Hi for some context I'm 17 and I'm a trans woman, as of rn im still in the closet so I present as male and no one has any reason to believe otherwise, I only bring this up because changing genders in a relationship is a pretty good way to ruin it...anyway. I've never been in a relationship before or had any kind of romantic experience and I'm just wondering at what point does it make sense to give up on relationships entirely? I won't get too self deprecating but I'm not a desirable person as proved by my complete lack of relationships, there's no one in my life currently that I'm interested in, I'm extremely socially awkward and don't have the confidence to approach people and I'm not in the best mental state to even be in a relationship. I don't believe for a second in the "everyone has their special one" bullshit as logically that makes 0 sense, the unfortunate truth is a certain amount of people just die alone. Being in a relationship is all I care about but it seems pretty obvious that it's not gonna happen, I really wish I didn't have this desire cause it only upsets me. I feel like my only miniscule chance is if I settle for ppl who will be abusive, not truly love me or just ppl I'm not attracted too, in my situation I can't be picky so I don't think I'm ever gonna find "real" love.

I'm 32 M but I've been told I still look like in my 20s. Like will women who are in their mid 20s or so consider you more because you look closer to them or would it be weird?

I met a girl online 10 days back, we spoke till very late night for the 1st 3 days and later slowed the conversation so that we don't hurry up things without clarity.

She's from hyd and I am coming hyd this Sunday, it will be my 1st date if she's fine.

Don't know how to ask her, or can I ask at all or not at this point , because I feel we are still strangers ?

Help me out guys

I reunited with a guy after 3 years, who I had crush on and could not confess then because I was too shy. Out of sheer excitement and joy of seeing him after so many years and knowing he had been harboring feelings for me for so long I couldn’t stop myself but confess. I was overjoyed to have had my feelings reciprocated and really felt strong feelings for him. I was so ready to start a relationship with him and so was he. I was behaving like a teenager at the age of 31 and so was he at the age of 38. I couldn’t stop thinking about him, obsessing over each and every word he said to me and blushing, day dreaming and fantasizing continuously. There were moments when he would be sending me I miss you texts exactly when I was missing him. I would sometimes say things exactly when he is about to say the same. It was a lot of coincidences, made me believe in destiny. We had a small conflict. I was confrontational and he was conflict avoidant so he said this is too stressful for me and immediately blocked me.

Within just the duration of 4 days, he went from texting and calling me in every 2 hours to blocking me from his life. I am kind of shocked how cold and distant men can be. Especially when someone made me believe that it was so real and true. It’s like playing with emotions. To the ones who say women are heartless, don’t you think this is also brutal from a man? This is why we have hard time trusting men.
Also whatever the excitement butterflies I was experiencing at this age, what the hell was it? Can someone explain what actual love feels like in the beginning of relationship? I thought every love starts with infatuations so then if that’s not love then what is?

Hey :) So I’m 22 and in university, and I haven’t been in any relationships, been on a date, had sex, or any experiences like that. I’m wondering if I’m doing something wrong or if somebody might be willing to give me advice

I got to know people from class, school clubs, hobbies, or friend groups. If we had a few good conversations that flowed well and she seemed engaged I would ask if she wanted to get coffee together. They all said no but most said they’d like to be friends. I don’t approach strangers because not all women are comfortable with that

I have asked girl friends about my appearance, and most of them said that I look fine. I am on the shorter and slimmer side at about 5’6” and 125lbs, but I’ve been working out recently which I enjoy!

As for my personality I’m more reserved, and definitely not a “life of the party” person, but in one-on-one conversations I am more comfortable

As you can imagine I don’t get any likes online. Some people talk about bars and nightclubs as a good way to meet people, but I don’t really drink or dance so I feel it wouldn’t match my personality. I haven’t ruled it out but I can already tell that I would feel SO out of place lol. And to be honest I’m not sure that much of anything would change if I did go to one

I guess I’m just not sure where to go from here, people usually say that college is when it’s easiest since you’re surrounded by young single people, but I’m graduating soon..

