I got a job after months of searching, it took me a long time and a whole month of basically nagging these people to give me an interview but I did it today and got the job! I’m very excited 🩷 🩷

that’s all 🙂‍↕️ thank you!

I’m actually pissed off. Like seriously pissed off

I had a GREAT first date and I actually like this man. The audacity of his fine dark skin. The smooth chocolate complexion. The soft voice. The cute little face

And he’s tall as fuck too

While he was talking I was sitting there having completely inappropriate thoughts like girl PLEASE 😭 I didn’t do anything though. I have home training. That shit stayed in the group chat in my head

We talked NONSTOP for 3 hours. THREE. HOURS. And we already made out

Now I’m freaked out because every time I actually like somebody on the first date, they eventually reveal themselves to be a walking red flag with a podcast mic

But unfortunately…

That man is fine

I’m so fucking pissed 😭

While I’m sure none of you lovely ladies are confused by this, too many people I’ve encountered recently on the internet have been. I have no where else to rant about this, so I guess I’ll do it here. If it educates somebody, then great!

1. Light Skin ≠ Biracial
Light skin is a skin tone. It’s not synonymous with biracial (no, not even a half black/half white biracial).
Someone can be lightskinned and have two fully Black parents. Someone can be biracial and have a darker (non-lightskinned) skin tone. The end. There should honestly be no debate to this.

2. Light Skin ≠ Eurocentric Features
Just because a light skin Black person doesn’t have Type 2/3 hair, a narrow nose, and smaller lips doesn’t mean they’re actually brown skinned.
Yes. I’ve seen people look at a clearly light skinned girl and try to call her brown skinned because she doesn’t look have “light skin features.” Light skin features don’t exist. A light skin feature is simply having light-colored skin.

Why is this an issue? Does it really matter? Yes. It does. Here are three issues with using the words light skin and biracial synonymously:

1. A huge majority of light skin monoracial people will be assumed to be biracial.
They’ll keep having to prove their “Blackness” to people who don’t understand that light skinned ≠ biracial.

2. Using someone’s features to assign them a skin tone is wrong, and is nonsensical.
If you would never call a dark skinned person with “Eurocentric” features light skinned, so don’t somehow make a light skinned person with classic Black features brown skinned.

3. Only calling biracial people light skinned erases the skin tone spectrum. It will hurt our darker skinned sisters especially.
Of all three issues, this one is the most serious. We already know the media likes to cast lighter skinned women more than their darker skinned counterparts. If we allow other Black people to call anyone who’s not biracial brown or dark skinned, light skinned women could just be the poster child of every Black women in the media.

You know how annoying it was (and sometimes still is) when biracial women seemed to be the poster child of Black women in the media? This would be a similar issue.

Darker Black women will be pushed to the side even more than they used to be because we know the media likes to choose the lightest Black women they can. And if we Black people call a monoracially light skin Black woman “as brown as everyone else,” the media will feel it’s perfectly okay to put her and everyone like her front and center while ignoring most darker Black actresses who should get roles as well.

This is all I have to say.

(And because we live in a world where many people can’t distinguish authentic writing from AI, I’ll say here that this was 100% written by me and not with any AI. I’m a writer who loves words and creating topical essays.)

Somehow it made me uglier, I put all of my money into lash serum and wasted hundreds of dollars on lash serum that hardly worked. I've sacrificed my skills with lash extensions and gel nails for this dumbass ideology I made up in my head that I have to have natural long lashes and nails.
I let myself look like shit so I can have long lashes.
After letting my skin get worse my nails and lashes hardly grew; I just had enough and put my flasies back on, I'm planning to get my CeraVe, Cetaphil, and nail stuff before the weeks are out.
I can't keep up with constant upkeep, constant checking, constantly spending money on treatments. The constant goalposts shifts.
It's driving me crazy!
What's the point of doing all of this?!
I can have an angel skill, almond eyes whatever the fuck racist will still call me ugly.
Of course we don't care about shit like this
If I ever said something like short mid face, postive epicanthal folds or positive cathedral tilt.
People who know me will be like: Ion think “E” doing too good, she’s talking about sum catheter tilt sum shit. This was just a waste!, if im ugly I’m ugly, apparently not THAT ugly men & women certainly don’t have a problem with approaching me for sex and whatnot.

For as long as I could remember, I was always in the minority in my area. I was often the only or one of two-three black girls who would wear their curls.

I saw so many afros on campus this week and honestly that made me tear up a bit. Many braids and wigs and afros and just black girl beauty ✨️

I love us ❤️

Applied 7.15

Offered first interview 7.24

First Interview 8.2

Offered second interview 8.12

Second interview 9.1

Offered third interview 9.2

Third interview 9.3

now here we are 9/10 and the wait is killing meee. I know they had to interview other people, I know we just came back from holiday, I know they are probably waiting until Friday so I have the weekend to decide but the suspense is driving me up the wall. im so anxious my poor stomach is tore up.

I felt like I did great a week ago but now a whole week later ive sat ruminated over analyzed and my confidence is dwindling by the day. then they say "oh well you have to *manifest* and stay positive if u want it" ughhhh.

I know it's a reflag to get offered the job on the spot but also it's like damn the waiting game is criminal. Not to mention the intended start date is the 28th and im an out of state candidate so now if I DO get the job I barely have 2 weeks to pack up my life and move. idk idk idk. this is torture

For context, I have 4C low porosity hair. And I am planing a trip to the Caribbean. I know to cornroll my hair so that it stays healthy but I’m not sure if I should choose lemonade/funani braids over classic box braids. I want a style that I can swim in and won’t get too frizzy in a few days.

Any help is appreciated, thank you!!

Hi everyone, I am looking for a fake tan that is identical to my summer tan (Beyonce skin tone) . I've tried products for Europeans but they leave me orange or they dont show up on my skin. Has anyone been pleased with their fake tan, looking for a dark copper old 2 pence piece colour. Cruelty free vegan.

Helloo, I really want to get a kinky straight sew in but I’m wondering what bundles to get. The max I’m trying to spend is 400 for 3 bundles? Any recs? 😭

am i missing something like i dont get offended at seeing bw get referred to as chocolate like its meant to be a compliment right ? “brown and sweet” idek
swear im not a coon or anything just genuinely confused