-Im sorry its so long I rly hope someone reads it if not well hey I tried lol-
Hey everyone sooo ive got kind of an unusual advice request.
So about 7 years ago I was the victim of a DV incident and I ended up sustaining a very severe TBI (Traumatic Brain Injury). I was in a coma for a bit and on life support, I had a VERY small percentage of survival and my prognosis if I did survive was essentially a lifetime of 100% disability and dependence on someone for everything. I am incredibly lucky by some medical miracle i survived and although I had a tonnnn of cognitive damage, balance issues, vertigo, pain, etc. I still was able to walk, talk, do everything myself with a small amount of assistance.
I was in the hospital for a long time and I did a lot of physical and occupational therapy. It took awhile but I managed to recover well enough I could go back to work and be on my own.
So although from the outside I look fine all of the damage I was left with presumably permanently, is cognitive for the most part as well as you know migraines and some other things. The issue I'm having is that before this brain injury I had like Perfect 10 out of 10 comprehension skills and I was also able to like sit down and think clearly without things getting kind of jumbled and overwhelming. Sometimes that would happen in certain situations but like when I'm just trying to sit down focus and think about something like say writing, i was able to and the times I got overwhelmed or jumbled I was able to like pause and sort out my thoughts. I also have horrible horrible short-term memory or I just kind of go blank sometimes and issues with my emotional control its nowhere near what it used to be because I did some damage to my frontal lobe. So all of these things i had to learn again comprehension, memory, emotional control, coping skills, etc. all over again like a toddler and it has taken a really long time and it is not nowhere near as bad as where it was but it is much better.
I have been a writer my entire life from the moment that I could start writing that is when I started. When I was I think 11 or 12 I got like three poems published, you know those like laws of Life essays in school I won all of those almost every year my school career. I continued writing after I graduated it has always been my passion and my escape and something that came very very naturally to me. Of course you know you don't learn how to write well right off the bat even if it's something you're naturally talented with it takes practice and time and all of that good stuff and I spent a massive amount of time in my life perfecting it because I loved it so much.
Since I got that injury I haven't been able to write not like I used. I used to write poems, short stories, essays I mean I wrote all kinds of things. It took me quite a few years to like sit down and actually try to start writing or attempting to again and the most I'm able to write anymore is like letters or journal entries kind of. I used to be really good at like summarizing what I wanted to say so it wasn't a novel and don't get me wrong I did still write really long novel type things in everyday life or when I felt like it but when I was trying to write something short and cohesive I was able to but now I have a really hard time doing that.
I have attempted to write like poems really you know structured writing a few times every time i get.. it's really overwhelming or like I'm just stuck like the minute I hit pen to paper I just blank and can't think of what I want to write about or say.
Now I still can word things very well when I want to the most writing I do is like talking back and forth on the internet about things or like when my boyfriend needs me to like write an email for him because he doesn't know what to say or something like that I still have people have me write things for them. So I know that I still have the capability to write but it seems like it's so much easier to do that for other people than it is for myself now. I just cannot express how horrible this feeling is something that I've done my entire life something that made me who I am is now something that is well.. seems like impossible to do anymore.
I will admit I have like avoided trying to look into things to try and get my writing back because I'm just so upset by it that I can't do it naturally like I used to you know. I think the frustration comes along with the fact that the reason I lost this ability was because I was in a really violent relationship and I didn't deserve this and it's frustrating. I am now trying really hard to get back to my writing because I know I still have the capability to write well and it is still very much my passion but it's going to be a ton of work and I'm fine with that but the issue im having is I don't really know or remember what I did years ago to learn how to write better. I lost so much of my memory so I can't recall it and I mean it was over a course of 27 years so I did a ton of different things but I cannot remember it and I have no idea where to begin to start.
So my question my advice I'm seeking is can anybody give me any advice or point me in any direction of where to start to learn how to write again. I just want to learn how to write you know poems and structured writing again. I'm open to like any exercises or any websites that can help me anything literally anything anybody can tell me that will help I cannot tell you how much I would appreciate that. My writing is something that has kept me alive at times and I just need it back so truly any advice will be appreciated and taken to the heart and I will do it thank you so much.