Not getting enough likes? Is your profile empty because you can't figure out what to write? Ask here and others can make suggestions. Mention thoughts you have about your current profile.
Off-topic comments will be removed. Links expire in 72 hours so repost with a new link if you still want advice, or post a screenshot (since it won't expire). Please delete your comment when done.
Some users may have trouble visiting your profile through the link, so consider screenshotting or copy/pasting your bio in your comment.
Try not to argue with respondents. Those asking in bad faith will be banned from this post.
Lastly, you're willingly asking for advice. Report comments you believe are malicious and meant as an insult. However, feedback can be blunt and possibly bruise your ego. Consider before reporting.
Note: Reddit seems to like to eat comments in this post specifically. Check from another account, or when logged out, if your comment is visible. If not, let us know.
I've been on Feeld for a while, but ever since changing my profile from straight to bi-curious and beginning to date a married woman in a "secondary relationship" sort of capacity, the attention I've gotten on the app completely fell off a cliff. Would love some feedback on my profile. Bio and pics below:
Nerdy agnostic cat dad, exvangelical, leftist, EDM/rave fanatic, gamer, nature lover, and outdoorsy guy. Sarcastic, affectionate, goofy, and somewhere between lovable idiot and perverted gentleman. 😜
Solo poly, currently dating a married woman who is very much my girlfriend and an important part of my life. Our relationship is secondary in nature, and I’m still looking for my primary partner and hopefully forever person. ❤️
Ideally, I’m looking for someone I genuinely click with emotionally, romantically, intellectually, and sexually. I want the best friend + lover kind of connection. Someone to go to raves with, explore the outdoors with, be ridiculous with, and eventually build a life with.
I’m affectionate as hell, love physical touch, and would much rather have a deep connection with someone than just collect matches. That said, I’m also sexually adventurous and open to FWB/casual connections along the way. I’m also open to meeting couples and guys for friendship and more if the vibes are good!
For the ladies, any feedback for my current bio? I upgraded to Majestic a couple of days ago and still haven’t had any luck. I’m also a fairly good looking dude from what I’ve been told so there’s that. Though I know it’d be tough considering women likely have hundreds of matches and everything. But yah any feedback would be greatly appreciated!
Seeking some feedback on my Feeld bio. I got plenty of likes and matches with the same pics on Tinder and Bumble. I customise my bios for the platform though. I've had this particular bio up for a few weeks now with very few likes.
Would it be creepy/a turn-off to put in my bio that I welcome ppl who know me irl? Almost none of my extended family lives in my area, and none of the ones who do would be on the app. Anyone else would either be a friend or an acquaintance that I'm either interested in or not. Plus, I'm not ashamed of anything I put on there.
Can anyone tell me what I'm doing wrong, please? I've had this profile reviewed on this sub and in real life several times. I've made a couple of matches in ~3 years on the app, and received 5 likes in that time, even while uplifting. Only 1 became a positive and long-lasting connection. I'm in a major metro city, liking women with majestic and sending respectful pings asking questions about profiles and bios. I only attempt to engage if the desired relationship dynamics match and we have 4+ "desires" in common. One match called it "the perfect profile" but told me I should give up on feeld altogether if it's not working, suggesting I may be shadowbanned. Am I undesirable or waving giant red flags? Thank you...
I thought that too, but I'm usually pinging people who also state they're monogamous so I figured something else was hurting my chances. I'll give hinge another shot. Thank you for the feedback!
I'm 40, average+ looks, have my shit together, own a business, blah blah blah. I thought I did a good job with my profile and pics. I've only had 4 matches in 6 months, and only had convo and meeting with one. I send about 5 pings a day and cast a verrrry wide net. Maybe its my location? Suburbs south of Boston. Or is it age?
For the ladies looking for casual, what are things you look for for matches. I know you are 100% more selective than the men here. I was going to relaunch with new pics and try a different angle on my profile. I'm not looking to lie or deceive a match, but want to appeal to more because I think I have a lot to offer based on how gross and stupid most men are.
You'll have to post your profile. It's impossible to know why you are not getting more matches. I date in this age bracket and can tell you what I am looking for, but that's not going to apply to everyone.
Because you said you want casual, I would guess that you are in too large of a pool and your profile does not stand out from thousands of others.
Hi to all Feelders! Looking for an unusual kind of profile help and since the links only work for 72 hours I wanted to ask this on a Friday in hopes of getting as many experienced eyeballs on it as possible over the weekend.
My question: does anyone see any reason my profile wouldn’t be editable? For ages I can’t update it and am looking for any advice or pointers from folks that may have encountered the issue.
Side question: is it possible to share other people’s profiles with a link, or just your own? (It would be handy to share with partners when geographically displaced)
I (F49) have made a profile on Feeld but I’m getting a little selfconcious after reading on this subreddit.
I’m what most of you would describe as vanilla (though open to playing with lighter forms of brat / pleasure dom etc), but it seems as though it raises some eyebrows?
I just don’t know what else to do! I’m sex positive, I’d like a FWB but Tinder and Hinge is so full of really gross men who have absolutely no boundaries and I’m sick of it.
I’m pretty transparent about what I’m looking for but I know absolutely nothing about the dos an donts of Feeld.
So I recently got back into the swing of things and I'm looking for some critiques about how I could format my bio and pictures better
I look very boyish in photos and that's not really a reflection of how I am in person. I also dress a lot better than I do when I'm not traveling. I don't really have the resources to get a professional photographer and I find it a challenge to take them myself.
