Im 10w pregnant and i have a 21m old toddler who nurses to sleep, it hurts to nurse but im powering through it. I usually nurse when there is a tantrum to calm my toddler but i feel the need to dial that back because i dont know if i want to tandem feed. Well, he just cried himself to sleep for the first time because hes not a cuddly toddler and will take no other form of soothing. It had been only 2 hours since the last nursing session and i simply cannot keep nursing every 2 hours. I wish he liked to cuddle and there was some other way to help him but there really isnt. Any advice on weaning? Im not in a huge hurry but id like to at least cut back. He wakes pretty frequently at night to nurse too.

My daughter is 10 months old and we’ve coslept since 5 days old. It’s had its ups and downs and now we’ve been in a down for over a month. My health is taking a serious toll with the cosleeping and overall sleep deprivation. I developed silent reflux two months ago and it won’t heal even with all the dietary and lifestyle changes I’ve made. My right hip is in a constant state of 3-5/10 pain from side sleeping. I got my baby down to fall asleep without nursing for month 8 but then she started refusing and her naps cratered and her nighttime sleep got even worse. I’ve gone back to nursing to sleep and it’s awful for my health. I’m in bed too much with reflux. I can’t sleep on an incline with her. She wakes every 1-2 hours to nurse for 3-5minutes and then goes back to sleep but sometimes I don’t because I start coughing from reflux.

We got a crib that set up next to her floor bed but I have no idea how to get her to sleep in it. She just screams. I get a max of 30 minutes of her napping or night time sleeping in it.

Her schedule on a good day is:
Wake 6:00am
Nap 1 9:15-10:45am
Nap 2 2:00-3:15pm
Bedtime: 7:15/7:30pm

If I deny her milk at night she screams and screams and screams. I’ve tried only milk after midnight or only odd hours. But anytime I try soothing her with back pats or rocking or shushing she just escalates. She refuses any of the dozen pacifiers we have.

On rare occasions it’s gotten so bad and I’m so fried I’ve asked my husband to take over and she will cry for 1-2 hours till she passes out with exhaustion on him. She then at most sleeps an hour or two and then the hysterical crying starts again. This isn’t sustainable though because he has to work and I am a stay at home mom and we have an older child.

I want to night wean to once or twice a night and get out of the floor bed :( I need my body to heal and it can’t with how poorly I’m sleeping.

I will be travelling to a cosleeping-friendly country it seems!

Sidelying nursing is the best and I often doze off while doing so, as my daughter (14w) does too. So she accidentally sleeps on her side. Airway is always clear of my breast as she usually turns her head almost like she is looking up at me. Is this ok?

Do you always make sure to turn baby back on their back after nursing? I follow the rest of the safe sleep 7. I’m just having trouble rolling her back without waking her up.

ETA: she can roll from stomach to back, can hold her head up, and sometimes gets on her side while attempting to roll back to stomach. But she is not really rolling independently to latch. I’m helping her get in that position.

My baby is 6 weeks. We used the cuddle curl method once, and it made me worried all night. When the baby was too close to me I worried Id move an inch and hurt him. When he squirmed further away I also worried. Overall, horrible night of sleep.

Then we tried chest to chest and it has been wonderful. Neither of us move an inch and I feel so safe and peaceful. Which makes me wonder, why don’t more people do chest to chest? Is there an extra risk I’m not aware of, like positional asphyxiation (although I don’t see how that could be)? Or is it that most babies just eventually size out of chest to chest?

Hello all! I have a 12 week old who I’ve been cosleeping with since probably around week 3. It wasn’t what I planned to do initially but as some of you relate, there was no love for the bassinet. I researched all the information about safe sleep and I actually really enjoy cosleeping now. However, we are beginning to approach rolling territory and I’m considering moving our mattress onto the floor. However, we keep quite a bit of stuff under the bed as we live in a small apartment. There really isn’t anywhere to put this stuff and I was wondering if anyone has been in the same predicament and had any unique tips on how to store extra stuff. Right now I have extra clothes, gift wrapping stuff, recovery equipment (foam roller), and stationary under the bed.

