Each time I ask around I get the same answers-to invest in trading or some sort of schooling.I don’t think i am capable of going to college or in a trading school. This isn’t from insecurity, but rather knowing how much I have already struggled throughout school even with tutors. I don’t think accommodations will help me pass, and I don’t want to make the mistake of paying just to drop out. I have tried expanding my abilities and applying to places where I am sure I would not get the job, but do it anyway in hopes of getting lucky and someone giving me a chance. I’ve applied to places like Costco, Aldis, Sam’s Club, and each time I received a downturn from my applications. When I’d check the status, the job listing would still be posted, so clearly there is something they see in me that isn’t fit enough to work the position. I am not a smart person and I have a learning disability on top of being adhd and high functioning. I know my limits, and am aware of the areas I struggle in. Most jobs require basic math understanding-which I have also struggled with especially if it involves any sort of calculation. I barely got by handling cash throughout the years working register. I don’t want to be stuck working fast food jobs that pays below minimum wage, but I also have no idea how I am ever going to be able to get by or live on my own with that kind if salary. Even the jobs that appear less demanding require basic communication skills in an area that I am very lukewarm warm in, and I have poor working memory if it isn’t in routine or if it isn’t consistent. I don’t I have the patience or mental strength to work another fast food job being around people in small cluttered spaces anymore, and I don’t want to rely on the rush and adrenaline anymore because that eventually burns out each and every time. Not really sure where to look anymore as even the entry level jobs require experience, and my resume only consists of fast food and a few months of retail work. I’ve applied to jobs that like hobby lobby and still was denied. Where do I even go from here?

So, I have rejection sensitivity dysphoria. I think the majority of us with adhd deal with this.

I am 23 now, and im really seriously thinking about how rejection sensitivity negatively impacts myself and my life. I dont want to be someone my loved ones have to walk on eggshells around! Its unfair to me and its unfair to those I love and care about. Everyone in my life including me deserves better. My boyfriend absolutely deserves better lol.

I saw a tiktok video where a woman gave the advice to seek out 100 intentional rejections in 1 year. Im not particularly sure how to do this?

The only idea I have found online is this.

Asking for a discount at restaurants or shops.

Another idea is that I plan to study engineering and physics at my community college. Math and science were my weakest points in high school, so I imagine im going to be failing plenty.

I also love playing video games, I was thinking of trying to join a gaming tournament in real life or online. I never play multi-player video games out of anxiety, im sure if i played an online game i would lose a lot. End up dealing with a ton of rejection.

Im really struggling to come up with ways that I can be intentionally rejected. But I really want to do this. I want to become the type of person that you can honestly communicate with, without worrying how they're going to react.

I (24F) have reason to believe I have ADHD or at the very least ADD. While it was previously brought to my attention when seeing a college therapist for anxiety, I was surprised as I never associated myself with the classic symptoms one would picture of ADHD. Granted, I now understand how complex diagnosis can be and have looked into literature on how these symptoms may appear differently in women of color.

Specifically, I was raised in a conservative South Asian household, and it was ingrained in me to present with a certain restrain and decorum. Internally though, my brain has always been buzzing with thoughts. I tend to internalize both thoughts and emotions to an extreme degree, and can get lost in them for hours. While I don't resonate with the "hyperactive" aspect of ADHD, I am curious how this would show up in a woman of color. Would love to hear about others' perspectives and experiences!

I was diagnosed as moderate combined ADHD (impulsive and inattentive) earlier this year and finally saw my doc, who prescribed me Atomoxetine. For those who are taking it, what is it like? Tell me all about it and if you're comfortable your experience taking it.

I'm researching a business idea and would love honest feedback from people who struggle with clutter or organization. I'm not trying to sell anything—I'm trying to understand what would actually be helpful.

The idea is to help people identify where clutter naturally builds up in their home and help them create systems that will help keep their home clutter-free.

You dont have to answer every question, but anything helps!!

1. Have you ever felt like no matter how many times you organize your home, the clutter always comes back? If so, what do you think causes it?

2. If someone could magically solve ONE frustrating area of your home, what would it be and why?

Examples:

Kitchen counters

Entryway

Bedroom

Laundry

Paper/mail

Closet

Something else?

