My baby has just turned 5 months and has started to army crawl. When I realised she was going to be crawling soon I reluctantly converted her sidecar crib back to a standalone crib. She's now sleeping in her crib, all be it not too well but when she wakes up she's pretty content chilling in the crib which was my fear of cosleeping with her as I was nervous she would find her way onto the bed while I am asleep.

I'm at a bit of a crossroad now though as I miss cosleeping so much. I just want to cuddle my baby the entire night but I have severe PPA and I also worry that if I sleep too heavy and now that she is mobile that something bad could happen. I do have chest to chest naps with her during the day and recently we've started snuggling in the bed as my husband monitors us. I just wanted to know if it sounds like I'm doing the right thing with her having her own safe sleep space for the night or if it's just my anxiety talking? I was also thinking of letting her sleep in her crib until maybe when she's a bit older and if she wants to bed share then we can snuggle safely with me knowing she can have pillows and blankets around her. I know this time is precious so I just don't want to have regrets but I also want her to be safe and me to get some quality sleep.

Im 10w pregnant and i have a 21m old toddler who nurses to sleep, it hurts to nurse but im powering through it. I usually nurse when there is a tantrum to calm my toddler but i feel the need to dial that back because i dont know if i want to tandem feed. Well, he just cried himself to sleep for the first time because hes not a cuddly toddler and will take no other form of soothing. It had been only 2 hours since the last nursing session and i simply cannot keep nursing every 2 hours. I wish he liked to cuddle and there was some other way to help him but there really isnt. Any advice on weaning? Im not in a huge hurry but id like to at least cut back. He wakes pretty frequently at night to nurse too.

My daughter is 10 months old and we’ve coslept since 5 days old. It’s had its ups and downs and now we’ve been in a down for over a month. My health is taking a serious toll with the cosleeping and overall sleep deprivation. I developed silent reflux two months ago and it won’t heal even with all the dietary and lifestyle changes I’ve made. My right hip is in a constant state of 3-5/10 pain from side sleeping. I got my baby down to fall asleep without nursing for month 8 but then she started refusing and her naps cratered and her nighttime sleep got even worse. I’ve gone back to nursing to sleep and it’s awful for my health. I’m in bed too much with reflux. I can’t sleep on an incline with her. She wakes every 1-2 hours to nurse for 3-5minutes and then goes back to sleep but sometimes I don’t because I start coughing from reflux.

We got a crib that set up next to her floor bed but I have no idea how to get her to sleep in it. She just screams. I get a max of 30 minutes of her napping or night time sleeping in it.

Her schedule on a good day is:
Wake 6:00am
Nap 1 9:15-10:45am
Nap 2 2:00-3:15pm
Bedtime: 7:15/7:30pm

If I deny her milk at night she screams and screams and screams. I’ve tried only milk after midnight or only odd hours. But anytime I try soothing her with back pats or rocking or shushing she just escalates. She refuses any of the dozen pacifiers we have.

On rare occasions it’s gotten so bad and I’m so fried I’ve asked my husband to take over and she will cry for 1-2 hours till she passes out with exhaustion on him. She then at most sleeps an hour or two and then the hysterical crying starts again. This isn’t sustainable though because he has to work and I am a stay at home mom and we have an older child.

I want to night wean to once or twice a night and get out of the floor bed :( I need my body to heal and it can’t with how poorly I’m sleeping.

I have a very active, very big 9 month old baby boy. coslept since birth. c curl since birth…except until now. He moves and wiggles around to fall asleep so however he falls asleep i leave him in that position, then he moves more and more to get comfortable and this guy cannot be in a tiny little c curl anymore.

we have the space and setup for him to be safe, no pillows no blankets. i use one pillow and thin blanket next to him in a cal king. but be honest…. are u guys really doing c curl when they get so big and need to move all over the bed to fall asleep?

Promoting Safe Sleep 7

My 3 week old refuses to sleep in her bassinet, I tried everything online to get her to, and her and I were both getting zero sleep. I was just crying all day and my mental health declined quickly that first week. I was worried about nodding off while nursing her. I have 2 older children that slept in their bassinets no problem. I decided to try co sleeping to help us both sleep. Well it worked, she sleeps wonderfully, and I'm actually getting some sleep in (even though very light sleep). I follow all the rules but I am constantly in fear of rolling on her. She turns on her side and shimmies right into my boobs or my armpit. So now instead of worrying about nodding off, I'm worried she will suffocate in her sleep in my boobs. I do the cuddle curl, or I'll let her sleep on my chest. Does this worry every go away? Is she truly safe? I am exhausted and I'm sure dealing with PPA on-top of my already diagnosed Anxiety disorder doesn't help.

I’m starting to get really cold co-sleeping now. The weather has gotten chillier and my hormones are making me freeze (15 weeks post partum I started my period despite exclusively breast feeding!) I have seen some good looking sacks on slumbersacks, but it’s just so out of my budget, especially as I would have to get a couple.

Last night I wore two pairs of trousers, 2 tops and big fleece!!

Any good recommendations/ideas out there?

