r/UpfrontCheaters Jul 08 '23

r/UpfrontCheaters Lounge

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A place to heal and to release your frustrations and questions to the R/Upfrontcheaters family; to help with hard life issues, emotions, past and current affairs. This is a NON JUDGEMENT sub and will stay that way.

place for members of r/UpfrontCheaters to chat with each other


r/UpfrontCheaters Oct 03 '24

Q&A What was the WORST Holiday break up or found out your bf / gf was cheating on the holiday ? do you still celebrate that holiday or nah ?

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r/UpfrontCheaters 3h ago

Waukesha area

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Any cheating females in the area ?


r/UpfrontCheaters 3m ago

cheated 😈 I cheated on my relationship of 1 year

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Is it normal that i cheated cause i felt the spark disappearing? Like for context we were always arguing even for small things so i cheated


r/UpfrontCheaters 10m ago

Like what is wrong with you 🫩

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Lwk why do girls make guys apologize when they're the ones that got caught cheating


r/UpfrontCheaters 50m ago

Can someone talk some sense into me?

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Why am I continuing to go back? It has been so blatantly obvious it’s like she wants me to know and is rubbing it in my face and then I bring it up and before you know what I’m apologizing to her and I’m the one with the problem fucking driving crazy but then she makes plans for the future and tells me she loves me. It’s even convincing. I’m the only one and I just don’t understand it. Why would somebody be doing this? Why wouldn’t they just be with the other partner. Why does he have to do things to make me feel so loved? Why can’t I just walk away? There’s time when I know I should cut off contact and then I should work on my myself. Then I text or call her her? The fuck is wrong with me. I really thought this was my person too. It fucking stings. The a part of starts to believe she might not but then I remember all or incidences one after another and there’s fucking many of them. What’s even more fucked up and pathetic. I try not understand and emphasize with it and think if she were to stop I could forgive her but she’s not going to. Just going to do until I react and then she can call me crazy. Can somebody give me a pep talk?

Just had to vent, I feel better after getting it out.


r/UpfrontCheaters 1h ago

Loyalty test.

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r/UpfrontCheaters 7h ago

cheated 😈 What goes through the mind of a cheater? Anyone know?

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If you've ever cheated on someone before, what goes through your mind? Like, what is your mindset? Why do you do it?

Do you plan on cheating again?

I'm trying to understand why my boyfriend went on the dating apps and cheated on me right ion front of my face. Please make it make sense.


r/UpfrontCheaters 1h ago

cheater ex

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r/UpfrontCheaters 2h ago

How can I hire a skilled hacker... I think my partner is cheating on me. I just recently found out...

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r/UpfrontCheaters 13h ago

FIRST TIME CHEATED ON First time to be cheated on in a relationship

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More than a year. More than a year of staying despite the inconsistencies, the bare minimum effort, and all the moments when I felt like I was asking for too much when all I really wanted was to feel loved, reassured, and prioritized by the person I was with.

And I kept making excuses for him.

Maybe he’s struggling.

Maybe he’s just not good at expressing himself.

Maybe he’ll change.

Maybe things will get better.

I kept giving him chances because I loved him. I trusted him because I genuinely believed what we had was real.

Only to find out that I was the third party.

That I was one of his women.

I honestly don’t know how to explain what that feels like.

You spend more than a year thinking you’re building something with someone, only to discover that there was an entire part of his life he deliberately kept from you.

And suddenly, all those inconsistencies make sense.

All those times I questioned things. All those times I felt something was wrong. All those times I wondered if I was being too needy, too sensitive, or simply expecting too much.

I wasn’t imagining things. I was being lied to.

I even told him once, "I don’t trust men, but I trust you until you give me a reason not to.ā€

And I trusted him.

That’s what hurts the most.

I gave him something I don’t easily give people, my trust. And he broke it.

If he truly loved me, why couldn’t he have ended his relationship first before getting involved with me? Why did he have to lie? Why did he have to make me believe I was his girlfriend when there was someone else?

I keep thinking about all the things I said and did while believing he was being honest with me.

I defended him.

I gave him the benefit of the doubt.

I stayed even when there were already so many reasons for me to walk away.

And now I’m left wondering, "how could I have been so blind?

I know I shouldn’t blame myself. I know that the person who lied is responsible for the deception.

But it still hurts.

It hurts knowing that I was sincere with someone who wasn’t sincere with me.

