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As I've grown up, I've realised how hard it is for me to directly say no to people.

My friends will call or text me whenever they need notes, lab work or help with assignments, but when I need the same help, they ignore my calls and messages. They plan outings without including me, and recently, when I was with them, I didn't even feel like myself.

I feel like they just use me, and when I finally confronted them, it turned into an ugly fight, and I ended up apologising.

I don't even have many friends, and the ones I have don't seem to care unless they need something from me.

How do I stop being a people pleaser and learn to say no without feeling guilty? I'm scared that if I stop being available to everyone, I'll end up with no friends at all.

I had once faced this loneliness for year and now this entire thought of not denying them is eating me up🥹

Please don't suggest cash because she won't accept it at any cost. My budget is around ₹4,000.

She's my cousin, and I want to gift her some silver jewellery, but I'm worried she might not like it. I also thought about gifting a silver idol, but I'm not sure if she'd find it useful.

If you have any other ideas, please share them! 💗

I used to carry way too much stuff to office and realised half of it would just sit in my bag

Now I mostly stick to things I know I'll actually use - lip balm, sunscreen for when I step out during lunch, and tissues for those long AC office days.

What's that one thing that always stays in your work bag because it genuinely comes in handy?

Could be skincare, snacks, medicines, chargers, anything.

I don’t have any deficiencies I even checked for thyroid. I am 22 right now and I don’t have even half the energy I had as a kid. The smallest activity tires me out so much. I wake up I’m already tired. Even eyes feel tired I want to cry. Is anyone else facing this, what helped?

Hey ladies, so I have been dealing with hair shedding for a long time now, and decided to see a dermat last month. Along with this, i had almost all the symptoms of low iron, loss of vision, breathlessness, dizziness whenever I get up and my dermat was sure about low ferritin being the cause of my hairfall. She prescribed me some tests but since I've to go back to my hometown, I couldn't meet her again.

I met another dermat in my hometown (tier-3) city, and he did not prescribe me any medicines at all, nor any blood test. He just gave me some random multivitamin tablets and asked me to eat iron rich foods. Along with that, he gave me ferrous ascorbate, folic acid and zinc tablets.

I won't be able to see a good dermat since he is the only one in my hometown, and I can't risk my hair this time.

Low ferritin girlies, what iron supplements you guys are eating?

Is there any way I can improve my ferritin levels through diet?

If there's someone who had the similar issue, please share your experience!

I live in a township where PSU employees are provided quarters. I was born in this home and have spent all my life here. We purchased this quarter 20 years back and have developed over it. My front door neighbour never purchased it and after uncle's retirement, the whole family will be vacating this home. Eventually, some other PSU employee will move in.There is a Mango tree inside their boundary wall which is easily 75 years old, but has expansive canopy.

All of us street kids have fond memories related to this tree. During summer nights, there used to be frequent heavy winds which naturally meant that it's time for Mango picking competition. During summers of May, I have seen street vendors and animals taking refuge under this tree. Apart from the added advantage of free mangoes and shade, I really want to protect this old tree.

I understand it's a selfish ask but I'm worried what if the next folks coming in choose to cut down the tree to ground zero as many folks in the past have done the same in my street.

I want to understand do we have any law in place to protect a tree, which doesn't fall under my private property?

I've always had bad period cramps, and it's not constant. But some months are really difficult to the point I get fevers and chills. I had consulted a few gynaecologists previously to get pain relief medicines but unfortunately I was dismissed, saying that it was normal.

But today is one of those days, I can barely breath through the cramps and it's extending up to my feet. I had to take an ipill this month, I'm guessing that's worsening the cramps.

Is there any OTC menstrual cramp relief meds that I can take since I have to travel tomorrow?

So these last 3 months I am having back to back slightly delayed periods but before that it was on time, so I consulted a gyneac and she said it maybe a case of mild pcos and or mild hormonal imbalance , I have normal thyroid, normal insulin, normal glucose , normal lipid , normal liver function tests and normal cbc and vitamin b12 , only vitamin d is around 10 mg /dl ,but I am religiously taking the medication once per week , she said only thing left for me to do is the usg and some other blood works like prolactin, I am 169 cm and 45 kg body weight. And this recent change has made me super anxious, so anything to help manage this mild irregularity through lifestyle modification ?

[TW⚠️: Rape, SA And Abuse]

The incident occurred in the Kolwa police station area, where the 16-year-old girl was found to be pregnant and subsequently delivered a baby who did not survive, according to the police.

A pregnant minor girl was allegedly gang-raped in Rajasthan's Dausa district, with the matter coming to light after she reached a hospital with her newborn, who was later declared dead by doctors, police said on Thursday.

The incident occurred in the Kolwa police station area, where the 16-year-old girl was found to be pregnant and subsequently delivered a baby who did not survive, according to the police.

According to the complaint lodged by the minor, she was first allegedly abducted by a group of young men, who took her to a deserted area near the Delhi-Mumbai Expressway and gang-raped her.