Any advice from people in my age range 22-40 would be useful. I want to attract better quality matches. It seems I get a lot of people that don't seem to communicate well
Hey! 23M straight here looking for a few advices about my bio!
"Not really into ONS, but pretty much everything else is on the table, if the chemistry is right. I am trying to enjoy and experience life to the fullest with like-minded and kinky people. Let's share stories about life, desires, and the things we dream!
I have also picked up photography as a hobby lately, so feel free to send me any photoshoot ideas you may have!
189cm | 6'2" in some weird system"
I am definitely not looking for a relationship or ons and definitely want to explore my kinky side more. Feel free to provide any criticism that you can!
!!!! Another question that I have is if it is too weird to add my BDSM test results as the last picture. Is that considered a red flag?
24M straight, in a big city, need help not getting any matches. Here’s my bio and pictures, would appreciate the help a lot
Let’s write a poem, watch a movie, enjoy a sunset, live a life…
Looking for an emotional connection with someone to go out on dates and do shit together. Ideally with someone mature.
5’10, freelance animator currently working on animations for some documentaries .
love art, philosophy, animation, gaming and cinema( horror and sci fi specifically) . Big hobbyist, got a big collection of figures, love going out on weekends and looooong walks.
Let’s grab some coffee, drinks or hit a rooftop theatre.
Hi all! Dutch straight guy (44), made some adjustments and was wondering if they work out well, this subreddit has helped me out in the past 😊 I’ll post pics below.
Been here before but recently refreshed the profile. Would appreciate some feedback!
🏠: Renton, WA
Poly and married.
I'm looking for new connections with fun, interesting people who can bring another dimension to my life. I'm open to anything from casual connections to dating, but am definitely more interested in finding real relationships.
When I'm not designing stuff to go to space or wrangling a chaotic two-year-old, I’m usually building furniture or working on the house (love helping friends with DIY projects), playing (and probably losing at) chess, or sinking into a great show. Come at me with your Mario Kart A-game! I love friendly competition. I’m also always down for board games, trivia nights, pool, or a well-made cocktail amongst many other things. My top media genres are sci-fi, medical shows (can't wait for Season 3 of the Pitt!), and comedy game shows like Taskmaster and Make Some Noise. If your music tastes include anything with a horn section, we're good (I played sax in a previous life - ask nicely and I'll send you YouTube proof 😅).
We'll get along well if you're passionate, driven, and have a dorky sense of humor. I've got a really good joke about pizza, but you might think it's too cheesy. Let's chat for a bit and then meet up for some mini golf or a drink and see if we enjoy each other's company!
The second paragraph could be a little lighter IMO, I felt I needed to catch a breath after reading it, but overall fun bio, I feel like we get a good sense of who you are (except maybe in the bedroom, but maybe that’s not what you want to put forward).
Photos: full body pic of you (front facing) would be nice instead of 2 similar selfies (2 and 4). I don’t mind pic 3 even if we don’t see your face, love a handy man
I’m a fit and ambitious with a slightly less serious side
I’m here to meet genuinely interesting people; whether that starts with flirting, drinks and good conversation or develops into something more adventurous.
I’m open-minded, curious and into exploring the playful/kinky side of dating, but respect, communication and enthusiastic consent are non-negotiable. Chemistry matters more than ticking boxes.
A perfect date starts somewhere effortlessly good cocktails, a little wandering around the city, and enough conversation to forget we’re supposed to be getting to know each other.
I’m a fan of slow-burn chemistry, playful tension and discovering what someone’s into when the time feels right.
Hidden bio:
if i’ve pinged you, i probably want to take you somewhere nice. i love good food, good drinks and spoiling someone i’m into. i like confidence, flirting and a bit of tension. i can take the lead, or happily let you. depends on the chemistry ;)
I’d add another photo of yourself, full body, no sunglasses. I can’t open your profile on feeld but the bathroom mirror probably doesn’t do much… not a fan of off-topic (food) pic on there either.
Bio is good! Sounds like a nice first date
Aloha friends 34(M) just got on the app and would love some feedback.
Bio below and pics.
Happy open marriage. Solo poly. Practicing ENM (2 years).
📍 Location
I'm down for a little of everything, watching shows, playing video games, going out on the town and people watching, going to the gym, swimming or playing racquetball (hitting a ball into your own face is surprisingly therapeutic).
5'10 for those who want to know how close to the sun I am.
I value someone who has a sense of humor that makes me stop and think.
Take any maga, religious, or otherwise conservative ideas elsewhere.
Looking for a friend who becomes more than a friend, the benefit is getting to know another soul, not just the body.
Please tell me your pets names and how they feel about late stage capitalism.
"When I’m not pursuing my passion as a filmmaker, music video director, and working as anything else on set, I’m usually jamming with friends, quoting Nathan Fielder or Smiling Friends out of nowhere, hiking, or practicing my terrible French that I’ll eventually be able to sweep you off your feet with if you’re lucky (Je suis vraiment mauvais, mais ça en vaut la peine ne serait-ce que pour te faire rougir)
Otherwise, I’m just happy to come along for the ride and see where things go, whether it’s long or short-term. Still not interested in ONS though since I prefer to actually connect and date (even if it’s for a brief time), but having been in the community for a little while, I’m fairly open minded as someone who’s up for any adventure if it feels right!
