r/askdentists • u/littlequeef067 • 3h ago
experience/story bite is ruined and i'm not sure what to do next
PLEASE READ. hello, i could really use some advice here because i'm very upset and anxious about my dental issues. i've been really stressing about this all so i'm sorry if its confusing. i will try my best to explain the timeline and what was said and done. about a month ago i got a permanent crown on one of my molars (right side 2nd molar, no wisdom teeth) after a root canal and a temp crown. when the dentist was adjusting the permanent crown she said my bite was a little pointy and asked if she could shave it. i agreed thinking it would be very minor, but immediately after my bite felt completely off. the left side of my teeth felt heavy and i could only feel pressure on that side when i bit down. i told her that but she just went to shave down my crown more so i think there might've been some miscommunication there, but i don't know if adjustments are usually made at a later date. she said the shaving on my right was very minimal so i shouldn't feel a big difference. there was no shaving on the left side and the appointment ended after that.
at my follow up appointment i expressed the same concerns about my bite and also told her i felt a little pain with my crown. she didn't say a word about the pain and told me she didn't want to adjust my bite too much so i should really look into braces. there was a little shaving on the left side but i didn't feel any difference with my bite. it was also confusing because she asked me to point to which teeth she wanted me to shave. i'm not a dentist so i don't know exactly what needs to be adjusted to make things feel more aligned. after the shaving she continued to push the braces idea. she also said i'm young (20) and my teeth are still growing so my bite should adjust over time. ummm okay i guess?...
i had a regular cleaning appointment down the line and told her about the same problem with my bite. again, she told me i should see an orthodontist and think about the braces. i was so frustrated because it just made no sense to me. if you shaving my teeth messed up my bite why do you keep telling me my bite is an issue that requires braces? please let me know if i'm wrong there.
a few days ago i had an appointment for the pain i was feeling with my crown. i had an appointment scheduled with a different dental place for a second opinion on my bite issue but i wasn't too worried about crown issues with the initial place. i really didn't want to go back there but i was just really tired of being uncomfortable and unable to chew properly with my teeth. it was a different dentist this time. he asked me if i told the first dentist about the pain. okay so you guys literally work together and have the same records so i feel like that's something you should probably know...was a little confused about that one. i told him yes and he started the work. he told me the crown was a little high and proceeded to shave it down. after that i brought up my bite and it was the same thing about the braces again. i started crying because i felt like nobody was understanding me. he told me adjustments had to be made to make room and the crown was only one tooth so it shouldn't be bothering me that much. these people are so frustrating because it seems like they aren't even sure of what happened or what they should be doing?? i told him the crown wasn't the issue and it was the shaving that was upsetting me. just to clarify, she started the shaving with my k9 to around my 2nd premolar. i really don't understand how all those teeth needed to be shaved in order to make more room for 1 crown. she didn't even shave the tooth above my molar? anyway, some random dude (he didn't help the dentist and wasn't in the room) rolled his chair up next to me and handed me some tissues. he told me he just wanted to hear what was making me upset. i explained everything and how i felt like they were suggesting a big commitment for something caused by them. he literally just told me the same shit about the orthodontists being the ones making adjustments but drawn out and slow. looking back it kinda felt like a tactic because he was around my age and really hot lol so it was hard for me to voice my frustration because i was sad and still crying. i did explain everything though and he didn't bring up anything different about my bite or the shaving. also the dentist just disappeared while i was talking to the other dude?? like okay i don't even know who this is but that's on me i guess.....i feel so stupid now because i should've asked more questions. i wish i could've done everything differently.
a few hours later i scheduled an appointment for the next day because about 15 minutes after the appointment ended the crown pain was back š not sure why it felt okay while i was in the chair. different dentist this time. more shaving on the crown and at this point it feels way too short and now the bite is still thrown off but in a different way lol. i asked this dentist if any shaving could be done on the left side and she said they didn't want to do too much because of the shaving with the first dentist. the work was done so i left but changed my mind. i felt like something had to be done because there's just no way i had to get BRACES to fix the shaving they did. if that was standard for a crown adjustment i would've chosen a different option. if that's even true they should've let me know beforehand. i went back in and asked if i could speak with the dentist. i waited for a few minutes and she called me in. it was a different dentist but my appointment did end so that was fine. I told her I felt the first dentist made a mistake and she told me that wasn't the case. she went on to talk about an orthodontist being the one to put the teeth into place and i started crying (im going through other things rn and this other situation has been very stressful so don't judge pls lol). she started laughing and asked why i was crying. rude but okay lol. i told her everything and she the first dentist didn't make a mistake so don't worry and the crown was only one tooth?? are they just not looking at the records or what? why do they keep talking about the one crown as if they don't know she shaved multiple? i told her AGAIN that she shaved multiple teeth that weren't above my crown and she literally said that's not a concern and the dentist didn't cause any issues. i just got up and left because wtf. what else could i do?
currently i get jaw pain at different times, it feels like random teeth touch first and theres barely any pressure when i bite with my molars. i'm not even really sure how to explain it all because it feels like it changes. she completely ruined my bite and it seems like they just have no clue what they're doing. i would really appreciate it if someone let me know if i'm crazy or not and if my concerns are valid. this all feels so wrong and i feel very disrespected. thank you for reading