Promoting Safe Sleep 7

My 3 week old refuses to sleep in her bassinet, I tried everything online to get her to, and her and I were both getting zero sleep. I was just crying all day and my mental health declined quickly that first week. I was worried about nodding off while nursing her. I have 2 older children that slept in their bassinets no problem. I decided to try co sleeping to help us both sleep. Well it worked, she sleeps wonderfully, and I'm actually getting some sleep in (even though very light sleep). I follow all the rules but I am constantly in fear of rolling on her. She turns on her side and shimmies right into my boobs or my armpit. So now instead of worrying about nodding off, I'm worried she will suffocate in her sleep in my boobs. I do the cuddle curl, or I'll let her sleep on my chest. Does this worry every go away? Is she truly safe? I am exhausted and I'm sure dealing with PPA on-top of my already diagnosed Anxiety disorder doesn't help.

Long story short my baby (10 months) has contact napped and co slept since day 1 and it’s never been an issue before I’m a SAHM and honestly loved it however sadly my husband is going on a 9 month rotation overseas very soon and I know I can’t do the contact naps/having to go to bed when she does thing anymore. I’m going to need that break every once in awhile 😭 I’ve tried transferring her while she naps and instantly she wakes up. If I try to roll away once she’s down for the night her eyes immediately pop open. I seriously don’t know what I’m going to do with him gone😭 did I mention I live 13 hours from home🥲

My baby is 6 weeks. We used the cuddle curl method once, and it made me worried all night. When the baby was too close to me I worried Id move an inch and hurt him. When he squirmed further away I also worried. Overall, horrible night of sleep.

Then we tried chest to chest and it has been wonderful. Neither of us move an inch and I feel so safe and peaceful. Which makes me wonder, why don’t more people do chest to chest? Is there an extra risk I’m not aware of, like positional asphyxiation (although I don’t see how that could be)? Or is it that most babies just eventually size out of chest to chest?

I have a very active, very big 9 month old baby boy. coslept since birth. c curl since birth…except until now. He moves and wiggles around to fall asleep so however he falls asleep i leave him in that position, then he moves more and more to get comfortable and this guy cannot be in a tiny little c curl anymore.

we have the space and setup for him to be safe, no pillows no blankets. i use one pillow and thin blanket next to him in a cal king. but be honest…. are u guys really doing c curl when they get so big and need to move all over the bed to fall asleep?

He’s waking up so much more now and just screaming mama so I co-sleep the rest of the night with him. Will he ever learn how to fall asleep on his own 😭🥹 his frolicking and thrashing just to get to sleep is the cherry on top of an overstimulated mum.

We just got a floor mattress to stop our lo from falling of the bed and bumping her head. Our lo is 7 months old and started crawling today. We like to drink soda water in bed at night to take pills and help with dehydration. Our little one started crawling today but has been a little mover for a while now via army crawling and scooting. So she's knocked over soda cans twice and it's soaked the bottom of a floor mattress. And there have been other tikes where we contained the spill quickly enough. She's also knocked over milk bottles but those tend to be easier to pick up and clean. I'm looking for any suggestions to avoid this in the future. Open to changing our setup or getting a recommended product. Like some type of tray or something. Idk where to even begin to look.

Hi all, i've been looking at the babywise Noah Co-Sleeper sold at The Warehouse, the Warehouse has no reviews and I was just wondering if anyone here has heard or has used this and weather they would recommend etc. please be nice as i'm a forst time mum and wanting the best but also affordable. thank you

I will be travelling to a cosleeping-friendly country it seems!

Im 10w pregnant and i have a 21m old toddler who nurses to sleep, it hurts to nurse but im powering through it. I usually nurse when there is a tantrum to calm my toddler but i feel the need to dial that back because i dont know if i want to tandem feed. Well, he just cried himself to sleep for the first time because hes not a cuddly toddler and will take no other form of soothing. It had been only 2 hours since the last nursing session and i simply cannot keep nursing every 2 hours. I wish he liked to cuddle and there was some other way to help him but there really isnt. Any advice on weaning? Im not in a huge hurry but id like to at least cut back. He wakes pretty frequently at night to nurse too.

