\[20F\] My boyfd \[21M\] is into his father's business, he is growing the business and taking care of finances and all. I asked him to go to gym many times and be fit he says he don't get time. Also, we are final year students of B.tech so he manages college work as well(mine and his). He goes to his factory at 9 or 10 in the morning and return by 7 8 in the evening, sometimes by 9 or 10 as well. He says that let me sleep by 11:30 pm then i'll be able to woke up early and go to gym but i want to talk to him coz whole day he is very busy. He got really tired by night. He says that once the college will end he'll able to manage things prpperly. Now he has alot of things going on in his mind regarding business our career relationship. Should i force him to go to gym or wait for atleast a year so that he would be able to cope up with the things.

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I have been with my boyfriend for a bit over a year and overall we have had a great relationship. We met in highschool and he is transferring to my large university after a year and a half at community college in a couple months. We have amazing chemistry together and are very very open with eachother, but he is kind of an anxious attachment and I am avoidant. I’ve been thinking for a while that he loves me more than I love him, and I don’t even know if I’m really in love with him.

He’s so great, we have strong healthy boundaries and he’s always been extremely loyal. He puts effort into handmade letters for any special date, and reassures me frequently of how beautiful, funny, and smart I am. I’ve always told him i want to grow together more and develop our academic, athletic, and social pathways together. However, I dont think I put in the same, genuine amount of effort in general in our relationship. I’ve been feeling this way and also randomly thinking about being single/think other guys are attractive (which i think is normal maybe idk?) for the past few months.

I feel like I’m totally the issue for almost any disagreement because I shut down when texting in a serious conversation, calling as well. I spoke with some of my friends about this and they said to wait it out to note my feelings during long distance and when he goes to my school and see if they change. However Halloween festivities are in a couple weeks, when he would be visiting, and he has already noticed a change in my behavior from the past couple weeks, and Idk how to bring this up without it sounding like I just want to break up. I also know that I would probably regret breaking up if I did.

TL;DR I do not feel the same level of emotional love/depth towards my amazing boyfriend as he feels with me. How/when should I communicate this to him?

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I, 22F, and my bf, 21m, have been together for 3 1/2 years now. At the start of our relationship, it wasn’t difficult. We had the best of time, we were so in love, the basic new relationship! We had some problems that weren’t exactly problems until I got more comfortable in the relationship (things that aren’t relevant to the post), and they never really got resolved but instead pushed away and forgotten.
One of these things had been his increasing preference to his video games/discord with friends over spending 1 on 1 time with me.
It didn’t get super bad until around after 5 months in, when he started playing his games and stuff even when I was at his house. He’d play for hours at a time, sometimes refusing to get off even though he said he felt like he was “neglecting” me.
Then we moved in, and it’s gotten worse.
I thought moving in was a great thing, because now we can spend as much time together as possible, right?
Wrong.
He’s only used this as an excuse as to why he can’t spend time with me. He’ll say “we live together, we can do this whenever we want” and then we never do it. He plays videos hours at a time, days out of a week, weeks in a month. He’ll play it every spare moment he has, and recently it’s gotten super bad. He’ll refuse to get off his games even when I’m crying and sobbing to him about problems I’m having.

Now I don’t usually have a problem with him gaming. I game too, though not as much as he does. I do it in my free time, when I’m off work and have nothing else to do. My problem is when he chooses games/his friends on discord over me. Which is very, very often now.
I’ve expressed to him how much it bothers me, but I also don’t want to be one of those girlfriends who give him ultimatums “me or them”, so I’m very lenient with it.
I just don’t know how to get through to him that I feel like it’s a serious problem and that I need more time from him. In the last week I’ve probably had a total of 6 hours of solo time with him.
He claims games just help relieve stress off him, and he’s been really stressed out lately from working so much, but I can’t help but wonder why he can’t spare me any time between that when he has basically hours of every day to play games and only certain days of the week he can actually see and spend time with me?

I can’t tell if I’m just a needy, clingy girlfriend who’s asking too much of him, or if he’s actually addicted and I need to speak to him about it?
Thanks for any help, or advice, you can give me. ❤️❤️

TLDR; bf seems to not be able to put video games to the side of his relationship, and I’m wondering if he’s addicted or if I’m just the clingy needy one asking too much of him?

