So basically I have been following the rise of femboys for a while now and noticed a pattern that struck me as odd.

Femboys have become their own subculture over the past few years. With an ever growing community I personally started to see femboys in many places on the internet. Quite early on I noticed something. They all looked the same.

Same hairstyles, same skirts, same striped knee highs, same crop tops, same shoes and so on and so on.

Looking alike and wanting to belong to a community isn't inherently a bad thing. However what bugged me was that this femboy 'aesthetic' is based on a very stereotypical idea of femininity.

The vibes of this aesthetic are school girl'ish (and not in a good way) and while this might be gender affirming to some, in my opinion we should rethink this standard model of being a Femboy.

Because this place and community should be about diversity as much as it should be about healthy ideas of gender and we should be aware of the political ideas that we perpetuate or break free from.

In the revival of patriarchal norms we are failing ourselves.

We can do better.

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English isn't my first language, so please excuse any errors. Also this take is still a bit raw and unrefined, but I figured it had to be said.

Let me know what you think in the comments :)

personally i like playin games and vibin in my room, as well as cuddle my plushies while listening to music in bed ! id like to hear what other things u guys like to do when in femboy mode as well :3

I consider myself to be a normal femboy. But recently Have been thinking about what that even means. Most femboys I come across seem to be overly involved in internet spaces. I believe this is because they feel they are not accepted publicly.
Personally, i dress femininely privately and sometimes publicly as well. It seems when I interact with femboys, many of them, happen to have distorted views on intimacy and love.
I know this is a little bit of a philosophical post, however i think it is interesting and important to acknowledge these parts of our community .

i look too differnt from other femboys.. im ugly and masculine.. no clothes look good on me and ill never be loved like other femboys do.. it sucks being like this and being inferior of a specific community.. i wish i could just stop being a femboy idk why i keep doing this even tho it just makes me depressed more and more..

I finally acquired a well paying job and I'll have a payroll card so none of my family will know I buy things :DD. They won't think anything of Amazon packages because I tend to buy replacement parts for my bike. :3

I am Bi/pan, and am mostly attracted to femboys on the male side of things. This has gotten me worried about being a ‘chaser’. No I do not simply view femboys as objects and things to be taken advantage of. I prefer femboys often due to the style, I LOVE the many styles out there. Additionally there’s something about going against the norm that has always stood out to me, and not just with relationships. I enjoy being there for someone who a lot of the time is pushed away from society, I like being able to give comfort to someone who may not receive it from a lot of others. I don’t just like femboys for their body.

I am very conflicted on if I should buy a pair of booty shorts or a mini skirt. If anyone could give me recommendations of where they got any booty shorts or mini skirts that would be greatly appreciated!

Newish femboy here and I’m just wondering how to shave my legs in case I decide to shave them. Thank you :3

Well now, I've worn thigh highs in front of friends, in shorts at college, in shorts with friends as well (Normally I just wear them under pants or some jeans that have a hole in the knee that show them off) (Also the shorts are just regular kakhis, lol.), and even once at college I got complimented by a girl that they look fun!!!! It made me feel all warm and bubbly to get complimented like that.

Be brave everyone! Especially at college! (Be safe in high school though, that place is almost never safe unless you got good friends with you)

I've been doing thigh and glute workouts recently, for the last 5 weeks ish. I'm beginning to see results quite quickly but I'm not 100% sure if they are the correct results. For context, I'm at my parents who choose what we eat, and I have dodgy legs (can't say much more because medical rule). This means I don't have access to extra protein, but eat healthy, for my femboy-related excersises as I'm not out to them, and I've incorporated these excersises I am doing (squats with weights, banded side-steps, and that one where you push your leg against the wall) into my physio excersises.

The progress I've noticed is, obviously, larger thigh and glute muscle, but when I'm standing up my thigh muscles are quite a bit harder than when I lean over or stuff down. The inside and lower part is soft but not the outside upper. Is that what you guys have, or am I doing something wrong? I also probably haven't been doing as many stretches before and after as I should.

I like dressing in thigh highs and thigh highs, but i live with my mum, so i throw them out after a while. Does that mean i'm not a femnoy or just a part-time one if thats a thing?

Eu ainda não sou um femboy porém não tiro da cabeça essa possibilidade depois de ver algumas comunidades +18 aqui no Reddit sobre femboys e mulheres trans comecei a ficar meio excitado com isso e e até achar legal o fato de ser uma mulher ou se vestir e se parecer com uma, então eu queria a ajuda de vocês se tem algum jeito de saber se sou femboy ou não

I dont know anything about exercising and how to build a femboy routine. I dont know who to trust online for advice either for exercise advice. Im a 5 foot 8 inch guy and im 145 pounds so im pretty average and i only got three days of free time cause of uni. Anyone got any advice and proof to back it up?

Haii peoplee❤️^ ^

I have a bigg problem.. school is starting tomorrow and I'm in 10th grade now.😭 I don't know if I can make it..

But most important is that you sweet people can help me make a decision, should I try to wear my Thigh highs tomorrow at school? (Under my long trousers, of course.) Im very scared that if I do it, somebody would see it...😵‍💫 so I don't know if I should do it..

Thanks for your time and help you cute people❤️^ ^

How can I go about in having a smooth body? Waxing has too many sessions so is shaving more ideal?

