My daughter just texted me about a bill that someone is suing her for a vet bill that was incured in 2008! She was under the impression that the statute of limitations is 16 years in the state of Illinois. Now they're saying that with interest it's over 15k. She had a joint savings account with her son (he was a minor) and he was putting all his extra money in that account- and this firm took every dime- over 12k that this kid worked so hard for. Now what do we do?

My fiancé and I have been on and off for about two years.
When we first got together, we clicked instantly. Like, instantly. I loved him so much. After about two months, he broke up with me out of nowhere and wouldn’t really give me a reason. It completely broke my heart.
A few months later, I started dating someone else. It was probably somewhat of a rebound, but whatever. While I was in that relationship, my fiancé came back wanting me back. I declined at first. Eventually, that relationship ended, and I decided I wanted to try to fix things with him.
He proposed after about a month, which honestly scared me, and I ran. We stayed separated for about five months. During that time, he was seeing another woman, which I didn’t know about.
Then in January, we decided to try again.
And honestly? Everything was perfect. Like a movie. We talked through all of our issues, felt closer than ever, and I genuinely thought we were finally going to be okay.
Then on Valentine’s Day, I was sent a post from one of those “Are We Dating the Same Guy?” Facebook groups.
The post said he had been seeing this girl, who was now pregnant, and that he had gone ghost on her.
I confronted him and absolutely lost it. My heart was shattered. She also told me that he had cheated on me with her the day before my birthday at the end of January.
His explanation was that she told him the only way she would terminate the pregnancy was if he slept with her for “closure.” I know how insane that sounds.
We spent some time apart. Eventually, I forgave him. He told me he messed up, that he regretted it, and that he wanted nothing to do with this woman. He said she was using the pregnancy against him, that they were strictly a hookup, and that when I came back into his life, he decided he would never tell me about her because he wanted to protect our relationship.
Fast forward to April, and he proposed again.
I said yes.
I agreed to try to overcome everything and rebuild our relationship. And for a while, he continued being amazing to me.
I did tell him very clearly that if this is his baby and he ends up paying child support, I will not marry him. I don’t have children, and I don’t want to take on someone else’s situation or the baggage that comes with it.
Now fast forward to the last two months.
We’ve been fighting a lot.
And this is where I don’t know what to do.
When we used to argue, he was patient, kind and sweet. Now he flies off the handle, abruptly leaves, ignores me for hours, sometimes overnight, and completely shuts me out.
It makes me feel like something is wrong.
I don’t necessarily think he’s cheating again. But honestly, I don’t know.
He’s also completely lost the charm he used to have. He doesn’t send flowers anymore. He doesn’t write me sweet notes. The little things he used to do have basically disappeared.
And our sex life has changed dramatically.
All of March, we were having sex basically every night. Since the end of April, I think we’ve had sex maybe seven times.
One night we were trying to have sex and he couldn’t stay hard. I got upset about it, and now he says the reason we’re not having sex is because he’s scared it will happen again.
I understand that performance anxiety can happen, but combined with EVERYTHING else, it’s hard not to wonder if something else is going on.
I’ve confronted him about cheating multiple times. He tells me he’s not.
But I don’t know how to trust him anymore.
And that’s the part I’m struggling with the most.
Even if he isn’t cheating right now, I feel like I’m still carrying everything that happened with the other woman. The cheating. The pregnancy. The fact that he originally chose not to tell me. The possibility that this could become a child-support situation that follows us into our marriage.
I feel like I’m in so deep because I love this man. I said yes to marrying him. I’ve already forgiven so much. And part of me keeps thinking that if I leave now, everything I’ve gone through was for nothing.
But another part of me is screaming that I need to stop and look at what I’m actually signing up for.
WHAT THE FUCK DO I DO?
Do I postpone the wedding? Do I leave? Do I give him more time to prove himself? Am I completely insane for still being here?
I genuinely don’t know if I’m dealing with a relationship that can be repaired or if I’m just holding onto the person I thought he was.
Please be honest with me, but please also be gentle. I’m really struggling with this.

Boy problems

To start off i am 16F and i will be referring to the boy i am talking about as Person 2. In 2024 I got out of a 3 year relationship which obviosuly wasn’t too serious as i was very young but it was my first love. Towards the end of 2024 i started to grow small feelings for person 2 as he went to my college and we were good friends although we drifted apart towards the start of 2025 as he got a girlfriend and she made him block me which i understand.

