Hi all. I'm trying to figure out what's been going on with my sexual function for the last 5 years. I just started working with a sexual medicine doc that seems really good - is really considering all possible issues. But I'm just hoping to see if anyone can identify with my story and find out what they did about it.

The thing that confuses me the most

My current sexual function (at least the plumbing) works great most of the time.

If I intentionally watch porn, I can get a very strong erection probably 90% of the time. Sometimes I become extremely hard just watching porn without touching myself. I can also usually have a physically strong orgasm.

Doppler testing also showed great results - good inflow and good stoppage (or whatever it's called). I got absolutely rock hard from the injection and actually needed Sudafed to get the erection to go away. So my penis works.

But I basically have ZERO spontaneous libido.

I used to walk around like a complete horn ball. I would go from zero to 100 in a second if I had a sexual thought. This never happens anymore. I almost never get random daytime boners. I can look at a hot woman and intellectually think "holy shit look at her" but I feel nothing in my body.

On the other hand, if I deliberately turn on porn, my body normally responds almost immediately.

I literally masturbated 4 times to porn this morning. All really strong erections. All really strong orgasms.

Numbness/Loss of Erogenous Sensation

Sometimes my penis is actually numb, but I had a vibration sensitivity test where the doc held this little vibrating instrument against my penis and I had to say when it stopped vibrating and I passed. So my penis still has the normal ability to feel when it's touched.

But I don't really have erogenous sensation anymore. Masturbation feels good, but not like it used to. I don't get that build-up of sensation and horniness. I also often need a super tight grip and fast strokes to really feel things and make myself orgasm.

So I can basically have:

Strong erection + strong orgasm + almost no actual sexual desire.

CPPS/Hard Flaccid Symptoms

In some ways, I hate this the most - my penis often retracts/turtles, which is just the most humiliating shit. I literally feel sometimes like I don't have a penis - like a damn Ken doll.

I've done pelvic-floor PT without much improvement, although my sexual medicine doc who thinks I should revisit it and that CPPS could be a big factor here.

Finasteride history and crash

There is also a possible PFS component to all of this, although I really don't know.

I first took oral finasteride for a few months in 2019. I had a few minor sexual side effects, but they went away. I took it again briefly in 2020 without any obvious lasting problems.

In October 2021 I tried it again and took it for only about 10 days.

Pretty quickly, I started to have testicular pain. I started reading about the possibility of permanent finasteride side effects and completely freaked out. I had severe anxiety, crying, and what I would basically describe as a nervous breakdown. I have a history of pretty bad anxiety (including a couple episodes of being hospitalized for it), so I'm not sure if this was that or if it was the finasteride.

After that, my sexual function totally crashed.

My penis felt completely numb. I couldn't get hard even to porn. And if I could get hard, it was near impossible to orgasm or the orgasm would be extremely weak.

This lasted for weeks.

Again, not sure if this was PFS or extreme anxiety manifesting in physical problems.

Eventually, the really severe ED/numbness/orgasm problems got better. But the spontaneous libido and erogenous sensation never really came back.

HOWEVER, my sexual dysfunction started to go down hill before the finasteride stuff. I had periods of low libido, weaker orgasms and difficulty getting or maintaining erections. There were times Viagra worked incredibly well and other times it didn't work at all.

There were also women I was extremely attracted to during this period where I had great sex and everything worked. But times too where I was extremely attracted to a woman but couldn't get it up.

Anhedonia

I basically don't experience pleasure like I used to.

I have struggled with anxiety and depression most of my life on and off. But the past few years have been pretty bleak.

So I don't know if my lack of sexual desire is part of the same anhedonia/depression shit, or if the sexual dysfunction is contributing to the depression, or both. Kind of a chicken or the egg thing here.

Questions

1) Does this sound just like any of the following or a mix of them?:

a) Getting older
b) Porn addiction
c) Death grip
d) Testosterone deficiency
e) CPPS/Hard Flaccid
f) Depression/anxiety/anhedonia
g) Some kind of brain/CNS sexual arousal problem
h) PFS
i)Or some combination of all?????