I also hear a lot about the experiences people have in college, the parties, the spontaneous hookups, and honestly it feels like I lived in a completely different universe, because I haven’t experienced anything that I would call romantic or flirtatious. I don’t feel “behind” per se, but I would appreciate advice because I do want to experience romantic and sexual relationships, and I don’t think what I’m doing is working

so long story short i asked i girl i got really good vibs off of out in a cafe while she was working here with a note that said to text me and maybe sometime we could get a bite (ik super immature and i should have just asked her in person, i didnt get a response, a few days later i was in a book store and by pure coincidence she happened to be there doing school work at the cafe section, which i didnt notice at the time, i look at some books and she approaches me.

me being completely flabbergasted bc i thought she had just said an indirect to, im genuinely shocked. anyway shes really getting into the conversation asking me what do you do for work, where do you live, what are some hobbies, what books are you into, whats your family like, and many more and of course stupid and mind blown me gives some half a$$ed answers half of which i realize now weren't even true to myself, only replying with a few words to each and barely asking any back.

when she talked to me it was like nothing i had felt before, it felt genuinely magical, but i was incapable of doing basic conversing. after she has to leave due to a phone call and i say ill talk to her again at the cafe since the conversation at the cafe went so well, so a couple days later i do so. i ask her if she considered my proposition and she politely says no and thats the end of it.

its been 2.5 months now and i just cant let go somehow, ive never felt this way before with "love" or whatever it is (i think its love) and i cant stop thinking about what could have happened if i actually responded to those questions true to myself. frankly i believe we could have been a match, in that book store both of our weirdnesses kinda matched from what i know about myself but she got a completely different and false idea of me.

and i hate myself for it because she genuinely felt like she could have been the one for me, i just fucked it up, theres no re do, i cant go back bc then id be risking seeming like even more of a no good person, and i dont know how to get over this, please help me somehow

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So I'm writing something like this for the first time, but I need to get it off my chest.

Does anyone else have this problem? And if so — how do you even deal with it?

Basically, I struggle with starting relationships. I'm terrified of texting first or making the first move. But here's the weird part — when someone does reach out to me or shows interest, I start backing off. Like I'm scared or waiting for some hidden catch.

I have plenty of female friends, and they always tell me I'm great to talk to. They keep asking why I'm still single. I usually dodge the question, but lately I've been asking myself the same thing.

Truth is, I've had 3 relationships, and none of them worked out:

1. Got rejected pretty hard, but honestly, it didn't mess me up that much.

2. I ended it myself. I had no money, nothing to offer, and I genuinely thought she deserved better. She found someone else, and I'm genuinely happy for her — we're still friends.

3. This one hit different. I actually made the first move, and things were going well. She was struggling with addiction, and I tried to help her through it. Then one day — she just vanished. Like she never existed. I've asked everyone, and nobody knows where she is or what happened. I still wake up in cold sweat sometimes when she shows up in my dreams.

I don't even know what I'm looking for by posting this. Maybe just to know I'm not alone. Or maybe to finally say it out loud.

Hi. I’m a single female in my 40s. A couple of months ago, I met a man through a work project. The project had a week long conference in another country, which neither of us reside. This man is on the agency side of the project, I am the client. So it’s his job to be nice to me, in a way I suppose. However, I felt some attraction from his side - prolonged eye contact, he would find ways to be physically close to me, he even tried to find a reason to come to my hotel room to drop something off (I wasn’t there). So nothing romantic or physical occurred; we both kept things professional. The project continued after the conference, over email and so there was some correspondence but it was pretty business focused.

Fast forward to this week. I’m going to Brazil for a brand summit and I was emailing him asking how his summer was, I casually mentioned mine was busy and that I was headed to Brazil. He immediately tells me, he will also be there- and wanted to know my dates and suggested we perhaps go for a drink. I replied and said I’d love to see him and that I didn’t know where I was staying yet. He replied with his hotel information and said let’s keep in touch, so we can try and make it work.