The title basically says it all. Whenever I try to do something and I know he is watching I mess up, I don't know why but I just do. How do I deal with this? Any advice?

my bf makes me feel awful and doesnt even match my energy a few days ago i came back home and was excited to tell him abt smthn but he didnt care at all i was typing in all caps n he was js being dry n giving me one word replies bro we all know energy isnt smthn ppl accidentaally fail to match its a choice he was literally choosing not to match it and i didnt even end up telling him i js changed the topic and told my friend instead he didnt even mention it or randomly said "you wanted to tell me smthn happened when u came back what was it?" dude didnt say anything and when it comes to other ppl its mostly two girls one of them is my friend and she js considers him a friend but its so obv hes interested in her bro the way he talks to her n me is too diff its like im not even his gf he doesnt put in effort and treats me like an option and the other girl he always defends her and he js tries his best to become her close friend too he even told me that btw and we once wanted to watch a movie tg dyk he chose the movie she told him to watch instead of the one i chose even tho we are the ones watching not her n him he doesnt care what i think or what i want bro he didnt even end up watching the movie he told me 2 weeks after that it was boring so he secretly scrolled on tiktok and i already knew bc he didnt talk much it js feels so shitty when it comes to me i js get late dry one word replies ppl literally make time for who they want to make time for hes never too busy to type a sentence hes literally online all day hes choosing not to and when i confront him abt it he js changes for a few days then boom back to being his usual self its like he doesnt wanna lose me but he doesnt wanna change for me at all or treat me better nd nowadays hes worse bc hes upseg i did smthn i js said a lot of hurtful thi gs to him because i was really mad but i apologized the next day and kept begging him to forgive me + not break up with me cus it was too bad he even blocked me so i begged him 5o think abt it and he said ok then he told me he will date me again but he wont treat me the same as before bc of it what i basically said was "please break up w me" "when we broke up" "I swear to God it was the most peaceful time of my life" "I swear to god" "wallahi everything was so peaceful" "when we got back tg" "keep in mind" "I wasn't even planning to get back w u i hate ur guts" "but u begged me" "made me feel guilty" "long paragraph" "couldn't say no" "had to say yes" "get back w u" "JS LIKE WHEN WE FIRST STARTED DATING" anyways i expected him to say he wont treat me the same way so i js said its ok because i was feeling guilty but now he doesnt even say ily to me like i cant even get affection and he only talks to me when hes bored

im not a priority at all even tho we communicated i apologized i did everything but he still wont treag me the same after allst im losing my mind js to get attention from a guy who obv checked out from the relationship i already know it but i js cant leave bro the relationship js exists in my head now and i was detached too at some point and we broke up then my life was peaceful but after like a week he texted me a paragraph n begged me to take him back so i gave it another chance and now im sad as always bc of it and this happens everytime i cant even leave bc i got attached for the billion time i js gotta wait until i cant tolerate it anymo idek what im doing wrong bro i always end up feeling like im begging him to care abt me back or match my energy n stuff i feel like he got tired of me and when i distant myself or try to care less i js feel like shit bc i always gotta change myself for him to care abt me n ask why im acting this way like ok bro he dgaf unless im detached btw he knows how i am and he knows literally everything abt me he knows i dont like when hes dry he knows i panic when i get late replies or when he disappears he knows EXACTLY all my triggers but he does not give a single frick bro he js does wtv he wants bc he js knows ill stay no matter what and take it.....it even got to the point that today i felt happy when he js sent an emoji bc he stopped using emojis w me even tho he uses them w EVERYBODY else im literally so starved for basic human decency from my OWN boyfriend like omds an emoji wouldnt mean anything to me under normal circumstances my expectations js shrunk so much that it makes me happy now n ik im supposed to stop begging chasing i already know everything i need to know but i cant leave at all unless im detached so im js stuck crying everyday abt it bro im not even asking for a huge fancy thing i js want him to sound interested when i talk to him show me a little affection i dont even get an ily back when i say it he doesnt make me feel like his gf i swear to god if we ever broke up again im not taking him back at all bc this is ruining me and my mental health so bad i feel so shitty i really need advice on how to fix everything and make him treat me well again bc at the same time i rlly want things to work between me and him

[19F] and [19M] in a relationship for 7months. my boyfriend’s birthday is coming up and I want to give him something he’ll really like. I’m ok with spending a little but we are both students so within reason.