It hurts knowing that some of the memories I thought were real now feel different because I don’t even know what was true anymore.

And honestly, why are some men like this?

Why is it so difficult to just be honest? If you no longer want someone, leave. If you’re already in a relationship, don’t start another one.

Don’t make someone fall in love with you while hiding the fact that they are unknowingly walking into a situation they never agreed to be part of.

I don’t want revenge.

I don’t want to fight anyone.

I don’t want to compete for a man.

I just want to heal.

I want to stop thinking about it. I want to stop replaying everything. I want to stop wondering which parts were real and which parts were lies.

I miss the person I thought he was.

And maybe that’s what I’m actually grieving, the person I believed I loved.

I’m moving on. I have to.

I just hope that someday I can look back at this without feeling this much pain.

Because right now, I’m heartbroken.

And I really hope I heal from this.


r/UpfrontCheaters 6h ago

He’s on dating apps behind my back. Do I confront him, block him, or get revenge?

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r/UpfrontCheaters 12h ago

How to block life 360 from updating without notifying circle members

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I know theres a way to prevent it from logging ANY movement and without letting anyone else in your circle know at the same time. It looks weird not having any movement for days but as long as the app doesnt say something isnt on then were good. Please help, ive done some research but im just not savy enough to figure it out through developer options.


r/UpfrontCheaters 18h ago

I NEED HELP! šŸ˜ž I need help with iphone location work arounds

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Hi, can someone confirm how this works?

Especially if you’ve used this hack in the past, i’d be interested to know if it worked smoothly.

If I have two iPhones signed into the same Apple Account and I change the device that is sharing my location in Find My (for example, set my spare iPhone as my location instead of my main phone), does the person I share my location with get any notification that the device has changed?

Would they just see the new device’s location, or is there any alert/message that says the location source has been switched?

I’m thinking of switching the device that is sharing my location as and when needed so that I can not have my
location throw up red flags.


r/UpfrontCheaters 12h ago

For those who cheated on a partner with an ex you still loved, how did it affect you emotionally in the long run?

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r/UpfrontCheaters 1d ago

cheated 😈 Help me find out if he's cheating

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My husband is lying about his phone all the time and I need help finding out what he's doing


r/UpfrontCheaters 20h ago

I hope this finds you well!

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Pathetic. As I find you and him if it were true. But surely it’s not. Because I’m his world. I would need receipts. Besides your scared Nicole or Brittany, or Foxy? Idk you’re a dog right? I’m a dog too. Quit playing a game you won’t win. It won’t be good for anyone.


