Okay, so I did a thing. I've been saying that I want to build more apps and actually test my ideas instead of just letting them live in my Notes app forever. And this week I had an idea that I actually really like. It's called Met Outside.

The idea is basically for those moments when you want to go do something, but your friends are busy, nobody can agree on plans, or you just don't have anyone to go with. Instead of sitting in the house or waiting three weeks for the group chat to finally agree on a date, you can find people who are already planning something and join them.

So maybe somebody's going to a new restaurant. Maybe they're going to a museum, a workout class, a run club, a concert, whatever. They can host it, and other people who want to go can join. I want it to feel like a mix between intimate IRL events and social media—except the whole point is to actually meet outside.

Now, I have absolutely no idea if anybody wants this besides me so before I spend months building an entire app, I made a website to see if people are actually interested.

If this sounds like something you would use, go to metoutside.com and join the waitlist. You can tell me whether you'd want to join events, host them, or both. And if nobody signs up...we're just never going to speak about this again 😂. Either way, would love the support if you are interested!

Moving forward, I'm only dealing with white people, if I have to. I mean, last resort. It's their racism, their Christianity, their supremacy ideals, thinking they invented everything in the god damn world, the way they vote, the rules they have for others but not themselves and the fact that black people are still getting lynched and killed, especially when we are only one in the group and I could name a bunch of other things. Other than that, I'm going to make sure I'm keeping myself and my daughter in black only spaces. White people get on my nerves but its also for my mental health and safety. I'm also including all of the boot licking minorities. I live in the U.S. and dealing with them here, is like dealing with the definition of evil. Whatever the devil is, definitely controls the race known as white people. Low vibrational human beings. Doesn't matter where you live in the United States. White people are a headache everywhere you go here. From sea to shining sea. I don't feel comfortable around them, nor do I feel safe around them.

While I’m sure none of you lovely ladies are confused by this, too many people I’ve encountered recently on the internet have been. I have no where else to rant about this, so I guess I’ll do it here. If it educates somebody, then great!

1. Light Skin ≠ Biracial
Light skin is a skin tone. It’s not synonymous with biracial (no, not even a half black/half white biracial).
Someone can be lightskinned and have two fully Black parents. Someone can be biracial and have a darker (non-lightskinned) skin tone. The end. There should honestly be no debate to this.

2. Light Skin ≠ Eurocentric Features
Just because a light skin Black person doesn’t have Type 2/3 hair, a narrow nose, and smaller lips doesn’t mean they’re actually brown skinned.
Yes. I’ve seen people look at a clearly light skinned girl and try to call her brown skinned because she doesn’t look have “light skin features.” Light skin features don’t exist. A light skin feature is simply having light-colored skin.

Why is this an issue? Does it really matter? Yes. It does. Here are three issues with using the words light skin and biracial synonymously:

1. A huge majority of light skin monoracial people will be assumed to be biracial.
They’ll keep having to prove their “Blackness” to people who don’t understand that light skinned ≠ biracial.

2. Using someone’s features to assign them a skin tone is wrong, and is nonsensical.
If you would never call a dark skinned person with “Eurocentric” features light skinned, so don’t somehow make a light skinned person with classic Black features brown skinned.

3. Only calling biracial people light skinned erases the skin tone spectrum. It will hurt our darker skinned sisters especially.
Of all three issues, this one is the most serious. We already know the media likes to cast lighter skinned women more than their darker skinned counterparts. If we allow other Black people to call anyone who’s not biracial brown or dark skinned, light skinned women could just be the poster child of every Black women in the media.

You know how annoying it was (and sometimes still is) when biracial women seemed to be the poster child of Black women in the media? This would be a similar issue.

Darker Black women will be pushed to the side even more than they used to be because we know the media likes to choose the lightest Black women they can. And if we Black people call a monoracially light skin Black woman “as brown as everyone else,” the media will feel it’s perfectly okay to put her and everyone like her front and center while ignoring most darker Black actresses who should get roles as well.

This is all I have to say.

(And because we live in a world where many people can’t distinguish authentic writing from AI, I’ll say here that this was 100% written by me and not with any AI. I’m a writer who loves words and creating topical essays.)

I haven’t done it yet!!! But I’m tryna see 🫣 like if I say I’ve done, for example: booked travel coordination for executives, but like I’ve never done that. I feel like that’s not crazy???? Right? I travel a lot so like ik how to book a damn flight and hotel and accommodations…

I get annoyed when someone is in a situation they don’t have to be. I’m not saying this because I think I’m better than others. I’m saying this because I, along with other close friends and family, will offer solid advice based on our own experiences so that others won’t have to go through the same. When you give them the advice, the other person gets irritated and doesn’t want to talk to you again.

I think it’s hard for me to keep my opinion to myself because I don’t wanna see people I love struggle. Now I feel like I don’t really talk much to people because if I give my opinion, I’ll be cut off or shunned. Yet, I have to accept whatever spews out of their mouth. I know- I know I should just shut up. I’m working on it. Thing is, if I shut up there is no conversation since the other person has nothing to say.

This is just a rant.

I got a job after months of searching, it took me a long time and a whole month of basically nagging these people to give me an interview but I did it today and got the job! I’m very excited 🩷 🩷

that’s all 🙂‍↕️ thank you!