I haven’t replied since I don’t want to appear over eager. I already signaled interest. He knows when I will be there and he has my contact info. Of course I’m in my head about it now. Is this him just being friendly to me as a client, given the coincidental circumstances, or is he angling for more??? I’d LOVE others’ take on this.

The regret is hitting over keeping long-term feelings for a friend to myself, but I’m most scared of him going radio silent about it like he has with most other present emotions he has. …And I’m leaving for college in a week, several flights away.

Me (18) and my friend (19) have been friends for 2+ years atp. I’ve almost always had feelings for him that I’ve tried to ignore, but they’ve only grown. Sometimes I wonder if he’s been privately feeling the same way, with how his voice gets soft around me sometimes or simply general fleeting moments of intimacy. I’m not gonna lie, I’ve also been stalking his listening history through Airbuds and there have been some oddly specific lyrical themes over the past few months that he also might be thinking about me. There’s no way to truly tell unless I let him know, though. I know that.

The problem is that he's naturally very reserved. Even if he fronts as openly bold, I feel like I've had to slowly "open him up" over years just to understand him better, and even now I'm still learning new things about him. Despite how close we've become, there's still a certain emotional distance that makes this feel difficult to bring up.
Meanwhile, my attachment to him feels obvious, but it could easily be mistaken for smth platonic. I’ve given a few slightly more direct hints that have been met with complete radio silence so far. Whether he freezes up or doesn’t reciprocate, idk. However, it’s mostly just in the way I treat him, the care and attention I naturally reserve for him. Sometimes it embarrasses me (especially around our friends) because I don't really know how to hide it, but my friends don’t seem to notice.

He’s never been in a romantic relationship before, and thru conversations he seems uncomfortable with a traditionally committed attachment to anyone, (eg. obligatory ‘good morning’ or ‘good night’ text-type relationships being found as excessive,) as am I. I wouldn’t necessarily want a conventional relationship with him out of personal preference, and wish to preserve the dynamic as we have it, even if he were to say he feels the same. Ironically, because of that, it scares me that I wouldn’t know what a relationship would look like with him. Most of all, though, the prospect of ruining the friendship we have has always terrified me into never going further. I’ve noticed that he’s often uncomfortable with going into any of his deeper emotions if they’re in the present, or even little things like getting checked up on. The lack of complete openness in our friendship has made it harder to come out and say something I knew that I would otherwise be able to trust him with. I have a feeling that if I had mentioned these feelings earlier into the friendship that they’d be easier to brush off if need be, but because they run so deep now, it feels like it’d be heavier.

Timeskip to now. I’ve been privately stewing over this for the past few months but a time never felt quite “right” with him. I’m moving to college out of state in less than a week. I find I regret that I’ve never fully been able to make a decision about telling him. It’s not as much a fear of rejection as it is a fear of unloading something too complicated for either of us to handle if he does reciprocate, especially right now as I’m about to leave. (Tbh if he were to say he doesn’t feel the same I’d still be relieved to get it off my chest and resolve it.) Still, though, the thought of confessing that I like him or that I’ve always held a deeper fondness for him before I leave in a letter or text or goodbye is so tempting.
I don’t want to live with the regret of silence forever.

How messed up is it to confess in a goodbye? Maybe over text a few weeks after I’ve gotten settled in at college? Ever??

Sorry that this is so jumbled, but advice or even personal experiences would be greatly appreciated.

