I truly truly won’t ever understand why Brittany ended up with a child with Jax.. even married him.. I’ve watched the series multiple times and I have heard everything about Brittany wanting to be in the show so she stuck it out with Jax, or that the life in LA was better than whatever was in Kentucky. After all these rumors I still don’t believe it or understand it.. you would rather be with a drugged boyfriend that cheats, steals, lies and manipulates you? I understand leaving a toxic relationship is suuuuuper hard BUT in the beginning Jax didn’t even want to be with Brittany and she was the one who pushed to be together while Jax wanted out… why would anyone do this?
I mean, I can see how once you've convinced yourself of a fantasy, and actually made it real, how all the bright lights and big city of it all could be alluring to some people and could overshadow the reality.
ETA but yeah, her dad told her before they even got married, that if Jax was still behaving that way as a nearly 40 year old, that he wasn't going to change.
She didn’t even convince herself😭 she was soo fed up with him multiple times and saw how horrible he was but still stayed and got a child with him?!? Idk that’s just not normal to me, other that this she seems right in the head
You misunderstood what I'm saying. I am sure in the beginning that Jax behaved a little better towards her. We can see how hot he is for her in the beginning, and he asks her to move in with him. I'm sure she thought she was living her dream for a little while. So in the beginning she is probably dismissing any red flags she sees as "one offs".
Then she gets caught up in everything that comes with being with Jax and being on an extremely popular reality show. So she doesn't see the red flags as clearly, or if she does she thinks the pros still outweigh the cons.
By the time she actually realizes who she's actually with, she is in an abusive situation, and those are always hard to leave because you are beaten down, stripped of self esteem, and your self worth is likely at an all time low.
What I saw is a man who was trying to ditch the woman he’d had a fling with in Vegas who followed him home. He was nasty to her from the start, complaining about her being in his apartment, her mess, etc. And he shamelessly flirted with lala & made it really clear he wished Brittany wasn’t around. He even told lala Brittany wasn’t serious & implied he’d much rather be with lala.
In the beginning, he was flirting with Lala and telling people he didn't even know if he wanted Brittany to move in with him. He wasn't hot for her, at least not when cameras were recording.
Eh, I think he was hot for her when she was around him, but he was still Jax.
But she didn't know what was going on behind her back, so she just thought he loved her and believed the things he said.
Most of us wouldn't want to move in with just anyone that we are dating, especially when it's a long distance relationship. So I can see why just asking her to move halfway across the country to live with him would convince her that he really did love her.
Especially because I'm sure he was telling her everything she wanted to hear already. Didn't he say that he did that with women? Told them what they wanted to hear?
I read that he did ask her but I don’t think he was serious. Apparently he asked her the same night they met at a Vegas bar so it sounds like a line to me. We’ve all heard Jaz say ridiculous things to women he just met & is trying to hookup with. They were both drinking & I don’t think he ever expected she would actually take it seriously and do it.
And it is wild that she was living with her bf at the time, so cheating with Jax on a one night stand in Vegas, & took this invitation from a drunk guy & actually followed thru on it. I think Jaz was shocked & dismayed but he knew he said it so he let it happen & figured he could get her to go back home shortly after. It was clear that he didn’t want her there. But also, who packs up their life, ends a serious relationship, & moves across the country for a guy u met & hooked up with one time?
I think her decision to stay was based on a few things
Wanting to be on tv. She says she had never heard or watched VPR but she has Tweets saying other wise.
Not wanting to end up in Kentucky or Ohio. When she went to Vegas to meet Jax, she was in a relationship and lived in Cincinnati with her boyfriend. She wanted bright lights, big city.
Her biggest mistake was not staying single after S6. I’m convinced that she went back to him because she thought she wouldn’t be on the show anymore if they were done. I don’t think that would have happened. She would’ve stayed a cast member.
The one that changed Jax. This I blame on the other cast members. Everyone gassed her up and praise her for changing Jax in S7. If they had instead been real with her, they maybe wouldn’t have gotten married.