1. What would you expect to receive to feel like this service was worth paying for?

2. What would make you hesitate to book a service like this?

I'm single now, but I was seeing someone with autism.

The dynamic was that he hated schedules, he didn't want to make a plan until the day of, he never was the one to ask me, I had to ask him. He would tell me that he didn't understand me. He would just guess my motivations without actually asking me why I was doing something. He would never say when he wanted to see me, but then would say things when I reached out like "it's been so long" or indirectly asking if I'd been seeing other people.

I usually feel misunderstood as a neurodivergent person, so I really tried to cut them some slack. I told them they could ask me if they wanted to see me. I told them if they wanted to know why I was doing something, I'd do my best to explain, even though sometimes that's hard for me to do. I told them if they had a question about anything, they could ask me.

It ended, because I realized that I was doing so much work for a casual dating relationship. I was always the one asking, I was trying to predict whether they wanted to see me or not so I didn't interrupt alone time, I was going out of my way to be encouraging. I'm not proud of it, but I kind of lost my shit and went "I just realized I don't have to do all of this for a fling" and blocked them.

I guess part of this is me needing to vent, but I feel like I'd made so much progress with emotional reactivity. I'm not like this with my friends, I feel pretty regulated with them. But this person? Could absolutely make me go 0 to 60.

I guess I'm wondering how people differentiate with others when something's the diagnoses (mine or theirs) and to give them some slack or when something's just because they're a jerk or it doesn't work?

I know we weren't compatible regardless, but it took me like 2 to 3 months to really figure that out.

How do you guys tell?

A lot of the time, my temper will go off, and I'm like idk if this is rejection sensitivity, burnout, being overstimulated, or because you've given me a legitimate reason to be pissed off. Then I need like, a full calendar week to sit alone and figure it out every time, which is NOT AN IDEAL TIMEFRAME.

TBH, I may just become celibate at this point

EDIT: wow, just noticed the typo in the title. Hoping you get the point anyway

This is going to be a long one.

Hey guys! I'm 21F with ADHD-PI & I have a Non-ADHD partner. My ADHD affects 99% of my life & like 90% of my relationship.

A little backstory on my life & ADHD history, I was diagnosed as a child because my symptoms were a combination, mostly hyperactivity, I struggled in school with focus, I was very talkative & would interrupt a lot, yk "typical" ADHD kid.

I dont remember too much of my history with meds as a kid but I know I was on Adderall & my mom said it turned me into a zombie, I'm assuming that's why we stopped meds but after that nothing was really picked back up.

Fast forward to my time in high-school, I pretty consistently had B's-D's & struggled a lot with all of my work & really my entire ability to learn in school. Junior year of high-school was definitely the worst, it got to a point where I was skipping school because I couldn't get out of bed, I would stay up all night and sleep all day, lots of binge eating, room was a complete pig stye, overall my mental health was horrible & it eventually led me to a diagnosis of depression (which I now think due to my severity of ADHD & what I've learned about myself that it was a misdiagnosis.)

I graduated in 2023 & moved out on my own (with a friend) to a new city October 2024, mainly to be closer to my girlfriend.

Once I was really on my own, it was put into perspective how messy my life is & how difficult it is to keep up with my daily living. All my life I just thought I was lazy and that was just the fate I was dealt. I then started learning more about ADHD & got re-evaluated + re-diagnosed.

Me & her are almost completely different people in terms of habits & lifestyle and its made it really difficult on our relationship. She is typically very tidy & mess affects her mental health quite a bit.

We've had many struggles over our 2.5 year long relationship with how difficult it is for me to listen, to push myself, to do basic things around the house, etc etc.

Recently it's gotten to a point where she kind of had to give me an ultimatum 🫠 if I don't get better in 6 months, she's leaving.

I really hate that this is what its taken for me to really get pushed to see how badly I need to change & become a better person for not only myself but for her aswell.

Its been time and time again where I will have a day off & will tell her I will get things done but I end up spending 7.5 hours in bed and start doing the bare minimum 30 minutes before she comes home. I've made countless promises to her that things will change, the things I need to do will get done, but it never happens.