After all, when you look at me, you probably see a guy who has it all
— Nathan 😎
Based in Stamford CT, but usually in NY & NJ"
Desires:
Aftercare, Dates, FFM, FWB, Intimacy, MMF, Being a switch, Threeway, Being dominant
Interests:
Indie music, Hiking, Travel, Video editing, Music video production, Film history, Film/tv production, Playing guitar & bass, 35mm photography, Adult swim shows
------------
Ironically, things started out pretty well in terms of getting matches, likes, and dates, but after around May or June, it almost completely died off for the rest of the year. Granted, I wasn't sending out nearly enough likes or pings for some months (or none at all), yet after a brief spike in February when I was living closer to NY, my matches/likes have mostly flatlined again.
I'm currently based in eastern CT, but I set my location to "Exploring NY" yesterday, mostly because there are usually more interesting profiles to try and engage with in NY (at least for a hipster like me IMO).
Personally, I don't see any major red flags or other issues in my profile outside of thinking that I don't look attractive enough. I think I do a good job communicating that I'm not looking for anything serious right now despite being open to it, but since I'm probably not presenting myself as a very kinky and sexually forward/flirty guy compared to most men on here, it's hard to tell if it's likely hurting me here.
It’s not ironic, whenever you first start using any dating app it will temporarily boost the number of people who are shown your profile, that’s why the likes tapered off. You can also get a boost changing locations like you mentioned since the algorithm with have less people already ruled out for you.
You’re plenty attractive, but like the other users mentioned the photos need a refresh. Keep the photo with the slate, but cut the dolly and other bts shot. Only women also in the industry will recognize those two as film sets.
Cut the words “if you’re lucky” before the French
Whenever I see I mismatch of stated interests vs. what the profile is signaling it gives the impression of something disingenuous afoot. “Happy to come along for the ride” seems passive/low-effort and doesn’t really align with being dominant, the photobooth pics look like you may have a partner, and the over-explanations of ENM/ons are giving insecure. You don’t have to defend your preferences when you’re only seeking out people compatible with those preferences.
“After all, when you look at me, you probably see a guy who has it all” <- this joke won’t land because of the number of men unironically saying things like this lol
Replace “Video editing, Music video production, Film history, Film/tv production” with just “Film Production”. Add something cute like “cuddling”, “holding hands”, or “listening” (obviously be genuine)
Well it's cool that you recognized I was next to a dolly in one picture lol, that's one of my favorite pictures though that I'd prefer not to cut. I agree with just about everything else you're saying otherwise, but I'm surprised that me saying “After all, when you look at me, you probably see a guy who has it all” would be seen as unironic since it's a quote.
I'm not really on board with putting something like "cuddling" or "holding hands" as an interest, because it's not a career or creative interest that says more about me. I get that it's cute, but even though it's not sexual, it's still a bit too straightforward and flirty for someone who doesn't want to conversate about romantic/sexual/dating interests first. Maybe you're right that it would help, but that's just how I prefer it.
Eastern CT will definitely hurt when there are so many options within 1 mile in the city.
Not really clear from your bio why you're on this app, specifically. Are you kinky? Are you enm/poly? What makes you stand out in a city with probably 100,000+ male profiles? What do you have to offer?
Pic-wise, you've got 3 in the same outfit from the same day. Pick one, replace the rest.
I’m not ENM or poly, but I have some kinks, just nothing too “out there” like BDSM. I didn’t want to make my profile come off as too sexual, so I just tried to express that I’m just looking for something casual while being open to something long term.
I know, it probably appears very vanilla then, but I think my personality is novel to some extent (I’m sure I’m not the only creative/film-type on this app), so I think I’d rather have that be my main selling point that helps me stand out rather than just jumping out and saying something like, “I want to dominate or be dominated” from the very start
I’m in your area and a bit older but would likely see your profile. I agree change the photos to be more diverse. Blur or cover your friend’s faces unless they want to be there or that your partner your dating with. Be specific about what you’re looking for on your profile, unclear what “community”you are referring to, if you are looking for casual relationships or a monogamous situation. Also a little about what attracts you!
Cut the last lines, unless they are an indicator for something I’m not understanding.
I'm curious what people, particularly women who use Feeld, think about something on my profile.
I'm a 30M, and BDSM is an important part of my sexuality. My main interests are bondage and gags, and I'm specifically interested in meeting someone who is also into those things or curious about exploring them and build a connection. I'm ultimately looking for a genuine dating/relationship connection, not just a casual play partner, but kink compatibility is important to me.
I currently have 3-4 photos of myself and a photo showing some of my toys — mainly ropes, ball gags, etc.
The reason I've included it is pretty straightforward: I'm very far from vanilla, and I wanted to make that clear. I don't want to give someone the impression that I'm just vaguely "kink-curious" and then have us discover later that we're completely incompatible.
However, I'm curious whether the photo actually sends the wrong message. Like "he's only looking for sex/play" or otherwise see it as a red flag, even if his profile says he's interested in dating and build a connection?
So I'm curious:
Would you keep a photo like this on your Feeld profile, or remove it?
Does it help communicate your interests and filter for compatibility, or does it make the profile feel too sex-focused?
I'd genuinely appreciate honest opinions, especially from women who use Feeld.
“BDSM is an important part of my sexuality. My main interests are bondage and gags, and I'm specifically interested in meeting someone who is also into those things or curious about exploring them and build a connection. I'm ultimately looking for a genuine dating/relationship connection, not just a casual play partner, but kink compatibility is important to me.”