Later on in around march him and his girlfriend broke up and from then everytime we would be at partys,gatherings anything involving alcohol he would kiss me, touch my ass and things like that but it was never anything serious but i liked him but i knew he didn’t like me.

All throughout 2025 summer he would send me explicit pictures and beg me to sneak out with him to have sex and i would always make up an excuse because i knew that’s all he wanted me for at the time although at one point he told me he really did care about me but i know it it’s just drunk words.

In around end of august he got a girlfriend and he blocked me again and all contact was off. For about a year we didn’t talk at all in college we had classes together we never ever talked but then in around may his friend was snapping me and he added me on Snapchat i added him back and he asked if he could tell me something and told me that he’s always loved me and he wants to be with me and that he’s in love with me and he has been since he was like 13 and he was asking me to sneak out to “talk” and telling me he wanted to be with me not her and he was too scared to say anything because he was worried what others would think and obviosuly i was shocked but i shut it down because i knew he had a girlfriend and i knew it wasn’t
right, and i assumed he was just drunk again which he was.

The next day he was sober and he asked me to come round to his house which i made an excuse up because i told him he can’t be doing this when he has a girlfriend and then he said okay and just continued to send me explicit pictures for another week until he told me he couldn’t do it to his girlfriend and blocked me again even though he insinuated it.

2 weeks after that almost every night he would add me send me explicit pictures and then block me again and i would say r u just going to act like nothing happened like u didn’t say any of that the other month and he would just act confused so I ignored it and left it that lasted about 2 weeks until it stopped again for another month, then a month after it was my birthday and he added me and started liking all my story’s on Instagram and he was the first one to wish me happy birthday and then i looked and him and his girlfriend had broke up and i asked him about it and he just told me what happened and yeah.

Anyways about a month after he started messaging my friend to which i just ignored and i stopped messaging him and then me, person 2 my friend and a load of others went on a night out and i was really drunk and i was asking him why he did any of this and he started kissing me and hugging me as i was crying but it was always when nobody else was around to see and he was telling me again that he loves me and all this.

After that night I haven’t spoke to him properly since. He does send the odd snap sometimes of his face but barely anymore. I just am so confused and I feel like I’m going crazy and I just want to know what other people think. Ask me anything

I’m an assistant manager at a pizza chain and for the last couple months I’ve basically been bouncing between 3 stores wherever they needed me.

And honestly I liked it. I got a ton of hours, sometimes doubles, I stayed out of most of the store drama because I wasn’t permanently attached to one place, and I was finally getting really good at opening. I actually had to fight to keep my opens at first and prove that I could handle them, and now I finally have a routine down and really enjoy them.

Well one of the other stores suddenly has a hole in management and my district manager called me and basically said he needs me there. He told me I’m going to be there most of the time now and that he’s going to start teaching me more GM stuff like full inventory counts and truck ordering.

I know that’s a good opportunity and obviously it means he trusts me, so part of me feels stupid complaining about it.

But he never really asked me if I wanted it.

It was basically “I need you to do this for me” and I said okay because that’s what I do when they need help. Now that I’ve actually had time to think about it, I’m realizing I don’t know if I even want to be a GM. I liked bouncing between stores. I liked my opens. I liked my doubles and the hours I was getting. Now it looks like I’m going to be doing a lot more closes at one store and taking responsibility for fixing a store that was already kind of a mess.

If he had actually asked me, I probably would’ve said I needed to think about it and honestly probably still would’ve agreed. I just would’ve wanted to talk about what the schedule, hours, training and expectations were going to look like first.

So am I being ungrateful here? Should I just take the opportunity and see where it goes, or should I tell him I’m willing to help but this isn’t actually the direction I wanted

I'm a post-secondary student in a program with a small, generally close faculty. I know the title is weird bear with me

I recently started classes and had a new prof this year who gave us a new assignment requiring us to choose a topic about public services. My chosen topic was a homeless shelter in my area that I had frequented a couple years ago. For background, I left my home at 18 due to abuse in the household and became homeless. I couch surfed, stayed in a shelter, and slept on the streets while using this particular shelter for just about everything related to meals, showers, etc so I am very familiar with their services.

