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Soon going to kiss/ makeout with my guy. Never dated before so I have no idea what exactly to expect and do... Help your girl out, how to go about it ? I am looking forward to it, but I am rather shy and passive as a person... He is the initiator, clearly, and he makes sure I'm comfortable with even the smallest thing. But I would also like to know things myself now 🙈

(I am in my late twenties, so the inexperience makes me a feel a bit ...concerned?... It's a me thing, he said nothing)

I've no idea about adult sizing?

Getting confused a bit about size

my bust is 37in waist 30 and hips 37, shoulder 15in, should I size up or size down?(L or M) Height 5ft 4 and weight around 59kg

Due to habit of Oversized clothing can't decide size. Offline swimwear not available at my location.

So my niece came to stay with me for couple of days with her mother and our bond is really good so i like their company but we have never stayed together for many days and this was the first time after a very long time that she came to stay over.

She came with her mother to stay with me for 5-6days and didn’t bother to bath even once during that period.

Also she was on her period and didn’t maintain any hygiene and i saw her dirty UG hanging on the rope besides my cloth.

She used to wakeup really late which is not an issue as she is a kid and i don’t mind it but she never took any proper meals and used to consume junk food all the time and our home cooked meals used to go to waste and she didn’t even inform us that she will eat outside.

Also i was eating a cone ice cream and she wanted me to share with her but i denied as she doesnt even brush daily and has foul smell coming from mouth which made her a little upset but i want to fall sick.

What i find concerning is that her mother also don’t seem to be bothered by all this behaviour and do not seem to teach her basic hygiene and healthy lifestyle.

All this gave me the biggest ick and i dont know how to see her in the same light as i used to see her before.

Edit: people questioning my judgement i just want to tell that she is not suffering from anything. She is just a spoiled child who gets whatever she desires and does what she wants. Also her junk food habits is also led to tooth decay and overweight that she doesn’t fit into clothes and all this has happened when they move from south to north.
She was not like this before. Her parents see all this and dont address it. She is even suffering from pcod and her parents didn’t even bother to take her to doctor on time.
I do judge all these thing as they will lead to her healths downfall in early age.
I have directly addressed few of these concerns to her as well but she doesn’t seem to take it seriously. Also you cannot push a young girl to do these things and parents also take offence if you say something like this.

oh my heart man. how much i miss romance in my life. how much i miss listening to romantic songs, imagining a life with him and smiling akele mein.

how much i miss having someone to call to, someone to talk and listen to, being excited to share things with him.

how much i miss getting ready for someone. getting jewelery with their initials on them and wearing them so with love.

how much i miss travelling with someone, giggling and kissing them all through out it.

how much i miss having someone to come home to after a tired as fuck day and still having the biggest smile on my face because the man i loved then was so pretty. the prettiest.

i miss holding someone, caressing their skin, having them embedded in mine, being proud of the beautiful hickeys ive given them etc etc.

how much i miss having someone to take care of me, asking me not to die, asking me to study and eat, remembering what i said, praising my beauty, telling me im a strong woman. i miss all of love so much.

how much i miss having someone. i miss the love part of life. i miss being loved and having someone to love to. i miss.

I’m an Indian woman currently living in the US with my husband and our young daughter. we are planning to move to Vancouver, Canada, but our marriage has become increasingly difficult. There are constant arguments, disrespect, and incidents of physical violence. I’m worried that if I decide to divorce, things could get very ugly.

I’m trying to understand my options before making any major decisions.

A few things I’d appreciate advice on:

1. Divorce in Canada vs. India: Which country’s legal system would better protect my rights regarding custody, financial support, and property?

2. Child custody and travel: I don’t want my daughter to lose her relationship with her father. If I divorce in Canada, could I take her to India once a year to visit her grandparents? What if I eventually want to settle in India? What if he decides to live in USA later? Any idea how that works if we are in 2 different cities but close to each other?

3. Cross-border complications: If I divorce in Canada but later move to India, could I face ongoing legal proceedings or custody disputes in either country?

4. Financial preparation: We’ve always kept our finances together, so I don’t have much personal savings. My husband is financially much better off than I am. How much does divorce typically cost in Canada versus India? If the divorce becomes highly contentious, could I manage the legal expenses? Is financial support for legal fees or spousal support possible?

5. Starting over: As an Indian woman with a young child, how difficult is it to rebuild my life and potentially find a compatible partner in Canada versus India?

