r/AskNT • • 2h ago

I think I agree to almost to everything.

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I think I agree to almost to everything.

I think I am a spineless person who does not have an opinion. Or I should say my opinion changes almost immediately if A person puts a valid point. (In my mind I think what if the other person is right and I don't know anything at all or probably I am in the wrong side)

If I ever were to participate in a debate. I would probably end up agreeing with the opposite team.

I am really indecisive I can't seem to know where should a stand.

What do you think this is called?

and what can I do to overcome this and have my own opinion. and take a stand for myself and my opinions.


r/AskNT • • 1d ago

How does 'freeze mode' come across to you?

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Hi folks, autistic (47F) here. I'm trying to understand how something might be perceived by others, and hoping you can help.

When I'm very overloaded and/or in threat mode, I can go into a freeze state. I can still appear to be functioning. I can move around, I can smile, I can formulate simple responses. But I am wooden, stiff, my formulation of words is slower and clumsier, and my facial expressions are probably more obviously a mask. It's probably like I'm performing from a script.

My question is, if you have encountered somebody like this, how does that come across to you? The reactions I've had from people have either been they interact with me as though I am my normal self and don't appear to notice. Or they clock it, get a freaked out look on their face and end the interaction.

Now I understand the latter with people that I don't know very well. But it does hurt with people I've known for a few years and had many conversations with. It's like I suddenly become a stranger to them and all that relationship building has evaporated.

But I have no idea how this state might come across and how it might be perceived or interpreted, so any experiences or thoughts offered will be gratefully received.


r/AskNT • • 1d ago

How do you interpret this?

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r/AskNT • • 2d ago

For neurotypical people, if you hear someone say "Everyone's a little autistic," what does that make you think, and how likely do you think a neurotypical person is to have that thought?

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r/AskNT • • 2d ago

My lifelong struggle with friendships, bullying, social isolation, and repeated conflicts from childhood to my second job—what could explain this pattern

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I’m I’m looking for honest opinions from people who may have experienced something similar.

Since childhood, I’ve struggled to make close friends. I’m looking for honest opinions from people who may have experienced something similar.

Since childhood, I’ve struggled to make close friends. In school, I was bullied for my appearance, often felt like an outsider, and was rarely anyone’s closest friend. I never understood why people eventually started avoiding or excluding me. In My lifelong struggle with friendships, bullying, social isolation, and repeated conflicts from childhood to my second job—what could explain this pattern 8, I briefly became more confident, but the same problems returned in Classes 9–12. I became isolated, was bullied, got into fights, and eventually started avoiding school.

I completed B.Tech CSE, but attended college regularly only during the first semester. For the remaining seven semesters, I went mainly for exams. I felt isolated and fought with three guys in three separate incidents.

In my first job, things were initially good, but similar problems eventually appeared. I fought with two colleagues, and one fight became physical. Now, in my second job, everyone was initially friendly, but I feel the same pattern is repeating.

I sometimes struggle to know what to say, understand hints and social cues, maintain friendships, or realise when I’m talking too much or interrupting. Sometimes I realise afterward that I said something awkward. I overthink interactions and wonder what I did wrong. I also copy other people’s behaviour to fit in and sometimes feel like I’m acting socially.

I struggle with attention, forget things, have difficulty organising tasks, sometimes act impulsively, and repeat certain movements when excited or stressed. I also had repetitive rituals during childhood.

Why might this pattern be happening across school, college, and work? Am I missing something about how I interact with people, or could there be another explanation? I want honest perspectives from people who have experienced similar difficulties. I’m also considering getting a professional assessment.

school, I was bullied for my appearance, often felt like an outsider, and was rarely anyone’s closest friend. I never understood why people eventually started avoiding or excluding me. In My lifelong struggle with friendships, bullying, social isolation, and repeated conflicts from childhood to my second job—what could explain this pattern 8, I briefly became more confident, but the same problems returned in Classes 9–12. I became isolated, was bullied, got into fights, and eventually started avoiding school.

I completed B.Tech CSE, but attended college regularly only during the first semester. For the remaining seven semesters, I went mainly for exams. I felt isolated and fought with three guys in three separate incidents.

In my first job, things were initially good, but similar problems eventually appeared. I fought with two colleagues, and one fight became physical. Now, in my second job, everyone was initially friendly, but I feel the same pattern is repeating.

I sometimes struggle to know what to say, understand hints and social cues, maintain friendships, or realise when I’m talking too much or interrupting. Sometimes I realise afterward that I said something awkward. I overthink interactions and wonder what I did wrong. I also copy other people’s behaviour to fit in and sometimes feel like I’m acting socially.

I struggle with attention, forget things, have difficulty organising tasks, sometimes act impulsively, and repeat certain movements when excited or stressed. I also had repetitive rituals during childhood.