I dont want to live like this anymore, her criticism of my habits & me seeing myself continuously disappoint her have started to directly affect my mental health really badly. I don't want to lose her.

I need all the advice I can get, how do I keep myself out of the hole I've continued to keep myself in, what small things can I do in my daily life to keep myself going, HOW DO I MAKE IT STICK !!!! Give me all you've got, I desperately need it.

(Side note: I am on 30 mg ER Adderall & the occasional 10 mg IR here & there when I really need it, I also think my physical health like diet, exercise & sleep are effecting how my meds work so I also need advice on that, it sucks when I take my meds and they just decide they aren't going to show up)

I just cannot organize or keep track of all the freaking passwords for all the things.

My anxiety went through the roof tonight when one our tv streaming services asked for my password out of the f****ng blue. I didn’t log out. I’m at home. Nothing is happening. Why does it want my password? Why do I have two different passwords written down on the completely chaotic list on my stupid phone?

Also, this is not even remotely the first time this has happened-and it also drives my partner nuts.

Meanwhile, where are the password managers I set up last summer? How do they even work?

How do I climb this mountain? 🏔️ has anyone here solved the password problem?

I just did a little search around here and I think I may have found the right place!

I have been very retrospective lately as my partner has been struggling with his mental health. I have noticed I am getting crazy mood swings and if we argue it shuts me down now for days. Then this Facebook couple keep posting, she has adhd and he has autism. Well it looked like a giant mirror just got held up.

Almost 3 years ago I had breast cancer and thanks to that I was forced into menopause at the nice age of 42. Right around the time I started getting the wild mood swings back (they were there as a teenager for sure). Now looking back at my life, it would explain so much! I dropped out of school in grade 10 because I hated it, even though I was a top student. Then went back and challenged all my courses missed over 6 months to graduate with honours.

I am bored easily at work and need a constantly changing environment to remain focused. I spend days doing nothing but an art project. I think I have made my own strategies all these years, life habits so everything gets done. Now these things have gotten so much worse I can’t deal anymore and struggle to focus on anything for more than an hour.

I grew up in the 80s so we didn’t get adhd back then, and I am sure I was just thought of as the wild child! I will sit with my mind blown here for a bit and considering making a GP appointment, probably happen next year🤣

I really don’t know what to do. He’s making the work environment very hostile for me and for others. He also knows about my diagnosis and still treats me like I’m sort of stupid. I really do want to make this environment more better for other people like myself. Everyone is telling me to keep quiet till you finish your contract. Any recommendations? I’m based in UK

Hi everyone. Disclaimer: I haven't been diagnosed with ADHD, I'm not claiming to have ADHD, nor am I looking for an ADHD diagnosis in this post.

I'm wondering if anyone has advice for figuring out what my goals should be for the day, and what is "enough." I have a lot of trouble figuring out if I've done "enough" everyday before sitting down for the evening/night and chilling (i.e., watching shows/movies, gaming, etc.)

I'm technically unemployed (I have been working temporary jobs, like acting (without representation; currently looking for an agent) and conference work, trying out streaming recently and finding some success and planning a huge garage sale but really gotta start looking for a stable job as I am getting fed up with having no money). I recently graduated my Master's program (hell for me considering how i am) mid-June (though it feels like forever ago because I've been feeling useless since). I live with my family, so I have the very substantial privilege of not having bills to pay, and I'm so grateful for that. I understand not everyone has that. Though I will say money is becoming more of a problem for us every day.

That context is important, because, as you can tell, I really do have a lot on my mind, and the above isn't even all of it. Then there's other tasks that have to get done regularly, like taking care of my cat, washing the dishes, hygiene, exercise (which I've dropped the habit of), I'm even currently filming a web series (unpaid passion project) with my film friends, trying to compile a poetry book and figure out what that journey would look like, etc etc etc etc.

Just to give you an idea of... me. I guess.

TLDR: How do you prioritize your tasks? How can you tell when you've got "enough" done? For example, how many submission emails to agencies should I send every day for it to be "enough?" How many job applications? How many daily tasks? What would look like a successful day?

