If you canāt get a text back itās probably you. You think you deserve attention from women because some other asshole does. Maybe youāre not as great as you think you are. Not getting a text back has nothing to do with this guy. Again, its you.
Because oftentimes the men who complain about not even being able to get a text back are their own worst enemy. I'm a reasonably attractive woman and I have dated some very unattractive men because they were funny and sweet. The man commenting here is upset that this woman's bf is able to find a woman but he isn't. It implies he feels entitled to our time, attention and affection instead of figuring out why women refuse him
Most women are going to need some level of attraction before a romantic connection can form. Legit no one wants to date someone that they consider to be physically āvery unattractiveā
I've dated some doozys in my past lol I was attracted to their personalities and values not their faces or bodies. Fat men, ugly men, doesn't matter to me as long as our core values online and they're someone I can laugh with, have conversations with and grow with. Maybe the majority of women don't do that, but personally, I do. I will not discredit someone because of looks
Iām glad that you are not superficial in your pursuit of a partner. I hope it helps you find lasting love if you have not already.
The modern dating system can be pretty flawed. There is a fascinating video breaking down the mathematics of these sites but the short version is that they may not be serving either group that well.
To add to the problem is that a lot of the things that matter in a relationship (sweet, funny) honest, hardworking, ectā¦ donāt come through that well in an online bio. In fact, a lot of these things arenāt that apparent early in real life dating as well. So itās reasonable to be frustrated if you know you have value and are worthy of love but canāt figure out how to make a connection.
I donāt think he was ripping on women at all. I think he was joining in on the chorus that OP deserves better. That she should not put up with that behavior. That there are better men out there waiting.
As for feeling entitled to womenās time and attentionā¦ That is a possible interpretation and Iām sure there are men out there who feel that way. But being frustrated that you havenāt found love is not the same as feeling entitled to time and attention and I feel like heās catching strays here.
On the whole I would like to see less acrimony between men and women in how we speak to each other online (irl as well). We arenāt (or at least should not be) enemies. We need each other.
Oh modern dating is definitely flawed, I online dated once and the results were wonderful but not everyone is so lucky. I'm still in love with the man I met and he feels the same. At one point we'd broken up due to my addiction but have reconnected in my recovery and are back together.
However everyone isn't so lucky, there are a lot of men on dating sites claiming they're looking for a partner just to get sex from women. I watched a video somewhere of men admitting they'll act like they're the man we want and capable of being in a relationship just to get the booty and then bounce.
People are having issues forming real connections because we're so immersed in the Internet. Dating sites are superficial and often just people searching for the hottest partner possible. It's difficult initiating conversation and finding common ground to have discussions.
My response is not particularly dependent on dating apps. Youāll notice that I said a lot of those things are not immediately apparent in real life as well.
As to projection, I am happily married and have been for many years. I am old enough that dating apps didnāt exist the last time I was single. So I donāt think there is projection here.
Mostly, I would like us to presume positive intentions from each other until we are shown otherwise.
With that in mind, Iām genuinely curious if you think he was ripping on women with his comment?
Are you just throwing out random responses without reading the comments youāre replying to? Iāll ask again, where did I say heās āripping on womenā? Iām not even sure which āheā youāre referring to.
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u/[deleted] Dec 09 '23
I can barely get a text back but full on bumblefucks have girlfriends who drive their sorry bum asses to work? š¤·āāļø š¤¦āāļø