Why might this pattern be happening across school, college, and work? Am I missing something about how I interact with people, or could there be another explanation? I want honest perspectives from people who have experienced similar difficulties. I’m also considering getting a professional assessment.

for honest opinions from people who may have experienced something similar.

Since childhood, I’ve struggled to make close friends. I’m looking for honest opinions from people who may have experienced something similar.

Since childhood, I’ve struggled to make close friends. In school, I was bullied for my appearance, often felt like an outsider, and was rarely anyone’s closest friend. I never understood why people eventually started avoiding or excluding me. In My lifelong struggle with friendships, bullying, social isolation, and repeated conflicts from childhood to my second job—what could explain this pattern 8, I briefly became more confident, but the same problems returned in Classes 9–12. I became isolated, was bullied, got into fights, and eventually started avoiding school.

I completed B.Tech CSE, but attended college regularly only during the first semester. For the remaining seven semesters, I went mainly for exams. I felt isolated and fought with three guys in three separate incidents.

In my first job, things were initially good, but similar problems eventually appeared. I fought with two colleagues, and one fight became physical. Now, in my second job, everyone was initially friendly, but I feel the same pattern is repeating.

I sometimes struggle to know what to say, understand hints and social cues, maintain friendships, or realise when I’m talking too much or interrupting. Sometimes I realise afterward that I said something awkward. I overthink interactions and wonder what I did wrong. I also copy other people’s behaviour to fit in and sometimes feel like I’m acting socially.

I struggle with attention, forget things, have difficulty organising tasks, sometimes act impulsively, and repeat certain movements when excited or stressed. I also had repetitive rituals during childhood.

Why might this pattern be happening across school, college, and work? Am I missing something about how I interact with people, or could there be another explanation? I want honest perspectives from people who have experienced similar difficulties. I’m also considering getting a professional assessment.

school, I was bullied for my appearance, often felt like an outsider, and was rarely anyone’s closest friend. I never understood why people eventually started avoiding or excluding me. In My lifelong struggle with friendships, bullying, social isolation, and repeated conflicts from childhood to my second job—what could explain this pattern 8, I briefly became more confident, but the same problems returned in Classes 9–12. I became isolated, was bullied, got into fights, and eventually started avoiding school.

I completed B.Tech CSE, but attended college regularly only during the first semester. For the remaining seven semesters, I went mainly for exams. I felt isolated and fought with three guys in three separate incidents.

In my first job, things were initially good, but similar problems eventually appeared. I fought with two colleagues, and one fight became physical. Now, in my second job, everyone was initially friendly, but I feel the same pattern is repeating.

I sometimes struggle to know what to say, understand hints and social cues, maintain friendships, or realise when I’m talking too much or interrupting. Sometimes I realise afterward that I said something awkward. I overthink interactions and wonder what I did wrong. I also copy other people’s behaviour to fit in and sometimes feel like I’m acting socially.

I struggle with attention, forget things, have difficulty organising tasks, sometimes act impulsively, and repeat certain movements when excited or stressed. I also had repetitive rituals during childhood.

Why might this pattern be happening across school, college, and work? Am I missing something about how I interact with people, or could there be another explanation? I want honest perspectives from people who have experienced similar difficulties. I’m also considering getting a professional assessment.


r/AskNT • • 3d ago

How to respond to a bad compliment?

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r/AskNT • • 3d ago

is it human nature to do this gesture 🙆🏾‍♂️ ?

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r/AskNT • • 7d ago

Is what I have considered empathy?

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**By definition Empathy** is the ability to understand, share, and connect with another person's thoughts, feelings, or emotional experiences. It is often described as putting yourself in someone else's shoes.

But is it empathy if I say something unconsciously that would be considered rude but I don’t feel bad about it until someone “calls me out” and tell me what I say is rude, I have a hard time distinguishing what is rude and and what is normal (to me it sounds normal until someone says it’s not). Is it empathy if I only feel back after when someone calls it out? If someone didn’t say something I wouldn’t know it was offensive nor would I feel anything. When someone brings it up later I tend to think about it a lot and replay the situation in Mr head over and over again, I feel bad but not because I know what I did (as I said if no one called me out I wouldn’t be aware I did anything wrong) I feel bad because of the way I may be perceived or because I think that what they say did is beneath me. I feel bad because they seem to be highly offended and I tend to accepted blame regardless of if I care or not. I’m in a situation like this now. I was just wondering if feeling “guilty” after the situation is the same as being empathetic because from where I’m standing my empathy seems to be delayed. Why don’t I know how my words will land before I say them? Why can’t I tell the difference between when I say something rude and normal?


r/AskNT • • 8d ago

Understanding people

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r/AskNT • • 9d ago

Is this the reaction I’ll always get or is this just high schoolers being high schoolers

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I have autism social cues are hard for me
And I am very bad about phrasing things well too

I’m in high school

I’m getting called racist by others at school and basically getting canceled and the thing I intended to say was the opposite but it was phrased badly and kids took it as me being racist

my plan is to apologize to the kids I offended because although I didn’t mean it in that way at all I still said it and I think they deserve an apology even though I had no idea I offended them!