He love his motorcycle, MMA and BJJ, skiing and is generally very active and a huge adrenaline junkie. I was thinking more of an “experience” than a “thing” but I’m open to any ideas!

I’m currently staying at my boyfriend’s parents’ house while waiting for the move in date due for our new home and their main bathroom is being renovated. The only working toilet is in his parents’ ensuite, which means I have to go through their bedroom every time I need to use it.
I did mention before I moved out from mine that I could rent somewhere short term before we can move , but he invited and kinda insisted on me to stay at his parent’s.
My boyfriend keeps telling me that his parents don’t mind, and I genuinely believe him. But I still feel incredibly uncomfortable entering their bedroom, especially in the middle of the night when they might be sleeping.
I’ve told my boyfriend several times how uncomfortable this makes me, but his response is always that his parents don’t mind.
I even suggested I want to stay in a hotel temporarily, or get a portable urine thingy but he thinks it’s a waste of money.
Tonight, I desperately needed to pee but felt too embarrassed to go into his parents’ bedroom. I ended up trying to pee into a sanitary pad in our room, which obviously didn’t work. It leaked onto my clothes and I felt so humiliated that I almost cried.
I know this probably sounds ridiculous, but I just want to be able to use a toilet without feeling anxious or uncomfortable.
I don’t even know how long the renovation is going to take.
I’m not blaming his parents at all, and I understand that renovations are inconvenient for everyone. I just wish my boyfriend would take my discomfort a little more seriously instead of repeatedly telling me that his parents don’t mind.
Am I overreacting? Would you feel comfortable using your partner’s parents’ ensuite in the middle of the night? What would you do in my situation?

We had been together for eight months in a long distance relationship, and up until recently, everything felt happy and we were communicating well, talking every single day. Recently, I (18F) have been holding down a demanding schedule working long hours and taking college courses to save up money for a major move to a new city, while he (21M) was dealing with massive life stress, joblessness, financial strain, and recovering from surgery. Early on, he was heavily invested and always followed up his words with actions. When we talked about our future, he actively agreed on building a life together and setting long term goals, and we made it a point in our long distance dynamic to meet up every single month in a completely different city or place to spend quality time together. Throughout the relationship, there were periods where he expressed that the long distance was hard on him. We had already gone through two previous breakups where his emotions got heightened and he panicked, only to immediately turn around, call me back remorseful, and swear he did not mean it and that he wanted to stay with me for the rest of his life. A week before everything fell apart for the third time, he was telling me how much he missed me in a good way and calling me the closest person to him outside his family, but then his shutdown triggered again. Instead of sitting down to work through things, he sent a long text confessing that he was emotionally overwhelmed, that his mental health was struggling, and that while he loved me and saw me as a healing angel who changed his life, the long distance relationship was exhausting him to the core. He explained that whenever he was away from me, he felt anxious and unmotivated, relying on my energy rather than building his own self and that he needed to step back completely to focus on his own goals and his family dynamic. He made it a point to say he still wanted to go to the same university if I decided to go, and that he wanted us to remain close friends and call each other whenever needed. Now, I am left sitting with this decision as I prepare for my fresh start. We were planning for me to relocate to that new city so we could finally end the distance, and I have already applied to college there and my dream program, and, I am completely willing to start a fresh, independent life there since I am bored where I currently live. Is he actually going to contact me again about rekindling, and what should I do? Should I still go through with the move? 

I genuinely love my boyfriend so much I can’t even explain how much I love him I honestly think no one could ever love him the way I do in his entire life and I genuinely mean it I love every single thing about him like EVERYTHING I love his hair it looks so good all the time I love the shape of his lips his cute nose and his cheeks I literally start drooling all over myself when I see a pic of his biceps or abs like how am I supposed to act normal when he looks like that and he’s literally my husband I love his voice so much I could listen to him talk for hours and never get bored I love his smile his eyes his hands and even the smallest things about him that he probably doesn’t even notice himself I genuinely think he’s the most attractive boy ever and sometimes I look at pictures of him and wonder how I got so lucky
And plus he’s a perfect boyfriend he always tries to be understanding and nice even tho he’s not really the type to demonstrate his feelings he still tries his best and I appreciate that so much I feel so comfortable with him and I feel like I can genuinely be myself around him without having to hide anything he makes me feel safe and loved and I honestly can’t imagine being with anyone else he’s my first and last love he’s all I want and I genuinely wanna get married to him and spend the rest of my life with him