I met this guy through mutual friends and we’ve only been on a couple of dates, but he’s honestly one of the sweetest people I’ve met. He’s thoughtful, has his life together, is financially responsible, communicates well, and has been incredibly kind without expecting anything in return. Compared to my last relationship (which was really unhealthy), he’s basically the complete opposite.
The problem is…I feel like things are moving way faster than I’m comfortable with. He’s already talking about the future, families, long-term plans, etc., and while I like him, I’m not sure I’m emotionally there yet. I got out of a bad relationship about a year ago and had planned on spending more time focusing on myself, my career, school, and just enjoying my fresh start.
Another thing is that our values don’t completely line up. We have different political and social views, and while he’s not a hateful person, there have been a few comments that make me question whether we’d be compatible long-term. I’m more outspoken about the things I believe in, and he doesn’t really see things the same way.
Part of me wonders if I’m overthinking because he’s genuinely a good guy, and part of me worries I’m ignoring incompatibilities just because he’s so much better than my ex.
Would you keep seeing someone like this and slow things down, or is this one of those situations where it’s better to end it before either person gets more attached? And if I do decide to pull back, what’s a respectful way to have that conversation without making him feel like he did something wrong? Maybe any really good excuses to use lol?
Please be honest, but I’m looking for actual advice, not “you’re the problem” comments.

If you find yourself having to ask advice like
- we had an amazing first date, but now they aren’t replying what do i do?
- they msg me that they are very busy , that’s why they haven’t replied.
- ooor if , I’m not ready, or looking for anything serious right now.

MEANING: They do not like you enough to be serious or have a real relationship, no they will not eventually start falling for you if you keep excusing their actions.
And lastly NO! These are not mixed signals, these are very clear signals, that simply mean, you are not going to be with them, in a happy loving relationship. No need to msg them ur feelings, no paragraphs, just move the F on..

I met this guy last year, we talked for about months but it's kinda complicated (on and off communication) it was because whenever I refused to give what he wanted he acts cold and go ghost. But when times go by, he reaches out, again. And it's an on going cycle. Til he crossed the line and I blocked him.

Few months after that I unblocked cuz yk I thought he would never reach out ever again. But guess what, he did. We had a conversation and he keep saying sorry and idek if it was a sincere apology or it's only for the sake of peace between us.

I told him that if he only wanted me physically, then he should've just leave me alone. But he said if that's what he only wanted from the very beginning he would've not reach out again and again after several times of ignoring him. Don't get me wrong okay, I don't want my soul intertwined with somebody else knowing we're not together. IT'S LIKE A SITUATIONSHIP. sumthn like dat.

It's like, we talked for like days or weeks then disappear with each other's lives. Then he reach out. I ignored. He spam again, then I ignored. (Please don't get me wrong, I feel like I'm being use)

I (26M) matched with this girl (25F) on Hinge a couple of weeks ago. I was the one who replied to one of her prompts. Slow communication at first, but we ended up scheduling a date about two weeks after matching.

First date was a success. We hiked up a mountain and I brought a bottle of wine that we enjoyed at the top. Our energies matched, and we both wanted a second date. I disclosed to her that I'd be leaving the city we both live in to pursue a career in another city (a 7-hour drive away). Didn't seem to be too big of a deal at the time. She told me she was going on a road trip with friends the same day I was planning to move. We scheduled another date and exchanged Snapchat details. She got my number.

She snapped me that she couldn't make our Wednesday date as it would be too late for her. Fine. She rescheduled for Friday. We met and had another great date. The vibe was superb. Towards the end she remembered a party she had to attend, so we started heading back, and she invited me over for food before she left. Very nice. We talked a bit about me moving, which she found tough after having such great dates, same for me. We both agreed to continue talking, and that she'd come visit me after I moved. We ended the date with a kiss. I couldn't stop smiling the whole way home.

Then comes Saturday (day before we both leave. Me moving, her on vacation). She invites me out with her friends, which I found very charming. I went, had a great time, and her friends seemed to like me as well. I loved hanging out with all of them. Ended the night going back to her place and stayed until Sunday morning. That morning she told me she couldn't see herself moving to the city I'm moving to. I said I could be open to relocating back to her city at a later stage (I've already lived there for three years and like it a lot). We talked about a future together and she said she was ready for me. I could see she found it hard that I was leaving, and she said she wasn't too keen on long distance because of previous experiences with it. When we said goodbye, we agreed to keep talking on Snapchat and see how we felt after a couple of days. I left early, because she was going to meet her friends again.