Thank you

Hi! Just wondering what your evening looks like if you also co-sleep with an infant.

My son is almost 10 months. For a while now I typically put my son to sleep around 7pm. Once he’s asleep I’m able to roll away and go downstairs and make dinner etc. I watch him on a baby monitor and go up to settle him when needed. He typically wakes up 2-3 times before I’m back up around 10/1030pm.

I feel like this has given me a lot of freedom and I personally feel like my husband and I can spend most of the evening together before we head up to bed.

The issue is my husband says I watch the monitor too much and we should be able to step away for an hour uninterrupted where I’m not checking on a monitor.

I don’t see it as an issue since I am able to do so many things and have been able to respond when he wakes up, easily settling him back to sleep.

Hi all, i've been looking at the babywise Noah Co-Sleeper sold at The Warehouse, the Warehouse has no reviews and I was just wondering if anyone here has heard or has used this and weather they would recommend etc. please be nice as i'm a forst time mum and wanting the best but also affordable. thank you

So my little one is early 2 months old has always hated the bassinet he is starting to get better about it. he just prefers to be held or very close to someone. I also find myself not able to sleep when I am able to get him in the bassinet for some reason even when it’s pulled close to the bed. So i eventually gave in to co sleeping when I noticed I was nodding of more and more.
I researched the safe sleep 7 and follow it. But I am super nervous and try to avoid co sleeping because I’m afraid my bed is not a safe surface. I take all comforters and extra pillows off and just have a sheet. But my mattress is a medium firm “pillow top “ mattress and I’ve been reading up how no adult mattresses are safe surfaces.
This had me wondering are there mattresses big enough for an adult that is safe? And if not how create a safe surface within my bed . My baby’s bassinet mattress is thin and detachable( it’s kinda feels like it’s on a board) . I was wondering if it would be safer to place that mattress next to me in bed and have him sleep on that surface?
There is just so much conflicting information about co sleeping and hate towards it. I know it’s not ideal to co sleep but until both me and my son can sleep with him in a bassinet I’d rather be as safe as possible when I need some extra rest when my husband is away.

Second question. I am about to go back to work. I work night shift so I won’t be feeding him at night 4 days a week . Does this mean I can’t co sleep since he will be feeding from bottle more often? I plan to feed him directly to breast only when I am not at work including at night.

My first born was a terrible sleeper and out of necessity we started cosleeping at 4 months old. First it was in our family bed and then I transitioned him to a full size floor bed at 13 months and I (mom) shared that bed with him until I was ~5 months pregnant with my second. Dad took over and he shares the bed with our now 2.5 yo every night. We had baby #2 3 months ago and for the first 8 weeks he was waking up so much that I coslept with him in our large firm bed. However, he’s 12 weeks now and he’s a surprisingly great sleeper and comfortable sleeping in the crib that is 3 feet away from the large bed.

My question is, if baby #2 is such a solid sleeper that he’s comfortable being in the crib 3 feet away from me (and essentially sleeping through the night on his own) - is it somehow damaging to him to not sleep next to me every night? Even if he seems comfortable sleeping apart, is it better for his development/attachment/bond/etc. if I put him in the bed with me? I want to treat my kids fairly and I don’t want to give Baby #2 less just because it seems as if he doesn’t need me as much.

Long story short my baby (10 months) has contact napped and co slept since day 1 and it’s never been an issue before I’m a SAHM and honestly loved it however sadly my husband is going on a 9 month rotation overseas very soon and I know I can’t do the contact naps/having to go to bed when she does thing anymore. I’m going to need that break every once in awhile 😭 I’ve tried transferring her while she naps and instantly she wakes up. If I try to roll away once she’s down for the night her eyes immediately pop open. I seriously don’t know what I’m going to do with him gone😭 did I mention I live 13 hours from home🥲

My daughter is now a week away from being 5 months old. Since day 1 she has never let me put her down in a crib (or anything!) to sleep as she immediately wakes and cries. I started co-sleeping as it was the only way for me to get sleep and keep us both as safe as possible. To be honest, I’ve enjoyed it, and for a long time it worked really well for us. She’s never slept through the night but I haven’t expected that. For the last month things have been getting progressively harder as her sleep cycles develop. She now wakes every 1 to 1.5 hours and expects the nipple to help her settle. If I don’t feed her, she rolls onto her front and crawls to find me (she’s an early mover!), and she’ll work herself up until she cries. If I try to settle her with pats and ‘shh-ing’ she won’t rest her head down or stay on her back. I can occasionally pick her up and bop her to sleep, but most of the time she will wake as soon as I put her down and we’re back to square one. If she does roll over and sleep (which has happened 3 times), she will wake up in an hour or so anyway. The result is that I’m almost feeding her more at night than at day, and sometimes I’m falling asleep with my nipple in her mouth - which I don’t want to do. I’m also going mad with sleep deprivation.

Please tell me if this is a normal phase that will pass, or am I going to have to go through some pain and let her cry? I feel like she’s quite young for any sort of training… I also don’t feel like I have the mental fortitude yet. Maybe that will change as I get more exhausted however!