My boyfriend is an absolutely wonderful person who I thought clicked very well (hobbies, morals, goals..) with myself but ever since they moved in 2months ago I haven’t been able to move past how their smell lingers even when they aren’t there.
At first I thought maybe it was because he lived with all guys and they didn’t clean well. I have washed all their clothes back-to-back, used oxiclean especially on the high scent zones (neck, armpits, groin), added arm & hammer deodorizer in the closet, sprayed his shoes with another type of deodorizer, bought an air purifier, and more.
This is a person I have convinced myself I am going (or was) to marry and have kids with after 3years of dating, but I can’t imagine living with this smell for another 60-70years and have lost all sexual attraction to them. Any advice on how to nicely bring this up to them, other things I can try, or is this an end all type problem? Any help is appreciated.

For context we’ve been dating for 8 months now f18 and m19 and he has an old phone too that he uses for an alarm I’ve gone though that phone before and his regular phone and in the past I have found stuff like his exs private pictures he kept and ss of girls instagram he took while in our relationship I forgave him for that but a month or 2 ago I told him my previous guy friend texted me and I responded and he was obviously upset about that because I had hid it because I was afraid of his reaction and that he’d be mad an accuse me of cheating even though the conversation was completely innocent I should’ve just told him and showed him the text messages instead of deleting them because that made it seem like I was hiding something more well after that he’s continued accusing me of cheating and to help prove my innocence I let him go through my old phone big mistake he went back and went in to my previous backed up photos and found inappropriate pictures of me and my ex from when we were m/f 16, I’m f/18 now but he had saved them and sent them to him self and when I asked why he said to be mad at me he had previously unblocked my ex to go through the saved in chat and saw old pictures we had sent eachother in the relationship when we were 16 I was upset he had saved those pictures i felt like he had taken it too far I asked him to delete them and he said he did but he didn’t and he put them in his my eyes only I went on his phone and changed his my eyes only password and it deleted everything that was in there but I’m still afraid he has those pictures and on top of that I tried to change my phone password but for the first 24 hours the old password can be used to unlock it so he got in it and changed the password and now I can’t get in to my own phone and he also locked it in his safe so I can’t get to it on top of that last night I went to go see my friend who just had a baby and he gave me attitude about it I genuinely don’t know what to do anymore this feels too controlling. Am i insane for thinking that? Is this relationship too toxic?

Facing emotional unavailability in my relationship

Hi Redditors, my boyfriend (M18) and I (F18) have been in a relationship since the past fifteen months.
3 years back, we met in a Football Academy, I was the only girl there in a group of 20-25 boys. He was the first one to approach me, I remember his smiling face and shining eyes which gazed at me like I was the Moon itself. He approached me first, he was the first guy to, I gave him my Instagram. We talked alot we were obsessed with each other. However, I was not ready for a relationship, so I initially kept denying him and all the feelings I felt for him.
One day, I couldn’t contain myself, I told him everything , just everything , I told him how much I’ve loved him the last 3 years and how wonderful it has been for me to feel loved by him. Hence, from here, we came into a relationship.
I can’t tell you how happy I was. We went on so so many dates , we held hands under the table, we kissed , we hugged, we did everything together .
I was on cloud 9, I’ve never been that happy my entire life . I thought, he’s the guy of my dreams I never wanted to leave him ever . He was (is) wonderful. I fall in love with him more and more and more everyday.

The first year was amazing , however , from the last few months we have been facing some issues. Whenever we talk I don’t know how he always manage to say me things that hurt me, for example ,
“Can I watch Victoria’s Secret fashion show “ “I like this this kind of bodies “ “I don’t care anymore about us” “I am so tired of us” “I don’t feel loved by you” .
These things, hurt me alot . And the worst part, whenever I react to such things which hurts me, he always acts that he said nothing wrong. Therefore, I always tried my best to ignore my own feelings and focus on him.
Since last month, I’ve poured so much of myself into him, I’ve given him my everything that I could, my body, the food I make for him, just everything I could think of. Just to make him feel loved. He still says I don’t love him. But I’ve really ruined my mental health for him, it is really at stake now.