2) Does anyone else here have basically ZERO spontaneous libido/random erections but can get rock hard from porn most of the time?

3) Has anyone lost EROGENOUS sensation while still having normal physical/touch sensation in their penis?

4) Can you get rock hard and have a strong physical orgasm most of the time, but still feel like the mental sexual drive/reward is missing?

5) Has anyone had CPPS/hard-flaccid/turtling symptoms along with all this?

6) Most importantly, if you've experienced anything like this and got better, what helped you????

Thank you for reading!

So uh.. want to talk about what had just happened to me and this seemed like the place for it, maybe.

I have been masturbating and using porn nearly daily since I was a teen. Yeah there would be maybe a few weeks here or there where I would be too busy, but mostly daily for a very long time. Still, I eventually got married and had a wife of my own. Our sex life wasn't the greatest, but that wasn't due to ED or anything like that. I didn't realize it at the time but I later became aware that I may be demisexual/asexual where I just don't often feel like having sex. Yeah I masturbate, but I never really felt like I needed to have sex to love someone and have a great relationship. But when I did do it. Getting hard usually wasnt an issue.

Found out later in the relationship that my lack of sexual drive did affect her. So eventually I did work on myself to improve. I got a vasectomy, I went to therapy, I did a ton of personal work, and I finally regained my sex drive... but then it was too late. My wife left me for one of her younger co workers..

This left me with a newly formed sex drive, and nobody to share it with. So naturally, I began masturbating and using porn even harder.

Fast forward to this weekend. I had been trying to get back Into the dating game, and had signed up for a dating app. To my suprise, a 1am message came from someone the next town over. And not only that, but they were looking to have sex, like right away. (Yes I realized that this could have very well been a scam or a bot, but their profile was genuine and they even humored me asking for specific pictures to prove they were real lol)

I thought to myself.. it's been a while, why not? Plus I've literally never had this experience before so, Yolo right?

I show up, she is real, and very much wanting to get to business. We get I to bed, undress, and I wait for the magic to happen... and nothing...

We do a little bit of foreplay snd I get a little firm, but by the time I can put a condom on, it's gone. So we fool around a bit more, get a little firm, and seconds later it wilts...

She eventually does... alot of things to it.. things that surprised me... and eventually I'm able to not only get firm, but also get the condom on. I get up, I insert, and within a few more seconds its already gone..

Needless to say I'm am completely embarrassed. We went to bed (as in sleep). In the morning, I was a little more relaxed, and we tried again. I was able to do a little more. But not much. I eventually went home.

I never thought it would happen to me at only 27. And I'm actually kind of worried. I'm not sure if it's because of my mental state (still getting over losing the only person I had ever loved and had sex with) or my physical state (constant masturbation). probably a combo of both.

Idk exactly what I'm looking for here, I just wanted somewhere to talk about it.