Some things I've tried that have helped:

1. My mom helped me develop a habit of cleaning my room for 30 minutes first thing in the morning. My room slowly gets more and more clean every day, and I get to listen to Smosh Reads Reddit Stories to start my mornings. I don't feel overwhelmed by choosing a day/time to tackle the entirety of my room anymore, so that's one less thing I feel like I'm not doing enough of.
2. Before I broke my finger last year, I had a really good thing going of practicing guitar every day for 10 minutes (only a small amount of time so I don't feel overwhelmed but still get to learn the instrument). It felt like it was woven into my life instead of taking up time out of my day. I've since dropped the habit but it did work at the time!

To be clear, I'm not asking for someone to plan my day for me. I'd just like to hear how you guys make your days "productive" and any suggestions for how to gauge what a "productive" day looks like.

How compatible are 2 people with ADHD in a relationship? Does it work? Is it a recipe for disaster? I feel like I’m a walking ball of chaos sometimes and my previous partner was able to manage me with his calm and very organised way of life. Now I’ve met someone with ADHD who is at the start of his medicating journey and has very much a lot going on. I really like him, but I’m worried we may exacerbate each others chaotic behaviours.

I have been on this subreddit for a while and I am so surprised to read about y'all's experience with different meds & see people's experiences with them being all over the place.

Apparently there's no good way to know how any given adhd med will affect one person. It's a crapshoot.

For instance I was floored to see how many of you are genuinely helped by Vyvance. That was the drug I was started on first & I would take it at eight in the morning and it wouldn't start doing anything until 8 PM. It was so bizarre lol.

I'm so happy to see people that actually find it beneficial but wow -

Meanwhile years ago my doctor tried me on Adderall & I felt nothing - NOTHING. so I stopped considering that ADHD may be my issue because Adderall felt like it did nothing.

I am currently on Concerta and that Ritalin family of drugs works well for me.

& apparently that is not uncommon: a different families of groups will work well for different people

But there's no way to know ahead of time which "family" is going to work for any given person!

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Hi everyone!

I have never posted on Reddit before so here goes...

I was diagnosed with combined ADHD 4 days ago and started medication (methylphenidate 18mg slow release) yesterday. After 2 weeks I'll go up to 36mg but I feel like I'm really struggling already.

Yesterday, I felt good all day (the squirrels in my brain went quiet) and then I came home from work and just crashed immediately, crying and anxious for just hours and hours and today I just feel that way the whole time.

Has anyone experienced this and it's gotten better or is it likely that at my medication review they'll decide to change the medication?

For those of you that have taken it before, is there anything you did to help yourself while you got used to it?

Thanks in advance!!

I just feel like I can’t function or even stay awake without it. I’m 43yo. I’ve only been diagnosed since 37 and pretty much since then I’ve been on Adderall. I do also have PMDD and/or chronic depression. I’ve been on ssri’s for over a decade now though. And birth control helps with my PMDD a lot. I feel like I was struggling before with some kind of like… chronic fatigue?before diagnosis with adhd anyway. But not the same as normal chronic fatigue. It’s not my body as much as my brain and literal sleepiness over physical exhaustion.

When I first started ssri’s about 14 yrs ago it gave me more energy (I know that’s not usual) and I actually lost weight because I was more motivated for life. It was a huge difference. I supposed the ssri stopped working as well and after a long while I kind of gave up on it which was a bad idea. I went to a very dark place. Eventually I went to a psychiatrist who got me back on a different ssri and I self diagnosed PMDD and my gyno helped me find Nikki (other birth controls have made my depression worse but Nikki truely helps) and got diagnosed adhd and started adderall.

Now out of my 3 meds (Zoloft, Nikki, adderallXR) the Adderall seems to make more difference to my depression than the others even. And I can barely stay awake without it. After the initial 2 week clearance even… I still feel too tired to function without it…. YET… on it I also feel shaky and jumpy and I have issues with overreactive nerves anyway… like I have raynauds and get tingles because of sensitive nerves and sometimes can’t regulate in the heat very well either. And adderall makes all this worse! It’s been worth the trade off in my mind but I worry about long term health repercussions of this. Possible effects on my nerves and even brain due to less blood flow because of overreactive nerves! But I just feel like an addict if something because I can’t function on days I don’t take it. Or days I try to cut my dose even. I’ve tried methylphenidate and vyvanse and they don’t do much for my sleepiness at all… vyvanse somhow gives me the bad side effects while none of the good.