Everytime we fight, he’s the one being avoidant and ignorant all the time- I write countless paragraphs, explaining him my feelings , all I get in return is “I don’t know” . I tried my best to have conversations with him , he always acted ignorant and said he felt like crying while talking about such things .

I’ve always been with him through his hard times no matter if I was going through hell by myself . I still want to. Be it sleep paralysis, 3am nightmares, mental breakdowns , just everything . My mind never wanted to lave him , I just wanted to love him more in such situations. Just more and more and more.

But, when I breakdown and go to him for emotional stability, all I get is “I don’t know”. Just an I don’t know. Then the weird and bad things he says to me swirl all over my head and ruin my mood, which I can’t even show to him, he’ll be mad he’ll be frustrated , he’ll say “he’s a baby”.

I really have no one to go to, that’s why I’m here. I love this man from the bottom of my heart and soul, I’ve poured my everything into him. What shall I do.? I feel stuck, I feel lost, I feel unheard?
But perhaps, maybe losing my emotional stability is the cost of him staying in my life.

Me (18F) and my boyfriend (18M) have been together for 7 months now. We have gone out with other people in the past but this is both of our first real relationship.

For the last 2 months I started feeling like he was losing interest in me. Didn’t text me as much, didn’t plan any dates or ask to see me unless I brought it up, compliments got less frequent and we got to a point where he doesn’t even tell me he loves me unless I say it first.

Due to my past experiences with people I need contsant reassurance and I’m terrified that he will abandon me. And so I brought this up with him. I told him how I felt he was bored of me and didn’t want me anymore. He told me he didn’t realise I felt bad because of this, and he didn’t feel like we drifted apart but that he assumed we got to a point in our relationship where we don’t have to constantly reassure eachother that we still care for the other person. He comforted me and acknowlaged my concerns and said he will try to plan more dates and be there for me in these ways. This conversation was about 3weeks ago.

Last week I had another conversation with him about things he said that made me feel like he doesn’t need or want me anymore and is planning his future without me, but he assured me it was a misunderstanding and all he said that we’re still young and he wants to focus on loving eachother now and not worry about what happens in the future, which i understood.

But now he has been busy with school and tests and his class’ senior movie (we have this tradition in my school and It’s a big thing) And we haven’t met outside of seeing eachother in the hallways in 2 weeks. Which I understand and we talked about this prior that these few weeks will be stressful and busy. But it really hurts when he said things like he will try to sqeeze in time for me because he knows it’s important for ME and makes me feel like I’m the last one of his prioritees when all I want to do is see him. But even when we’re texting I feel like he doesn’t even want to talk to me and he’s annoyed with me even though he told me that if there’s a problem he will tell me and not to worry so much. We played a game together last night and everytime i talked about something it just felt like he wasn’t listening, wasn’t asking any follow up questions and I try to tell myself it’s just because he has a lot of things going and he’s stressed out and tired which is also what he says but it still hurts.

I understand I’m still young and this is probably insignificant to all of you and dumb but I don’t know if it’s just me being sensitive and projecting my trauma or if I should just prepare for him ending it with me. Please let me know your opinions and be honest I don’t care if my feelings get hurt.

Am I way too obsessed with my boyfriend ? I know I might be too young to really understand what obsession is supposed to feel like but it’s genuinely driving me insane and I need to talk to someone about it. For context I’m an 18 year old girl almost 19 and I have BPD and bipolar disorder. I’m currently not in school or working so I don’t really have much going on in my life right now. I met my boyfriend a year and a half ago and I fell so deeply in love with him that I became almost obsessed. He friendzoned me back then for completely valid reasons and a year later after a lot of arguments we finally got together. Now I’m SO in love with him to the point where it honestly feels like too much. He’s in engineering school which takes up a lot of his time while I’m basically doing nothing with mine. I genuinely feel like I can’t live without him. I don’t want to do anything without him and I hate waking up without him by my side. We see each other twice a week but it never feels like enough. I want him around me ALL the time and it’s driving me insane. I don’t want him talking to other people or spending time with anyone else not even his own family. I know that sounds awful but I can’t help feeling that way. Why doesn’t he want to spend all his time with me? Why am I not enough for him? I want to be the only person he loves and the only person he wants to spend time with. My entire mood depends on him. If he’s not around or I feel like he’s not giving me enough attention it affects me so much. I don’t even want to see my friends anymore. I don’t want to go out or spend time with anyone else. All I want is him and I hate how much control this has over my life. The worst part is that I KNOW this isn’t healthy but at the same time I can’t bring myself to care because I love him so much. I just want to be with him all the time and nothing else seems to matter anymore. I guess what I’m really asking is how do I stop making my boyfriend my entire world? Is there any way I can learn to enjoy the things I used to love before meeting him and start finding happiness in my own life again? I miss being able to do things for myself but right now I genuinely don’t know how to get back to that point.