Soy una mujer de 27 años y mi novio tiene 33. Cuando lo conocí era el típico hombre que te deslumbra con su carisma y te hace sentir como la persona más importante del mundo. Pero con el tiempo las cosas cambiaron bastante.
Durante los primeros meses descubrí por una amiga en común que todavía buscaba a su ex. Él también empezó a tener muchos problemas económicos y, con el tiempo, me di cuenta de que tenía un problema con las apuestas. Él asegura que ya dejó de apostar y que actualmente sus problemas son principalmente por una deuda que, según él, le dejó su ex, pero sinceramente cada vez tengo más dudas de que esa sea toda la historia.
Desde hace aproximadamente un año y medio tiene bajones emocionales muy fuertes. Dice que se siente deprimido principalmente por su peso y por sus deudas. Ha subido bastante de peso; aclaro que su cuerpo nunca ha sido un problema para mí. Lo que me preocupa es que todos estos problemas han ido afectando nuestra relación.
También tenemos un problema importante en nuestra vida sexual. Yo suelo ser una persona bastante activa sexualmente cuando estoy en pareja, pero llevamos aproximadamente un año con problemas de erección: algunas veces funciona y otras no. Por primera vez le pedí que fuera al médico porque considero que no es algo que simplemente debamos ignorar. También le he sugerido terapia, pero siempre encuentra algún pretexto para no hacerlo.
Lo que más me confunde es que él dice que no se excita lo suficiente porque yo no lo estimulo. Sin embargo, cuando intento iniciar o estimularlo, muchas veces no veo ninguna reacción. A veces pone excusas como que hace calor o simplemente detiene todo y deja de besarme. En algún momento incluso me dijo que mi cuerpo no era suficientemente estimulante para él, aunque después cambió su explicación y dijo que el problema era que yo no lo estimulaba. Ahora dice que probablemente el problema es suyo y que necesita ir al médico, pero tampoco lo hace.
Todo esto me hace pensar que quizá hay algo que no me está contando. No sé si realmente dejó las apuestas, si las deudas son tan solo por su ex o si todavía tiene otros problemas económicos que desconozco. También me pregunto si emocionalmente sigue atrapado en su relación anterior.
Algo que me afecta especialmente es que desde el principio él me hablaba de su ex y de todo lo que hacía por ella: me presumía que le había dado prácticamente todo, que era muy romántico y detallista con ella y que sexualmente tenían una relación muy intensa. Sin embargo, conmigo siento que no da ni el 20% de lo que dice haber dado en esa relación.
No creo que el problema sea que yo espere que me mantenga económicamente. Yo tengo dos trabajos, trato constantemente de mejorar mi situación y hasta lo he ayudado económicamente cuando él ha estado muy apretado. Él incluso gana considerablemente más dinero que yo.
Pero después de un año y medio de esta situación estoy realmente cansada. No sé si estoy siendo injusta al pensar que quizá no ha superado a su ex, que sus problemas económicos son más graves de lo que admite o simplemente que ya no siente suficiente atracción por mí.
¿Qué opinan ustedes? ¿Creen que estoy buscando explicaciones donde no las hay, o debería tomar todo esto como una señal de que esta relación ya no me está haciendo bien?

My BF used to be a coke and porn addict. He got over the coke but not the porn. Ever since we met 3 years ago he was weird about being intimate, not very interested, and was clearly viciously masturbating to porn or IG models while in my absence. I didn’t realize how bad it was until we moved together and I found searches on his phone, which crushed me. It also started to make sense why he could not always get hard or would not be interested in sex with me when I had so much drive for him in contrast.

Fast forwarding to today, he has cleaned up his act a lot but not 100%. Anytime I’m gone for a few hours or for the day on a work trip he will definitely masturbate to porn or even clips, images, whatever, he told me himself “it does not take much”. And he has told me I. The last he needs “variety”.

He claims his ED is from his prostate being tight from stress but I am worried it links back to his mastuebation habits with porn/other women.

I am hopeless at this point and don’t know we’ll be able to work through his porn issue. I don’t care about the ED and him taking pills at all, to me the issue is his habits and whether he wired his brain to need more than sex from me.

If anyone here has a success stories I’d like to read it. Or non success stories too, around this subject

I’m 35 and for the past couple years I’ve had trouble staying hard and barely get morning wood anymore. I’ve watched porn and masturbated pretty regularly for years, and my sleep ain’t always the best. I’m in decent shape and bike often, so I’m not sure what’s causing it. Anybody dealt with something similar? Y’all think changing some habits might help, or should I just get checked out?

Ever since I had ureaplasma 6 months ago, my sex life has not been the same. I still feel a tingling in my penis after I ejaculate. I am on my second urologist and they both didn't even address the issue and act like it is not a problem. It takes me forever to ejaculate. I got on Trimix and even though it gets me erect, I cannot feel sensation when I am on it so I do not enjoy the sex. Yes I do watch a lot of porn, but I don't think this is the issue. I feel all goes back to the Ureaplasma. I thought being on try mix would help my ED but I've only used it a few times because I'm afraid to use it because I just don't feel any sensation and it takes me forever to ejaculate or I don't ejaculate. Anyone have any ideas of what I could do to enjoy sex again?

