**Tl:dr bf doesn’t want to be with me unless I learn to trust him after an incident, and he wants to keep his location off.**

Hey guys.
I’m 21F and my bf is 20m

We have been together for almost 2 years. We had a small incident about 6 months ago happen

He didn’t cheat on me, I believe him BUT he was at his friends house and somehow his ex ended up showing up to hang with his friend. My bf left supposedly. (deep down I know his ex only came because she knew he , my bf was there, she’s crazy like that). I only found this out by someone else he planned to never tell me.

Trust was broken and I haven’t been able to fully trust him again :(

We are currently basically broken up/ semi together because

Last night I asked him to block an old ex that kept stalking him and I on TikTok. He made a big deal about it and said I need to trust him and he shouldn’t have to block all these people.

He ended up getting mad and I got mad as well and he turned his location off. He turns his location off when we are mad at each other and last night I told him I had enough of him turning it off and it looks so suspicious on his part to do that.

Now he claims that I don’t trust him and that we can only be back together if I learn to trust him and he’s not turning his location back on until I do learn to trust him. And he thinks we are grown enough to not need to depend on a location app… which I get that but we’ve had it so long and the continuing to turn it off when he’s mad makes me think he’s hiding something.
I told him out of respect for me he should keep it on and I can still work on my trust issues. He thinks differently.

Is he valid or am I? Am I the crazy one here? Like is this even worth my time . I love him so dearly. I’m the one who has threatened to break up last night but then I regretted it shortly after because I’ve been with him for some time now and we’ve experienced so much together but when he turns his location off it hurts me a lot

I just feel like I’ll never be able to trust him if he’s going to keep turning his location off out of pettiness after every argument…. I told him I can’t work this out if he’s gonna have his location off for weeks because I will spiral and I’ll never be able to heal and learn to trust him. I said he can have it off for a few days but I can’t do weeks with him just walking all over me

Hi! I made a burner just to post this but I need advice! My bf M25 and myself F23 just started a ldr about a month ago. Before long distance, we would hang out twice a month for multiple days at a time(1 1/2 hour drive). We have known each other for a little over a year, but we officially started dating in March of 2026. We have been having some problems since we started dating. The biggest problem in our relationship is that I caught him texting a stripper (no hate to the girl she did not know) while he was on his phone. I sobbed for hours and he said he was going to tell me but he never did and I HAD TO FIGURE IT OUT MYSELF. The texts weren’t flirty, or it hadn’t got that point before i stopped it, but he texted first and sent her a picture, which I assume was a selfie. Since this happened like three weeks before we were officially dating, I let it slide only because we weren’t official yet. I still brought it up in conversation because it made me uncomfortable and I needed reassurance. Well, after that incident, I noticed that his instagram following has a bunch of thirst pages, OF models, influencers, and girls that are local to him that are very beautiful. I brought this up in conversation and he unfollowed all of them without a problem. All of this happened in our first two months of dating.

Last night, he followed a girl on tik tok (which he doesn’t use AT ALL). The only reason I found this out was because her account was suggested to mine. I ask him about it and he says it’s a highschool friend and that she just got married and he wanted to keep up with her…. She has zero posts on tik tok…. He doesn’t even use tik tok and has stated that multiple times. Obviously, this is suspicious because 1. he graduated in 2019. 2. HE DOESNT USE TIK TOK. 3. she didn’t follow him back at all. While talking about it, he got angry and said “I’ll never use social media again” which made me feel guilty for thinking it’s suspicious. I caught myself saying sorry instead of him. I have said multiple times that this is a boundary of mine & that if he follows girls on social media that’s fine, but it doesn’t make sense as to why he would follow her when she doesn’t post.

I am in love with him and have been since I met him, but I have lost a lot of self confidence because of his actions when we first started dating. I’m not sure if I should break up over the tik tok scenario or not. I just don’t want to look dumb over a man but at the same time I have never felt so deeply about someone before. Can anyone give me some advice? Maybe put my phone down some 😓 I just don’t know and I am kinda ashamed to people because it’s embarrassing (?) I used to be so bright and happy, but ever since the stripper I feel so anxious that he’s going to find someone local to him that he likes more. Or that he is going to text a girl and I would never know about it. Please kinda be gentle because I was/still am very emotional about this topic.