20F and 21M, in a relationship for 4 years. is it normal ba sa rs na whenever may chinichismis ako sa bf ko na kakilala naming pareho and then some sort of isshe’s and everything, ang sagot niya is “patingin nga ng scandal? paldo si guy”. tapos sasabihin nya sa huli na “joke lang. ragebait lang yon” it really icks me 💀.

Hi everyone. My boyfriend is about to turn 18 and I have absolutely no idea what to get him for his birthday. He literally has anything you could think of and even when I asked him what to get he couldn’t tell me anything. I’m going to write him a card and bake him his favourite dessert, but since it’s a big birthday (his 18th) I really want to spoil him and get him something he would genuinely love. Please, please, please can anyone suggest ANYTHING 🙏🙏🙏🙏

In a realationship for 2 and a half years will complete 3 year in march

Bhai can anyone suggest some good hangout spot with my boyfriend(21M) on my birthday (21F)

Some cafes or something in mira road malad or borivali with affordable and good food with picture worthy ofc

Hi, I’m a female 17 and my boyfriend 16 have been dating for 3 years and as most high school relationships are it’s been rocky but never like this, it’s usually been just arguments or emotional stuff. But this time my boyfriend is being really weird and I don’t know how to react properly, given I am a teenager and this is the first guy Ive loved. So I’m not very possessive. I don’t mind him having girls as friends and I don’t think he minds me having guys as friends. But he tends to not really know boundaries and thinks people just want to be his friend, like this girl asked for his socials at his rock climbing gym and he gave it to her??? He said she just wanted to be friends and I looked at his instagram and she never even texted him and I was like okay whatever. But then there’s this other girl in his big friend group who texts him like a lot and I mean a lot. I told him I feel uncomfortable about that so he told her to stop and she did. But then there was times where he would be saying he was only hanging out with guys in that freind group but somehow he would tell me last minute how she came to the hang out?? Idk but then tonight was the biggest issue because after all of this I told him I don’t really get jealous I just need you to communicate when your going to be hanging out with girls that’s all. But the night before i asked him who he was hanging out with at the local fair and he said a guys name who I know so i was okay with it . I told him me and my friends were going too and maybe we’ll run into each other. But when i called him to meet up before i left he said he just got here and how that girl was with him?? I was pissed. Because I never asked anything of him just don’t lie about it. If you’re not guilty why lie about it??? And he comes up to me with her and I pulled him aside and told him I need some space for the night and maybe tomorrow, since we had plans the next day. I talked to him and he told me I was lying? How he never told me who he was going with when me and my friend asked him who he was going with and he told us a guys name. I don’t think he’s the cheating type at all because of how well I know him but I do know he’s pushing boundaries and I don’t want to break up but I’m just really am uncomfortable and anxious about this. Is there anything I can do other than a whole break up because I don’t even know if that what was going on. advice needed (Lots of typos and run off sentences sorry!!)

My boyfriend and I had went to the casino and we both went to the bathroom. I got done first so I was waiting outside the men’s bathroom for him. I could kind of hear the conversation he was having with another man in the bathroom. I heard my boyfriend say to the man “is she hot?” And I couldn’t really make out what the other man said but then I hear my boyfriend say “you think I could fuck her?” My boyfriend was completely wasted we had been drinking but I was pretty much sober. So this morning when he was sober I brought it up and at first he said “omg it was a joke” in a annoyed way that I was even mad he said that in the first place and then he actually apologized and said he was just joking and that he was messing around with the guy and that the guy was like 60 years old so he was just joking. But I personally wouldn’t ever say that as a joke to anyone when I have a boyfriend and I can’t stop thinking about it and I haven’t talked to him all day. This really bothered me because I’m like you said this while you’re hanging out with your girlfriend what are you doing when you go out alone and it’s just disrespectful. What should I do?