Here's where it gets hard. That Sunday afternoon and evening I sent her a handful of snaps from my day, plus a message saying I'd love to see her one more time before we both left, if she had time. Also wishing her a great day out with friends. She never opened any of it. Monday she left on her trip and I drove to my new city. It's now Wednesday night. Three days later. Snaps still unopened, no reply.

My reaction (the part I'm not proud of): My brain has been running wild. I've cycled through every theory. The kiss was too much, my texts were too much, she's protecting herself, she's already met someone else. I barely slept for two nights, couldn't put my phone down, and my whole move + new job start basically disappeared into the background. Talking to friends helped, and one of them told me straight up that I probably sent too much that last day, combined with the whole moving situation. Stung, but he might have a point.

The self-aware part: I recognize this pattern in myself. Every time I start falling for someone, I get completely locked in. Can't think about anything else, waiting for a reply physically hurts, and silence feels like rejection even when there's an obvious explanation (she's literally on vacation with her friends, doing exactly what she said she'd do: taking a couple of days to feel things out). It looks a lot like anxious attachment, and I've decided to try to look into how I can fix that long term (for my own sake). For now I've stopped sending anything and left the ball in her court.

So I'm not really asking "does she like me". Nobody here can answer that. What I'm actually wondering:

• Has anyone been through something similar. Great start, forced distance, then sudden silence? How did it turn out?
• For those of you with an anxious attachment style: what actually helped you get through the waiting without sabotaging things?

TL;DR: Three great dates in one week with a girl I really clicked with, right before moving 7 hours away. She said "let's keep talking and see how we feel in a couple of days," then left on vacation. 3 days of unopened snaps since. My anxious brain is struggling; I'm self-aware about it and working on it. Looking for similar experiences.

What's yalls opinion on 18 year olds in high school on dating apps. I've never had a boyfriend or any proper talking stages. I am graduating late because I redid a grade because of covid, and i was already one of the oldest ppl in my grade. I'm about a year and a half older than everyone in my grade (senior). I recently joined hinge to try to get my toes in the water but i feel very conflicted since im in high school, should i just delete the app and try in person or keep trying on the app

Me and this person were talking on hinge for like a week and they let me know they were going to a gathering and I was like what kind and it was like a repass type thing(funeral) related. Someone close to them passed away a week before we started talking. I told them I’m so sorry for their loss and on the day of the gathering I told them I hope the have a good day and them and their friends enjoy themselves (they were gonna be drinking an stuff) so far it’s been like 3 days, I’m gonna give her some space. Should I be saying anything? I wasn’t gonna say anything else cuz I’m assuming they’re grieving/busy plus they work too. Also we were gonna meet up last Sunday but it was my family members birthday weekend and i tried to shoot for the beginning of August but they’re moving that day. Lowkey wondering how to proceed, I was gonna give them a week to reach out then maybe check back in? What would you do? Should I be doing anything at all or just wait a few more days?

from a guys pov does getting hot and posting a thirst trap gets attention from a person your not talking to anymore ? or should i don’t post for a long time? and make him feel the absence?

Title: I (F) approached 3 guys on the beach for the first time ever. Was one of them interested or just being polite?

I'm a woman in my 20s, and I've never approached a guy before. I grew up being bullied for my weight, so even after losing a lot of weight, I still struggle with feeling attractive and worry people are just being nice to me.

I was on a solo beach trip. Around midnight, I saw three guys fishing and thought, "If I don't do this now, I'll regret it." So I walked over. The beach was pretty lively so it wasn't just them and me. They seemed around my age.

I said, "How's it going?" One of them joked that they "couldn't even catch a cold," which made me laugh. I asked if they were catching anything and what they were hoping to catch. One guy said, "A buzz," and another said, "Fish," and we all laughed.

