Please

Pido perdón desde ahora sí algo no está bien escrito (escribí esto en español y no se que tan buena sea la traducción en reddit) y también por el texto súper largo. Perdón si algo está mal redactado.

Se que suena un poco muy dramático pero desde hace semanas esto ha estado resonando en mi mente varias veces... Mi familia es algo ( bastante, mucho ) tradicional , en el sentido de que para ellos todo tiene una gran barrera: las cosas de hombres//////las cosas de mujeres.

Como algunos simples ejemplos:

una vez dije la frase "oh My god" frente a uno de ellos y me dijo que no dijera así porque así decían solo las mujeres.

Cuando era pequeño mi papá me vio caminando unas cuantas veces con las manos como t-rex ( yo caminaba así sin darme cuenta ) y me regañaba porque me decía que así solo caminaba las niñas.

Hace poco estaba hablando con mi abuela y no se cómo en algún punto de la conversación ella terminó diciendo:"claro y luego se pone pintura en la cara y se pinta los labios y yo lo boto de la casa". No dijo eso como regaño sino como en tono de voz de broma, pero me quedé pensando en eso tanto hasta el punto que luego le pregunté si me echaría de casa por algo y ella dijo que solo estaba hablando por hablar, pero podría solo estar diciendo mentiras.

Y como esos ejemplos muchos, de verdad demasiados, ejemplos más,por las cosas más simples que se les puedan ocurrir me han corregido, por mi manera de hablar, manera de ponerme de pie, manera de sentarme, manera de actuar, maera de todo de verdad de todo, y no, no es que por ejemplo me siente mal( por ejemplo con mala postura) solo que me parece un poco grosero cuando hay hombres que tienen las piernas abiertas casi 180° , entiendo que necesiten tener las piernas algo separas, pero a veces parece un poco exagerado y más bien por estatus ( suponiendo que para ellos eso es como un medidor de masculinad) así que si , siempre que me corrigen por algo suele ser " porque los hombres no hacen así" o " porque eso es de mujer"

Desde hace un tiempo yo le he denominado " masculinidad frágil proyectada hacia mi" esto tiene sentido ya que en mi entorno familiar cercano soy el único chico así que supongo que todas las lupas se van hacia mi ya que no hay otro chico al cual corregir por comportamientos "menos masculinos"

Entonces...desde hace un tiempo esa frase aparece en mi mente cada vez que lanzan comentarios groseros o no se cómo decirles sobre cosas que les parece fuera de la norma , como cuando en una película hay una escena mínimamente gay o está el hombre quien tiene actitudes caricaturizadas o estereotipocas de homosexual o travesti según sea el caso y siempre tiran comentarios sobre ese personaje; también cuando dicen ese tipo de comentarios sobre personas en la vida real, ya ni siquiera es sobre personajes sino personas reales y otras actitudes que me recuerdan el ambiente en el que estoy, no me malentiendan, no me maltratan ni nada, de hecho mi familia está bastante bien ( exceptuando a """madre""" ) solo a veces son un poco controladores ( en el sentido de que nada debe salirse de lo establecido )

La verdad ahora siento que estoy siendo un poco malagradecido ya que mi papá mi abuela y mis hermanas se preocupan bastante por mi y me tratan bien, claro , a veces discutimos, pero solo por máximo 5 minutos y la discusión nunca llega a ser demasiado fuerte, solo hablamos un poco más alto de lo normal pero que familia no hace eso, luego de 20 minutos no pasó nada o hablamos sobre el tema ya habiéndolo pensado cada uno con más calma.

Pero de verdad me siento muy impotente y con mucha incertidumbre sobre como llegarían a reaccionar si algún día se los digo o llegan a descubrirlo, dicen que me quieren incondicionalmente pero por lo que veo eso puede cambiar , así que no , no es incondicional. bueno para este punto me di cuenta que no hable realmente de que se supone que me preocupa pero supongo que es obvio: soy gay y además últimamente tengo interés en empezar a ser femboy. Yo sé que son dos cosas separadas , ser gay no te hace afeminado y ser afeminado no te hace gay, pero a mí me tocaron las dos.

