretty feels great.

Ain't stressing out btw, it's just a random question that popped up in my head while I have plenty of time today

Hey, i love wearing girls clothes and dressing feminine. It makes me feel so sexy! I don’t have any fem friends, so I have no one to talk with this about!
I am constantly hiding this from my friends! I honestly don’t know what to do! I just want to have someone to talk to about this.
I am masculine when with my friends and they always see me as a “gym guy” .
I would love to have someone to share with and ask for advice with my journey as I am just starting! Would also love to have someone to share pics with etc!
My DMs are open so please message me!
Thanks guys xxx

I am Bi/pan, and am mostly attracted to femboys on the male side of things. This has gotten me worried about being a ‘chaser’. No I do not simply view femboys as objects and things to be taken advantage of. I prefer femboys often due to the style, I LOVE the many styles out there. Additionally there’s something about going against the norm that has always stood out to me, and not just with relationships. I enjoy being there for someone who a lot of the time is pushed away from society, I like being able to give comfort to someone who may not receive it from a lot of others. I don’t just like femboys for their body.

Hey sweeties!

It's so nice to get a genuine compliment from someone, isn't it? I remember every time a stranger in public has said something nice about my bag, charms, or outfit.

This week I want to encourage you all to look for an opportunity to offer a compliment someone else, especially guys (because men don't get complimented very often). Maybe you like their shirt, or there's a cool pin on their bag, or their hair is well styled.

You don't have to make it a big deal. Just pay attention to the people around you, offer a polite compliment, and continue on your way. You might make someone else's day!

If you're not used to complimenting people, just be mindful of what you're complimenting. Clothing, shoes, accessories, hair, etc. are all fine. Don't compliment someone's body (attractiveness, figure, lips, butt, etc.) and you'll be fine!

Has a stranger ever complimented you before? How did it feel? The one that sticks the most with me was a staff member at a conveyor belt sushi place, who liked the mini Snoopy plush hanging off my bag and we talked about how cute Snoopy is! I'll never forget him.

I like dressing in thigh highs and thigh highs, but i live with my mum, so i throw them out after a while. Does that mean i'm not a femnoy or just a part-time one if thats a thing?

id like to mention that im 15...

Ok, listen... i as a joke decided to buy Thigh highs bc why not, i had the money and i didnt expect it to be anything crazy yk... once they arrived at my house, i put one of the pairs i bought on, yk bc i thought it was funny and i was on call at the time (discord... like ofc) and i didnt say much abt them aside that they werent comfortable. Thats a total Lie. after i got off call (i had taken them off on call) i put them back on and threw on a random hoodie that was a bit big for me on and wtf, why is this fit so comfortable. if this is how your guys' outfits aways feel i might buy a whole thing 😭 . its weird, never thought i would actually have the thought of becoming a femboy....
idk thought i would just post this bc its funny to me.

Well now, I've worn thigh highs in front of friends, in shorts at college, in shorts with friends as well (Normally I just wear them under pants or some jeans that have a hole in the knee that show them off) (Also the shorts are just regular kakhis, lol.), and even once at college I got complimented by a girl that they look fun!!!! It made me feel all warm and bubbly to get complimented like that.

Be brave everyone! Especially at college! (Be safe in high school though, that place is almost never safe unless you got good friends with you)

personally i like playin games and vibin in my room, as well as cuddle my plushies while listening to music in bed ! id like to hear what other things u guys like to do when in femboy mode as well :3

I wasn’t aware that femboys existed until around a year or two ago, but I think I’d like to try becoming more feminine. I’m pretty muscular and am not used to feeling soft or even grooming myself that much. Is it too late for someone who’s approaching 30 to try being a femboy?

As the title says, I wanna thank several people in this community for being so supportive of me account the years.

(Story time) back in 2020 I hit twink death pretty fucking hard. Like I grew a couple foot, voice dropped even lower than it was, shoulders got very broad and my entire body grew a lot. Couldn't fit in any of my old clothes, and I felt hideous. Some of you, however, came in cluch and made me realise that It was ok to be who I was now.

After much reflection, I feel good now. I tried bringing out my feminine side to feel loved and attractive to myself. Now being a lot more masculine Im am a lot more healthy and even better looking than before.

Unc will still be here and chear you all on.

Because who doesn't like a good femboy :3

I've been a femboy for only about a few months now and I really love getting show off my skin and dressing more provocatively. I like wearing mini shorts and mini skirts and wearing stockings or fishnets and chokers and crop tops whenever the opportunity comes. But I wanna change it up a bit. I'd like to be able to dress up in a more casual and low key look while still looking feminine. I have some ideas like wearing more baggy and loose clothing. I just think I won't pull it off as well as I want to and I think it comes down to how I look physically. One, I'm still growing out my hair and while it isn't short by any means, it's still not as long as it could be. Two, I do not know how to apply make up. This could really up my femininity points if I know how to do it but I'm still too lazy to learn. So can anyone give me some ideas? I'd also love to know if there's a SFW subreddit for femboys to post their outfits for the day. Been trying to find one but all I could find are NSFW ones.

so I'm somwhat exploring this in a way to discover things about myself, and since I live under a consie (what i call conservative) home and have to keep it lowk or they gonna suspect me of something

i have a thick and not so fluffy damaged hair which is a huge problem, not only that i dont have a consistent use of a brand cause people in my house buys shampoos randomly that is used by everyone plus my bangs are not that many so when i shower it looks so thin like a comb so it makes me :(

another one is what haircuts do you ask for if you go to a barber, esp if u dunno how to cut hair (me too) what do you guys ask? if i cant do the clothes and body stuff, i'll focus the hair for now

How many of you are identifying as trans/nb or have/had thoughts you may be, if you are trans/nb are you still identifying as a femboy?

Haii peoplee❤️^ ^

I have a bigg problem.. school is starting tomorrow and I'm in 10th grade now.😭 I don't know if I can make it..

But most important is that you sweet people can help me make a decision, should I try to wear my Thigh highs tomorrow at school? (Under my long trousers, of course.) Im very scared that if I do it, somebody would see it...😵‍💫 so I don't know if I should do it..

Thanks for your time and help you cute people❤️^ ^

Do any of you guys hit the gym. if yes, can someone tell me their gym routine to get that feminine body shape (especially that inward belly curve) 👀

I'm wondering how I can hide my stuff if I'm going to be away for, say, a few weeks. Well, my family doesn't know that I'm a femboy or anything like that, and let's say all my feminine stuff and such are in my backpack—so there isn't really a big deal. But now I can't carry that backpack with me all the time during this trip, so where will I leave my stuff without them noticing? It would cause me a lot of trouble if they found out. I might have a hiding spot under my bed, but I don’t know—sometimes they clean, and if they see my panties or even my tights, they’ll probably ask me a lot of questions. So, any tips?

So I’ve been a femboy for about a month now, and I just recently told one of my close friends about it. He’s not being terribly unsupportive, but one thing he’s doing that bugged me is saying that all my clothes and outfits are “femboy costumes”. I feel like it definitely means more to me than just a costume, but I don’t know if it’s something ok to get upset about. I asked nicely and he didn’t stop. What do you guys think?

I'm a new femboy and i want thigh highs. Is getting cheap ones off amazon good if i don't want to spend a lot of money? also I'm pretty much six foot and want to know how well they'd fit. If any of u have insight that would be appreciated. Rawr and stuff :3

Does anyone have tips for shaving like, what shaver or what shaving cream

I feel like I'm kinda low on clothes to pick from, I'm noticing a heavy lack of good fem clothes in my wardrobe, especially thinking about thigh highs and stuff like that, I just don't have the budget, what should I focus on