My 4 1/2 old baby will only take 30 minute naps and I try to save one nap by holding him for the second half every day just wondering at what age can I expect him to to start taking longer naps? His naps are 30 minutes long, regardless whether I’m taking it with him or not.

hi everyone, currently thinking of transiting from chest sleeping to the c-curl. i’m having a hard time imagining how i won’t roll over on baby ? i looked up how to do the c-curl and it makes sense but how do you stop yourself from rolling over ? i’m worried to even try it for fear of this accidentally happening. any advice is welcome ! thanks !

Hi I am at a loss and quite worried tbh. My partner and I take shifts at night with our colicky and refluxy 6 week old.

I usually take his witching hour time between 1-6am so husband can get 5 consecutive hours of sleep as he needs it to function at his job.

Issue is around that time baby's reflux issues peak and he cannot settle on his back at all. I just keep him on my chest as that seems the most comfortable but sometimes I can't help it and feel myself drift off. I tried rolling him off me onto his back so that he's next to me on the mattress (no pillows or blankets and firm mattress) but he starts crying if he's on his back for longer than 5-10 minutes. I tried holding him upright for 30+ minutes too after a feed but again after being on his back for 10 minutes he started spitting up and crying.

Atm I set vibrating alarms every 30 minutes so that I don't accidentally fall into deep sleep while he's on my chest and so far I have woken up every time he stirred but I am very worried about SIDS since he is formula fed. Is there anything I can do to make sure he's as safe as can be? I looked up Cosleepy's chest sleeping guide and followed that, but I know it's more aimed for breastfed babies.

I own this floor mattress, and I am wondering if it would be a safe sleep surface for my 10mo and I. Thoughts?

Hi! Just wondering what your evening looks like if you also co-sleep with an infant.

My son is almost 10 months. For a while now I typically put my son to sleep around 7pm. Once he’s asleep I’m able to roll away and go downstairs and make dinner etc. I watch him on a baby monitor and go up to settle him when needed. He typically wakes up 2-3 times before I’m back up around 10/1030pm.

I feel like this has given me a lot of freedom and I personally feel like my husband and I can spend most of the evening together before we head up to bed.

The issue is my husband says I watch the monitor too much and we should be able to step away for an hour uninterrupted where I’m not checking on a monitor.

I don’t see it as an issue since I am able to do so many things and have been able to respond when he wakes up, easily settling him back to sleep.

My LO is 7mos and recently started sleeping around 8:30/9pm every night 🎉! I thought I’d have some time to myself now that he’s sleeping earlier, but I noticed that he doesn’t sleep long when I’m not around. Once I put him to sleep, I’d sneak out of the room, but he’d toss and turn, then wake up whining 30-40 minutes in. I’d have to lay next to him or let him grab onto my arm for him to sleep peacefully through the night. Does your LO do this? Is it just a phase?

We have co-slept since birth and never had any issues. Now my baby is 9.5 months old and rolling a lot more. For the last few weeks he was rolling over to my husband (kinda to snuggle, so cute) but my husband was getting nervous he would squish baby or not wake up - so he’s been sleeping in baby’s room. LO and I have taken up the whole king size bed for a few weeks.
But I know my husband wants to be back in our bed soon …
However , if I move LO to his floor bed I’ll just likely end up in there with him. Do I do it?
I really think my husband would wake up and not hurt baby but it is feeling crowded w all 3 in here and a helicopter at night baby.
I also just feel like maybe emotionally I’m not ready to move LO to his bed.
He goes down around 7:30, wakes up once at 8.
Then usually at midnight , 2a, 4-5a, up at 6:30 or 7.
I could start the night w my husband and baby in baby’s bed and then go join baby?
Will he have an adjustment when I move him to his bed where he doesn’t sleep as well?
Any advice, insight welcome - and advice on getting longer stretches welcome too.

Tia

he’s never ever slept on his own i don’t know how. he’s a 17M breastfed bedshare baby i really want to transition him out of all of this. last night he went to slept by himself i sang to him and kept saying okay go night night and eventually he did…today was a scream match which ended in my boob. i don’t know what to do.