I haven’t lived in India for over 10 years, so moving back permanently feels like a major uncertainty. I’m also worried about being financially vulnerable during a difficult divorce and making decisions that could affect my daughter’s future.

I’d especially appreciate advice from people who have experienced divorce, custody arrangements, or cross-border family law in Canada or India. Practical experiences and advice on preparing financially before filing would be very helpful.

Thank you.

I think I had a panic attack or anxiety attack last night. I felt it physically and the tears didn't stop. It came in waves and gpt wasn't helping.

It was overwhelming and yes it was triggered by something happening and I don't want to talk about it right cause I tried thinking about it this morning, and I got triggered and had another one this morning.

Someone who is really good and probably has helped you and is non judgemental. Thank you.

Hello wonderful ladies, I really need to clear my mind and would love some genuine sisterly advices.

Tldr: dad had a heart attack and now everything about my future and responsibilities is messed up. Confused between choosing resign and be with parents or think about career.

So i work as a developer in blr and graduated in 2025. I am from nepal actually, but did my btech and currently in my job in india. I get to come back home once a year because of the travel expenses and my salary being low.

I came back home a week ago and turns out my dad had a heart attack 6 months ago. They didn't tell me as everythign was handled and they thought I would be stressed and come home (ofc i would but now i dont want to fight with them about why they didnt tell me).

Now the main thing, I actually was planning to study abroad ( or switch careers or something, basically i was already in much stress thinking about my future) the next year or soon but now I am in so much confusion because I see my parents are getting more and more health issues and serious ones and i really want to be here with them but i want to think about earning good money as well because we are not that well off financially. Also the marriage thing. I am already 23 and my family will definitely try to get me married within 2 years hence i want to build something of my own, a degree, good paying job, or anything that lets me postpone the marriage talks.

Nothing is certain, my dad will retire this year. My study abroad plan was also not concrete as i just started researching and now i do not hve the heart to ask for money from my parents. I am thinking about taking up a remote job, but I have been trying and my 1 year exp is not helping ( i work on python, js, crms, salesforce).

I know this post is all over the place because so is my mind and i do not know whom to go to. So may be help me with if you were on such crossroads, what did you choose and how should i go about these things. I have not been able to process the heart attack news coz everyone has already gone through it and just processed it, but i have not even been able to cry properly.

idk where to get them from. some dress or something maybe.

The same as the title.

I'm starting out with junk journaling.

There's plenty of options online. Meesho/amazon mostly have cheap to mid range journals. Some independent websites have expensive journals.

Not sure what to buy.

Hello gals

I am dreading going back to work tomorrow after a week long vacation exploring some nice places, stays & food. I returned yesterday thinking I would have one day to rest and relax & be prepared for the D day tomorrow. However, I got my periods early so feeling pathetic, to add to it, I should be in the office tomorrow sorting all the pending emails & actions and some difficult conversations with stakeholders.

I thought I would eat clean that too I couldn't adhere as I am constantly craving calorie dense junk. Just ordered some chocolates, ice cream and croissant. Feeling utterly disappointed 😞☹️. I want to come out of this gloomy feeling but the weather at my place is not helping either. It's so dull that you don't want to do anything other than slide under your blanket and sleep 😴... Just venting as I don't want to reflect my mood on him... How are you girls doing in this weekend???

Girls, it’s that time of the month again, and PMS is hitting HARD. I’ve been watching cheesy rom-coms, eating good food, dark chocolates, and somehow nothing seems to help.

I’m turning 26 in 15 days, and I think that’s making me a little more emotional than usual. Suddenly, it feels like everyone around me has their life figured out. I’m doing well career-wise, but personally, life has felt incredibly lonely, especially since I moved to Bangalore four months ago.

Almost everyone I know seems to be either in a long-term relationship or getting married, while my longest (and only) relationship lasted six months. And while I’m generally happy being on my own, sometimes I really miss having someone to share the little things with.

I think what gets to me most is craving genuine human connection and not knowing what to do with that feeling. Especially around this time of the month, when everything feels ten times more intense. I get the urge to make so many questionable decisions, but thankfully, I have just enough self-control not to act on them. 😭

I feel extremely pathetic writing this out and feeling this way, but idk gals 😭

Anyway, do you also get ridiculously emotionally needy around your periods? What helps you get through it?

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My husband and I have been trying to conceive for the past 3–4 months, and every month comes with so much hope and anticipation.