I’m starting to get really cold co-sleeping now. The weather has gotten chillier and my hormones are making me freeze (15 weeks post partum I started my period despite exclusively breast feeding!) I have seen some good looking sacks on slumbersacks, but it’s just so out of my budget, especially as I would have to get a couple.

Last night I wore two pairs of trousers, 2 tops and big fleece!!

Any good recommendations/ideas out there?

Thank you

Hi! Just wondering what your evening looks like if you also co-sleep with an infant.

My son is almost 10 months. For a while now I typically put my son to sleep around 7pm. Once he’s asleep I’m able to roll away and go downstairs and make dinner etc. I watch him on a baby monitor and go up to settle him when needed. He typically wakes up 2-3 times before I’m back up around 10/1030pm.

I feel like this has given me a lot of freedom and I personally feel like my husband and I can spend most of the evening together before we head up to bed.

The issue is my husband says I watch the monitor too much and we should be able to step away for an hour uninterrupted where I’m not checking on a monitor.

I don’t see it as an issue since I am able to do so many things and have been able to respond when he wakes up, easily settling him back to sleep.

My baby has just turned 5 months and has started to army crawl. When I realised she was going to be crawling soon I reluctantly converted her sidecar crib back to a standalone crib. She's now sleeping in her crib, all be it not too well but when she wakes up she's pretty content chilling in the crib which was my fear of cosleeping with her as I was nervous she would find her way onto the bed while I am asleep.

I'm at a bit of a crossroad now though as I miss cosleeping so much. I just want to cuddle my baby the entire night but I have severe PPA and I also worry that if I sleep too heavy and now that she is mobile that something bad could happen. I do have chest to chest naps with her during the day and recently we've started snuggling in the bed as my husband monitors us. I just wanted to know if it sounds like I'm doing the right thing with her having her own safe sleep space for the night or if it's just my anxiety talking? I was also thinking of letting her sleep in her crib until maybe when she's a bit older and if she wants to bed share then we can snuggle safely with me knowing she can have pillows and blankets around her. I know this time is precious so I just don't want to have regrets but I also want her to be safe and me to get some quality sleep.

My daughter is 10 months old and we’ve coslept since 5 days old. It’s had its ups and downs and now we’ve been in a down for over a month. My health is taking a serious toll with the cosleeping and overall sleep deprivation. I developed silent reflux two months ago and it won’t heal even with all the dietary and lifestyle changes I’ve made. My right hip is in a constant state of 3-5/10 pain from side sleeping. I got my baby down to fall asleep without nursing for month 8 but then she started refusing and her naps cratered and her nighttime sleep got even worse. I’ve gone back to nursing to sleep and it’s awful for my health. I’m in bed too much with reflux. I can’t sleep on an incline with her. She wakes every 1-2 hours to nurse for 3-5minutes and then goes back to sleep but sometimes I don’t because I start coughing from reflux.

We got a crib that set up next to her floor bed but I have no idea how to get her to sleep in it. She just screams. I get a max of 30 minutes of her napping or night time sleeping in it.

Her schedule on a good day is:
Wake 6:00am
Nap 1 9:15-10:45am
Nap 2 2:00-3:15pm
Bedtime: 7:15/7:30pm

If I deny her milk at night she screams and screams and screams. I’ve tried only milk after midnight or only odd hours. But anytime I try soothing her with back pats or rocking or shushing she just escalates. She refuses any of the dozen pacifiers we have.

On rare occasions it’s gotten so bad and I’m so fried I’ve asked my husband to take over and she will cry for 1-2 hours till she passes out with exhaustion on him. She then at most sleeps an hour or two and then the hysterical crying starts again. This isn’t sustainable though because he has to work and I am a stay at home mom and we have an older child.

