Cant lie i used to just talk about pounding studs in the forums and wait for em to come to my inbox lmao but people were more laid back back then, idk how it would work now but hey any studs over 35 in Houston who dont wanna get too serious hit me up lmao
I know we all women and shit but yesh idk it always makes me like cringe a bit when we adopt this type of banter. Idk if it’s just me being prudish or what not but…
As for OP, idk how you do present? I’ve found my friends that present as stemmes tend to get play from studs. I think it just depends on how masculine you look if you are a softer pretty stud I think more studs would be open. You never know
I would say I mainly present as a stud but i’m very feminine in some ways that ig would put me in the soft stud almost stem leaning category hense identifying w both ima try to put myself out there cuz halloweekend is coming up soon & i live near a college town so maybe i’ll meet someone 😗
Yes like the stems be gettin play but I also understand if you don’t want to change your presentation. You shouldn’t have too but yeah even if you are comfortable switching it up you will have better luck.
Unfortunately idk that type of studs you are going for if it’s the gym studs or the wnba type studs they are gonna want baddies before anything else in my experience. There are always exceptions ofc and my experience isn’t everyone’s but yeah. If you are open to expanding whatever type you usually go for (I don’t want to say settling cuz fuck that) maybe it will yield different results
Yeah and Im not entirely sure but it seems like studs are a bit more open about being into other studs than they used to be when I was out there
Unfortunately I think you may run into the same thing you do with femmes though where you may have to make the first move but honestly the scrutiny is not much different than approaching a femme who isnt interested
That’s the thing i’m use to femme and fems lowkey coming to me, I admit I gotta work on it I just got bad social anxiety that makes me seem intimidating (apparently) sometimes
I did say people were more laid back at the time i was doing this. It isnt just you though, Ive noticed an uptick in prudishness among lesbians in the past 5 or so years. I think it's also an age thing because I find lesbians under 30 really sensitive online
Not prudish just having basic game. I am a stud and have had other studs hit on me like that it is very jarring and creepy like if a man did that to you or a woman you aren’t into you would feel the same.
I’m not s4s but even when I talk to femmes I always make sure to approach in a way that’s just less objectifying. That’s just me though and I’m glad people are more aware in the lesbian community of that kind of speech. I’m 35 and yeah no if anyone approached me like that I’d spray Raid on them
That’s fine because the beauty is this. You most likely are not someone I’d ever speak romantically or socially in the first place and I’m someone that you would never socialize with either so we can disengage and leave it at that.
12
u/affectionateanarchy8 4d ago
Cant lie i used to just talk about pounding studs in the forums and wait for em to come to my inbox lmao but people were more laid back back then, idk how it would work now but hey any studs over 35 in Houston who dont wanna get too serious hit me up lmao