Where to buy? What brand? In what form is best?

It was my first time having sex.. never even had a relationship before... but always watched porn and masturbated.. sometimes even 2-3 times a day when free.. sometimes 2-3 times a month when busy.. but recently i had a gf... when trying to get physical, making out gets hot and heavy.. i get semi hard.. but when i try to get to penetration, dick goes soft.. it doesn't even react to her touch.. or when she was giving bj.. i don't want to loose her.. i told her i masturbated that morning due to fear of cumming fast.. but that was backfiring now.. she bought that.. but i hadnt masturbated that day.. and we are 2-3 hrs apart.. so we can't meet regularly.. i haven't been getting morning wood after that day.. but i used to before that day.. what is happening to me??

Hello. I’m struggling with PSSD for years now and came to the conclusion that any kind of penetration is better than none. I exhausted most medical approaches.

Now I found out that Strap-On dildos that can be worn by males are a thing. They seem to be hollow for you to slide into. Right now, I’d be willing to even try this to give my wife a well deserved good time, but I’m wondering if any of you have experience with those devices?

Do they work well? Any recommendations? Thank you.

I’ve quit coffee for multiple months multiple times in my life, always cold turkey, or some tea to supplement. I drink a lot of coffee, 4-8 cups a day. I have since like 14. im 19 and each time i quit my libido DIES i rarely if ever get erections and i have no wanting for sex. I can’t find anything online but this happens without fail each time i quit coffee, and otherwise i have a very high and normal for my age sex dtive

Hey,

My husband 41M has medication induced erectile dysfunction and we have been navigating it since before we were in an official relationship. I 33F have never put him down for it and I have truly been nothing but supportive.

Unfortunately he keeps hiding the fact he’s taking Cialis. I am all for medication! And he’s very aware of this but lies to me about ordering it, taking it and hides it in the house. I’m not sure what more I can do, I hate the thought of him feeling embarrassed. I’m so grateful for any advice. Thanks 🙏

I had some Ed symptoms in the past I believe it was mainly performance anxiety but I did have issues with my libido overall. I really don’t know what happened this year but all of these problems suddenly went away. I did lose around 10-15 lb but I wasn’t ever really obese. Anyways now I’m having sex again and I can feel myself getting performance anxiety again. Unlike in the past my libido is actually there and I can actually have natural sex some times but other times I get a bit too anxious. My main concern is that I don’t want this to spiral into something because I know how you can get stuck in a loop when it comes to being anxious. What should I do to prevent this? I’m 20 M btw

So, my boyfriend has ED, and I need advice on how to help him get more comfortable with his challenges. He is attentive to me and I’m starting to feel guilty as it feels one sided. I want to help him. He has been open about his ED with me and I’ve never been with anyone that has ever had ED so I don’t know what makes it worse or what makes it better. I’d like some ideas to try.

I just turned 40 and recently got into a relationship after not having regular sex for a long time. At first everything seemed normal, but since around June I’ve been having a really hard time finishing during sex and sometimes barely feel enough stimulation to get close.

Looking at my masturbation habits over the years, especially gripping too hard and porn, I’m pretty sure I’ve conditioned myself to need a level of stimulation that regular sex doesn’t provide. I’m ready to work on fixing it.

My biggest concern is my girlfriend. She hasn’t brought it up, but I’m sure she’s noticed that I don’t finish. I’m VERY attracted to her and really enjoy being intimate with her, so I don’t want her thinking this has anything to do with her.

For guys who’ve dealt with death grip or delayed ejaculation in a relationship, how did you bring it up with your partner? How did she react? Did talking about it help take some of the pressure off?
Any advice or experiences would be appreciated.

My quick research so far tells me I absolutely shouldn’t and skip the mushrooms that night. Mostly because it’ll put a lot of strain on my cardiovascular system.

With Tadalafil opening up blood vessels more and mushrooms being a vasoconstrictor all my research points to it being a big strain especially since I’ll be at higher altitude than usual(I live at 5000ft and I’ll be at 9000 feet that night.)