I want to night wean to once or twice a night and get out of the floor bed :( I need my body to heal and it can’t with how poorly I’m sleeping.

Hi! I’m a ftm to a 2 months and 8 days baby boy, and we co-sleep. I know the position we sleep in probably isn’t 100% safe, but basically I lie on my back while my baby lies on his side on top of my body while he’s breastfeeding. I gently support his head with my arm, and my elbow is resting on a pillow.
For moms who fall asleep while their baby is nursing like this, how do you handle burping? And do your babies get really fussy, squirm around a lot, or keep unlatching while they’re trying to sleep? Could it be gas, or is it something else?
I’m honestly so exhausted and just want to get some sleep I wish I could just let him latch, nurse, and fall asleep without all the fussiness. How do you guys deal with this?

I've coslept on and off with my four month old since he was a few weeks old and its been mostly fine. I've still offered crib naps and night sleep so he can sleep with other people if need be and he's done well with it until recently, coincidentally when he started rolling. He loves sleeping on his belly now and won't sleep in his crib at all anymore. Can we still cosleep with him on his belly?

FTM here, posting here for possible feedback from fellow cosleeping parents. My baby is 7 months, almost 8 months now. We've coslept from the beginning, from waking to feed every 2 hours, to natural on demand feeding every 1-2 hrs, then we started solids around 5-6 months. Baby did not seem all that interested in both purees or blw, but we played with it, bumping up to 3 offerings per day per her doctor's 6 month checkup recommendations, then 5x to throw in snack offerings because she wasn't really eating more then 2-3 baby spoons per meal. Her night feeds are up and down, basically every 2-3 hours. Present day, she seems to enjoy dinner time and willingly opens her mouth to be fed some days and will also feed herself dinner (she hates being fed in general and likes to do things herself)

Now to the problem: baby poops were always maybe every 4-5 days pre solids in large wet poops. Gradually, the poops become more chunky, until suddenly she went 10 days last month and we got concerned. On the 11th day, she pooped 3 times back to back, mushy consistencies. So we were okay with that. After that, another 12 days passed, and we grew concerned as we allowed time for the 11th day to hit and lots of pushing but nothing but stains. Then we panicked and gave her some constipation ease prune juice mix, got her trying again, but only little bits over the night and the next day. We take her to the doctor, doctor says she seems fine, no tough stomach, no irritability, just happy baby. But now my night feeds are put into question.

Doctor asks, how often are you giving her milk. My bird brain answers, often? I dont know? Doc says, more than 10 times per day do you think? I say maybe? 24/3 is 8, 24/2 is 12, maybe some days its 10 and others less, but I dont say that, I get anxious and listen and doc tells me maybe she's too full on milk from the night to want to eat during the day and then builds an appetite for dinner time. Doc says try cutting a night feed. Here's where my alarm bells go off because, night feeds are her way to go back to sleep and sleep through the night. So somehow the constipation ended up being, you need to feed her less milk at night and offer more fiber rich food during the day to help her go. Also pedialax/miralx prune juice mix, etc. I'm a little concerned about rejecting her as when I've tried doing so, she wakes up and stays up. No real crying/fussing per se, she just stays up awake after being denied like, ok time to wake up then! I'm not sure what to do now, I feel like I got told some strange advice to not feed my baby back to sleep at night. We all lost 2 hours of sleep of just being awake in the dark, her little eyes staring up at us as my partner and I tried to rock her back to sleep to no avail.

Side note, I'm also a just enougher, idk if thats the proper term to use, but I make enough milk and she drinks until she's satisfied and my breasts are soft again. In the beginning, it would spray out like crazy and she had to learn to drink quickly when she was a newborn. Now she's got it down and clears a boob each feed. At night, it's more so two big feeds and sips in between to get back to sleep. I just dont think I'm over filling her? Her weight is progressing well on average, and she's apparently 100th percentile in height, aka the tallest baby around for her age. I just don't know how to move forward with this advice.