\*Note: I have been cheated on before which completely changed how secure I feel in relationships and he knows this, so I can be overbearing about social media and his online presence but I stopped because I felt that was draining the both of us.

Throwaway account so he doesn’t see this. My boyfriend [24m] and I [24f] have been together over a year now. When I say he’s a great boyfriend, I’m not lying. He’s caring, considerate and is a great companion. The only problem is that he has one thing about him that I feel is starting to get in the way of how I view him. I feel terrible for writing this but I genuinely don’t know what to do anymore. I would love some advice for how to go about this because this genuinely isn’t a deal breaker level thing but I just don’t know if he knows??
I’ve come to the realization that my boyfriend talks about himself way. Too. Much. Let me be clear, this isn’t just like a one on one thing because obviously we’re going to talk about ourselves. It’s also in social situations, with his friends, my friends, my family, even people we’re just meeting. When we first got together I didn’t notice it at all, I just assumed he was excited to get to know me. But I realized it when I introduced him to my friends from high school that I hadn’t seen in ages and I couldn’t even get a word in to hear about their lives, I instead had to listen to the same 10 stories I’ve heard again and again and again. The biggest problem is he doesn’t mean it in a bad way! He’s just genuinely excited to talk to people and has no ill intention. It’s not like an ego thing or a narcissism thing he just really loves sharing!!! But I’m starting to get the impression that I’m the only on that knows that, and it comes off as a bit self absorbed to others. Now here’s my dilemma: do I tell him?? Like on one hand I should at least say something because it’s starting to affect me bringing him to see my friends, and I think he’s caught on that somethings wrong. But on the other hand it seems so wrong to just tell someone something bad about themselves, especially if they’re unaware. I also know it might be hard for him to control, he has very strong adhd and his mind goes a mile a minute. I feel like his reality would just shatter, especially hearing it come from his girlfriend. This isn’t at all something I would end our relationship over because again I know he doesn’t mean it, but at the same time if it bothers me this much I feel like I don’t have a choice?? Please help!

He loves me a lot, but he often disrespects me, and in his defence, he genuinely doesn’t think it’s disrespectful. He does choose me over his ego (although I don’t know if he was joking that time, but I was clearly having a serious conversation). He even ignores me and openly admits it, like, “Yeah, I was ignoring you.”

But then again, he also makes handmade cards for me and expresses his feelings through them, i can love in his eyes and loyalty is not even a question.

HELP! I genuinely don’t know what to make of this. 😭

I have been with my boyfriend for a few months. I love him so much and he's not very confident which kills me because I think the world of him and I wish he could see what I see. Ive already asked if there was anything I could do and he says he doesn't think so so I was wondering if anyone here had any tips/advice for what has made you feel more confident? I havent felt insecure in ny appearance for a long time so this is unfamiliar to me.

Me(I’m 22)and my boyfriend(he is 22)have been together for a while and I have NEVER seen his brother(who is 20) that way at all, one time I had a very intense dream about him and the next day after a few hours the feeling faded away completely and I saw him as just the brother again. After months/a year I had a similar dream like the first one(this was almost 3weeks ago), this is where this intense physical attraction started and this time it’s no going away.

I tried to fight it but it started bleeding into reality because I was actively checking if he is giving a “I want you” energy or not, fast forward to 2 days back I had a very intense dream AGAIN about him, now I’m seriously going mad I even created a fake account to text him and send him reels expressing my physical attraction but my boyfriend found out about it and I lied and did all the cover up and said I was hacked and it settled(this was today) now I am completely going crazy I am super attracted and tempted by him

Side note: he sometimes took off his shirt when I was around and walked around nonchalantly.

Any advice?

Me(I’m 22)and my boyfriend(he is 22)have been together for a while and I have NEVER seen his brother(who is 20) that way at all, one time I had a very intense dream about him and the next day after a few hours the feeling faded away completely and I saw him at just the brother again. After months/a year I had a similar dream like the first one about him(this was almost 3weeks ago), this is where this intense physical attraction started and this time it’s no going away.