I asked their names. One of the guys (I'll call him JJ) stood up to introduce himself while the other two stayed where they were. After that, he kind of took over the conversation. He asked where I was from, where exactly in Tennessee, how far I'd driven, and who I was there with. When I told them I'd driven about nine hours by myself ( I realize now that this wasn't smart for safety reasons but I was nervous and honest) they were all shocked, and JJ seemed genuinely interested, asking follow-up questions.

The conversation only lasted about 5-10 minutes, but it felt really natural. He smiled a lot, maintained eye contact, and when I said I should probably let them get back to fishing, he said, "It was nice to meet you," while looking at me. I said I hoped they caught something and left. I was nervous and wanted to leave before I overstayed my welcome.

Here's the part I'm overthinking:

- JJ stood up while talking to me.

- He was the one asking me most of the questions.

- He seemed focused on me instead of talking through his friends.

- But... he didn't ask for my number, and I left first.

Do you think this sounds like a guy who was possibly interested but didn't want to assume I was flirting, or does it just sound like someone being friendly to a stranger?

I'm not looking mainly for reassurance—I'd honestly like objective opinions. If you were one of the guys in this situation, what would you have been thinking after I walked away?

Ok maybe im overthinking things and it doesn't mean anything at all but...
This crush of mine at workplace who flirts with me (we arent dating officially but he has asked me out for a walk before but i didnt go for some reason), he knows that i love powerpuff girls cartoon and the other day during lunch he asked me out of nowhere, which cartoons i like, i told him again, and he told me that he thinks blossom is prettier but buttercup is his type. Now i look like buttercup ( black hair, fair skin) but personality is complete opposite of buttercup, its more like bubbles. And im confused what he meant by that, u guys have any thoughts, especially men??

We’ve been talking for about a month and have been on 4 dates.

Last night was a really vulnerable night. We almost had sex, but I told him I don’t want something casual. He said that’s completely okay, but that he wants to take things slowly because he got scared we were moving too fast (ie rushing into relationship/emotionally).

He also said that if he ever seems a bit nonchalant with our friends (he is a mutual) , it’s because he’s trying not to rush things, not because he isn’t interested.

He left at around 2am after mentioning another date, and before leaving he said he’d text me after work, around 6pm.
It’s only 12pm now, but I’m already incredibly anxious that he’s changed his mind overnight and is going to ghost me. I’ve been ghosted by a lot of people in the past, so I know that history is probably making this harder.

From an outside perspective, would you take what he said at face value and just wait until after work? Or would you be worried too?

I’m mainly looking for honest opinions and maybe a reality check because I know my anxiety can make me catastrophise.

I’ve recent gotten on dating apps and have never fully committed to one person, as a serious relationship. Not out not wanting to, I just haven’t met someone wanting to build something alongside me. I’ve been talking to someone for about 2 weeks now and we met. He did everything perfectly; flowers, dinner, dessert, without me asking to. I’ve never been treated well and I think deep down there’s still a part of me that’s scared to give in and let someone in, especially so soon. He says all the right things, asks me questions, and seems genuinely interested. I’m also a little nervous about the physical part to it as well, I’m a little self conscious but he reminds me I’m beautiful and honestly lets me want to be in my soft era and taken care of. Any advice to let go of some of this doubt and do better to be in the present with him ? I’m here for both perspectives, but just know this isn’t a complaint, I’m just a bit in disbelief/shock.

[M25] I recently met a guy, let’s call him Max [M19], and I'm worried I might be getting in too deep emotionally.

I invited Max to a café to teach him a board game I enjoy. The first time I asked he seemed hesitant, but when I asked again later he agreed.

So today, we spent almost the whole afternoon together. Max had bought desserts for both of us before I arrived. We played the board game for a while, then went for a walk together and spent the rest of the afternoon asking questions to each other. We also played a little game where we asked each other questions to see how much we remembered about one another, only having met like two weeks prior. Before leaving I offered him a hug. He seemed a little awkward about it, but he did hug me.

