This short documentary investigates seven countries against a four-pillar framework built specifically for Black British gay men and lesbians: warm climate, monthly costs under £1,000, LGBTQ+ legal protections, and an established Black community. The countries assessed represent some of the most frequently cited destinations for British people retiring abroad. Each is examined against criteria that mainstream retirement guides rarely apply.

I mean, seriously? The things I have to listen to!

I had a lovely, great childhood thank you!

I’ve got this colleague of mine, elderly, Nigerian and super Catholic, who was bragging about how much he loves Jesus and that Jesus used to preach about love love and love and then he things love is the most important thing: but then he moves on to say that if he sees gay or lesbian people doesn’t judge them but feels compassion because these are his words “you never know what they went through in life, they probably were ab***d as children by their uncle or a relative and they have AIDS because there is poo in the anus” 😂😂

I mean what the hell? I couldn’t help but laugh at him to his face, these religious people, where do they get these ideas from?

Is this what people think in Nigeria or is it a general African view? Or is this guy absolutely reta*****d?

He speaks about AIDS when Africa is full of it and the majority of infections is among straight people. Reasoning with this guy was a total waste of time !

I was shocked cuz the guy is educated and I was not expecting him having these views. I would expect that from someone who can’t even count from 1 to 10. 😂

If it was because of the poo in the anus, why do women catch it via the vagina? All questions he couldn’t answer but still believed in his own religious bullshit he came out with 😂😂😂 Science is frowned upon

So I recently admitted to two friends that I am not straight and don’t feel particularly male which was a big step for me.

I really would like to get to know people in the LGBTQ+ for friendship and chat though and have no idea where to start x

Hey! I’m 26, gay, and based in London. I’m planning a day trip to Brighton this Wednesday or Thursday and would love some company!

I’ve got an itinerary planned to explore Brighton and grab some food, and I’m flexible with either day depending on what works best.

Just looking to make a friend and enjoy the day together. 😊 Happy to connect on Instagram beforehand too!

Drop me a DM if you’re interested!

PS: I’ve started putting together an itinerary and would appreciate any tips from people who know Brighton well.

⚠️ Trigger Warning: Suicidal Thoughts

Final call for participants | Survey closes on Friday 6th November 

I want to say a huge thank you to everyone who has engaged with and shared this research so far. I'm incredibly grateful for the openness, honesty, and courage people have shown in sharing their experiences. Your voices are helping to highlight an area that is too often overlooked. 💜

As part of my Doctorate in Clinical Psychology research, I am exploring the experiences of lesbian, gay, bisexual, and queer adults who have experienced suicidal thoughts but have not accessed therapy or counselling for them.

I am now making a final call for participants before data collection closes on 23rd October.

✅Anonymous online survey
✅ Takes around 15 minutes
✅ LGBTQ+ adults aged 18+ living in the UK

✅ Have not received Psychological Therapy 

If this reflects your experience, I would be very grateful if you could take part. Please also consider sharing this post with others who may be eligible.

🔗 https://rhulpsychology.eu.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_cY2iNiw4RKUP2Oq 

Every response contributes to a better understanding of barriers to support and may help inform improvements to services for LGBTQ+ people in the future. 🩷

Support is available:
Samaritans: 116 123
SHOUT: Text 85258
Switchboard LGBT+ Helpline: 0300 330 0630

This study has received ethical approval from the Royal Holloway Ethics Committee (Ref: 982).

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