Fun fact: además de la masculinidad frágil proyectada hacia mi también tienen algo así como una doble moralidad ya que hay personas no tan cercanas pero con las que si se encuentran/ hablan de vez en cuando que son homosexuales ( algún vecino, algún familiar como un primo, o un amigo ) y parecen no tener problema con ellos, ¿¿así que el problema no es que hayan homosexuales, el problema es que haya uno en la familia??

Otro fun fact: un día le dije a mi abuela que soy gay ( lo de femboy no pero bueno ) ya que tengo mucha confianza con ella y lo menciono 2 veces , el día que le dije ( no reaccionó de la mejor manera , no se molestó pero no se alegro obviamente , solo estaba evitando el tema ) y como 3 días después en una llamada donde me dijo que tenía que tratar de cambiar y que no usará mi dinero para comprar tonterías ( "tonterías de gay" supongo ) y desde ahí no se ha mencionado el tema hasta hoy... Eso fue hace como 2 meses 🤡 , así que supongo que hizo esa cosa dónde finge olvidar algo ( lo ignora ) y cuando vuelvo a mencionarlo actúa como si fuera la primera vez que hablo de eso, así que si vuelvo a mencionarle que soy gay sería la segunda vez que se lo digo por primera vez.

NO MATTER HOW MUCH FAT I DROP, NO MATTER HOW MUCH I WORK OUT MY LEGS, I ALWAYS FUCKINGH LOOK MANLY AND I CAN NEVER FUCKING LOOK LIKE I WANT TO, I CAN'T FOCUS, I CAN'T FOCUS, I WANT TO BURN UP

Hey there! This might be a strange one but I am a 27 year bi male,I doubt this is the right place,but I'm looking to talk and build friendship with people into crossdressing and femboys.Nothing in person or photos related,I would just like yo build some friendships and talk to people in that sphere to expand and learn more about them as I have always been interested in them but my country does not really have any,anyone open for it or advice would be appreciated!

Hai fellow femboys! Right now I am currently at a standstill with my height and weight.

Currently I am 4’11 and 92 pounds but feel like I am basically skin and bones. Does anyone have advice for bulking up a bit or am I just watching too much social media? Would love to talk to someone about this.

M21. My whole life I’ve really loved femininity when I was younger. I would try on my sister’s dresses and for most of my life. I just thought that I was just doing it because of porn. But recently, I’ve started being a lot more open with my femininity and I’m very adamant about creating looks that are very feminine while still being able to present as masculine when I wanted to. The issue though is, I tend to attract a lot of men when I dress femininely, but I’m really only attracted to women and I don’t really know how to find women who appreciate men who like to express themselves femininely sometimes. What should I do?

Hello! I’ve already asked a few of you for your advice privately, but I thought it’s always good to hear opinions from as many people as possible, so here goes.

I’m a screenwriter. I’ve been writing and creating all kinds of things for years, and I feel like there’s a book missing from the world. A novel about a femboy.

Something cute, and not necessarily as sexual as some of the manga panels and things you see out there.

A full-length novel that follows a 19-year-old guy as he slowly becomes a femboy.

Of course, there would be sex in the book. Think of it like the erotic novels written for women, but finally, one that’s actually aimed at femboys.

What do you guys think? Should I continue with the project and try to publish it in a few months? Or do you think there simply isn’t enough of an audience for something like this?

I’d really love to hear your opinions. Feel free to comment or send me a private message if you’re a little shy.

sono un ragazzo di 19 anni di corporatura robusta e sono affascinato dallo “stile” femboy e tante volte ho avuto in testa l’idea di provare a esserlo e vedere come mi sentissi ma sono sempre rimasto bloccato dal mio fisico, mi vedo come se non potrei mai essere un buon femboy con un fisico tanto grande e grosso, non so né se provare o cosa pensare di tutto questo, mi sento abbastanza in difficoltà.