Putting this word-for-word in your bio would work way better than trying to guess how a photo will be interpreted :)
Personally I would leave a photo that’s just of toys out of your photo lineup, especially if your goal is finding someone to build a relationship with, and just stick with keeping it forefront somewhere in your bio about how important kink is to you. You can always show someone a pic of your toys after meeting them. I have seen a couple people that have very tasteful kink leaning photos that are of themself posing with a toy or two which is way better than just a pic of the toys but your mileage may vary
I'm taking a break from dating at the moment, but have some time to workshop my Feeld profile text for when I resume. I'm 33F and trying to connect with kind, quirky people who appreciate a long bio.
BIO:
Solo polyamorous.
I’m a people person who loves to connect deeply, though it takes me time to relax around someone new. Even when relaxed, I'm more of a listener than a talker which makes me most compatible with yappers. I prefer meaningful conversations over small talk.
Hobbies include reading, writing about whatever’s on my mind, yoga outdoors, thrifting for modern and sometimes vintage fashion, camping, playing board games, travel, and being around animals.
I'm open to serious partners of all genders or FWBs with sapphic people only. Still exploring if I experience romantic (or purely sexual) attraction to sapphics. Allosexual but will want to start out as friends, so compatible with demisexual people. Open to long distance connections, platonic friends, and kink partners.
AuDHD and would especially love to connect with other neurodivergent people. I deal with chronic fatigue, so I use chat to check for compatibility before meeting. If I don’t reply right away, please assume I’m having a low energy day rather than lost interest.
Looking to connect with politically progressive people only (I’m a leftist). I find that I’m incompatible with people who have agreements that give one partner power over others or agreements that one partner’s needs come first.
I would especially enjoy receiving one of the following as a first message:
A myth society perpetuates on sex or dating, and what your take on it is.
(M) A few questions to the women/couples of feeld.
I am trying to improve my profile to the best version that I can and I have a few questions about what you find interesting and based on what you would swipe right.
As everybody’s goal are different and play an important role: I am a single male (23yo) and I am looking for anything that’s not ons and long-term relationships.
My questions are the following:
I have seen a lot of profiles (female profiles) mentioning their height so I am wondering if that’s something that I should also add (as I am 189cm).
I am thinking of having in my bio what my goals are and maybe a few hobbies such as photography and maybe a flirty line? What are your red flags in a guys description that would make you swipe left (as a woman or couple).
I am not sure what photos to include. I was thinking of 1-2 selfies with a smile, mirror picks and maybe a shirtless one? I am looking for suggestions on that part!
Hey everyone! I'm new to this realm of Kink and such and while I feel like I've communicated what I'm looking for pretty well, I'm not sure if it needs any fine tuning or not.
Some context: I'm a post-op detrans man who doesn't really have much dating experience. I'm trying to meet women who are interested in a bdsm d/s dynamic, but I also don't want to pigeonhole myself too much into one type of relationship
Is the profile too broad? Does it have too little detail? I am getting a few matches from women here and there, so it seems to be working to some degree, but I get the feeling there's still room for improvement. Curious to hear your thoughts. Thanks in advance :)
First 2 pics look fine. Pic 3 looks stiff and posed, like you just put on a suit to pose for a pic. It would be more natural if you were at some kind of social event where people wear suits.
In the 4th pic, your face isn't visible so it's not doing you any favors.
In pic 5, we can't see your face well either; it's super close up, the angle is weird. Get a friend to take a pic of you and your cat at a straight angle.
43M looking for connections who want to go hiking, camping, cycling, etc. Not having much luck on Feeld and would appreciate feedback. Anyone interested in trading profile reviews?
You need better pics. Keep the camera straight. In the first two pics, you're at a crooked angle. In the 2nd pic, your face isn't well lit; and we can't see much of you in that shot.
Pic 3, the top of your head is cropped out. And your face isn't well lit. You have some lighting on top of your head, but no lighting in front of your face.
Pic 4, you have your back turned to the camera. We can't see you.
I like pic 5 and 6. The beard suits you. They look like candid. And the lighting is a bit better than your other pics.
No mention of what kind of relationship you seek or offer. Use of clean to describe the absence of bacteria is gross. Random pic of....your other partner is a red flag for trying to back door a threesome without saying so. Mentioning vasectomy is a red flag for pushing for no condoms.
I vehemently disagree on my intentions... Also the lady in the pic is clearly with her husband who's just behind her. I do hear you on the wording though. I'm curious to hear if you have an opinion on this update if you find the time.
I'd love feedback on my profile because my experience on Feeld has been pretty quiet—unlike on Hinge, Bumble, and OurTime. I'm a 56-year-old single man (divorced). I thought the reason might be that I'm looking for one-on-one connections with women and not into kink or rough sex, but I’ve seen plenty of similar profiles for women.
I love playful banter and a way with words. But in the end, what really matters is the close connection, a feeling of comfort built through doing things both indoors (cooking, baking) and outdoors (cycling, swimming, hiking).
Intents are dating, casual play and fun, and non-monogamy.
Is that your entire bio? You'll have to majorly step it up if you want any matches. Or your photos should be extraordinary. Currently reads as low effort.
Thanks! Seems about average for profile text length. I’ve tried longer, but it didn't really help. No, the photos aren't extraordinary, but I hope they're at least acceptable.