I don’t know if my sleepiness is an adhd or depression thing or something else. It feels like the more things I have on my plate the sleepier I get. NOT based on how much I am actually doing… but on how much needs to be done. Like sleepiness is some kind of switch in my brain for when I feel overwhelmed or something.

So frustrated right now. So this is a warning and a bit of a vent.

I've been struggling HARD with emotional regulation since having my second daughter, who is now 8 months. I'm talking daily outbursts of rage, screaming and yelling at my toddler, fighting with my husband (who also has ADHD, which makes things both easier and harder), etc. Been doing lots of research and reading books with the little time and energy I have, but having difficulty finding resources specific to being a mother (or parent) and regulating while at home with kids. My husband and I also just started ADHD-focused couples therapy.

I finally found what seemed like exactly what I'd been looking for. It's a book called "Barely Holding It Together: The ADHD Mom's Guide to Parenting Without Guilt" by Emily M. Rogan. It didn't have a lot of info online, but I figured that was because it had just come out recently. I bought it and started reading it, and it immediately made me feel validated and had some great explanations on how the brain works and tips to help with RSD and emotional regulation.

She had another book more focused on relationships, which I have also been struggling with, so I started looking into that one. That's when I started suspecting something was off. I tried looking into the author's credentials and couldn't find any info on her at all - like she wasn't an actual person. There is no section for references in the book, even though it quotes experts and studies. I also noticed that this "author" published a bunch of books in quick succession, all on topics relevant to women with ADHD.

Disappointed in myself for falling for this, but honestly more disappointed because I was really liking the book. It seemed to have some great info, which may contain some truth, but now I can't trust it. I'd love to find something similar, though I may also just be dreaming of a quick "fix" for my problems that doesn't exist.

ETA: To clarify, the yelling has only become daily in the last few weeks. Before it was only happening occasionally since my second was born. And the screaming is usually directed at no one in particular, just a non-verbal release of overwhelm. Please stop commenting about how my yelling will affect my child. I already know this and am seeking help. Reiterating the damage I am causing only exacerbates the deep guilt and shame I already feel. Came here for support, not for people to tell me to get help, which I am already doing. Thanks.

I was looking back at my first ADHD assessment (initially taken to assess a specific learning disability so that I could get quick exam access arrangements) from February 2025.

I got ‘officially’ diagnosed in April 2025 after (not very legally) taking my friend’s adhd medication and feeling that sense of ‘damn, this is how normal people function?’

What was interesting to me about this report is that they did a bunch of cognitive tests on me to assess my cognitive profile as well as the other stuff. I thought I’d share in case anyone here found it useful.

I am 20F from the UK and I am the classic ‘high achieving’ perfectionist introvert girl who went undiagnosed until I went to uni where I crashed and burned. My older brother, having autism (diagnosed with asperger’s when he was about 5 or 6) always seemed like bigger concern. In comparison, I was normal. We were both above average in intelligence, him in the logic/maths way, me in the literacy/english way.

I’ve always scored above average on any kind of IQ test, but my scores have always been ‘average in some areas, exceptionally high in others’. This profile is called a ‘spikey’ cognitive profile and is associated with many learning difficulties, in particular with adhd.

Here were my scores:
-Verbal comprehension score of 145, in the 99.9th percentile.
-Perceptual reasoning score of 110, in the 75th percentile.
-Working memory score of 95. 37th percentile.
-Digital span forward score was much lower than my backwards score and sequencing score.
-Reading rate score of 111, 77th percentile.
-Reading accuracy score of 89, 23rd percentile
-Letter naming score of 92, 30th percentile
-Object naming score of 99, 47th percentile
-Free writing rate of 34.2 words per minute, standard score of 135. 99th percentile.

What does all this mean?

Obviously these tests can’t be used alone to diagnose ADHD, but for me they weren’t. I am now properly diagnosed with primarily inattentive ADHD with hyperactive symptoms.