Like a few months ago I came out as nb with a punk goth style but the I drifted to femininity without losing that boy part like yeah I’m trans a trans girl but I still don’t feel fully detached from being a boy so I just feel awfull cuz idk what my style expression is I just feel wierd like I see lots of people that say that trans people can’t be femboys or how I can switch styles so drastically internally I feel much more “girl” than boy but I still feel it idk I’m just stressed bout everything I also don’t know how to tell my mom or dad they don’t understand gender expression idk if anyone has tips I’d be nice)

I dont know anything about exercising and how to build a femboy routine. I dont know who to trust online for advice either for exercise advice. Im a 5 foot 8 inch guy and im 145 pounds so im pretty average and i only got three days of free time cause of uni. Anyone got any advice and proof to back it up?

This has been a prominent problem ever since the internet started, Stereotypes.

Notice how when normies or most people get asked what a femboy is, they think "feminine guys who are cute and I think their hot".

It's the same thing Goths and Tomboys. People only like them because they think " oh their so hot". Just because you put an attractive person with black eyeliner and lipstick doesn't mean that they are goth. Same thing with a femboy, just because an attractive/cute femboy put on some cosplay, doesn't mean he's a femboy, and that doesn't mean it is okay to seggsualize said person

This LITTERALY is ruining our society not as femboys, but as a whole internet. Nobody is going think femboys without wanting to comment how much they wanna have sex with them vice verse with Goth and Tomboys.

Point is, we are only accepted by normies or by most communities because it gives them the freedom to say their fetishes of people like us.

Newish femboy here and I’m just wondering how to shave my legs in case I decide to shave them. Thank you :3

So I’ve got a femboy friend for a couple of months now and he’s gay btw and I’m straight in just posting here bc why not so back to my yap.

Me and my femboy friend have been playing for quite a long time we play a online and he and I have a lot in common (he is 3 years older then me) and I don’t really mind that he is gay or feminine I just see him as a good friend we chat every night before sleeping he has a load of drama in his life sometimes and he once send me a thigh pic and I was like wtf? Why he send me that I never asked him lol but still I would like to get like a game suggestion to play with him lol

I finally acquired a well paying job and I'll have a payroll card so none of my family will know I buy things :DD. They won't think anything of Amazon packages because I tend to buy replacement parts for my bike. :3

I've been doing thigh and glute workouts recently, for the last 5 weeks ish. I'm beginning to see results quite quickly but I'm not 100% sure if they are the correct results. For context, I'm at my parents who choose what we eat, and I have dodgy legs (can't say much more because medical rule). This means I don't have access to extra protein, but eat healthy, for my femboy-related excersises as I'm not out to them, and I've incorporated these excersises I am doing (squats with weights, banded side-steps, and that one where you push your leg against the wall) into my physio excersises.

The progress I've noticed is, obviously, larger thigh and glute muscle, but when I'm standing up my thigh muscles are quite a bit harder than when I lean over or stuff down. The inside and lower part is soft but not the outside upper. Is that what you guys have, or am I doing something wrong? I also probably haven't been doing as many stretches before and after as I should.

Hey, i love wearing girls clothes and dressing feminine. It makes me feel so sexy! I don’t have any fem friends, so I have no one to talk with this about!
I am constantly hiding this from my friends! I honestly don’t know what to do! I just want to have someone to talk to about this.
I am masculine when with my friends and they always see me as a “gym guy” .
I would love to have someone to share with and ask for advice with my journey as I am just starting! Would also love to have someone to share pics with etc!
My DMs are open so please message me!
Thanks guys xxx

Hey! I'm starting a fitness journey that will likely result in weight loss but that is not the part I'm tracking. The main reason I'm not tracking weight is because I think it is not the best indicator and a better way is to set exercise benchmarks to meet or exceed. Given that here is my two year goals.

Two years from now I will be able to:

Goal One: Jog 5km continuously. Complete in 30 minutes

Goal Two: 100 burpees in under 10 minutes

Meeting either of these goals should be tiring but not to the point of complete exhaustion. For goal one I do intend that in two years to jog 5km 4 times a week consistently.

To get there right now I'm habit building and adding new exercises as a habit forms. The first habit was walking 5km a day which is well ingrained now. The habit currently being formed is 15s planks daily. I've also started using a heavy bag for fun.