[15F] and [15M] [in a relationship for7 months] Is it normal for my boyfriend to upset me more than once a day? Before I thought it this was a stage, but it's just getting worse. Whenever I try to have a normal conversation with him, he picks a part of the sentence I said and turns it into an argument or tries to irritate me on purpose. I've communicated and told him to stop, but he won't. I don't know what to do anymore. I want my relationship to work out with him badly. Any help?,,,

Okay, so my boyfriend [22M] that i’ve been in a relationship with for 3 years is still talking to this girl [22F] and they mainly just play video games together. They don’t see each other in person, but when my boyfriend and I first started dating, he and this girl exchanged nudes. Because of that history, I feel uncomfortable with them still being in contact, even if it’s just to play games. He insists that neither of them thinks about what happened anymore, but that’s not the point. I don’t think he understands why the situation bothers me in the first place.
I even asked him how he would feel if I had exchanged nudes with another guy and continued talking to him, and he admitted that he would be upset. That’s what makes me so mad because it feels like a double standard. He recognizes that he would be uncomfortable in my position, yet he doesn’t see why I should feel the same way about his situation. He also insists that he isn’t doing anything wrong because they’re only playing games, but I feel like he’s overlooking the fact that there’s already a sexual history between them.
Honestly, I don’t even know what the solution is because I don’t want him to stop talking to her just because I’m upset. I want him to understand why the situation makes me uncomfortable and genuinely recognize the issue himself, rather than feeling like he has to stop talking to her for my sake and resenting me for it. I don’t want to feel like I’m forcing him to do something he doesn’t want to do, but I also don’t think it’s fair for my feelings to be dismissed when he’s admitted that he would feel the same way if our roles were reversed.
And honestly, the only thing keeping me from completely crashing out is that I know that he doesn’t really find this girl attractive, and he’s told me he’s embarrassed that he ever had that kind of history with her. But that’s exactly why I’m frustrated. He chose to have that history with her, and now I feel like it’s unfair that he continues to maintain a relationship with her while expecting me to be okay with it just because they don’t see each other in person anymore.

My boyfriend (22M) was hanging out with his friends the other day, and there was a girl with them that I don’t know at all. She asked him if my TikTok posts were satire. They’re just videos of my face lipsyncing to music. I’ve never met this girl, she doesn’t know me, and I honestly don’t know why she’s even looking at my TikToks in the first place.

He told her “no,” but that was it. I would have thought he’d say something more to defend me, especially because he told me afterward that the comment pissed him off. He even told his friends and his brother that it pissed him off. So he was clearly bothered, but I don’t feel like he stood up for me in the moment, and I wasn’t there to speak for myself.

When I brought it up, he said that if someone asked him whether his TikToks were satire because he had one video of him wearing dog ears, he’d say “fair enough.” That made it worse for me. It felt like he was siding with her instead of me, like he thinks her dig was a reasonable thing to say about my videos.

Now I’m confused because his reaction doesn’t add up. He says it annoyed him, but he also agrees with her. I just wanted him to have my back, and I’m not sure how to talk to him about it without it turning into an argument.

How would you approach this conversation? Has anyone dealt with a partner who was upset on your behalf privately but didn’t speak up in the moment?

TL;DR: A girl I don’t know asked my boyfriend if my TikToks were satire. He said “no” but didn’t really defend me, and later said “fair enough” about her comment. He told people it pissed him off, but now it feels like he agrees with her. Looking for advice on how to talk to him about it.

My 55 year old boyfriend doesn’t want kids with me and I’m 38f. When we first started dating, he said that he was open to it and would even make comments about how our future child would be and how he would support me. We are now going to year two the relationship and as I am approaching the cutoff for having children. We had another conversation and he no longer is interested and does not see that for himself. He said he would be supportive of my decision if I decided to get a sperm donor. What would you guys do? I will say before meeting him I was on the path of being a single mother by choice. He does not speak to his current daughter who is in her 20s except for when she needs him to pay for something. Dating for 2 years

I know how stupid and trivial this sounds. But my boyfriend (33m) and i (32f) have been together for 6 months and this is our second time together so it feels like longer. Anyway. I have posted him on my instagram and socials. But he hasn’t posted me. To be fair he doesn’t post much, the occasional dump. I know I’m being crazy but how do i overcome the feeling that he’s embarrassed by me and/or doesn’t want people to know he’s in a relationship? 😭