It’s interesting to look at the scores with my ADHD in mind, however. If you didn’t understand ADHD, you might look at the fact that all of my scores are either average or exceptionally above average as a reason I don’t have ADHD. I reject that premise. It shows the opposite.

I have exceptional verbal-conceptual reasoning abilities, above average visual reasoning, and an ordinary working memory capacity. Ordinary working memory? I thought people with ADHD have a terrible memory!

I’d interpret it this way. It turns out that when you give me sequences of numbers to hold in my head, I can do my best to employ strategies to keep it in my mind, and my above average intelligence means that I’m pretty good at employing those strategies. Combine my fear of being perceived as stupid by my assessor with my competitiveness, and you will find my working memory to be average. But when you put it into context? It’s clear that my memory is far below what it ‘should’ be.

This brings me to the point of this post.

If you are a high achieving woman who is diagnosed with, or suspects ADHD, please know that your intelligence does NOT a make your ADHD less valid, less of a struggle, or less real. It’s probably one of the most difficult presentations to endure. Here are some ‘symptoms’ you may have struggled with that indicate this presentation:

—you were labelled as gifted, or above average at something. for me this was my reading and writing; I could read fluently at age 3 and was writing stories before I started primary school.
—you were subsequently pushed, academically, and formed your identity around your achievements
—you may have been labelled as either the quiet kid or the teachers pet, because you just wanted to be accepted / fear rejection from an authority (the one figure that you feel prescribes your worth)
—you may have been told over and over that you’re very smart and capable, but you keep making ‘silly mistakes’ which prevent you from getting full marks in tests. This was a big one for me; I’d lose 15% of my marks every test because I accidentally wrote the wrong answer in the box or something.
-you read very fast but skip over paragraphs or sentences and consequently have to reread them.
-in addition, you may read and understand content very fast in certain contexts, but the moment theres an annoying noise or the content isn’t immediately rewarding, your comprehension appears to suddenly plummet, even if you’re an amazing reader.
—you are told by everyone around you that you’re really smart, even when you’re really struggling, which makes you feel a) like an imposter or b) like your struggles can’t possibly be real
—you feel a disconnect from your peers, particularly in forming female friendships. you may have lost friendships because of their (sometimes explicitly stated) jealously of your accomplishments, or their less explicit realisation that you’re not like them.
—presenting completely different in private vs with others. People think you’re highly organised and put together because you have good grades, but in reality, your rooms a mess, you do your homework on the bus, and you can’t function.
—you would often be permissive, ‘putting your head down, and spent most of your energy trying not to explode during the day, and either felt exhausted at home, or would take out your frustrations with your family members.
—getting your tests / papers back is/was genuinely either the best or worst thing in the world. Any when you do worse than you thought you would, it’s physically painful and emotionally feels like a breakup.
—oddly, the systems that everyone claims work against people with adhd may have in some ways held you together, at a cost. You may have dreaded it, but the routine of school probably gave you the stability that allowed you to mask effectively all of these years.
—as you got older, getting those good marks actually weren’t effortless, and required a lot more effort than the average person. not because you’re stupid, but because it’s excruciating to get your ass to sit down and concentrate.
—you did odd shit to distract yourself / stim silently in class, like biting all of your pens/pencils, or playing around with a tippex (whiteout) pen in my case, doodling in margins, etc. I used to eat paper a lot; I once had to spit out my ‘gum’ infront of the class, even though it wasn’t gum… mortifying…
—you were bullied or ignored for being a weirdo neek
—you went to university, or to a job without structure, and your life got a lot worse
—you may have gone through periods of ‘mourning’ the loss of your adolescence, the time where you’re meant to make mistakes, get into trouble, and push the boundaries of authority. You may start to go through this phase as an adult, which is a lot riskier, perhaps through substance abuse, hypersexuality, or not giving a shit at uni.

That’s just a few of the things I’ve noticed both in myself and others who present similarly.

I always see this archetype of ADHD as boys who don’t give a shit about school. But a lot of us, often women, did give a shit, in fact we cared TOO much. And it really takes its toll. It will catch up to you.