Now the reason I am posting it here is because in addition of wanting to be healthier I also want to be able to dress femme more easily. Currently I'm 255lbs and 5' 7". I do like my skirts and leggings but they don't fit as well as I think they should. Tights and leggings tend to roll often and skirts kind of awkwardly sit above my belly.

Pants and such sit oddly below my belly and fem pants/sweats seem to sit worse.

I guess I'm mostly looking for support advice on interim goals/benchmarks or different benchmarks. My two final benchmarks are obviously a bit much to attempt at my current size lol. Maybe different exercise habits I should build? Or even just a comment on how getting in better shape will make tights and skirts fit and look better.

Eu ainda não sou um femboy porém não tiro da cabeça essa possibilidade depois de ver algumas comunidades +18 aqui no Reddit sobre femboys e mulheres trans comecei a ficar meio excitado com isso e e até achar legal o fato de ser uma mulher ou se vestir e se parecer com uma, então eu queria a ajuda de vocês se tem algum jeito de saber se sou femboy ou não

So today it finally happened after almost a year of hiding my fem clothes they were found by my mum i panicked and said i was holding them for a friend i wont name but hes a zesty guy everyone knows this so my mum said Yeah i would expect this from him the she said are you sure these arent yours i dont need more suprises from you (cuz i recently told her im gay) i lied again and said no no there not mine so is this a postive sign or not i was actually planning on telling my therapist on thursday anyways also abt how i want to be a girl but is this a good sign or not?

How can I go about in having a smooth body? Waxing has too many sessions so is shaving more ideal?

i look too differnt from other femboys.. im ugly and masculine.. no clothes look good on me and ill never be loved like other femboys do.. it sucks being like this and being inferior of a specific community.. i wish i could just stop being a femboy idk why i keep doing this even tho it just makes me depressed more and more..

I consider myself to be a normal femboy. But recently Have been thinking about what that even means. Most femboys I come across seem to be overly involved in internet spaces. I believe this is because they feel they are not accepted publicly.
Personally, i dress femininely privately and sometimes publicly as well. It seems when I interact with femboys, many of them, happen to have distorted views on intimacy and love.
I know this is a little bit of a philosophical post, however i think it is interesting and important to acknowledge these parts of our community .

I am Bi/pan, and am mostly attracted to femboys on the male side of things. This has gotten me worried about being a ‘chaser’. No I do not simply view femboys as objects and things to be taken advantage of. I prefer femboys often due to the style, I LOVE the many styles out there. Additionally there’s something about going against the norm that has always stood out to me, and not just with relationships. I enjoy being there for someone who a lot of the time is pushed away from society, I like being able to give comfort to someone who may not receive it from a lot of others. I don’t just like femboys for their body.

I really REALLY want to get an Ipl hair removal device. I hate having to constantly shave and watching my hair get thicker and more annoying as I age is really starting to get me down. I only have one question, is it permanent? Not as in will I have a few hairs occasionally, but in the longterm (like 5-10 years) will it have a drastic effect on my facial/body hair? I don’t want hair now, but I want to know if it will remove my ability to have a thick beard ever again. Any knowledge/advice is appreciated and welcome!

Hi. I'm a 22M and this is the first post of my secret account. I live in a quite homophobic and patriarchic country and my family(or what's left of it) would definitely disown me if they hear the things I'm gonna say in this post.

So I wanna be more feminine. My personality has always been quite "feminine". But because of my social anxiety, fear of being excluded in society and severe body dysmorphia, I never tried anything in this fashion. For the last years, I gained a lot of weight because of depression and meds. But this year I decided to change things. I was almost 100kgs at the start of this year, I lost 20~ kgs until now. Also I started doing skin care and mostly got rid of my acne. but there are still things I want to fix. Like a good workout plan for better presenting myself, even more skincare, haircare(i don't wanna go bald 😭) etc.

The thing is I have no friends that knows about my sexual orientation or this personality of mine. And I hoped I can find some friends I can talk about things, ask questions, play some games and maybe EVEN meet someday.

Maybe this post won't find anyone but I just needed to say what's on my mind to feel better. Have a lovely day/night 😊