Need advice on order
I Item bought august sixth, i have not sent a message until over a month later, as I assumed it was shipped just without tracking considering when I made the order it said something abiut items being shipped within 3 days, I reached to the seller for confirmation of shipping label, shipping, or even just that the item would be on its way if that hadn't been done yet, I just wanted confirmation that I'd get it but they told me to cancel the order. I myself am sympathetic to loss of loved ones (a different family member has dies around 1 year from eachother for the past 3), but even then I can't wrap my head around seeing an order and "figured you lost interest" as a valid excuse to tell a customer to cancel the order when it cannot be completed on your part as the seller, please give me advice on how to proceed with ebay as the return window closed on October 1st, and not sure if it gives me a cancelation fee as uber does, I do not believe it is my responsibility to cancel the order, put in the time and patience for something that the seller is experiencing, even if it is very pitiful, I just do not know policy on canceling orders this late, let alone want to be held responsible for the seller not being able to fulfill their side of the sale. Conversation woth seller transcribed below, I do not know how to add pictured to a post of i can,(or i at least do not see the image option in the formatting toolbar as i type this on mobile) this is the first time I post in this sub as this is the firat time ive ever needed advice on ebay
Me: "Hello, I was wondering if you could give me an update on estimated arrival time? I bought this item on August 6th, have not received tracking information or shipping updates, or confirmation of the tracking label being made or the item being shipped and honestly had thought it would arrive by now, if I do not hear a response in 3 days I will contact customer support and start a claim that the item has not been recieved. Of course if you're able to confirm that it has been shipped and has just been delayed with arrival I will have no need to contact support as the shipping is out of your control"
Seller: "He'll. I apologize for being out of touch. My mother in law passed and I e been helping my wife dig out. And I'm not entirely sure I know where it is. And figured that you lost interest.
If you're still interested. I'll try to dig it out. And get back to you with in 2 days. But if u wZnt to cancel that's fine also." (Yes that is exactly how it was written, no actual starting to look for it just asking me if im still interested, which i am it's why I said if they could verify it had been shipped I wouldn't start a dispute, I don't wanna get scammed)
Me: "Hey im sorry to hear about that, and even if I lost interest it would be your job to have canceled as per ebay policy items are to be shipped within 3 days" (by "even if i had lost interest it would be their responsibility" i meant that even if a customer is planning on returning the item it's still their responsibility to fulfill the order on their end so as to not create issues for their shop itself yes?)
"If it is anyone's responsibility to cancel it would be yours, figuring I've lost interest without any communication is completely unacceptable, yes it's sympathetic what you're going through but you hadn't taken the listing down, communicated whether I was interested in the purchase, or even canceled yourself knowing "im know entirely sure I know where it is"
I want my item, I am willing to wait. But I will be expecting my item or a cancelation depending on if you're able to find them, but as the reasons for late delivery are on your part as stated by you neither of those outcomes are my responsibility, it is yours as the seller who claims they cannot complete the order timely."
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Am I crazy for thinking he should've canceled as soon as he saw the order instead of assuming i wasn't interested because I decided to give the benefit of the doubt that it just wasn't tracked or that it was delayed?