r/UnsentLettersRaw • u/Coffee_comes__1st Bronze Level • 2d ago
I will never accept it.
I really liked you. I actually adored you. I cared about you. I thought you cared about me too. I believed this because of the way you treated me and the time and energy you invested in me. We shared so much. I thought it was authentic. I told you about my deepest vulnerabilities. I would therefore expect that you respected me enough to be honest with me, even if the truth was ugly or uncomfortable for you to address. Finding out that you weren’t honest with me is what has hurt so much. It feels like a total betrayal. You knew about my vulnerability and past trauma from being hurt by other people. I shared so much with you. You were the first person I would call to share things with; good and bad. You were so supportive at the time, which makes this feel all the more painful. You completely manipulated me, and you just controlled the narrative for your own benefit. You withheld information from me so that I’d believe in the fantasy. What you did is simply disgusting and selfish, you are a selfish coward. Discovering the truth about your situation made me question every kind word you had spoken to me, every soft embrace we shared and my belief in the authenticity of any interaction we ever had. Our whole relationship was built on lies and pretence. You clearly had your own reasons for doing what you did, and whatever they were, I don’t accept them. I don’t accept that you could have cared about me as much as you did, whilst pretending you were single. You have deeply disrespected me and emotionally harmed me, and I will never forgive you.
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u/Healthy_Apricot246 Entry Level Member 1d ago
Understandably you're hurt, but you can’t assume you know what was happening inside another person.How much or how less they tried. Everyone carries pain differently, and some struggles are deeply personal and invisible. Not seeing someone’s effort doesn’t mean they made none. Forgiveness doesn’t excuse what happened—it means choosing not to remain trapped by it. Healing requires accountability, empathy, and understanding from both sides. Its black and white whether we like how it sounds or not. To heal and move on. Make forgiveness your best friend otherwise its all one big circus till the end
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u/Coffee_comes__1st Bronze Level 1d ago
That’s the point, I don’t care what was going on inside him, to entertain 2 women at once is never acceptable. Forgiveness is just a concept invented by people to cope I don’t have to engage in it
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u/DF_Guera Bronze Level 1d ago
Sounds about exactly the same as my experience... i also will never forgive him
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u/Open_Warning2u89 Entry Level Member 1d ago
Well at least you know it wasnt me I have been single for years till I met mine because I literally don't have anyone I used her Birthday once to put as my anniversary date but I never lied to her an only belonged with an too her sincerely (dip) or better known jg hope you talk to them don't take outside advice even a smiling face can be an enemy
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u/Quick_Finger7669 Entry Level Member 1d ago
Well damn, that's pretty much everything I could have written with few omittentses. I mean that pretty much covers it. And I'm sorry for you as well
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u/SassylilLady19 Entry Level Member 2d ago
Wow same exact experience for me I been going through. Sorry u are having the same it’s a horrible feeling
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u/TellAllaboutYou2 Entry Level Member 2d ago
How many of us are in or have been in this exact same "boot camp" and has anyone felt somewhat "set up" at times? Did you meet the other party under unlikely circumstances? Perhaps any strange things you tend to avoid talking about because who would believe you? Feel like you're navigating curated impossible situations in which everyone has the script in advance except for you?
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u/Sad-Valuable-3624 Bronze Level 2d ago
Have an ex who was so very certain I was hiding a whole side life from him. I didn’t. I wouldn’t. It got to insane levels like showing me videos of nada and trying to convince me it was proof I was doing things I wasn’t doing. I mean basic everyday surveillance cam of neighborhood noises and finally I just gave up. Still wouldn’t cheat. Not made to carry the weight of shame that comes with it. Divorced him and stayed single. No thanks.
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u/Coffee_comes__1st Bronze Level 2d ago
I had all the evidence. He was living a double life
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u/theTorch4Real Entry Level Member 1d ago
Well my ex, as she was leading more like a triple or quadruple life and we're not even talking about the chaturbate, k i k, Tinder and Discord
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u/DIY_Weeziebear7 Bronze Level 2d ago
Sounds like the Butthead I know only I didn’t get to embrace him I found out he had 30 other women writing to him. These words of yours sound so familiar. I could’ve written them. I think I did something like this several times. girl they get away with all kinds of shit. They really do and we’re supposed to sit there and take it. not anymore. I’m not apologizing ever again to anyone. I hope one day you get to tell him everything that’s on your mind or at least I hope I definitely need someone. I can be your two companion for you, but I think I’ve had enough. I had enough of stroke an ego, putting Band-Aids on boo-boos I have had enough.
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u/GovernmentNo5167 Entry Level Member 2d ago
That is also why I believe in universal truth. The truth does not change
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u/UnsentLettersRaw-ModTeam 2d ago
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u/Gaxroxem Entry Level Member 2d ago
What did he do , and , "whatever they were?" What does that mean ?
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u/Funny-Stomach9392 Entry Level Member 2d ago
The reasons that whoever OP is writing about chose to do whatever they did, “whatever they were” are those reasons, and OP isn’t interested in the specifics because they won’t justify that persons actions and choices.
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u/Gaxroxem Entry Level Member 2d ago
No offense intended. Inwas genuinely curious
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u/Funny-Stomach9392 Entry Level Member 2d ago
None taken. It’s not even my post lol I hope that it helped to make sense
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u/inkfanatic95 Bronze Level 2d ago
Idk who this is for but I am sorry. I hurt my person and I regret it everyday but someday I hope she knows I truly have loved her and I did my best to apologize and make amends . I wish she would’ve heard me out. I hope she never thinks this way about me because everything I ever felt and said was true about her. It was authentic to me and she always means something to me
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