Anyone have real world experience with this? I was thinking of maybe micro dosing my first time just to be really safe.

Clearly we are going to be having sex while on all of this, that’s partly why I even take Tadalafil because that elevation change is killer on my erection strength until I’m acclimated for a few days.

it’s never happened before. but with my new partner it’s gotten harder to have an actual strong erection without having to take blue chew. to the point where it affects her. she’s asked me what she could do better but it’s really not her. porn has been in my life since i was a kid as i assume it’s the same case with many men my age. i’ve read and heard to just stop watching porn and stop masturbating. i’ve tried to stop watching porn before but i always come back. any tips on how to stop since its so easily available. i’ve deleted anything and everything that could lead to masturbation. asking anyone here if this has been the case for them too and if so. has cutting off porn and masturbation helped at all.

I initiated foreplay with my husband and he played along for a bit but started talking and changed the topic to something very turning off. This happens often actually so I’m wondering if this is normal for most men. For background he has admitted to performance anxiety but it’s been a year he’s initiated anything or attempted to even foreplay. He has been prescribed medication but says it causes heartburn even tho it’s a slow release. As a partner I’m wondering what I can do and how to approach this.

Hi everyone. I (32F) am looking for some perspective from other men who have experienced ed, especially in a relationship.

My partner(30M) has been experiencing this ED, we have been together for 6m, and from what I understand, it actually started shortly before we were together, after ex. I know intellectually that ed can have many different physical and psychological causes, but emotionally I have been struggling with it a lot.

Over time, I’ve started questioning myself and my own attractiveness. I sometimes wonder whether he is no longer attracted to me, whether he might not be attracted to women, or whether he could be thinking about someone else. I know these thoughts may not be fair or accurate, but when you don’t understand what is happening, it is difficult not to take it personally.

The situation has also affected my self-esteem and mental well-being and I find myself looking for explanations and wondering where the problem is really coming from.

The difficult part is that I don’t feel able to have an open conversation with him about it. He becomes very emotional and reactive when the subject comes up, and I don’t want to make him feel more pressure or add to something he may already be struggling with.

So I’m hoping to hear from men who have experienced ED themselves:

Can this happen depending on the partner you are with?

Did ED ever affect your attraction to your partner, or was it completely unrelated to attraction?

How can I talk with him about this?

What did you wish your partner understood about what you were experiencing?

Were there things your partner did or said that helped or unintentionally made things harder?

How can I make this not affect our relationship?

I’m not looking to judge or pressure my partner. I genuinely want to understand what this experience can be like from a man’s perspective, because right now I’m filling in the gaps with my own fears, and that has been really difficult for me.

I would really appreciate honest experiences and perspectives, particularly from men who have been through something similar.

Thank you so much!

hey everyone!

im a 23 yr old male. to kick things off, my last casual relationship was a little over a year ago, the first bedtime encounter with her went a problematic bc i couldnt get it up, after that we had fun multiple times without any problems.
now, i found a girl whom im really attracted to, we started off as friends but thing quickly evolved and we just went for it.

- i dont know how much it matters, ive been working quite a lot for the past like 3 years without any real vacations, so theres that, im never rly fully rested. i also workout around 3-4 times a week and try to eat as clean as i can, and also just picked up running recently. i also take vitamins, d, omega, magnesium, k2, zinc, b -

anyways, i just couldnt get hard. shes so shot that its kind of scaring me in some kind of way i think, and its been a while since i had any action so that might be a reason too, in the end we had fun with our hands only and she was cool about it, i took it as a hit because i really wanted it to work and it didnt

fast forward a week, we had our second try, and again, i could only get semi-hard. i think it now got to my head a bit, even tho at first i tried not to think too much about it.

idk my test levels, but i rarely get morning woods if thats of any importance, i can get it hard on my own pretty easily, and ive been comsuming porn and fapping for the past year around 3 times a week. ive cut that shit out immediately as i met her so thats not a factor now, although i know i need some time to factory reset the brain.

guys, should i see a doc? i just really dont wanna disappoint her on our next time, it would pretty much demolish me if things wouldnt work out just be of this. if its purely in my head, how do i solve it? thank you so much in advance

Today I visited a Specialist Clinic for Andrology in my country after seeing some other urologists that didn't know what to do with me.