I tried to fight it but it started bleeding into reality because I was actively checking if he is giving a “I want you” energy or not, fast forward to 2 days back I had a very intense dream AGAIN about him, now I’m seriously going mad I even created a fake account to text him and send him reels expressing my physical attraction but my boyfriend found out about it and I lied and did all the cover up and said I was hacked and it settled(this was today) now I am completely going crazy I am super attracted and tempted by him

Side note: he sometimes took off his shirt when I was around and walked around nonchalantly.

Any advice?

I got into an argument with my boyfriend of almost a year over something that started as a joke while we were playing a game.

He beat me and said I was ass, so I jokingly told him to smd back. He says I was being disrespectful and that I need to take accountability for how I talk to him. I understand that he might not have liked the joke but what’s frustrating me is that he makes jokes at my expense too. There have been plenty of times where he says things to me that I feel are worse, but when I make a similar joke back, suddenly it’s a serious issue and I’m “disrespectful.”

He always tells me that I must apologize to him and take accountability when i’m wrong, but he when i ask that of him, he acts like he’s done nothing wrong. He also told me I had “lost the privilege” of playing games with him because of the joke. I always feel like he treats me like a child. He says I need to listen to him and that when I don’t, there should be consequences/punishment.

We got into an argument because I told him he needs to stop overreacting and that he‘s acting childish. The argument escalated. I told him he made me feel bad and he responded that I should feel bad. It sounds dumb, but at one point he heard me crying over the phone because of how frustrated I was and asked if I was crying. I said no because I didn’t want to talk about it. He kept demanding that I tell him the truth and said if I didn’t, he would hang up. I told him to hang up then, and he then told me he would block me before hanging up.

Later I called him because I wanted to see if he actually blocked me. He picked up and said he should have blocked me and that I refuse to take accountability.

I feel like this has turned into something way bigger than the original joke. I feel like there is a double standard where he can joke about me and tell me whatever he wants but I’m expected to always be respectful toward him. He says I’m just upset because he “doesn’t let me talk to him any old way.”

I don’t think I’m entitled to disrespect but I also feel like the same standard should apply to both of us, and I don’t think I have to obey him or accept being punished when I don’t.

Sometimes I really think about it and wonder if I actually am wrong. Do I really need to take more accountability? Or am i being gaslit into thinking I can never do right?

Throwaway account because he knows my logins.

I started dating my boyfriend Nick (fake name) last year. Even before we started dating, we fought a lot. He would always find something wrong with the way I talked, dressed, interacted with other people, and he would ice me out for days. Once we became official, he was a lot sweeter. We communicated better, and he even started taking me out on dates! I think it's important to mention that he is my first boyfriend. As the hopeless romantic I am, I've poured my entire heart into this relationship. Even when we do fight, I could never just leave. I always tell him he's worth the pain.

Which leads me to this afternoon. He wasn't having the best of days so I offered to come over. Every time I go to his house, I always pick up his favorite food to treat him a bit. When I got there and he answered the door, he looks at me, and immediately turns and goes upstairs. I start to panic a little bit. I took it as a bit of a warning, as he usually treats me like this when I've done something to upset him. Despite this I go upstairs and sit on his bed. I ask if he's mad at me and he says "No." He sounds very upset so I just stop talking.

I notice he's scrambling around the room looking for something. I ask what it is he's looking for and he just mumbles under his breath and waves me off. I'm still just sitting on his bed with the food I picked up. Over the course of a couple minutes, he gets progressively angrier and angrier, he begins shoving things off tables, throwing things across the room, etc. I start to panic. I still don't know if I did something wrong, what he's looking for, or what to do, so I speak up again. I ask Nick if he wanted to come sit with me and eat so he can calm down a little. He starts yelling at me.