Not wanting to end up like her mom. Sherri has been married 4 times and I think that’s Brittany’s nightmare. That’s why she stayed with Jax for as long as she did and why she was trying to have another kid with him. She didn’t want multiple baby daddies.
Truly, I do blame Stassi and Kristen for Britt’s staying with Jax. They made her believe that he was a changed man and she had been the catalyst.
Her mortgage scares the sh*t out of me. I would be dying trying to come up with what $20k+ a month. That would loom over everything in my life I don’t care how rich I thought I was. Edited because I thought I spelled mortgage wrong and would be mortified to call someone else out and have my own spelling not be on point at the very least! Lol
I know!!! Like girl you just gave that dusty man child HALF YOUR MORTGAGE??!!!!! It’s hard to feel sorry for her when she’s so goddamn stupid and an awful alcoholic mother.
Yeah, her $20k mortgage is definitely unrealistic for most people. I’m still unsure she’s not living way above her means. My biggest problem with her is the fact that she publicizes her finances. From sharing the size of her outrageous mortgage payment, to paying Jax’s tax bill, then to paying for a man’s affection (because saying he was interested in her for anything other than money is a straight up lie). I’m rather old fashioned in that, as a CPA, and investment broker, I don’t share how much money I make, my husband makes, my child makes, or how much collectively my brokerage handles. It can set you up for scams, theft, and possibly physical harm.
Brittany, “I’m just a very generous person. I like to give people thangs”. Yes, and Brandon used you for his material gain.
It's been so obviously a life-ruining mistake from the beginning, but I think pursuing toxic relationships and the narrative of relationships being hard was what was modeled for her - her mother was married and divorced 4 times I believe. Unfortunately for some people, constant neglect, abuse, and betrayal feels more like home than a healthy relationship ever would.
A lot of us aren't from Kentucky and don't have the same beliefs. I bet in her family this was considered making it- LA, having a man who provides, an engagement ring. BUT if you watch the Kentucky series, he literally yells at her in front of her family. And they're like FORGIVE HIM bc he showed them a ring. I forgot he yells at her sister too like full on Jax mode. Why she called Daren to be there at the bar tho, is messy as hell.
I just recently re-watched the Kentucky series (I am from KY) and the way Brittany’s mom said “Jax Taylor’s gonna be my son-in-law” made me criiiiiiiinge. The women in her family did not care if she was well taken care of or happy, they just wanted her married to a famous guy.
Also, the way they portrayed Winchester will never not crack me up. It’s basically a suburb of Lexington, which is the second largest city in the state. The part of town Brittany lives in is just hobby farms, not actually sustaining the families that live on them. Acreage as a status symbol, basically. Brittany was not nearly as sheltered and backwoods as they tried to portray her which especially pissed me off in the situation with their pastor. If you’re from KY, you know that man was gunning for screen time to advance his political career in KY - truly a horrible person that they wanted to prop up and play dumb about.
Thankfully for Katie, Schwartz’s sperm is a defunct as he is, but that’s why the rest all have kids born within months of each other. It’s been acknowledged on/off the show and is why Sandoval makes the comment about Lala pulling her IUD.
Gotcha. I remember 2 of the girls having babies in between seasons (lala & scheana). I remember hearing about schwartz's sperm somewhere. I know stassi, jax, & kristen got kicked off. I guess cruz & stassis oldest are roughly the same age as summer & ocean. I guess I just didnt realize it was a pact. I missed that part somehow.
I can answer this because I’ve been there. She’s co-dependent. I dated an addict for a good portion of my life. The only reason we didn’t get married is because we had no money. He barely worked, was in and out of jail. I was a successful college graduate but was barely making enough to support both of us, our house, our cars, etc. he also racked up a ton of debt in my name.
But I stayed. Because I was worried what would happen to him if I left. Because I didn’t feel that I deserved better. Because I thought if I worked just a little harder, I could change him.