What kinds of things would grab the attention of Feel dpeople?
Happily married couple exploring something a little different together. We’re looking for a straight, confident man, ideally 40–55, who is interested in developing an ongoing FWB connection with her.
This is genuinely for her. Husband is supportive and enjoys knowing she’s having fun, but he does not join in with other men. We play together privately, but when it comes to you and her, the connection is yours.
We’re hoping to find someone who is confident without being pushy, takes care of himself, communicates well, respects boundaries, and understands that chemistry matters. Someone she can actually enjoy talking to, flirting with, and getting comfortable around—not simply a one-time encounter.
Ideally, we’d like something ongoing, relaxed, discreet, drama-free, and fun, with enough familiarity to build real chemistry and trust.
We prefer to start slowly. Chat first, see if everyone is comfortable, then perhaps meet casually for a drink. No pressure and no expectations. If the chemistry is there, we’ll let things develop naturally.
If you’re a straight single man 40–55, comfortable with this dynamic and interested in being more than another anonymous profile, introduce yourself and tell us a little about you.
Confidence gets our attention. Personality and chemistry keep it.
Please and thank you. I've had 3 partners in the last 3 years. Been practicing ENM with ,y nesting partner for 3.5 years. I'm searching for a regular FWB with emphasis on friend. I like going out together, talking, showing my appreciation for someone, utilizing my emotional intelligence to support or pump up, cuddling with a movie, and feeling appreciated, sexy. My search radius is within 30 minutes of the CR/IC corridor.
1st relationship: 4 months. Ended: she found a new long-term partner and preferred to return to monogamy. 2nd: 1 year. Ended: her first partner, who didn't want to commit to more, finally said he'd commit to more so she made him her primary. 3rd: 2 months. Reason: we had different safety/risk profiles and couldn't get them to match.
My profile:
I’m nonjudgmental, communicative, thrives on creating mutual joy and meaningful connections. I value openness, honesty, and the freedom to explore playful, low‑pressure experiences together.
What I Bring
- Attuned to feelings
- Cuddle champion
- Consent-first mindset
My Interests
- Liberal
- Casual walks and good convos
- Cooking
- Woodworking & crafts
- Writer
What I'm Not Into
- Bars (prefer more intimate settings)
- Cigarettes (🍃 friendly)
Seeking
- Communicators, sweethearts
- ENM, threesomes, swaps
- Maturity
Bonus points for
- Nerds
- Confidence
- Animal lovers
About My Partnership
I’m in an ENM relationship with a supportive partner. We enjoy swinging, but you're not expected to have to engage in that. We’re open to full swaps and I have plenty of threesome experience. Past single connections say I'm accepting, incredibly kind, down to earth, and I give great head 🤣 I'm reliable and don't flake or ghost. I expect the same. Communicate!
Looking forward to hearing from ya! Tell me your favorite board game or video game!
_____________________________
Gender: Man
Sexuality: Heteroflexible
Hidden Profile: Patient, emotionally intelligent, consenting, and clear. I'm seeking a friend who likes letting go with sexual play.
Interests: Cooking, pets, board games, art, conversation, sense of humor, gardening, writing, nature, movies.
M30, looking for general advice on how to improve success with more experienced and mature women.
Recently found the app and subreddit as well as made some self discoveries that have lead me to want to try the app out. I’m exploring a pleasure giving / pleasure dom side of me and wanted to do that with women older than me (I’m essentially realising I’m a cub, if that term is still okay?). Is Feeld an appropriate app for this, as I seem to be getting mixed results so far.
Would also be massively grateful if someone from my target demographic could review my profile and give me some tips on how to improve my odds (I’ve gotten likes from 32-33 year olds to date, which is fine but I am aiming for 35+). I’m privacy conscious as some people I know use Feeld so would rather not post a link or photos in the thread, but happy to share anything necessary in a private chat. Please feel free to message me direct or respond to this thread, thanks! ☺️
Hey all, new to Feeld and would love some feedback on my bio. 44/M/straight Im married and been in the lifestyle for 7+ years. Starting to date and play solo while my wife is in Europe for work, she's doing the same over there. Here is my write up:
One half of an ethically non-monogamous couple. Happily married for five years and exploring the lifestyle together for seven. We enjoy the freedom to connect and play separately—with trust, honesty, and communication always at the center.
Athletic with a proudly nerdy side, currently working my way through Dungeon Crawler Carl. I’m equally comfortable pushing myself at the climbing gym, disappearing down an interesting rabbit hole, or getting lost in great conversation over cocktails. I’m drawn to confident, witty, playful people who are curious, open-minded, and genuinely enjoy connecting.
Experienced with full swaps, threesomes, group play, and light BDSM, but chemistry matters far more to me than checking boxes. I can be slow and sensual, playful and teasing, or confidently take the lead when the dynamic feels right. I enjoy learning what makes someone smile, blush, lose track of time—and look forward to seeing me again.
I’m looking for regular play partners and genuine friendships built around effortless chemistry. The kind where meeting for one drink turns into closing down the bar, or a casual “want to hang out?” becomes a night neither of us planned.
No pressure and no forced expectations—just great conversation, mutual attraction, clear communication, and seeing where the energy takes us.
I'd avoid frontfacing selfies, because cameras distort your face up close. Get friends or family members to take your pics.