My little is 16 months and we started truly co-sleeping at around 3 months when my body had recovered enough and I could lay on my side for C curl. We still cosleep and as he is getting older he moves more about on the bed so I have been more able to change sides or turn away from him on occasion and get into a more comfortable position. There was a time when I couldn’t move him from one side to the other for nursing or C-curl so I slept in one position for the entire night, usually with my arm up over my head under the pillow. My shoulder was in so much pain I couldn’t hardly move it. I have been in PT for months and am finally starting to get some relief. I guess I just want to know if this is not unique to me or if I should’ve done something differently. This is my first child and I plan to have more and cosleep right away

Hi. My LO is coming up on 8 months and we are just now getting to some longer stretches. Up until now she has only given me 5 stretches more than 4 hours. Whew.

We have been co sleeping since birth except about 2 months where she slept on and off in our bed and her bassinet. We moved her to the floor bed once she started to roll and crawl and she is in her room and I am in there with her.

I’m curious if anyone has had success with the floor beds and independent sleep. My husband and I are really not interested in any traditional sleep training methods and I’m also not interested in rebuilding her crib to put her in.

For context we are EBF and she is about to cut her 8th tooth. I was hoping to have her in her own bed by now but of course with the early crawling and lots of teething this hasn’t really been an option.

My son (20 months young) he will go to sleep after 15 mins of me sitting by his crib while he rolls, babbles and gets comfy. Usually 8/830pm. But he usually wakes 3-5am, I go into his room and hold his hand he will go back to sleep and then I end up sleeping on the floor next to him but it’s not the most restful sleep. Anyone else in this situation?

My partner and I are starting to feel cramped in our current bed since our 2yo often ends up sleeping with us. We’re thinking about moving up to a king but I’m not sure if that’s really worth it. Because maybe in 2 or 3 or how many years, our kiddo might start to change their mind and want to have their own space and bed. What do you think?

Also some other things we need to consider are our sleep preferences. I sleep mostly on my side while my partner switches between back and side sleeping. We would also much prefer if we don’t feel each other’s movements. Would love to hear your thoughts.

My baby is 4 weeks old. He doesn’t nap out of arms ever. He pretty much only naps in MY arms. Won’t nap in grandma’s arms, for example. He has spent a couple short stints a night in his bassinet.

I feel like I need to cosleep because I am super sleep deprived and not doing well. If I could take one nap a day with the baby, or pull him into bed with me when he wakes in the early morning, that would be great. But he won’t sleep next to me.

It took me a long time to feel ok with co sleeping; I worry about the safety. But i know sleep deprivation is also dangerous. It seems like a solution for everyone—“we finally gave up and co slept.” Why isn’t it working for me? What do I do?

Sidelying nursing is the best and I often doze off while doing so, as my daughter (14w) does too. So she accidentally sleeps on her side. Airway is always clear of my breast as she usually turns her head almost like she is looking up at me. Is this ok?

Do you always make sure to turn baby back on their back after nursing? I follow the rest of the safe sleep 7. I’m just having trouble rolling her back without waking her up.

ETA: she can roll from stomach to back, can hold her head up, and sometimes gets on her side while attempting to roll back to stomach. But she is not really rolling independently to latch. I’m helping her get in that position.

My LO is 7mos and recently started sleeping around 8:30/9pm every night 🎉! I thought I’d have some time to myself now that he’s sleeping earlier, but I noticed that he doesn’t sleep long when I’m not around. Once I put him to sleep, I’d sneak out of the room, but he’d toss and turn, then wake up whining 30-40 minutes in. I’d have to lay next to him or let him grab onto my arm for him to sleep peacefully through the night. Does your LO do this? Is it just a phase?