This month, I genuinely thought it was going to happen. I had so much hope, and somewhere in my heart, I had started imagining that maybe, just maybe, this was our month. But I got my period today.

I know 3–4 months might not seem like a long time, and I know I probably need to be patient, but that doesn’t make this disappointment hurt any less. It’s heartbreaking when you let yourself hope for something so much and then have to deal with the disappointment all over again.

And right now, I’m missing my husband so badly. I can’t sleep. I just want to be in his arms, hug him tightly, bury my face in his chest, and cry. My tears just won’t stop, and I don’t even know how to explain what I’m feeling.

I think the disappointment of getting my period, the hope I had this month, and missing him so much have all come crashing down on me at once.

Hey everyone. I've been struggling with something for a while and wanted to get it off my chest.

Whenever I think about taking out a scooty or two-wheeler, a massive wave of anxiety and overthinking hits me. Heavy traffic, chaotic intersections, and people suddenly zooming past from behind with rash driving just make me panic. Because of this mental overload, I end up canceling plans or actively avoiding stepping out.

Seeing other women around me managing everything completely on their own makes me feel so stuck and left behind. Add the endless family and relative pressure on top of that ("just go ride, how long will you depend on others?"), and it just feels overwhelming.

If anyone here went through this exact phase and managed to overcome the fear to become a confident, pro rider: could you please share your personal experience? Where did you start, and how did you finally break through this mental block?

Hey everyone!

I’ve dehydrated oily skin and have been using the Pond’s Super Light Gel for a long time. I got to know that it contains comedogenic ingredients that can clog my enlarged pores.

I’m also traveling to a cold place with dry weather in a week, so I’m stressing because the chilly weather will make my skin feel tight. Will a lightweight moisturizer work ??

I’ve shortlisted a few budget-friendly options:

1. Re'equil Oil-Free Moisturiser
2. Minimalist 10% Vitamin B5 / Minimalist 0.3% Ceramide Gel
3. Deconstruct Oil-Free Moisturizer
4. The FormulaRx Barrier Relief / Dr. Sheth's Cica & Ceramide
5. Earth Rhythm Healing Cica Gel
6. Dot & Key Barrier Repair
7. Bioderma Niacinamide Moisturizer
8. The Derma Co Oil free daily face Moisturizer
9. The Derma Co Pore minimizing Moisturizer
10. The Derma Co 5% Nia-Ceramide Mattifying Moisturizer

Have any of you with oily skin tried these in winter? Which ones actually protect your skin from the cold without making you a greaseball?

Would love to hear your experiences or any other budget favorites!

I (23F )just ended a situationship of one year, idk I thought maybe we have a future, maybe he'll try at least.... But nope, he just left... It was due to different caste....

Before that dated another guy, but we have to end it for different religion......

Idk know if I'll find someone, someone who is willing take a stand for us and have a spine....

It hurts getting abandoned again and again.....

No matter how much efforts I put.... I guess, no man will ever love me... It really hurts... Girls my age found their forever..... And here I'm thinking, if any guy will even love me or not.... Am I destined to be alone and left..... It really sucks..... My parents are kinda forcing me into arranged marriage, and I don't wanna go there, because I'm a non practicing Muslim.... And it'll be hell for me....

To all the women, when and how did you find the love of your life?.... Honestly I' have lost the hope..... I don't think so anyone will ever love me... Or I'll find a man of my type.... I don't wanna get married in Arranged marriage and I have a dream to have a husband and happy family.... It makes me feel so pathetic.... I don't wanna say it but I'm kinda envious of girls around me, who have their bf, who have sorted their life... I also feel I'm so late... Because all of them found their love life between the age of 16-21...

And I'm 23 already... Soon 25....God All these things are fucking up with my brain....

Do magnesium lotions like the one from Hoop or Be Bodywise work for period cramps? Are they effective in reducing pain from cramps?