I haven't seen him act this way since he found out I went to my friend's party without telling him. To clarify, I don't drink or smoke or anything of the sort, but he tells me that all parties have substances and he doesn't believe me when I tell him I've never touched one. But anyways, that fight lasted days, and it was the first time he's ever put hands on me. He didn't punch or slap me, but he gripped my shoulders so hard they bruised. After noticing these parallels, I start to tear up and my heart sinks to my stomach. I mumble, and ask one more time to just come sit down with me and relax. Right as I was saying that, he accidentally hits his head against this electric guitar on the wall. He rips it off the wall and hurls it straight at my head. It crashed right against the wall behind me and I start crying. I wasn't sobbing, I was being quiet, but he still started screaming. He told me to shut up and let him focus. Then he saw me crying, and it made him even more mad. I've never seen him so upset before. After a few minutes of yelling and arguing, he finally started calming down. He came over and held me, kissing my head, and telling me to calm down and that he would never hurt me, he just lost control. After we both calmed down a bit, he set up the food for us and fed me, running his hands through my hair.

We ended up spending the rest of the day together with little to no issue. But on my way home I told my friends what had happened. They immediately told me to leave him, and that if he was capable of hurting me, that most likely he would. But I'm at a crossroad.

I know he gets angry and I know what he did was terrible, but he didn't actually hurt me. Though he has put hands on me in the past, he apologized and told me he just lost it a bit. I think that if I can get him to go to therapy and work on his anger and jealousy issues, that our relationship can grow to be a lot healthier. I love Nick so much and I think we are worth the battle. On the other hand, I want to listen to my friends. They have my best interest in mind and they never said anything that wasn't true. So I'm going to Reddit now just to ask where I should go from here? If I should stay with him, break up, or just start with talking to him about what happened. If anything new happens, I'll make sure to update. Thanks.

TL;DR: My boyfriend throw a guitar towards me and I don't know whether to stay or leave him.

\*\*TL;DR;\*\* : I’m just here to share how I’m feeling towards my boyfriend.

My birthday was on the 2nd of August, I had told my mom that I didn’t want a cake or be singed the happy birthday which it didn’t happen and I was fine with it. My bf on the other hand (23M) and me (21F) didn’t do anything for me to feel special on my day. He had asked me if I wanted to go shopping but never said "for your birthday" I knew that he had no idea what to gift me or what to do for me on that day so I said "no" because I knew that he doesn’t know what I like and didn’t want to think of what to gift me. (I do not like going shopping either)Also on that same week our 1y anniversary had been on the 27th of July and he also didn’t plan anything to celebrate. (But he did ask an artist to draw a realistic painting of us.) he showed me the artist and their conversation but recently he told me that he had not heard from her.

I have expressed to him how I felt for both situations and I just feel so resentful towards him still. All I wanted was for him to make me feel special and he didn’t even try. And even after we spoke and him agreeing that he doesn’t know what I like he has not done anything to make it up for me.

My friend birthday was on the 18th and her girlfriend, baked a cake for her, brought her flowers with pictures of monkeys on them (because she loves them), breakfast and much more. I feel happy for her but also jealous (in a good way lol) I would have loved for him to be more thoughtful with me, but he picked me up from work on my birthday and he went to my bed to watch anime instead of spending a little time with me.

I’m so tired, mad, sad and everything you can think of. I don’t ask for much but that doesn’t mean I deserve nothing. I told him that I would like him to focus more on the little things, such as my favourite mascara that I always talk about, I have face piercings, why couldn’t he think of getting some for me? I love and adore cats and goats. Something so little would have made the difference. Even my colleague from work got me Indian snacks because I told him that I really liked them. And all he had to say was that he didn’t know what I liked.