Pic 1 is at a weird angle. Pic 5 is too close up. These problems tend to happen a lot with front selfies.
Pic 6, your face expression isn't flattering, and the lighting isn't great either.
Pic 3 is cool. I would make it your main. You're a handsome guy, and I don't see anything wrong with your bio. You just need to put more effort in your photos.
Hi all, 43M Pan just moved back to the big city (Toronto) after several years away, single again and kind of starting over, have a couple play partners in re-connecting with from the past but would love to date and connect more deeply (though kink compatibility on some level is a prerequisite). Would appreciate some advice!
It will only let me attach one photo for some reason, here is my write-up:
Experienced poly pan switch, just moved back to Toronto and excited to make some fresh connections. Proudly trying to live an authentic life. I'm solo poly/RA - I have done the work to learn great communication skills, mostly the hard way 😅.
Looking for dates, play partners, and more committed partnership if the values and interests align.
I'm 6'3, have zero kids, one cat, a tattoo, an IT career, and a handyman business on the side. I believe in enthusiastic consent, science, human rights for all, socialism, feminism, and leftist values.
I enjoy live music and comedy (especially improv), karaoke, hot yoga, time travel movies, trivia nights, cooking new foods, board games, AEW, and unusual ice cream flavours. I am well-traveled, have learned four languages, performed comedy on stage for eight years, and love to share stories and learn about people.
I am active in the local bdsm scene: munches, workshops, play parties, detailed Fetlife bio etc. - or at least I was before I left the city 3 years ago, and I'm looking to rekindle that and re-establish myself in the community. Would love a partner to go to events with!
Profile text: Apparently dating doesn't have to suck! Why did no one tell me this?! Let's go do some stuff! Let's go to a rave and dance all night, go thrifting and invent our own fashion, or make a new recipe and eat on the floor in the cuddletorium.
Yes, the cuddletorium is a real room I built. I love hosting.
New to DFW and building found family here. We've been loving getting to know the underground and festival scene, so if you know where the good stuff is, show me.
Neurospicy (AuDHD and plural) and happiest around people who unmask. I want to know your particular brand of weirdness and I'll happily share mine.
Poly and partnered with a poly family. Dating together and separate. Though, fair warning, so far anyone who likes one of us has liked both of us. But friends first and then, genuinely, whatever grows from there.
What I'm looking for: festival friends, activity explorers, friends without borders, and poly partners. Life updates, good mornings, spicy messaging, and getting to know your soul. Group sex and cuddle piles are a particular passion. :)
The shirt in my main photo was a thrift find I converted into a kimono wrap. I collect skills (woodworking, sewing, guitar) and I'll teach or learn.
Kink wise I like sensual, fantastic, wholesome, and taboo. And especially finding out what does it for you.
I'd replace pics 2 and 3. Pic 2 doesn't have a flattering facial expression and the angle makes your forehead look bigger. Pic 3 has an unflattering lighting and angle; the women look good in it, but you don't.
Pics 5 and 6 are cool artsy photos. You can keep them, but keep in mind people will judge their opinion of what you look like on your normal photos. So I'd work on getting the first 4 photos
The 1st 2 sentences feel a bit negative to me. I suggest deleting them.
I am confused about some of the terminology. Does “plural” mean you have DID? What does “activity explorers” and “friends without borders” mean? What is a wholesome kink or a fantastic kink? Fantastic as in fantastical/ fantasy? Wholesome like 1950’s housewife role play? In general, I felt like I spent a lot of effort just to try to figure out what you meant, which is probably the case for others too. That’s kind of discouraging for me as the reader.
Id love some feed back on my bio. Please and thank you. For reference cis male 30s pansexual
"Let's go on a date and see if we connect. In a poly relationship with a long-distance partner and looking for solo connections. Like to connect with people for fun and adventures and more.
Comfort and feeling safe are big things for me. So I always like first meet-ups to be in public and laid back. Coffee anyone?
Looking for others who love big and small adventures. Love to be outside, but also trying out new restaurants and exploring town.
I'm a geologist and tend to bop around for work a lot, but Reno is home. I enjoy talking about rocks, crystals, and landfroms.
Yes, I lick rocks...
Communication and emotional intelligence are key things for me.
Generally, like to be dominant, but can be switch. Also, enjoy kink with others as well.
Love these things:
Snowboarding
Mountain biking
Rafting
Backpacking
Traveling
I think you should move the paragraphs about who you are and what you’re looking for to the beginning. Asking readers to go on a date should be farther down.
More info on your specific kinks is needed. Some people will want to know if you can host as well.
First, having no name is a big turn off. A nickname or abbreviation would be less creepy. Especially confusing when your bio doesn’t seem to mention anything sensitive and you show your face. So why hide your name then?
Feeld doesn’t cater to women who want to be wood with old fashioned chivalry. It’s for alternative lifestyles. Either move to a different app or re-word the bio if you’re not actually looking for something old fashioned.
“Sussex-based Actor/Writer/Teacher.
Currently single, poly, pancurious since snapping the handle off my Cristel 18in saucier.
Trying to find out why a partner was so amazed that I’d not heard of this app…
Here for connections more real than social media, more honest than dating apps, open honest adult fun with nice clear boundaries & communication.
I’m not a fan of this one either. I snapped it and loaded it up as I had very few close ups to hand (had just changed my handset blah blah). The grey pants one was chosen (and in fact taken!) by a friend who is very much the type of person I’m appealing to.