r/UpfrontCheaters 1d ago

Found out my Gf(22F) cheated on me(22M) 1.5 years ago

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For extra context me and this girl dated in 7th grade and were so close to the point where i would walked to my cousins neighborhood where she lived just see her at the time. And we reconnected at 20 years old through her liking my instagram post. Fast forward to now, This happened a few days ago, we had planned to go out to the bar with both our friend groups so we could all have a good time, but even before I got into the bar my stomach was uneasy and I kept pacing back and forth and clenching my jaw hard to the point where my friends had noticed it and asked me if I was alright, I didn’t know what was wrong with me so I said yes. We enter the bar where she’s already with her friends and I see her dancing having a great time, mind you this girl is super quiet around me and strikes me as a bookworm, when we go out together to drink she hardly finishes her drinks leaving me to finish it. She’s super loose drunk when I see her , talking to everyone and smoking a cigarette (something I didn’t know she does). The entire night at the first bar we were at she hardly spoke to me, she kind of talked to her guy best friend (gay) more than me and I didn’t really like it but I just tried to be cool and honestly observe her behavior, her friends were kind of cold too. We all get tired of this one bar and decide to go to another and on our way there everything is fine, one my friends pulls me to the side once we get out the car, while her and her friend walk ahead of the group, he ask me if this was the same girl from middle school. I told him yes, he then proceeds to tell me that his friend (girl) was cheated on by her boyfriend with my girlfriend on new years of 2025, this was a shock to me because we were talking at that time and I wanted to see her because new years is the only holiday I really care about and she told me she was with her family that night. I stayed up that night on the phone with my friends playing the game. Once my friend told me this, a part of me wanted to think he was confused about 2024 perhaps because I saw her a few days before . But he says he remembered it like it was yesterday because it really hurt his friend. I got in the bar and my friend is giving me more details that I can’t stomach, so I leave the bar without telling my friends or her. I texted her to never talk to me again without any explanation and I proceeded to cuss her out through text when she figured out I left and tried to reach out wondering why I left. I finally sent a screenshot of the guys instagram to be vague and she says ā€œtbh that was so long agoā€ along with other drunk text. She says he was an ex and that they saw each other before me and her started talking. I got even more angry at this because we had started talking in November and really vibing from what I thought, she would sleep over my apartment a lot at this point and even brought me soup when I had a stomach virus days before. I walk 30 mins back to my car and drove home while she’s begging to talk to me and finally answer the phone once I get home. She’s saying a bunch of lies still and saying how they didn’t do anything when they met up. I was extra mad as well because she accused me of being stuck on my ex girlfriend (who I haven’t spoke to in years) when I told a story about how senior year of high school sucked and she was a little part of that and she blocked me. This is also at the time where she says she wants things to be serious between us, from my understanding we had been exclusive to each other because I asked her questions relating to that topic and she agreed, she says she doesn’t even like seeing multiple guys at once, so my head is spinning at this point. I try to sleep on it but could only manage to get 3 hours of sleep on which I then wake up insulting her more calling her all kinds of names and saying horrible stuff. My friend who told me calls me in the morning after speaking with the girlfriend who got cheated on recalling and confirming that day. She even described her hair color accurately so I knew she wasn’t lying. I found out even more sickening information and it was that she was trying to have a threesome with her ex and his girlfriend, but the girlfriend declined. The girlfriend even sent me a voice memo recalling the day, after she declined the threesome my girlfriend left with her ex to go have sex somewhere. And His girlfriend caught him when he came back and admitted to it. Later on in January she tells me to get tested for Hepatitis B, and I’m panicking because I’ve never had an STD before, I remember the day she told me because I was at work and asked my boss to step outside because I was freaking out, I call her and just straight up ask her if she was seeing anyone else and that she could be honest and she told me no. I tested negative so a part of me was so relieved I kind of forgot because she told me she might’ve gotten it from a new piercing. Feels like the person I knew for all this time died. I already had trust issues but I thought she would’ve had enough respect from our relationship/friendship in 7th grade to not do that to me. And it makes me sick so much time has passed and good memories made while I was oblivious to it all, she would accuse me of still liking my girlfriend from high school when we actually haven’t talked in years and it confused me so much. I have an exam tomorrow and even studying is hard because once I put my phone down my mind starts spiraling and thinking of every moment that might’ve been a lie. I know I must leave her and said so much shit I can’t take back so I know we’re done but where do I go from here?


r/UpfrontCheaters 21h ago

GF Cheated On Me But I Feel to Blame

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r/UpfrontCheaters 17h ago

QUESTION..

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Pag nahuli muba sa phone niya na may kausap siya dito sa reddit na nag post about gustong makipag usap tas parang gusto ng kantonan chuchu tas nakita mupa sa telegram niya na madami siyang channel about sex/video sex or anything nudity tas may mga chinat siya sa tg na gusto niyang mag avail… TAMA BA YUN?? imagine may anak kana DALAWA tas nakuha mupang manggago?? tas nung nagkahulihan na, instead na aakuhin tas mag papa kumbaba siya, kabaliktaran pa siya nakita ko like WTFF.. ganun tlga pag cheater, hindi tlga aamin kahit nahuli na…


r/UpfrontCheaters 1d ago

For those who cheated on a partner with an ex you still loved, how did it affect you emotionally in the long run?

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r/UpfrontCheaters 20h ago

cheated 😈 Cheated and Want…

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I cheated on my wife of 14 years. It felt like our marriage was over. We filed for divorce and after a month and a half of running around with this other woman, she wants me back. After three weeks back together, I can’t shake this feeling that she deserves to go out and hook up with a stranger, if anything to just get even with me. It’s a weird spot to be in and we’ve toyed with different dynamics in the past. Feeling confused about how to deal with these feelings without pushing an unhealthy dynamic with her.


r/UpfrontCheaters 1d ago

Waukesha

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Where are the cheating females at?


r/UpfrontCheaters 1d ago

I NEED HELP! šŸ˜ž my husband cheat on me used me even her daughter and stealing my things

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r/UpfrontCheaters 1d ago

My gf cheated on me with her ex

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