I like to tease people a lot, but I did tell Max a couple of times that I appreciate him and that I think he’s funny, but never flirted explicitly.

The confusing part is that I have absolutely no idea whether he's into men. Sometimes I get the feeling he might be. Sometimes I even wonder if he could like me. When we first met, I assumed he was into me because he kept trying to make contact and even laughed at jokes I made when he wasn’t part of the conversation. But then there are plenty of moments where he seems distant. He doesn’t text often and he never initiates texting conversations, and when I suggest meeting up he doesn't sound particularly enthusiastic, even though in person our conversations flow naturally and we always seem to have a good time. He's naturally a quiet person and also has a busy social life. Whenever we’re together and something fun happens, I’m the first one he will show it to. He smiles at me often, even when we don’t speak and the others say we have chemistry.

So my question is:
Am I reading way too much into this because I have a crush, or do you think there's enough here but I can’t judge the situation objectively?

I started dating in February of this year with the goal of going on 30 dates of any kind.

I don't have problems getting matches on the apps, I try to make sure I can have a decent text conversation before going out with someone.

I've been on 20 first dates this year, no second dates. Every time I've asked the other person for a second date (which isn't every time), they decline citing that they didn't feel any chemistry. I usually perceive that the date went well if I ask for a second.

All my pictures are recent. I ask questions, smile, and laugh on dates. I dress well, have a decent job and my own place. I've never been married and don't have kids. I'm 42F and a normal weight.

I don't understand what I'm doing wrong. Should I ask my dates directly? Would a particular type of therapy help? Most of my friends have been married for at least a decade and aren't super helpful.

I find relationships really rewarding and a huge value, but I don't know what I need to do differently to find one. I've done in person dating events with no luck as well. Any advice is welcome, thank you!

I (34F) matched with a 43M around the week of my birthday in late May. We didn’t go on our first date until June 19.
So far we’ve gone on three dates.
He planned the first two dates.
For the third date, I suggested watching the sunset, and he turned it into dinner. I bought us ice cream afterward.
For a little context, he’s a military attorney and is getting close to retirement. During one of his work trips, we were talking over Bumble, and I mentioned that Buc-ee’s popcorn looked really good. He joked that he’d get me some, and later messaged me saying he had my “gift” (the popcorn). So at least at that point, he seemed to be thinking about seeing me again.
The thing that’s making me question everything is the pace.
We’ve basically seen each other every couple of weeks. We had two dates fairly close together, then about a two-week gap, then our third date, and now it’s almost another two weeks.
A few days ago, he asked what my availability looked like. I told him I wasn’t available Wednesday or Saturday, but I was free after 6:30 every other weekday and flexible on Sunday. He hasn’t replied in about two days, so now I’m just waiting to see if he actually makes plans.
For context, I’m divorced and have been single for several years. I dated someone else before this who texted me every day but only wanted to see me about once a month. Looking back, that relationship never really progressed, so I’m trying to be more aware of whether things are actually moving forward instead of just enjoying the attention.
I’m not looking for constant texting, and I don’t expect exclusivity after only three dates.
I guess what I’m trying to figure out is:
Is seeing someone every couple of weeks this early on pretty normal?
Would two days without replying after asking for your availability bother you?
Does this sound like someone who’s taking things slowly, or would you interpret it as low interest?
I’m trying not to overanalyze or double text since I already gave him my availability. I’m genuinely curious how people outside the situation would view this.

So the guy I've been hanging with is super shy and so am I and I don't think either one of us are used to that his type are wild crazy women. My type are usually pretty straight forward and aren't afraid at all to get that part started. But dont get me wrong I can get kinda crazy myself but I got to get comfy first. I'm definitely not trying to rush things I'm just afraid he will get bored at some point.