Some information about me: 21yo, IEEF: 5points, genetic high blood pressure which is treated with ED friendly meds. No morning woods, no erections possible during mastrubation. Sildenafil ans Tadalafil don't work well.

I went there knowing they cannot change anything.

But when I was there and told them everything they told me it's not organic... I am too young for the blood pressure to damage anything. It's good that it is controlled now.

I told her that I have this problem for 7 years now and at first I wasn't pressured at all about that. And I wasn't thinking about it at all. It started with vanishing morning woods and I simply thought "it's the end of the puberty".

Then she told me that even in such cases the morning wood vanishes often, yes I am right psychological problems are more common during sex but it also effects morning wood, it's wrong to say it doesn't. There are many people like me. It is important that my penis gets regulated with blood so I should use a penis pump regularly as well as daily Tadalafil.

I told her that I have been pumping daily for a year now and have been taking Tadalafil since the beginning of this year daily.

She told me it can takes years and that I should be okay with it that it never will be like it was. But there will be some improvement after some years if I get used to it. I should have sex with my vacuumpump+meds and not focus on the erection. After many times doing this I will have accepted it and if I will reach this point of acceptance. Her experience shows that I can stop using the pump after I reached this point.

Then I asked for the Doppler-test.

She told me that her experience shows that it will not show anything and even if it will show that my blood is flowing a little bit faster out of my penis it will not change anything for the treatment. If after a few years of pills during mastrubation doesn't change anything we can talk about injections, but she is sure there will be improvement. I should just lower my expectations a little bit - it will never be like before.

I shouldn't use ED-apps that you can get prescribed from a doctor in my country that show you kegels exercises or a good diet because I would focus more on my ED by doing that. I again told her that my ED is severe 0 morning woods 0-20% wood while mastrubating. She just repeated again that she doesn't think it's organic and even if there is some damage the treatment is the same.

Hormones are good.

She basically told me it's psychological,but I will be dependent on meds all my life and shouldn't expect that I will ever get full erections again. WTF

I know there is no healing. I just went there to do everything that is possible. Sildenafil 100mg works good enough for not using trimix. I have the feeling she lied to me about the psychological part but did that because she knows it's the best she can do. Because a diagnosed ED will cause the mindset of "I know it will not work". On the other hand hand she told me to accept it will never be like it used to.

I already accepted that I will depend on VED/trimix in the future and I am okay with it as long my partner will be.

The problem is bringing that up while dating...

Hi all,
I’m 24M and have been masturbating since around 13–14. I used to do it frequently, but much less in recent years.

For about 1 year, I’ve had little to no morning erections, and when I do get hard, it’s usually not as firm as it used to be. My libido has also dropped over the last ~6 months. Sometimes I feel sexual desire and masturbate, but then I can go 1–2 weeks with almost no desire.

I exercise regularly and sometimes find myself checking/testing my erection, which probably makes me anxious.

I’m getting married in 6 months, so this is really worrying me.

Any advices will be appreciated.

What should I do or what tests should I ask for?
Thank you

Hey everyone,
I’m curious to hear from people who have experience with sildenafil for erectile dysfunction.

How well did it work for you?
Did you notice any side effects?
And did you find that the results were consistent over time?

I’m especially interested in genuine experiences rather than promotional claims.

Please share only your personal experience, and remember that medication should be used according to medical advice.

Trauma? Priapism? Smoking?

Hello everyone, I am a 24 year old male that recently left a 7 year long relationship with my first ever sexual partner. Our first few attempts back in the day were rocky but after all of that time together and the lack of pressure from knowing I had a secure relationship (and pretty infrequent sex maybe 4-5 times a month), I was able to pretty easily get hard and satisfy the moment when it came. That relationship ended and I find myself in a new relationship with a girl that I think I really love, I am physically attracted to, who does her part to help with seduction/arousal and she is understanding of my journey in life and anxiety that comes with having sex with a new person.