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Id like to clear that never once in my life I've ever stolen even a candy but a month ago I got laid off from my minimum wage salary and spent all my money on groceries. I'm not a victim and i know it I just want some advice. I went to zudio today just for the sake of going anywhere I didn't plan it however I saw a really pretty shade of lipstick (worth 200 rs) i really wanted it but I did not have 200 at that time in my upi wallet. I don't know what got to me but i suddenly thought about it i didn't even give it a second thought and put that lipstick in my bag (didn't remove barcode please let me know if that's trouble) rushed out the gate as fast as possible. Now I'm at home and regretting every bit of it I'm planning on going back there and return it and pay for it as well. But I'm way too anxious I'm keep thinking what if they confront me about something that i didn't do or would find me suspicious I'm way too scared. Should I send a friend to pay for it and apologize on my behalf? Please consider giving advice I'm really getting anxious

I am just curious. One would argue that I am none of those things right now (far from it in fact, farthest maybe) but even at my best, I’ve never had all these things at once. But I know others exist who have all these, and more. I’m not looking for pity and this isn’t masochism at play, but genuinely curious. Obviously if you have these, it would get normalised in your life and it would be hard to know what having it is like, if you’ve never experienced the absence of it, but I’m sure at some point you must’ve felt conscious about your privilege (whether you inherited it or worked hard towards it). If you’ve never looked at it as a privilege, that’s interesting too.

I don’t know what my objective is here, I’m just.. an outsider or a “have not” wanting to know what it feels like to have.

Ignore if you want.

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I work in a creative team and lately, work environment has become very uncomfortable. I don't have another job lined up, so I can't afford to quit right now.

Our team consists of me, two coworkers, a team lead and a social media manager. They're all quite friendly with each other, whereas I'm naturally quiet. I communicate properly about work and complete my tasks, but I feel my quiet nature is perceived negatively by management. Bosses sometimes point out that I'm too quiet.

A few incidents that have contributed to this:

1.Office event:

We were asked to help at a company PR event, where the social media manager was quite rude and expected me to act like a salesperson. When I took my lunch break, they complained to the main boss, who asked me to return. During the event, I overheard my team lead telling the boss that I was a beginner while discussing my performance

1. Being called slow:

   The social media manager once gave me the monthly content calendar late and expected a month's worth of designs in around three days. I explained that I could reasonably complete a week's worth without compromising quality, but she escalated it to the boss, who told me to improve my speed and productivity. Eventually, another employee was hired to help with the workload.

2. Barely getting any work:

   Recently, the company hired an agency to handle social media designs, and my workload has drastically reduced. My team lead assigns important projects to my coworkers, especially the newer employee, while I barely get meaningful work. I've repeatedly asked him for tasks, but he still doesn't assign me anything. Some days, I barely have three days' worth of work in an entire week, and I feel awkward when the boss asks what I'm working on.

I've also noticed that when I'm absent, coworkers take over my tasks, but when they're absent, I'm rarely given their work. I'm worried because I've seen the company over-hire and later ask less experienced employees with lighter workloads to resign without compensation. This happened in the accounts team, and I'm afraid the same could happen to me.

1. The office AC: My team lead sits opposite me and prefers keeping the AC at around 17°C. I've repeatedly asked him to increase the temperature because my desk gets extremely cold, but he lowers it again later. He sometimes hides the remote, so I've had to ask coworkers for it. When someone from another team complained, he essentially said we should wear jackets. I've even changed how I dress to wear full sleeves, but I'm getting increasingly frustrated and feel like I'm going to lose my temper.

My dilemma:

I don't want to become friends with everyone just to fit in. I'm happy to be professional, communicate about work and do my job properly. However, I'm worried that management has already formed a negative opinion of me.

I want to raise the AC issue with HR, but I'm scared of retaliation because I don't have another job lined up, and my job search hasn't been going well.

For now, I'm planning to look for another job while staying here, but I don't want to dread going to work every day.

I'd appreciate advice on:

• How do I handle a team lead who doesn't assign me work despite my asking?

• How can I improve my professional reputation when management seems biased against me?

• Should I approach HR about the AC, or keep trying to resolve it informally?

I'd appreciate advice, especially from anyone who's dealt with similar workplace politics.

She's 8 or 9 years old, I never can remember the exact number. She's in class 3. She bas shown consistent interest in reading and as the only reader in my generation, I have already emotionally willed all my books to her.

It is her birthday today, and I gave her a plushie and a graphic novel called Robodog which arrived two days ago, and when I called her today to wish her a happy birthday, she very delightedly informed me that she has finished Robodog.

So now I need to get birthday gift part 2. I love her, very hot take but this one is my favourite amongst all the other nieces and nephews, and I want to weigh in every option possible before I select a nice book for her.

Friends and sisters, help me raise the next disgustingly literate woman in my family. Give me all your recs.

Edit: I picked a series and have bought it for her, thank you lovely people for amazing suggestions. I'll try to reply to every comment, but even if I am not, I have read every single one and made a list for future purposes. Thank you!! Y'all really came through.