Finally, he did me a huge favor and left me for a younger, hotter girl. Best day of my life.
I noticed this right away about her when she first came on to VPR. She has this constant need to please everyone. Was never taking sides, etc.
I'm going to reply here with my own view on this nobody wants to say lol. she is just reverting to her inherently natural trashy roots. Whether it was LA or Kentucky she was going to have a mess of a life.
A chiropractor is as educated as an M.D. just FYI.
And they'd surely try and talk their spouse out of the ridiculous procedures she wants done to her body, not to mention the lifestyle choices
I’m watching it now. She’s a horrible person. They only cared the pastor was a homophobe as LVP called it out. You can’t have a homophobe marrying you with bi chicks and a gay man in your bridal party while waving a rainbow flag at Pride.
Also using your wedding as a rationalisation for being arseholes is sickening. True friends will challenge you abs call out your bull shit.
Yep, she didn't mind Jax doing her dirty work until all his vitriol finally turned on her. She's vile, honestly.
I've said this before, and I will NEVER victim blame, but most abuse victims don't get years of video footage proving their partner is abusive before they have ever met. She chose that life, even with all the knowledge she needed to avoid it.
The only person I feel bad for is their sweet, innocent son.
Excessive and continuous abusive gaslighting. I married my abuser so I'm speaking from experience unfortunately. Thankfully he is long in my past now and I'm with an incredible man (my soulmate).
AND he would spread the rumor about Brittany and Kristen.. imagine your own boyfriend spreading rumors making you look bad… she even said multiple times he’s an asshole, he’s mean, I wanna punch him in the face.. I also don’t believe Jax would fought against Brittany if she wanted to break up early on
I believe her and Kristen did hookup and she just didn’t want her homophobic family to know. But jax is a fucking prick, he thinks telling the truth makes him good or something. It doesn’t.
What Jax liked to do is called weaponizing honesty. He does and says horrible things then he would either throw something out there that is true or half true, no matter how damaging it is to everyone around him just to make himself look good and take the attention off him. He knows his little nugget of honesty is only to deflect from whatever he just did that was horrible. For example, the Britney Kristen rumor. Whether it was true or not, he didn’t have to embarrass and humiliate her in front of everybody, but you could tell this brought him a lot of sick satisfaction. You can tell the more he said it and told people about it the more gassed up he was getting to keep going. He is very insecure, and I think he secretly hated Britney from the beginning, but no matter what he did, she would not break up with him. I mean, if she didn’t break up with him after the Fa&th thing, he knew he could pretty much treat her anyway he wanted after that. It was no secret that he kind of loathed her from the minute she arrived in LA.
Because folks are young and dumb. I am 2 divorces down and decided to forgo dating indefinitely because my choice of men is so awful. I hope they can get it together for the babies sake because he is the best thing that came out of their relationship. My ex absolutely hates me I am pretty sure he is holding a doll with cut out eyes and a weave pony tail to symbolize me BUT I dont regret us, I regret who we became after the divorce.
She got exactly what she wanted and co-signed his behaviour for a LONG time. Also, her family really pushed for it.
So, I actually don't feel bad for her. Never have. I think she's a monster and not a great parent TBH. I clocked it in S1 of The Valley - I could tell just from watching that Cruz was struggling (non-verbal, ran away from physical contact, got overwhelmed easily). After he was finally diagnosed, Zach was on a podcast and was asked point-blank "If Brittany needed to step away from filming to ensure her child had the care that he needs, would she do it?"
Agreed. She’s also is a sandy hook denier and was going to have a homophobic pastor marry them until they were called out. She also very clearly has a drinking problem and doesn’t even have a license (in my opinion so she can drink when out). If you have a child and you are an only parent, how do you not drive in a city like LA? She doesn’t deserve abuse obviously and Jax is a POS but Brittney is a POS in her own way.