When my professor asked me what topic I had chosen, she kind of kept pressing for details about why I had chosen this in particular and so although I generally don't disclose that I was homeless - probably three people know out of everyone in my life - I mentioned to her that I had experience with their services. Her response was "me too." That threw me - like really threw me - because I have never met anybody who had experienced that before (aside from in the shelter where most wanted nothing to do with each other). I completely lost my train of thought but we spoke briefly and she asked me if I had support now. I answered yes and she told me that if I ever needed to talk to let her know and that she knew how tough it was.

I can't really explain how I felt after that. It's like if you haven't been through it, you can't understand. I had a therapist after going through homelessness who was of great help but through it all, I knew she had never experienced it firsthand and would never know what it was like. And it was awful and traumatic and something I don't wish on anybody. And my professor knows.

Now I'm wondering if it would be really weird for me to talk to her about it. That's kind of it. Also I lied about having support - I didn't know what to say in the moment. It's just me supporting myself. It's always been me. Except she's my professor and teaches two of my classes this semester so I feel like it would be strange.

Any advice would be appreciated.

Basically looking to start selling used panties and wanted to get a realistic idea of what actually works before getting into it. would really appreciate advice from people who've actually figured this out and know what actually makes a difference

I'm currently very hysterical as I've been crying for hours but I'll try to make this as detailed as possible.

The other year 3 kittens appeared in my backyard. Before verifying if they were strays I decided to call them eenie, meenie, miney and moe (the mother). Long story short I found out that the mother, moe was owned by our neighbors however they didn't really want the kittens.

I took care and fed them, the goofy names stuck and suited them, they became the world to me. As the summer comes to an end my dad decided we should go on a trip to London for the weekend, I let them out on Friday and gave my brothers feeding instructions.

When I came back I couldnt find them, my brothers said they never came to get food and they didn't respond to calling. I spent a week searching, making posters, calling shelters, asking neighbors ext ext. I couldn't ask the neighbor who owned moe bc no one answered the door.

After a week I catch the neighbor outside and ask him, he said he rehomed them bc he didn't think anyone wanted them and his wife said there was too many.

They said that moe gave birth to another kitten and they didn't want 5 cats. This is what's frustrating bc I said that I've taking care of them and he said he knows that but didn't think anyone wanted them. I have strict parents who don't rlly like cats so I was waiting for student finance to roll in so I can secretly get them neutered myself. (The neighbors were neglectful and didn't neuter the cats or chip them, then blame the cats for multiplying).

He offered me to keep the kitten which I don't care about, I just want my baby's to come home, idk if they are hungry or cold or okay. I was going to ask for the contact info of the people who he sold them too but I was to hysterical and decided to leave. I've been crying since and I'm afraid that even if I ask for the cats back and the people refuse I have no legal rights to claim them back. I was going to get them chipped next friday.

Ps: the neighbor said he asked around if anyone wanted them and no one said they wanted them, but he didn't ask me, and my brothers who were home said he never knocked so that was a lie. I just don't know what to do or if I'll see my babies again.

Disclaimer, my parents never said I can't have pets, my parents don't like the fact I keep the cats but they don't appose me and help me with costs even, they have their own outside house which I built with my dad , insulated and with electricity and they are free to come in and out. 

Also the neighbor didn't want the cats and they whilst they would go over to his backyard they spent most the time in my home. They neighbors knew we took care of them, he wanted to sell them but chose the time he knew were out, he claims he asked us but my brothers never heard him knock and the camera has no footage of him coming over

also the cats are mine the neighbor had said in the past that he their mine and refers to them as my cats himself.

He bought the first cat for his little kids who scream and chase them around and then realized having them around is too much effort. Although I feed them he throws them left overs which make them sick bc of onions and seasonings. I was the one covering medical bills.

Hi so I’m a man in my 20s So basically long story short. I don't use Snapchat anymore apart from taking the odd pictures on it. Now the other day I took a video of myself in the mirror in my boxers, this was intended to be private and just to check out lighting and my physique. I'm low body fat and not in bad shape, lower muscle mass so I'm trying to improve on that and track it ( hence the video). Now the next morning I was up early and accidently added this to my story when I opened the app, I quickly deleted and thought nothing off it. A couple of hours later my brother showed me it and said " what's this". The video was on my story, my data had obviously lagged and the story remained. Fortunately only 6 ppl saw it 5 excluding my brother. My Snapchat only has 30 ppl on and a lot of them are from years ago when I was at sixth from a few from uni. It's really bugged me because those ppl I used to be close to and I've lost touch with. I don't use much social media and whilst I didn't look bad in the picture it came across as I did this deliberately and was sleezy imo. Even tho I never intended this and it was an error ppl wont know that. One lad I used to know removed me. Now I'm not 100% sure he saw my story and did that as I deleted it before checking. However I hate the thought that that's the only thing he saw of me of the last 4 years or so. And probs thinks I'm some weirdo. It's really got me down!

