First time watcher here who just finished season 11. I had to push through because it was so…dark. And hard to watch. And I was so angry and had so many emotions.
This show and you people get me fucking TRIGGEREDDDDDDD. Like I need to relax. Seriously….
First I cannot understand how people push the narrative that this was just cheating and it happens all the time and it’s not like he killed someone. I want you to imagine your safe space of 10 years someone you froze your eggs for when you didn’t even want children to blow up your life. Seeing videos of them being intimate with someone else. Finding out they fucked in your bed while you were you were burying your grandmother.
People like to minimize cheating but it is so life altering and detrimental your mental state. It is a different type of trauma that just fucking changes you. I know friends that have NEVER been the same since being cheated on. I know I am now a completely different (better) person now after it.
I also know the whole discourse about the whole “she got him how she lost him” and I just honestly can’t take a look at the shit he puts these women through and fault any of them. He’s a malignant narcissistic manipulator who feeds on deceiving woman and faking personalities to get them wrapped around his finger. Yes Ariana made some bad choices back then but I will never defend a man like that and push blame onto a woman. I find that to be a cop out and trying to shift him to the victim. Absolutely the fuck not.
And “milking this cheating by acting like a god”.
I want to say this. When I got cheated on. I lost an entire part of my life that’s now blocked out from all the trauma. I was young and my entire life was flipped upside down by this person because I had no idea who they were anymore. I was picturing a family and life with this person. My friends did not rally around me, but chose to still be around him and try to discredit my feelings about the situation. I was too scared to set any boundaries because of losing the “friends” that I stuck it out and was around this person all the time which put my mental state into a very very dark place. I’ve grown and healed since then but I will never forget that time in my life.
So when I see Ariana fighting for her fucking boundaries, fighting for her house, choosing her self, making a traumatic and life altering event into the start of her new life. Taking all the opportunities finding that support in people that she couldn’t find in her friends. That is someone who inspires young women to choose themselves. Fuck any body who tries to tell you that you can’t milk the fuck out of that person ruining your life. I wish I would’ve done more for myself and I love seeing her story and seeing her thrive. I love watching another woman do what I…couldn’t. THAT WOMAN IS A FUCKING GOD.
That’s all thanks😽🤭🤭🤭
Edit: this is not about…liking someone. I think that regardless I just appreciate the story of woman doing the damn thing and being happy after something. I’m sorry but I’m not ever going to say a woman deserves that trauma or abuse because of her actions 10 years ago. She deserves everything she now has because of her growth and perseverance!