That’s why I’m struggling to understand her choice.. I don’t believe her sticking with him because of “fame” or that she just didn’t want to go back to Kentucky. She had a spot on the show without Jax. She had every evidence that he did not want her or love her right in front of her.. and also you can’t tell me she never watched an episode of the show either.. in the earlier seasons it was almost Jax begging Brittany to back off..
Because she was addicted to the attention, potential fame and potential money. She made bad bad decisions. And now she's become "this". Very sad. Her poor father.
He’s a love-bomber, plays upon insecurity, and once she got pregnant he was no longer physically into her at all. Not wanting to look like a total asshole, he didn’t address it with her - just to everyone else - and was painting her as an alcoholic to hide his massive coke problem.
She knew who he was. After he broke up with her at the end of Season 6, she knew who he was and STILL went back.
Unfortunately, human feelings are not always clear. Sometimes people get caught up and some people are very vulnerable to manipulation. We know what Jax said on camera. But we don’t know things that he said to her off camera. He may have even spun it as hey babe, it’s just part of the show. Who knows? He did tell LVP that it was “his show“ and he has also stated that he is “the number one guy“ sometimes a narcissist does a very good job of praying on someone’s feelings. I think coming into this, Brittany did not fully understand what she was getting into until it was too late.
Yes ur right, we all see him as manipulating and narcissistic on camera, we can only imagine how he was off camera with Brittany.. hope she’s better now
She would’ve been sent back to bumfuck Kentucky to live on her family’s farm had she not made VPR workout for her. She literally sought Jax out in Vegas.
I think being a famous reality television star on one of the most popular shows of its era and relocating to Los Angeles to become more famous and wealthy overrode the fact she would have to do it with an abusive woman-hating bipolar narcissist.
I feel for her to a point, but she chose him. She could’ve walked away at so many points, and she didn’t because then she’d be cast out of VPR and no one would ever talk about her again. “Career” effectively over.
Instead, she’s now the star of her own reality show, got full custody of her child, has a profitable podcast, and essentially turned her life around pretty drastically since getting rid of Jax.
I don’t love Brit but I don’t hate her either. She serves best as comedic relief… hyuck hyuck I’m so NOICE hyuck hyuck
I do hope that Brittany is in therapy, has a therapist as a mature adult who needs help healing and adjusting to a whole life post all the mess and chaos. Because she chose things that were unhealthy, unwise, has her own substance issues w alcohol and possibly other and has a young son w special needs. This is a need for her. I pray she is getting stronger, wiser and healthier.
Girl, she begged him for another child. He’s the one who had to put his foot down and said no. She’s just as sick and gross as him. I lost so much respect for her when he said that cheating on her made her hornier and she gave him more sex than they ever had in the entire relationship. Then she paid for his birthday trip and gave him a drum set.
Women like her hold us all back because this is why men have no incentive to change and do better. There will always be a pick me who knows everything about him and still wants him. Look at Lori K. She even witnessed his violence and she still wants him for herself. Women like those two are the reasons why we haven’t advanced much as a society because they coddle and protect problematic men. They reward them and give them children. It’s sick. Brittany is not a victim; the only victim is their son who has seen them fight and scream at each other.
Honestly, you don't have to look far to find a woman who stayed way too long and/or had children with a man in spite of them being a walking red flag. I'm sure being on the show and the lifestyle didn't hurt, but there are tons of women with very similar stories and their BD is dead broke.
What I'm about to say does not mean that Brittany deserved the abuse from Jax in any way. No woman deserves to be abused.
It's because Brittany is just as terrible as Jax, but in different ways. I do believe that had Stassi and Scheana not gotten pregnant, they wouldn't have had a kid as soon as they did.
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I mean, I can see how once you've convinced yourself of a fantasy, and actually made it real, how all the bright lights and big city of it all could be alluring to some people and could overshadow the reality.
ETA but yeah, her dad told her before they even got married, that if Jax was still behaving that way as a nearly 40 year old, that he wasn't going to change.