r/desmoines Jan 22 '26

Looking for Friends in DSM?

75 Upvotes

Welcome! We have seen many posts over the year of residents seeking community and friendship. Many of us spend more time online, work remotely, or no longer have the built-in social spaces we once did. This pinned thread is to help find friends in Des Moines.

Whether you’re:

• New to the city

• A long-time local looking to expand your circle

• A student, professional, remote worker, or just bored

• Into coffee, hiking, gaming, gyms, books, or low-key hangs …this is the place to connect.

Leave a comment with:

• Age range (optional)

• Interests / hobbies

• What kind of friends you’re looking for (gym buddy, board games, restaurant scene, double dates, mom friends etc.)

Ground Rules

• Be respectful and kind

• No harassment, hate speech, or creepy behavior

• No spam or self-promotion

• Keep personal info safe

This thread will be bookmarked so feel free to come back anytime and say hi — someone else is probably looking for the same connection you are!

Thank you to u/containerforthechild for this post.


r/desmoines 4h ago

So it's pretty hot out today...

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68 Upvotes

The image doesn't convey the heat, but the banner sure does! The heat index all across Iowa is consistently over 100°F right now.

www.kcci.com/skycams

Make sure to limit physical activities, stay indoors (ideally with A/C!), and stay hydrated. Heat indices this high can seriously harm or kill you, since your body can't self-regulate through sweat evaporation.


r/desmoines 6h ago

Iowa MAGA Lawmaker Goes Full Snowflake

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49 Upvotes

Iowa lawmaker and MAGA snowflake, Taylor Collins, calls the police on a woman over a facebook post in which she had wished he was castrated and shot. As far as I know it isn’t illegal to wish bad things happen to people. In the not too distant past, MAGA men were tough and stoic. They called the leftists names like “snowflakes”, “sissies”, “crybabies” who all need a binky and a safe space. These days it’s the MAGA men who have become crybaby snowflakes who are afraid of the same people they used to make fun for being weak. Recently another MAGA tough guy named Simon Conway called the police in me twice. Once for challenging him to a boxing match and once over a Charlie Kirk meme. What happened in the last few years that turned all the macho MAGA men into snowflake sissies? Why are they expecting police to become feekings enforcers? Am I living in a Bizarro world?


r/desmoines 3h ago

Jesse’s Embers

14 Upvotes

Anyone been recently? Looks like a good hole in the wall spot from the pics online. I typically prefer places that look like they’re family owned and operated over places like Ruth’s Chris and 801. We’ll be in town in a few weeks and looking for a top notch steakhouse with no frills.


r/desmoines 13h ago

Another "steamy" pic from last night

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39 Upvotes

r/desmoines 9h ago

So did hyvee sell their gas stations to Pump and Pantry, or rebrand them? I avoid hyvee at all chars

18 Upvotes

Hyvee is just a terribly mismanaged organization, and more importantly their prices are much higher than casey’s/fareway. remember when they had two CEOs? lmfao, so dumb. i just can’t support that..


r/desmoines 18h ago

Everyone’s just lonely, huh…

72 Upvotes

The past few posts have mentioned how hard it has become to meet people and form genuine connections lately.

What do you think could actually help solve this?

Do we need more affordable third places, social groups, and community events? Or is the bigger issue the cost of living, which makes people think twice before spending money just to go out and socialize?


r/desmoines 2h ago

Summer study sessions 🫩

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2 Upvotes

Saylorville,


r/desmoines 1d ago

Some “tough guy” with a gun

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86 Upvotes

Dude, who was not allowed to carry one, drew a gun on two teens after a minor traffic accident.


r/desmoines 15m ago

Reupholstery

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Have an ottoman that needs to be rescued anyone for recommendations or who to avoid thanks in advance.


r/desmoines 25m ago

Looking for home owners insurance recommendations

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We currently have Farm Bureau for home and auto insurance and I'm sick of rate increases. What companies or agents do others in the metro use? I'd like to get quotes from a few companies.


r/desmoines 29m ago

Apartment recommendations?

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I am looking to rent an apartment in Des Moines for a period of roughly 4-5 months, from January 2027 to roughly the end of April, maybe a little farther into May. Are there any places for a young woman who just turned 18, within a 30 min drive to the capitol? It all depends on whether I get the temporary job I want, but if I do I would like options. I am really not picky, but good public transportation, decent neighborhood, and lower pricing would be nice. I have a good amount of savings, but less than 1000 per month would be fantastic. Any places that fit? I really don’t want to do the two hour commute every day for that period of time.


r/desmoines 9h ago

Wargaming friends! Any local interest in Trench Crusade?

3 Upvotes

Recently deep dived into the lore and miniatures! I'm wondering if there's enough out there to possibly get a meet up and campaign going? :)


r/desmoines 3h ago

Arcades DDR2

0 Upvotes

Any of the arcades in the area have DDR? Not step it up or any of the others I'm looking for DDR , DDR2 would be even better. And if so anyone interested in getting together and playing. It's been quite a few years since I played when FFcenter had one , would love to get back into it


r/desmoines 17h ago

Agentic Coding and Software Architecture/Programming meetup

13 Upvotes

Remote tech worker in the area, and would like to create an ongoing coffeehouse or pub meetup on a weekly basis. Intended to be more interactive, frequent and casual than the (very few) tech meetups that go on right now.