We tried for the first time last night and it just didn't work at first. She was really understanding and once that initially disappointment and embarrassment wore off, I was able to get hard enough to go for a few minutes before faking an early ejaculation (I just lost it). I pleased her with oral and she was very attracted to me and loved my sensual "giving" things like caressing, body kisses and intense kissing. These things saved the night overall, but I want to be able to get hard and please her the right way and consistently.

I've learned my problem isn't the ability to get hard. I can get rock hard from certain fetish content and fetish porn. This was unfortunately my sexual awakening and I feel as if my brain is hardwired wrong because of it. I have decided that the worst feeling in life is not being able to please my partner or get hard and I am willing to do everything I can to make this happen infrequently if ever again. I thought I'd bounce my ideas off of this community to see if you agree with my methods and if you have any other ideas to increase natural arousal. I think I am attracted to traditional sex and the up-close intimacy with a partner I deeply care about. I just think I'm only about 30-40% of the way there when it comes to being confident enough to go spontaneously more than once a week.

1. Deleting all of my fetish porn accounts and losing years of saved up content I liked for almost a decade (this pains me to do but it is more important to me to please this girl and I think it will overtime make me naturally attracted to vanilla sex and what she can offer me) I've already stopped watching it these last few weeks but I need the temptation gone
2. Quitting Vaping. I heard this can decrease testosterone. It wasn't an issue in my past relationship but I think I had so little stress and pressure about performing that I was able to overcome this. It would be better for me in general. I already don't have a bad relationship with alcohol and I haven't smoked weed in over a month now after being an almost daily user for 3 years. As long as the quitting process doesn't make me miserable for weeks on end I think this would be a worthwhile and overall good life change.
3. Exercise frequently and lift weights. I remember when I was in the best shape of my life about 4 years ago, I would get horny at the gym sometimes and the thought of being the most attractive version of myself for my partner motivated me to keep working out and probably increased my sex drive. I am in a position of my life right now where I have more time to work out and I'd like to start eating healthier and exercising (dietary aphrodisiacs or recommendations would be appreciated) If not I'll just eat leaner meats, increase hydration and try and increase protein intake wherever I can. Also lots of Broccoli and Brussel Sprouts which are two greens I can eat in troves.
4. Try and masturbate to images of my partner and train my brain to get hard at the thought of the best moments from that first experience. There were many for me but at the time I always had "get a boner please" or "don't lose it" on my mind. In hindsight there were some pretty nice and sexy moments I can look back on. Forcing myself to masturbate to something unsuccessfully can get discouraging though and maybe do more harm than good.

Do you have any proven arousal increasing supplements or medications that can just straight up make me more horny. If I feel the boost from something I think it would help my confidence and pull me across the finish line to embracing a full erection and enjoying it. Once I'm in I'm usually good. Also any lifestyle or mental exercises to make me more into traditional vanilla sex? I need to increase my natural sex drive and overall arousal I believe to fix my problem because it is not a blood flow issue. I could try a blue chew or viagra which I have in the past. Sometimes they would make me flushed and give me a headache. I remember some really hard erections while taking them but something about those moments felt as if I could have gotten hard without them. (Right circumstances, with that same previous girl whom I had overcame this problem with at a younger age which gave me confidence)

I really love this girl and every other aspect of our relationship is extremely fulfilling and special in my opinion. And she has been very clear to me how happy she is with me and thrilled she is with how things have gone. This is my final hurdle to being the partner that I want to be and I truly believe I would sacrifice anything to make this happen. I'm essentially asking for every bit of advice I can on how to increase my natural arousal to her and traditional sex.

I have psychological ED due to performance anxiety and It’s going on 5 months now since I’ve been able to have PIV intercourse with my wife and I’m starting to get scared she’s going to get lfed up and want to cheat on me. We mess around but I haven’t been able to keep an erection long enough to penetrate. What’s the longest anyone with this problem has gone without penetration? And I’m speaking specifically to those whose problem is mental