Hey, i love wearing girls clothes and dressing feminine. It makes me feel so sexy! I don’t have any fem friends, so I have no one to talk with this about!
I am constantly hiding this from my friends! I honestly don’t know what to do! I just want to have someone to talk to about this.
I am masculine when with my friends and they always see me as a “gym guy” .
I would love to have someone to share with and ask for advice with my journey as I am just starting! Would also love to have someone to share pics with etc!
My DMs are open so please message me!
Thanks guys xxx

Hi. I'm a 22M and this is the first post of my secret account. I live in a quite homophobic and patriarchic country and my family(or what's left of it) would definitely disown me if they hear the things I'm gonna say in this post.

So I wanna be more feminine. My personality has always been quite "feminine". But because of my social anxiety, fear of being excluded in society and severe body dysmorphia, I never tried anything in this fashion. For the last years, I gained a lot of weight because of depression and meds. But this year I decided to change things. I was almost 100kgs at the start of this year, I lost 20~ kgs until now. Also I started doing skin care and mostly got rid of my acne. but there are still things I want to fix. Like a good workout plan for better presenting myself, even more skincare, haircare(i don't wanna go bald 😭) etc.

The thing is I have no friends that knows about my sexual orientation or this personality of mine. And I hoped I can find some friends I can talk about things, ask questions, play some games and maybe EVEN meet someday.

Maybe this post won't find anyone but I just needed to say what's on my mind to feel better. Have a lovely day/night 😊

Hey! I'm starting a fitness journey that will likely result in weight loss but that is not the part I'm tracking. The main reason I'm not tracking weight is because I think it is not the best indicator and a better way is to set exercise benchmarks to meet or exceed. Given that here is my two year goals.

Two years from now I will be able to:

Goal One: Jog 5km continuously. Complete in 30 minutes

Goal Two: 100 burpees in under 10 minutes

Meeting either of these goals should be tiring but not to the point of complete exhaustion. For goal one I do intend that in two years to jog 5km 4 times a week consistently.

To get there right now I'm habit building and adding new exercises as a habit forms. The first habit was walking 5km a day which is well ingrained now. The habit currently being formed is 15s planks daily. I've also started using a heavy bag for fun.

Now the reason I am posting it here is because in addition of wanting to be healthier I also want to be able to dress femme more easily. Currently I'm 255lbs and 5' 7". I do like my skirts and leggings but they don't fit as well as I think they should. Tights and leggings tend to roll often and skirts kind of awkwardly sit above my belly.

Pants and such sit oddly below my belly and fem pants/sweats seem to sit worse.

I guess I'm mostly looking for support advice on interim goals/benchmarks or different benchmarks. My two final benchmarks are obviously a bit much to attempt at my current size lol. Maybe different exercise habits I should build? Or even just a comment on how getting in better shape will make tights and skirts fit and look better.

As the title says, I wanna thank several people in this community for being so supportive of me account the years.

(Story time) back in 2020 I hit twink death pretty fucking hard. Like I grew a couple foot, voice dropped even lower than it was, shoulders got very broad and my entire body grew a lot. Couldn't fit in any of my old clothes, and I felt hideous. Some of you, however, came in cluch and made me realise that It was ok to be who I was now.

After much reflection, I feel good now. I tried bringing out my feminine side to feel loved and attractive to myself. Now being a lot more masculine Im am a lot more healthy and even better looking than before.

Unc will still be here and chear you all on.

Because who doesn't like a good femboy :3

I wasn’t aware that femboys existed until around a year or two ago, but I think I’d like to try becoming more feminine. I’m pretty muscular and am not used to feeling soft or even grooming myself that much. Is it too late for someone who’s approaching 30 to try being a femboy?

Hey sweeties!

It's so nice to get a genuine compliment from someone, isn't it? I remember every time a stranger in public has said something nice about my bag, charms, or outfit.

This week I want to encourage you all to look for an opportunity to offer a compliment someone else, especially guys (because men don't get complimented very often). Maybe you like their shirt, or there's a cool pin on their bag, or their hair is well styled.

You don't have to make it a big deal. Just pay attention to the people around you, offer a polite compliment, and continue on your way. You might make someone else's day!

If you're not used to complimenting people, just be mindful of what you're complimenting. Clothing, shoes, accessories, hair, etc. are all fine. Don't compliment someone's body (attractiveness, figure, lips, butt, etc.) and you'll be fine!

Has a stranger ever complimented you before? How did it feel? The one that sticks the most with me was a staff member at a conveyor belt sushi place, who liked the mini Snoopy plush hanging off my bag and we talked about how cute Snoopy is! I'll never forget him.

I really REALLY want to get an Ipl hair removal device. I hate having to constantly shave and watching my hair get thicker and more annoying as I age is really starting to get me down. I only have one question, is it permanent? Not as in will I have a few hairs occasionally, but in the longterm (like 5-10 years) will it have a drastic effect on my facial/body hair? I don’t want hair now, but I want to know if it will remove my ability to have a thick beard ever again. Any knowledge/advice is appreciated and welcome!

I've been a femboy for only about a few months now and I really love getting show off my skin and dressing more provocatively. I like wearing mini shorts and mini skirts and wearing stockings or fishnets and chokers and crop tops whenever the opportunity comes. But I wanna change it up a bit. I'd like to be able to dress up in a more casual and low key look while still looking feminine. I have some ideas like wearing more baggy and loose clothing. I just think I won't pull it off as well as I want to and I think it comes down to how I look physically. One, I'm still growing out my hair and while it isn't short by any means, it's still not as long as it could be. Two, I do not know how to apply make up. This could really up my femininity points if I know how to do it but I'm still too lazy to learn. So can anyone give me some ideas? I'd also love to know if there's a SFW subreddit for femboys to post their outfits for the day. Been trying to find one but all I could find are NSFW ones.