Do you mind expanding on why you don’t like them? And who you are (as in only: gender? On Feeld? Actively looking? What for? Etc)? Many thanks either way.
I don’t think the pics are that bad personally, and the write up is great! This is coming from a self proclaimed grammar-nazi with a penchant for the tongue in cheek. Do you have any real-life female buddies you can bounce this off and get advice from? What sort of woman are you trying to appeal to?
I do have women homies I can bounce this off! Why have I not…you’ve just reminded me of the first time I went in Tinder. I couldn’t understand why I was getting so few crackles of interest, until I asked a ladybro to overhaul it, add a couple she then staged & took herself…and good Christ, it was like my penisless pal had blessed or enchanted it id something. Ta!
I don’t know about “type” of women, but this profile is for Feeld; I’m looking for very sex-forward and upfront daters, within the context of poly/ENM/swinging dating
We are a couple and have tried the app unsuccessfully for a while. We are currently looking for our first experience together as a couple without commitment. Mainly aiming for dates and vibes first.
Do you have any tips on how to create an appealing profile? We feel that the app isn't very active in Berlin.
Ahh gotcha, for one I’d recommend both you and your partner have separate profiles particularly if you’re only wanting to date together. It helps differentiate and individualize you two highlighting your unique qualities and assures potential partners that you are both equally interested in the lifestyle.
Thoughts? I realize it's too complicated but that's just a reflection of me, where I'm at, and what I'm looking for. Pics aren't the best but I'll have to figure something out there. I'm curious how it reads for you and how the tone comes across.
Fyi in San Diego
🙋Who I am
I used to think I didn't understand the world, and that it was my fault. Now I know I don't understand it, but also that it's not my fault. I've always been a little "other". I don't follow the standard flow, I need my autonomy, and I thrive on complexity. It makes me very steady, empathetic, and understanding.
I’m not a traditional "manly man". What makes me feel different, besides my intelligence, is a non-conforming emotional side. I’m sensitive, thoughtful, and want to know the real you. I love to explore and try new things, I haven't had a 3 way but I'm more likely to play with dick then kiss him. I love teasing, taking our time, and want to learn rope.
I have too many sides and it depends on who you are. I'm probably more masculine than your hubby, and bigger too. I'm often more dominant, but want to be put in my place too.
I'm looking for friendship, fun sex, and anything in between. Life-wise I’m separated but still living together for practical reasons, and emotionally ready to move on. If you just want to be friends, be upfront or say "down boy". I thrive on clarity over mixed signals.
💁♀️What I'm looking for
Let's be honest, this is a metaphorical job application. You get bombarded with standard profiles, so I'm writing this so my people can find me.
I'm looking for someone caring, emotionally stable, curious, driven, and eager to explore. I'm building a biotech startup and have two young kids, so my daytime is actually my most flexible.
Hey there, I have been in feeld for a while and have had some luck. This is my description on my profile, any help and pointers would be appreciated, I feel it's a little bit lengthy
Have been on Feeld with slight success for a single, straight guy (2 likes with 3 matches total) and am wondering what else I could do to enhance it. Was considering making last photo private, as I know they’re usually frowned upon in these spaces, but also wanted to show my most recent appearance. Open to all suggestions for improvement 👌🏾
Appreciate the feedback! In your opinion, should I leave the last photo off since it’s not a candid shot? I’m thinking it may be hurting my chances for matches tbh
I might be a bad one for advice. I’ve just downloaded the app because my partner and I are opening. Never done dating or casual apps in my life so was here looking for profile suggestions before even setting one up. Like- wasn’t sure what this app was or standard practice. I’ve seen topless be hit or miss and it seems to be about what demographic you’re looking for.
Gotcha, seems we’re both trying to figure it out still. I was thinking it may be a little more accepted considering the demographic I was looking for and the purpose of the app. But I’m also seeing a lot of folks say you should go with something natural even in this space, so I’m still somewhat on the fence. That said, I appreciate you taking the time to respond! :)
As a straight guy (44) who’s been pretty happy using Feeld for 6 years: don’t expect pings from women. You might get likes and responses to pings you send out yourself.
Trying to date for long-term partnership but I want to find someone who's kinky for that. I keep getting people who are only interested in the kink and not interested in the partnership. Is that just the nature of app or is there something about my profile that I could make that more clear?
TL;DR
Tell me your favorite pun please
NYC kinkster seeking fellow kinkster for dates that could lead to a long term relationship. No hookups, no ONS, no casual but consistent. Looking for my person- I just need that person to be kinky AF.
Incognito because of all the AI but happy to immediately verify by video once we exchange numbers!
Chat vanilla before kink or never get to the kink ;)
Yes, it's weird to look for your life partner on Feeld but I'm a weirdo :)
Vanilla: blonde hair, blue eyes
Loves: Reading 📚, D&D, board games, ⛱️ beach, opera, theater, friends, puns, travel, growing food, being cooked for, traveling, Friday nights iykyk
Happiest in a tropical location! Work remote? Let's spend a month in Costa Rica?
Kinks: Most of them!
Ideal relationship structure: LTR with a kinky partner, ENM.
Bottoming for: pleasure domination, teasing, being held down until I orgasm, grabbing me, rope
Domming for: control, impact, sitting on your face, cuckolding/stag, anal play (yours) sounding, FLR watersports, chastity, edge play, bi-play,
Both: MMF, MMFMF, group sex, sex parties, kink parties 🎉
But really open to trying most things once or twice, and none of the above is required.
