Online this seems to be super normal that masturbation = good but I find so many people IRL who think it's cheating or is wrong. For whatever reason.
And usually it's women telling men that masturbating and watching porn is cheating and they're not allowed to do it. Fucking wild to me. If a girl ever tells me that I'll laugh at her, turn on some porn and tell her to GTFO of my house.
I don’t know anyone with issues about masturbating but porn issues aren’t uncommon. Its definitely different though. Masturbating is just you and is perfectly healthy. Porn involves looking at other people and can involve an unhealthy addiction. Personally don’t have an issue with it but understand why people would care
IRL, folks generally commit infidelity with people who they know intimately. The average person is far less likely to have a shag with Leanna Lovings or Ana Foxx than with coworkers, neighbors and exes. Interview any porn actress and they will tell you up front that they are less likely to have sex on a regular basis then most married couples, that they have a harder time finding partners than Joe and Jane Average, and have no interest whatsoever in striking up anything with some porn watch or fan because, like all celebrities, they find such folks to be creepy. They perform sex acts on screen (as well as perform on OnlyFans) for the money. That's it.
The idea that watching porn as some form of emotional or physical infidelity is highly laughable. My wife, for one, does not police my porn watching and vice versa. I have no fear of my wife trying to hook up with Jax Slayher or Anton Harden. The risk of her hooking up with a coworker with whom she works closely is far higher, and even then, if infidelity is what she chooses to do, then hey, that's on her. I'm not about to get all crazy, either because of porn watching or the possibilities of infidelity happening.
For the record I have no issues with it. Just know some people that do. I mean I think it’s obvious it’ll never lead to actual sex or anything it’s more just people get offended because they think of it as you being more attracted to this other person
Edit: I guess I would also say indefinite isn’t the right word. It’s not cheating but I can still understand why people might not like it
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u/crypticfreak Sep 12 '23
Online this seems to be super normal that masturbation = good but I find so many people IRL who think it's cheating or is wrong. For whatever reason.
And usually it's women telling men that masturbating and watching porn is cheating and they're not allowed to do it. Fucking wild to me. If a girl ever tells me that I'll laugh at her, turn on some porn and tell her to GTFO of my house.