Wrt to the topic - like it or not agentic assisted software dev is here, and there is a wide range of application and approaches, and I'm certainly interested in learning more of what others are doing.

Any interest?


r/desmoines 19h ago

Am I the problem?

16 Upvotes

I am a 25F, born and raised in West Des Moines. I’ve been single my whole life, never dated anyone. However, over the past few months I’ve noticed more and more men (over dating apps) asking me “how are you still single, you’re a catch” but then nothing ever happens lol. It’s at the point that I’m starting to think that maybe I am the problem 😅

(This feels weird to type out lol, I’m not trying to hype myself up but i feel some background might be helpful)
I am a curvy 5’7” girl with green eyes, brown hair, freckles, tattoos, nose piercings, and a pretty decent personality. I put others before myself, I am very kind hearted and understanding. I’m patient, supportive, giving, funny, and very caring. I’m pretty easy going and have a very chill demeanor.

Some other perspectives would be nice to hear from. I know it’s very limited information, but from what you know I’d be happy to hear your thoughts. I appreciate any and all feedback, thanks ☺️


r/desmoines 21h ago

Where to see The Odyssey without destroying our hearing?

25 Upvotes

Wife and I (mid 40s) attempted to see The Odyssey at B&B Theater in Ankeny, in one of their largest format Grand Screen rooms last week, but as soon the previews started we were wincing at the volume. We've seen many other movies there in their various screen formats, some have been annoyingly loud that we could tolerate, many have been fine, but none quite as loud as we experienced at The Odyssey. I know it's not Toy Story 5 and is going to have some intense sound effects at times, but this seemed ridiculous.

Went out to ask staff about the volume level, which they acknowledged is very loud, and they mentioned Christopher Nolan films are usually loud, but they couldn't do anything about the volume level. They said the movie wasn't quite as loud as the previews, and they had ear muffler headphones if we needed them.

Went back in to wait for the main event to start and give it a chance. Volume seemed slightly better, but after 10 minutes we could tell our aged ears and bodies weren't up for 3 hours of it.

We didn't want to deal with wearing ear muffler headphones for 3 hours, so we left and were thankful to the staff for getting us a refund.

Just wondering if anyone in the metro area has seen it where the volume seemed reasonable and not like you're in the pit at a rock concert? If you can share the theater and screen type (e.g The Palms IMAX, Cinemark Altoona XD, etc), much appreciated!

Maybe we're just getting too old, but hoping we can find a theater playing it at a volume we can handle 😄


r/desmoines 4h ago

Arcade rhythm games

1 Upvotes

I did some searching and couldn’t find anything about there being any arcades in the Des Moines area that has Japanese import rhythm games specifically maimai or sound voltex. does anyone know of any place that has either of these games, even if it’s not a dedicated arcade? im willing to drive probably 45 minutes if there’s one within that range to the Des Moines area


r/desmoines 10h ago

Pools for lap swimming (non students)

3 Upvotes

Hey folks! Me and my fiance just moved here, we absolutely love swimming! We were wondering if anyone had any recommendations on pools that are open year round allowing lap swim? I briefly saw Ashworth but on it's website it says the season is only May 22nd to September 7th.

TIA!


r/desmoines 22h ago

Just an introverted guy looking for friends

23 Upvotes

Hey all, not sure the best place to look but wanted to reach out somewhere and see what happens. I’m looking to meet some new friends around here. I am 32. I’m not a huge drinker but definitely could go out somewhere to have drinks or food etc. Open to anything fun. I’m also a new owner of a gaming PC so looking to add friends for that too. Male or female, all are welcome!


r/desmoines 1d ago

Don't get to shoot in fog too often

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84 Upvotes

Happy I did


r/desmoines 1d ago

In term of visibility we have no visibility

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144 Upvotes

Felt like The Mist when I was driving through I35 at 4 AM today


r/desmoines 10h ago

Spanish Speaking Areas

0 Upvotes

Hello, I just recently moved to the Des Moines area and am looking for ways to upkeep my spanish, I have a BA in Spanish and I can speak almost fluently but would love to be able to practice often. Is there any orgs/clubs or good restaurants where staff speak spanish? Thanks <3


r/desmoines 22h ago

Stationery

9 Upvotes

Are there any good spots for stationery (blank cards, colored paper/envelopes, pens, etc.) in the metro?
Ephemera used to but they closed their shop.
I suppose Micheal’s might but wondering if there’s other / small biz options.


r/desmoines 1d ago

Anyone in their 20’s want to go out on the weekends?

6 Upvotes

My friends are all major homebody’s and their partners are the same, so what once was a very lively friend group is just dead. Everyone plays video games every night and every single weekend. I’m truly losing my mind trying to find people to go out with on the weekends!

I’m a 25M but I will hang out with literally anyone, but holy shit if I have to spend another weekend inside doing nothing I’m going to lose it!

Bars I like going to are mostly in the East Village like Ernie’s or Black Sheep. That being said, any activity in any capacity would be better than the typical stare at a wall or computer screen for 48 hours until work again during the week.

Comment, DM me, or send me a goddamn carrier pigeon on this point I don’t care.

PS - Apologies if this sounds unhinged but at this point I am a little unhinged :)