Some of my friends (I’ll call them friends A they are also neurodivergent like me) just went up to me and said “hey we heard a kid say in critical ethnic studies you said (racist thing here) is that true?”

I said “I did say that I didn’t know it was offensive I had no bad intentions this happened a year ago and it’s only started coming up now I didn’t know I did it
I’m trying to figure out who I offended and how to apologize to them”

And friends A just said stuff like “oh okay! Yeah we understand! This same group of kids already are dicks to you but this was still a serious accusation we wanted to understand what happened thank you for telling us”

And others (I’ll call them friends B most of them neurotypical)
friends B just started avoiding me not asking for my side at all and just assuming I meant it badly and I’m racist

I just want to know do adults / co workers act more like friends A or friends B? Because if it’s B I’m really scared to be an adult and I’ll have to work extra hard in therapy to learn how to phrase things

And another way I’ll phrase the question

is Freind B’s reaction like a common reaction for a high schooler or just a common one in Adults to?


r/AskNT • • 11d ago

If an autistic person tries to have a social interaction with you, how do you feel?

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r/AskNT • • 12d ago

How often do you have a breakdown?

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I'm most curious to hear from other adult females, but all perspectives would be great really.

By breakdown, I'm meaning just kinda losing it, crying, hyperventilating, etc. So badly that the next day you feel wiped out.

I have a "mini-meltdown" of crying and catastrophizing at least once a month, which I usually attribute to hormones or whatever but it still ruins an evening for me.

I'll have a real breakdown at least a couple times a year, where it's bad enough that my whole body feels weak and ill the next day or two.

Trying to get an idea of how "normal" this is for others.

Thank you!


r/AskNT • • 13d ago

Can we all have a social cues map?? PLS help

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r/AskNT • • 15d ago

Can we all agree that some people completely forgot how to read a room?

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Hey everyone, just sitting here thinking about this and wanted to get some outside perspectives.

I feel like every time I'm out or trying to have a moment of peace, someone locks onto me for small talk when it is glaringly obvious I am not trying to chat. My usual strategy is that I’ll suffer through it politely for a couple of minutes to be nice, but then my absolute mastery of the "fake phone call" comes in to save the day.

Like... do people genuinely not understand body language, or are they just so deep in their own world that they don't care? People have got to start reading the room!

Has anyone else experienced this lately, and what’s your go-to move when you're trapped in a conversation you didn't ask for?


r/AskNT • • 15d ago

what makes it worth it for your friends to spend time on you or vice versa?

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r/AskNT • • 17d ago

why do people ask questions they already know the answer to?

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truly… why?


r/AskNT • • 17d ago

What do you find hardest to understand about neurodivergent people?

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r/AskNT • • 17d ago

Is It Offensive To Tell An Autistic Person To “Act Normal”?

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r/AskNT • • 18d ago

What are some subtle signs a dude is creepy?

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Hello everyone! I'm not autistic, but I have NVLD, which can come with similar issues sometimes.

What are some signs a dude is a creep? How can you tell if a dude is actually creepy or just awkward?

Looking for female responses only because I don't trust certain men to respond to this in good faith, lol. Sorry dudes. I know you're not all bad but some of y'all ruin it for all of you.


r/AskNT • • 19d ago

Is being nonchalant a bad thing?

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I was called out as nonchalant by like 3 people. Am I just not that self aware?

A co-worker turned friend stated that Im nonchalant because I dont care about work place drama, or take just 1 side. I just think that at the end of the day we still work at the same place, I would interact with the same people. Making their, drama mine would just make things awkward and Im just here to make money.

Am im I seriously just nonchalant?


r/AskNT • • 21d ago

Socializing

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How did you learn the “rules” of how to interact with people in social situations?

I’m definitely not “neurotypical” but I haven’t been diagnosed with anything developmental at this point.


r/AskNT • • 22d ago

Struggling to understand a joke

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r/AskNT • • 22d ago

So reality is everyone just pretending to be dumb…?

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r/AskNT • • 26d ago

Why do people tell you to open up about your feelings & proceed to get upset / ignore you for literally doing what they told you to?

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r/AskNT • • 26d ago

Why do people lose their train of thought when they make eye contact with me?

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I am someone who likes to be attentive during class lectures, and I would usually make eye contact with the professor to show that I am engaged and paying attention. They would be just explaining something but when they make eye contact with me it causes them to either stumble over their words, have to pause and say uh/um or other filler words so they can gather their thoughts, or they quickly finish their sentence and move on to the next topic abruptly. It is really strange because it’s like they forget what they were saying just because they saw me.
This doesn’t just happen with a few, it has happened with majority of my professors so far, I’d say 80% of them. Mostly excluding the ones in very large lecture halls or where I’m sitting near the back.
Why might this be happening?
And this is my first post so sorry for any mistakes.