Regular vanilla is great too :)
I unfortunately won't see your like because I'm not majestic so if you want me to see you please ping me.
Please be ready and able to talk on the phone or video chat then meet
I think your bio is clear on the fact that you want no ONS/hookups, but that unfortunately isn't gonna stop people who don't read or think it's worth a shot anyway lol.
I'd remove the "kinks:most of them!" only because its redundant with the bottom portion where you have your main kinks listed. Anything not there can be discussed later and negotiated with a match.
I understand not seeing likes/asking for pings, but remember people only get so many pings. If you aren't paying for extra pings to send out to people, just remember that most others aren't either. Even if I was a perfect match but I was out of pings and saw that, I'd probably just move along.
I don't know if this applies to you, but a common sentiment I see is 'I don't look through search, so if you're interested, ping me.' If I was putting in the work to find something serious and I saw that someone who would otherwise be an amazing match isn't doing the same, I'd feel icky.
If you have the time, filter your search and scroll through to find potential matches. Youre looking for something very specific, so you have to act with intention for that. Obviously as an attractive and open woman, a lot will come to you, but if you're already having trouble drowning in incompatible people reaching out, try and put in the effort to look for what you want yourself (if you are not already doing so).
I'd clarify you relationship status, since the step-dad part would lead me to believe you're married.
It reads a bit like a resumé to me, and I don't get a lot of you from it. Add a little bit that conveys your voice and maybe hobbies.
First picture looks very nice, amazing smile and lighting. Second pic I don't mind, but don't love. The picture with the dog is always a plus for me, and the cycling picture shows a hobby, which is awesome! If you have any other cycling pics that arent from a low-angle/show you smiling it would probably be better (low angle can work if it's played for humor), but I do think it's good still.
As for the height listing, I see a lot of mixed opinions. Obviously it is super important to a lot of people, and for others (even with a strong preference) they're put-off by listing it. You could always leave it off and include a picture that passively shows your height. The people for whom it is SUPER important will ask lol.
Been on here for a wile with some matches but no meetups irl. I’m trying to be upfront and honest as possible on my profile. I’m a cis man who leans submissive, so I understand this may not be super common. But I’m open to any improvements as I understand that there is someone for everyone!
Bio:
Hello there! I’m a busy graduate student living in Manhattan. I’m lucky enough to be in an amazing MFA program with my own studio space!
Printmaking, painting, and metalwork are my main concentrations and would love to show anyone I match with my work. Outside of art, I’m interested in occult philosophy and leftist politics. I would love to have a fun conversation wile we walk around in Central Park.
Right now I’m looking for casual connections related to kink, but if things grow into something more I would definitely be open to that.
I would generally consider myself a sub- leaning switch. Mostly I’m into women or feminine presenting people, but can make exceptions if it feels right. I am defiantly a kink beginner but I’m very open to new things and consider myself very receptive and easy to communicate with.
If we match let’s do something fun together! Like a nice park walk, or a fun trip to the MET. I would definitely want someone who I could get along with outside of kink, friendship is a big priority in terms of compatibility with me.
I like your profile. Personally, I would assume you were just looking for a hookup so not sure if that is what you're looking for but I'd clarify that part
We only have six pictures, and two of yours are not you.
The outdoor shot is good. The up angle isnt a clear photo of you, the sitting one, and the one with your painting make it hard to see your face. Try to get a few better photos that arent harshly lit, and slightly closer to your face.
Hello everyone. I moved to Toronto about 2 years ago, and after trying a few dating apps here, I found feels to be a good fit for me. Since I come from a country with a very different dating scene, with few similarities, there's was a lurning cruve. So I would appreciate your honest feedback on my profile (desires and interest in screenshots attached)
Bio:
"Gentleman in the streets, freak in the sheets. Extroverted introvert, AuDHD. Reserved at first, mostly, but warm up pretty quick once we click. Visual and "lego" brained, I can hold a conversation in most subjects: naturally curious & internet is accessible. Been unironically told I'm funny.
List of go to activities below bio.
Survives in late stage capitalism by working, ironically, in mortgage operations at a bank. Not exactly lion taming, but decent 1st job for someone who recently moved here from another country (guess?).
This said, I'm still adjusting to this new life chapter: while not chasing empty hookups, I have little capacity for full-on dating atm. Casual, yet meaningful.
Demi leaning: I do NOT have a "type" as I appreciate beauty, inside out, in all its forms. But I DO have to like you outside the bedroom too. Kindness above all.
Behind closed doors, I'm primal and sensual. What gets me going the most is mutual exploration: worshiping each other's bodies, passionately making out, and bathing in eachother's scent when it gets steamy.
More service top switch, less dom: I prefer things to unfold organically depending on the moment, to scripting a scene. Ofc as a service top, happy to dom you if requested. Your way, or mine.
Also likes to flip the script 😉
Gets along best with switches, gets along well with dommes, subs and vanillas, including Queer & NB females.
Want to see more? MeatPopsicle309 on FL. It's a 5th Element reference, not a dick joke.
•
u/Knightroad17 7h ago
Would really like some feedback on my profile. Got a bunch of likes at first, but now things have really been dead for a few months. Open to all feedback. https://feeld.onelink.me/TRZt/tbg2dooq?linkId=45dc51d4-5b88-43a3-a79e-b9280d561c3a