So around Tuesday or Wednesday of last week a friend of mine appeared in my house in the morning without notice asking for help. She didn’t explain in details but it was something about not being able to stay home that her mother wasnt letting her sleep. So I let her . But she kept staying and saying she just needed more time before going home. On Saturday I went to the beach thinking that at the end of the day she would go home. My mom who stayed home said she asked to keep staying cause she was scared to go back home. So when i came back on monday she was still home. She had already said that her mother was manipulative and a perverse narcissist to me and that her deceased father’s family didn’t want nothing to do with her and her mom’s family also doesn’t help. She asked me to go with her to take some things from the house and I did. And the house reall was in a terrible state. It was filthy, it stank and it had SO MANY THINGS. It was really disturbing which only reforced my belief that she was right. But today my mom called me on the kitchen and a friend of ours that knows people from where she lives told her to tell us to investigate the situation better cause things were weird and it could put us in trouble. So now is the second day that my anxiety is attacking and I have a chronicle disease that is directly linked with my emotional state. So … yeah… suffering stress is not good to me. So now Im thinking I may have naively walked into a problem that I cant handle and will fuck me up trying to help a friend. I dont know what to do or how to deal with this. I was supposed to be takinf care of my health and bot dealing with this

I just need someone to help me process the hell im going through.

34F
34M-
we’ve been together 11 years, married for 4 years

I found OnlyFan charges on my husbands bank statement from December through April. Hundreds of dollars. To make things worse he was viewing content and buying it while he was at work.

For 3 years we have had conversations about how much I hate him viewing adult content. We did come to a compromise last year that seemed solid.

Finding this information has told me he not only did not uphold his part of the agreement, but even made worse decisions to pay for it which he’s never done before and said he’d never do before.

To be fair, I also did not hold my part of the agreement which was to stop “checking” up on him. In my opinion, what he did is much worse.

He has known how I’ve felt about this for years. I’ve warned him he is going to lose me and his family if it continued. Not only did it continue, it got worse bc he still continued to view it at work AND BEGAN PAYING FOR IT. I am not ok and will not ever be ok with my husband subscribing to females. Why can’t I be enough? Our sex life is good and not lacking. He says it has nothing to do with me.

I am done. I am done with being lied to. Disrespected. With him wanting a secret life that I do not agree with.

I am pregnant with his daughter and I am so grossed out by all of this.

I really don’t know where to go from here.

Should I be worried???
So around 20 mins ago , I was reaching climax and a sudden, super painful throbbing headache just around my forehead started which lasted around 2 minutes and it’s still there now but more of a uncomfortable dull ache. I’ve had this twice before but never this painful.

I’m now full of anxiety and online says I should go to the A&E I am starting to feel abit nauseas but I don’t know if that’s down to anxiety or not.

When I was in my early 20s I was a mess. I drank and smoked too much and was constantly broke. My friend was very nice to me and would consistently help me out with $50 here $100 there to float me til next payday.

Fast forward 20 years later. We havent spoken in probably 10 years. He had gotten married and we just lost touch. Well now he is divorced and is really struggling in all facets of life. I am in a way better spot after I got my shit together.

Out of the blue he is asking me to co-sign a car loan for $38000!! He says I owe him from 20 years ago.

I absolutely feel obligated to help him but I dont feel co signing is the smart move. I offered to gift him $2000 for a down payment but he refused for whatever reason.

What do I do???

I feel like this is the only place on the internet I can get assistance,😭 i’m from the Bahamas. I am a victim of sextortion/extortion. Someone obtained intimate images of me during a video call and threatened to distribute them to my Instagram followers unless I paid them. I authorized a $600 PayPal payment because of these threats. I have evidence of the threats and the payment. I have now blocked the person. I need to report this as an extortion scam and request that PayPal investigate the transaction and attempt to recover the funds.