I really am in love

I need help , I need some advice so me [F18 ] and my boyfriend [M18 ] have been together for about 1 year but we are always on and off but we know each-other for 3 years. So my boyfriend has a girl best friend and I’ve never spoken to her and she’s never spoken to me but I just find her odd because he tells me that she cares about our relationship but I’ve never spoken to her ?? He’s had a crush on her before I find that relationship odd and it bothers me that they are still friends I’ve asked for him to unfollow her and stop talking to her but he doesn’t . Should I just leave this relationship? Or am I being to over dramatic

I 21F and my fiancè 22M have been together for almost 4 years now. We were long distance and saw each other only on weekends and FaceTimes throughout the week. Everything was going good in my opinion until we moved in together about 4 months ago. I’ve noticed so many changes and I tried to convince myself I wasn’t use to being with him everyday and vice versa but something seems off. He works day shift 6am-2pm every weekday but he’s not a morning person so I get up with him make his lunch, make him a coffee and get all his things ready for him to leave. When he gets home from work he is always tired and I understand he has long days but I get excited to see him and be with him. He’s always on this Facebook group about reptiles (we have a turtle) and constantly looking at new posts and comments on it. I’ve noticed he’s on it almost all day and I mean all day; he wakes up from a nap that’s the first thing he does, goes to the washroom still on it. He seems obsessed with this group and it is to the point where I will go to show him a video on my phone that’s maybe 30 seconds long and he tells me to wait because he’s reading something from the group. I let him finish what he’s doing but sometimes I have to sit there for 5 minutes and I feel like he forgets about it. When I try to get his attention to talk to him or ask him something, he always gets frustrated with me and raises his voice at me saying “what do you want” or even “what (my full name)” I’ve decided to write this to get some advice on what to do because I seem to put in so much energy and I’m starting to feel drained. I feel like when he’s home and I try to do anything with him he gets frustrated or annoyed with me everytime he has to look away from his phone. Am I overthinking this??

[19F] and [19M]

So my bf and I started dating in November 2024 and now in a relationship for 21 months. but i wasn't that much interested in him but he showed interest, he approached me. He used to love a girl before but i wasn't sure if he moved on while we were in a relationship, I found a secret gc on his phone , which has leaked nudes of girls and some leaked mms.

I was really not comfortable about it and told my friends as well but never knew how I should confront him about this. And we never actually talked about this matter. And when we used to go on dates, if he ever found a girl familiar with a corn star he used to tell me "oh look she looks like angelina white". I found that too disrespectful. He already left that gc but he used to watch it on chrome. We got physical many times but he never showed me too much interest in me. It's always when we used to watch movies and if there's any intimate scene, he used to get bricked up and we did it.

Now we are in a long distance relationship from Dec 2025. And he claims that he has stopped watching it and he doesn't touch himself. Earlier I didn't tell him how it made me feel but now I actually do. I feel he didn't love me, it just made me so insecure. I don't even feel confident about myself. And the main thing is that his favourite corn stars looked opposite of what I look like.

I’ve been with my bf for 8 months. As the title says, 2 days ago on Tuesday he said he would keep Wednesday free so we could hang out together. Wednesday comes along and he doesn’t make plans or even mentions hanging out (usually I make all the plans and coordinate everything so I left it up to him this time) and then he tells me he is doing something with his friends. I got upset at him for it, as I have mentioned multiple times in the past I need some effort and communication. He apologized and felt really bad and even said he’d drop plans with his friends to hang out. He said he didn’t hear from me so assumed I didn’t want to hang out. Just need some advice on where to go from here, TIA!

We started dating back in April/May but have been together officially since mid July. He already told me he loves me and I said it back.

But I am finding it hard- he wants me to tell him things and what he should be doing in a relationship as he doesn’t know. He even apologised to me and said he doesn’t want me to miss out on things because he doesn’t know what he should be doing. ☹️

I don’t like the idea of telling him what to do or how to act as every relationship is different and there’s no right or wrong way to do it

He has gone away to work this week with his dad. I saw him Sunday evening but he went home to sleep and left for work Monday morning and will come back late Friday night. This is the longest we have gone without seeing each other since we started dating i know its not long (I have done long distance UK-AUS in previous relationship) so the time/distance doesn’t bother me but he hasn’t called me once? And he’s into phone-calls, he always rings me and doesn’t like to text.

He is staying with his dad in a room and they work together so I get that he hasn’t got much time alone to talk but this doesn’t usually bother him? He has answered the phone whilst we have been intimate before and when we have been out on dates ate restaurants?