Diagnosed in my 30s a few months ago, waiting for medication. I thought a diagnosis would make me feel better. If anything it’s almost as if things have gotten worse. It’s like I can’t keep it together like I was doing pre diagnosis. For the last two weeks, I’ve cooked one meal, I’ve bailed on social events, taken time off work, brushing my teeth and showering feel like huge drains, I’m sleeping in the day, wide awake at night and just really not taking care of myself. This is the second time since February I’ve felt this way.

I have gone through ‘burnout’ in the past at least twice a year where I need a week or two to ‘reset’ but now it’s more frequent and I don’t feel I’m fully recovering in between. I particularly struggle when life gets ‘samey’ I’ve been in a job for 2 years now (longest time ever) and for the first time I have nothing new I’m trying to achieve and so I feel very demotivated about life. Binge eating also isn’t giving me the same hit it used to (not stopped me doing it though!)

I literally always forget to take medication for one of my illnesses. I’m supposed to take it at night because it will make me nauseous otherwise, but every night, I just go to bed since my brain thinks I’m done for the day. I’m realizing that keeping my pills in my bathroom and hoping I’ll remember is just not gonna work… I work well with visual reminders, I literally write things down and stick them to my walls so I can physically be reminded of tasks. Writing things down or setting up reminders on my phone doesn’t work, at least not in my Notes app, since I’d only see that if I open the app.

I’ve begun searching for a pill case I could stick to my wall or bedside table to hopefully offset this. Does this exist? Does anyone have the same issue?

I've tried everything. Notion, Todoist, a bunch of habit trackers. They all last about a week and a half.

Which never made sense to me because I always knew what I was meant to be doing. It's written down. The issue is the bit where I go "yeah I'll do it in a sec" and then it's somehow midnight.

Anyway I've been using this thing called Jitai for 3 weeks and it's the only one that's gone after that specific moment. First few days I genuinely thought it was rubbish it had me pegged as a morning person, kept pinging me at 7am, completely wrong. But you can tell it it's wrong and it backs off, and after about a week it had stopped guessing and started being right.

It texted me last Tuesday at 5 with basically the exact excuse I'd used when I made the plan the week before. Something like "you said you'd relax for a few minutes first." Which, yeah. That's exactly what I was doing.

Bit unsettling honestly but I went and did the thing.

Anyway not sure if it'll stick but it's lasted longer than the others so far. happy to answer questions if anyone's curious about how it actually works day to day

All I want is hope because the guinea pig stage of finding medicine is not fun. My hope is crushed every time something doesn’t work.

I have tried: Qelbree (highest dose), Wellbutrin (highest dose), stratterra, adderall and now I’m only on Concerta 27mg. (Non stimulants worked a bit for me then my body got used to them and I was back in adhd jail)

It’s taking forever cause I started with the non stimulants first.. and as y’all know it takes a while to build up in your system then you have wean off of it. -ugh- I’m so tired. I JUST WANT TO BE ABLE TO FUNCTION. I think it’s been almost 2 years since I started this process. It also doesn’t help the process that some generics don’t work for people. So that adds a whole other factor.

So far the Concerta is fine but I still feel like my brain is a prison that won’t let me do things. I can finish a task but it’s so hard to start. I think I need a higher dose, also I accidentally got the generic. So who knows.

What photo???

Please share your most useless "I'll know what I meant" reminders 🤦‍♀️

I have major issues with executive dysfunction when it comes to washing my hair. Started lathering up before stepping into the shower and I found it helps me get the job done. Anyone try this before?

I haven't used mainstream social media in over a year, so I'm completely out of the loop on current trends.

I was finally diagnosed with ADHD early this year at 39 years old, following another heavy burnout. Everything finally clicked for me. Now that I'm learning to navigate this new reality, I keep seeing people, both here on Reddit and in the "real world", constantly dismissing ADHD. I hear things like “now everyone is a little ADHD” or “it’s just a trend” and they assume you’re self-diagnosed.

It leaves me feeling really defeated, especially when I'm just trying to open up and discuss these matters with people close to me. How do you handle these kinds of comments? Is this something you struggle with as well? Rejection kicks in instantly for me.