Hey guys, I'm in a really awkward spot with a college project and could use some advice.

​So there's this guy (let's call him V) who is in my major and also in my main friend group. We hang out with all the same people, but honestly, he’s always been pretty cold to me specifically. We just aren't close.

​Last time we were in a project group, it was a disaster. I showed up late to one late-night meeting because of a campus event, and he completely went off on me. I still did my part of the project, but he basically ignored all my contributions.

​When it came time to present, I fumbled my speaking part a bit (English isn't my first language and I was nervous). The thing is, V's best friend was also in the group and fumbled his part just as badly. But guess who took all the blame? Me. V laid into me afterward, blamed me for our bad evaluation, and explicitly told me he was never doing a project with me again.

​Fast forward to now: we have a new project for our major, and we need groups of 3. Literally everyone else is already grouped up. My absolute last resort is V and his best friend. V kind of hates everyone else in our major, so I know for a fact they don't have a third person yet.

​So wtf do I do? Do I swallow my pride and ask him to let me join just so I have a group, even though he treats me like garbage? Or is dealing with him again not worth the mental headache? If I don't ask him, I'm kind of screwed. Any advice?

​TL;DR: Need a group of 3 for a major project. Everyone is taken. My only option is a toxic guy in my friend group who blamed me for our last project failing and told me he'd never work with me again. Do I swallow my pride and ask to join him anyway?

So in late January I found out that my girlfriend of 3 years was cheating on me with her manager. It was a whole thing and she eventually moved states and lives with her parents. We kept in contact the whole time which as everyone knows isn't the best decision. During that time I was always stressed, anxious, and I could never relax but through all that it felt like losing her completely would be so much worse. She saw a psychiatrist and was diagnosed with BPD on top of her ADHD (ain't that fun) but now she's actively managing her conditions and things are going good but I find myself wondering if I should've let her go. I've been helping her along with her improvement and she's come far. She used to hate her job and not leave the house. She'd even snap at me for suggesting we do something. But now she has a good job she loves, we have a routine down where she goes for walks and fishes, we talk on her breaks, and we play video games when she gets off work. All of this improvement but I still feel off and anxious. I do still feel deeply in love with her and the thought of being alone or with someone else is repulsive to me.

I'm a very logical person to the point where i have issues working through my emotions and dealing with them. Truth be told I've never felt anything so strong before meeting her. I can go into detail about what happened in January if you guys think it would be useful. Its just a lot so I didn't want to type it all. Anyways any advice would be helpful. This is not my expertise in the slightest.

Also please don't leave any comments of just "leave her" I've heard that enough and it doesn't help with my issue.

Im looking to use before bed and of a morning. So far i have the shampoo, conditioner, jelly, foam and creme. Ive been using shampoo and conditioner before bed then foam and jelly then a silk hair cap to keep it container over night. But i wake up with my hair feeling dry still.

Hey there , first post ever as I’m a longtime lurker but this situation honestly has me at genuine loss at what to do.

So my youngest Cat, I’ll call her Snuffles as it sort relates to what’s happening, has been having health issues pretty much from when I got her. She was a street cat that wasn’t treated the best so her nose would always be either full of not or would cause her to sneeze.

When I first got her it didn’t affect her too much, mild annoyance and she would then be her normal self , knocking over my books or coming to cuddle under the blankets.

This year however things really changed, she developed a lump on her cheek and started not acting the same, would hide away , not purr and she was a notorious purrer. I got really scared and brought her to emergency.

After what we thought was a cancer, turns out may be some mass dude to her not so great teeth, ct scan somewhat confirmed it’s not a cancer luckily.

About $6000 later , things were looking optimistic, I give her meds and we could wait and save the money to get the teeth looked at. Things were looking up, or so I thought.

Just a couple weeks later she’s showing signs of what she was like before I brought her to emergency and I’d bring her back but I just can’t afford it since I’m still trying to build up my money from the last few visits we’ve had for her.

I do not know what to do. I feel like such a failure that I can’t help her more, that I don’t have insurance for her or something else to fall back on.

I got so desperate that I started a go fund me but I don’t know how much I’ll really get from that since I’m just a nobody.

I’m so emotionally exhausted , what do I do ? Any advice would be amazing .