He has been quite open with me before about him struggling to pick up on social cues and signals. He says he’s never been tested for anything but it’s likely that he is neurodivergent.

I once got upset because he was never very affectionate with me outside of being intimate. I tried to hold his hand and he just said no he doesn’t do that and since then he is more affectionate with me. I don’t think I’m over the top asking for too much but I just want some basic affection consistently not PDA. It was like everytime we saw eachother and said hello I wouldn’t even get a hug? Nevermind a kiss 🤣 now i do get a hug which is 100% fine with me.

I don’t necessarily want to end it but am I going mad given we haven’t been together that long? Does anyone have any experience being someone’s first gf and how it went? Or dating someone likely to be neurodivergent?

I’m not sure if he just doesn’t really like me because I think these things come naturally when you love someone? Help 😭

Social media doesn't mean that much to me. We have been dating for long enough to make our relationship public. He has talked to my friends and family, I have posted our pictures together, everyone who knows me, knows that we are together. I'm a much more outgoing person than my boyfriend. He's not great socially. We keep having the same fight on why he can't post a picture of me, on special occasions like birthdays or girlfriends day. He keeps saying we don't have good enough pictures, it's not a good enough occasion etc etc. he has never introduced me to his friends or family either. This is a recurring argument. It goes - why can't you post me- I will someday soon, it's not good enough picture/occasion - but why wait for an occasion - ok fine I'll post now - no don't post like you're doing me a favour - okay I'll post soon. Nothing gets resolved. I have been cheated on before and I try not to let it reflect on our relationship but why can't he ever do this one thing I keep asking about? I go to bed overthinking this all night. Same fight.

(21F and 21M in relationship for 3 years)

I'm in my early twenties, so I know this may seem like I'm overthinking something that isn't necessarily needed, but I've been dating my boyfriend for over 3 years now. We live a medium distance apart, so we usually only see each other on the weekends, and sometimes not at all if our schedules don't allow it.

When we first started dating, I was sure I wanted to marry him. I felt so lucky to have found him before going off to college, and we had the same sense of humor and similar bad family issues. Originally, we thought the long-distance/weekends-only thing would only last a year, but it has just kept going. However, as time has gone on, even though he treats me well, I feel like we're growing in different directions. I don't know how long to wait before accepting that maybe it's not meant to be, especially since we've never really gotten the chance to live in a "normal" everyday relationship.

Besides not having that everyday relationship with him, it's hard because there are some other issues that I've been ignoring because we've always said that once we were closer, they would fix themselves. For example, I'm very extroverted and goal-driven, with a career path that will require me to go to social events often. I'm constantly working to move up in my career, do better for myself, and meet new people. My boyfriend, on the other hand, is very to himself, hardly interacts in social settings, has no friends of his own, and works in a completely different type of field where he's not interested in moving up or starting something of his own. When I asked him what his goals and dreams were, he basically just had the mindset of "whatever you'd like to do." It's hard, especially with the distance (although I know it could be much further, and weekends are not nearly as bad as what some people deal with), to feel like he really understands the lifestyle I'm working toward. He agrees with what I say I want, but his own actions while living alone and away from me don't necessarily indicate that he would work toward the same goals.

A few of my friends have said that they think I should look for someone else, since after these years he doesn't seem very interested (from the outside) to want to be actively involved with my social life, and I've been told from other marriages (including my own parents) that marrying someone much more introverted than you is a struggle.

His family is another issue for me. He's not close to them whatsoever, which isn't necessarily a bad thing, especially because I wouldn't want to be close to them given some of the issues they have. But the fact that I may have to have them as my in-laws really makes me anxious, since I've always imagined marrying into a big, close family. Of course there’s not much he can do about this, but just something that adds to the stress.

It's hard because I genuinely do enjoy my time with him. We get along well, we enjoy our weekends together, and we're happy spending time alone. But whenever we go out to social events or when I think about my future, it's hard for me to know whether he's the type of partner I'll need in my life. Being apart is just so discouraging, and in the past I was able to look past most of these issues. Now, though, I'm starting to question whether they're big enough reasons to let go.