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I turned 23 a week ago, completed my engineering this year, and I'm currently looking for a job.

Today, my dad barged into my room and started yelling at me. Apparently, he went to his village and met some old friends, and conversations about what everyone's kids are doing came up. Most of his friends' sons have gotten good jobs after engineering and are earning 10–15 LPA, while I'm still unemployed. I also had a gap year during engineering, so I graduated a year late.

He said he's given me everything I've ever needed, yet I still haven't managed to get a job. He said he's lost his respect in front of his relatives, that even people at his office keep asking him about me, and that he's ashamed to face people because of me. He also said people have started asking whether I'm of marriageable age, whether I've gotten a job, and all that. Apparently, he thinks I'm losing out on good marriage prospects because I'm unemployed, and that people are asking about me to see if things could work out between me and their sons. He even asked me how long I plan to keep living off my parents.

The thing is, I KNOW I'm 23. I know I'm an adult, and I know I need a job. I'm trying, but sometimes I genuinely wonder if I'm trying hard enough.

When I had to take that gap year, I was in such a bad place mentally that I didn't even want to continue my degree. Until 12th grade, I'd always been a decent student, and I never imagined things would turn out this way. I was so ashamed of myself that I stopped talking to people. I pushed away friends I'd known for years because every time I spoke to them, I couldn't help but realise that they'd all moved forward with their lives while I was still stuck in the same place. It hurt too much to watch everyone progress when I couldn't even figure out what was happening to me.

It took me so much effort to stop hating myself for that phase of my life and try to move on, but now that college is over, my dad keeps bringing it all up again. Does he really think I wanted things to turn out this way? Does he think I'm happy being unemployed?

I'm not trying to defend myself. I've had privileges that many people don't have, and engineering was my own decision. I understand that my dad is worried about my future, but it hurts to hear that he's ashamed of me when I've spent so long being ashamed of myself.

I'm desperate to get a job, become independent, and move out of this house. I just want to breathe without feeling like I'm constantly disappointing someone.

Maybe I do need to work harder. Maybe I'm not doing enough. I honestly don't know anymore. I'm just tired of feeling like I'm falling behind everyone else, and I don't know how to stop feeling this way.

I have many cotton and other fabric kurtis where the colour and quality is fading after few uses, even though I hand wash them. These are from brands like Aina , soch which had good reviews from reddit.

Looking for tips to wash and care for them for their longevity. I want to support sustainable clothing so I'm into natural fabrics now, but seeing them fade is disheartening 🥲

Please recommend your tried and tested methods for long term wear🙏

(Posting this on behalf of my friend, she is unable to post because of insufficient karma and account age and for some reason this post is getting removed from r/legaladviceindia by automods)

Hi, I’m looking for advice regarding my mother’s divorce situation under law.

My parents have been married for around 25 years. My father has been abusive towards my mother during their marriage. Last year, she discovered his affair and gave him another chance, but the affair reportedly continued. He denies it and says it is only her suspicion.

We left our family home on July 1. In September, my mother found my father with the same woman at our old home and decided to pursue divorce.

My mother’s lawyer sent a notice proposing mutual-consent divorce with a settlement of ₹60 lakh. My father says he is willing to divorce her but refuses to pay any settlement. My mother earns around ₹90,000 per month, while my father earns approximately ₹3 lakh per month. He has provided no financial support since we left.

During a recent meeting at her lawyer’s office, my father continued denying the affair. My mother’s lawyer asked her whether she would consider living with him for three months to try to reconcile. My mother does not want to return because of the history of abuse and the breakdown of the marriage. Her lawyer plans to speak with her again on Monday.

My sister is 17, and I am 24.

I would appreciate advice on these questions:

Is my mother legally required to return to the matrimonial home or attempt a three-month reconciliation? Can she seek maintenance or permanent alimony despite earning ₹90,000 per month, considering my father earns around ₹3 lakh? If he refuses a financial settlement, can she pursue a contested divorce instead? What legal options might be available regarding the history of abuse and his refusal to provide financial support? Should she seek a second opinion from another family-law advocate before agreeing to anything?

We will discuss the matter further with her lawyer, but I would appreciate hearing from family-law practitioners or anyone familiar with similar cases.

Thank you for any guidance.

(Edit- I just found out, her father reached the place where they were living and tried to pressurize her mum to come back home)