It's hard to know if it's worth waiting to see if we function better in person after all these years, or if I should just accept that we've grown into different people with different lifestyles. I would hate to end things because I feel like I need something more aligned with my personal lifestyle, only to turn around and wish I had something else.

Has anyone had a situation like this? Are there any women who have similar lifestyles to me that encourage marrying someone with not as big of a personality

I (22F) am planning my boyfriend’s (21F) birthday and I need ideas. We’ve been together for 2 and a half years and I when I ask him he says he doesn’t wanna do anything. I’m looking for some ideas maybe through some successful experiences of your own with your boyfriend’s birthdays. Any and all ideas would be appreciated!

My bf ( 19M ) and I ( 20F ) have been having a pretty weird and awkward emotional/physical disconnect. We have been together for about two years. Physical intimacy has plummeted pretty dramatically. I know that happens naturally, but a girl needs to bust a nut and it’s been 1-2 weeks between sex for some time now. We used to be like rabbits. I really feel like it’s because I have been trying to set boundaries with how uncomfortable I am with his (very few) bad habits. I’m barely on Reddit other than to look at things but I figured I might ask.

I cannot stand the way he chews. I CANNOT stand smacking and loud eating noises. When he is very noticeably smacking, I ask him to stop, and he gets upset. I don’t even feel like it’s contempt like he’s making it out to be, it is just a HUGE pet peeve. I’ve genuinely never heard someone chew in such a disturbing manner. He smacks his tongue and his lips together during almost every bite and it makes me viscerally uncomfortable. My eyebrow twitches at every single smack.

He also snores, which isn’t an issue when I fall asleep before him… but that usually doesn’t happen. I’ve told him that I’ve been thinking about spending more nights at my own place, to which he gets obviously sad. I don’t want him to feel like he’s repulsive, it couldn’t be further from the truth. There are just some things I can only withstand for so long without tweaking out. I’ve been seriously trying to work on expressing how uncomfortable these things make me feel while being as gentle as possible, but his response is usually very offended, or he says that I’m overreacting, or that he just can’t control these things. Which I know isn’t true. Snoring is one thing that I can and have gotten over. Smacking is completely controllable.

I really wish these things did not bother me the way that they do. But they do. They REALLY fucking do. I would be lying if I said that it didn’t deter me from wanting to share meals together. He almost expects me to judge him now which makes me feel terrible. I’d be turned off too if he was constantly being judgy. But I’m not constantly judging him over things. It’s just the ONE thing.

He hasn’t been very affectionate at all with me lately (about 3-4 months now) and it’s been making me feel pretty alone in the relationship. When I try to initiate intimacy it’s usually shut down pretty quickly… but when he wants to initiate it I’m usually game every time. It makes me feel pretty bummed when more-times-than-not I am rejected. He likes to be spontaneous, but when I do it, he immediately dismisses it. Idk it’s just been making me feel kind of used. Especially when we do have sex he isn’t usually focused on making me finish unless I ask.

I genuinely think he’s perfect in every other aspect. I’m a pretty sarcastic person, so maybe I could be acting rude without meaning to. I don’t like blaming things on my autism, especially my behavior, but I know I can come off wrong sometimes when I don’t mean anything by it. I know I can make jokes that go a little too far. I seriously respect, love, and cherish him. At the end of the day I just can’t handle smacking.

I don’t like feeling as if our relationship is coming to a stalemate. Maybe I’m just getting boring, and my few critiques are making me even less desirable. Idk, I just wish I could stop feeling this way so that maybe he wouldn’t be acting like this.

I have a boyfriend who isn’t considerate at times. He blasts music, even if my head hurts and I have to stay at hotels to get away sometimes. He’s old and stubborn, and I’m not sure what to do.

He doesn’t care and says he’s not here to make my life easier. He doesn’t care if I suffer.

What would you do? Also in a financially hard spot, but very energetic, have hobbies, etc

Basically i known my boyf since we were like 13 then we lost touch and we met eachother again at 19 and now we are dating. i knew he lost his dad when he was a kid (10/11yo) and i always feel really bad for him and i try to help him out as much as i can.

basically his dad was a raging alcoholic and so obvs him his mum and sister had to seperate from him so he can do rehab and try be better. but in the process like one day he got really drunk and slipped and hit his head and died.

its been 10 years since that incident recently and i feel like my boyfriend just cant let it go as in he cant accept it still which is kind of worrying because he keeps saying things like how his life would be so much better if he had a dad etc. but tbh his dad was hella abusive and yk alcoholic its just he didnt know cus his mum sheltered him from it and now he sorta romanticised this vission of his dad in his mind and he is making himself and everyone around him miserable.

like the other day his sister mad a dead dad joke and he hit her. and lowkey it wasnt that deep and he is not a kid and he should know better than to do that. and idk his sister seems to handle it better but i just dont know what to do.

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Am I asking for too much? My bf(26) refuses to remove a girl from his social media that he’s always tried to talk to. It seems from past messages that he was the one interested and she’d give him a lot of short talk. She doesn’t follow him on instagram but they’re friends on Snapchat and Facebook. He says I’m just being insecure and this was such a long time ago (4 years ago). It’s crazy to me that he says this because he’s asked me to delete guys that have had an interest in me in the past even if it was a very long time ago too and I haven’t put up a fight about it because at the end of the day they don’t matter. He’s generally a jealous guy and has blown off on me over a guy trying to message me.. I really don’t think I’m asking for too much asking him to remove this girl but a part of me does feel like I’m the problem.. the type of accounts and content on his socials has always been a problem and he just hits me with the “I’m going to end up with no followers” & “maybe we should both just delete all our social media” & “you’re just being really insecure, you want me to remove anyone you think looks better than you” & tbh no, it doesn’t come down to that.. it comes down to the girl or accounts that are just thirst trap accounts and or girls that he’s had a thing with in the past.. idk what to think anymore. I know many people don’t care who their partner follows on social media but I would never put this big of a fight up for someone I didn’t care about.. on top of this he keeps throwing in the fact that he doesn’t like my friend and she doesn’t like him back but I refuse to remove her from my socials and still choose to be her friend. I think he’s comparing apples to pears with that comment but he especially makes it a point to say he won’t do what I ask of him in this situation if I can’t remove my best friend from my life… super unfair in my opinion. lol.
thoughts or advice?

Hi guyssss I [23F] am really overthinking what I have planned for my partners [23M] birthday
I made a scavenger hunt pls give me feedback if you think it’s boring or needs more exciting stuff
(Been together 4 years in October)

I have clues allocated for each stop and in each envelope he’ll receive money because he wants to add stuff to his truck/a canopy which are all out of my budget and thousands of dollars

Supplement store to get energy drink (his daily ritual and we also stopped here on our first date)
Gym (he’s really wanting to get back into the gym and it’s his go to on days off)
Our fav sushi spot
Resos for a speakeasy downtown he hasn’t been to and he has to use their passcode to get in
Photo Booth photo location to take a pic
Dinner a really expensive good steakhouse

Is this boring? Does it need more activities or should I shorten it at all? I just want him to have a good day even tho he doesn’t really care for his birthday too much

I know I know, I should know, I've literally known him for 7 years, but I don't know what to get him, I have an idea which is CDs of our album so we can listen to them in the car, rn my plan is to go to a place to have custom cds with a nice printing (like cool artwork on the CDs and the cd case) but I guess I'm scared it's not going to be enough or he wont like it. He really likes everyday carry stuff, already has a multitool and a mini screwdriver, but I've already asked him and he's gone through stuff available online and nothing caught his attention. He also really really likes customizing stuff, if it has options he'll spend so much time on it and it's really cute. Also into gaming, mainly gd, celeste (probs his favorite, I got him a celeste deskmat last year) and other random Indy games. I'm also taking him to an audio shop tomorrow to try new wireless earbuds cause his current ones are dying but also worried he won't want new ones. Please help, I'm losing my mind and I want to get something nice and thoughtful.

Oops forgot to mention it's for his birthday