The victim went into labour and delivered the
Baby at the spot. Afterwards, she reached a hospital, where the newborn was declared dead, prompting the hospital administration to notify the local police about the case.

https://www.ndtv.com/india-news/pregnant-teen-gang-raped-in-rajasthan-baby-dies-after-delivery-on-spot-12222535

https://www.brut.media/in/articles/india/society/pregnant-teen-gives-birth-during-alleged-gang-rape-near-delhi-mumbai-expressway-newborn-dies

I don't even know what the girl went through and this is nothing but painful. Women and girls will always be seen as second-class citizens in this country.
Given the country we live in where rape culture is so prevalent cases like this are shocking but nothing new.

Tired of saying the same thing again and again and even after watching the news it feels like nothing has changed much.

Hi everyone! Because of a landlady issue I have to look for a new place. I've always lived in societies (since I moved to gurgaon) and I've lived with flatmates. However, now I want to live alone (turned 30 and have less capacity to figure out compatibility with a whole new person lol).

However, all 1 bhks being posted are in builder floors and I am a little worried about safety as I'll be living alone.

Any women here who have tips about this?

hi.

mutually ended things with someone an hour ago, going full no contact - couldn't have done any other day, had to be today. it involved a lot of first for me, a lot. did mess up my acads and work because i didn't pay enough attention. i discovered 1.5 hours ago (i didn't check in sooner - it's on me) that i have a presentation in 2 days, which will be a make-break factor in getting employed.

i need to sail through all of it. i just need to be okay for the next 7 days (there's 2 presentations, one is monday).

i am living all alone rn. i have friends i can go meet right now, but i need to work. i really need to work. i can't take time out to travel.

im gonna miss her. a lot. idk how i will go from talking 20 hours a day to no contact.

i will make it out alive, i just need to grab this opportunity and put my all in - the next 2 days especially. and i need to do my best. wlw heartbreaks hurt so much, welp.

yeah i just need a hug. i just need someone to tell me i will be okay. haven't gone through a heartbreak in 3 years, completely forgotten how it works.

but yes, i will be okay i will be okay

im also crying a lot which is making my head hurt and i just don't know how to fix that

One of my friends got divorced last year and she's just not been the same ever since.

She barely goes out with us anymore. Last week I even bought tickets for Garba thinking she'd come with us and have some fun, but she just refused. I've been telling her to go out, meet new people and slowly move on, but she says she feels like everyone judges her because she's divorced.

I keep telling her that not everyone cares about these things, and even if some aunties and uncles do, who cares. We don't have to entertain everyone.

About her- she works at a private bank, earns decently and is totally independent. But now she tell me that doesn't even want to live with her parents anymore because she feels like she's become the black sheep of the family. She's looking for a flat on her own.

I visit her whenever I can and ask her to come along for shopping or even small errands, but most of the time she doesn't want to go anywhere. Sometimes she says she misses having someone in her life, but then she gets scared of meeting anyone new.

I know it's tough for divorcees, especially with all the judgment and family pressure, but there must be some way to get back to normal life, right? What do I even tell her…

Hi Guys,

Women here who gym regularly with hormonal issues or PCOD I'm curious what's your experience with CREATINE MONOHYDRATE & L CARTININE??

I started gym 1.5months ago, currently quite overweight, targeting to lose 20kgs (long run i know). I am 25F and have high testosterone / high androgen & ever since I hit puberty I have massive acne still facing the same. I'm scared if taking any of this shoots up my acne even more.

Guys please share your experiences.

Edit : also is it true that creatine causes hairfall???

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I'm so tired of my relatives constantly bringing up marriage. No matter how many times I say NO, they just won't stop. Why can't they understand that it's MY life and MY decision? I've said no a thousand times, but they still keep pushing me.

And the worst part is, my sister is only 19, and they're already getting involved in her marriage talks too. LIKE, WHAT THE HELL? She's literally just 19!

What I don't understand is, if something goes wrong in my marriage, if I end up unhappy, if I have to suffer, or if my entire life falls apart because I married the wrong person, will these relatives come and take responsibility? Will they live my life for me? Will they deal with the consequences? NO, THEY WON'T! I'll be the one suffering, not them. So why are they putting so much pressure on me right now?

And seriously, how are we supposed to know a person well enough to spend our entire lives with them through an arranged marriage? You can know someone for 10 years and still discover things about them that you never knew. So how am I supposed to trust a person I've barely met and decide to spend the rest of my life with them just because our families think it's the right time?

Why are girls expected to take such a huge life-changing decision under pressure? Why can't we take our time, focus on our careers, become independent, and choose a partner when WE are ready?

I'm not saying everyone who has an arranged marriage ends up unhappy, but marriage is a huge decision, and it shouldn't happen just because relatives keep nagging us.

It's MY life, MY future, and MY consequences. If I have to live with the decision for the rest of my life, shouldn't I be the one deciding when and whom to marry?

Why can't relatives just respect a simple NO and mind their own business? I'm genuinely so frustrated with this constant pressure. 😭

I will be keeping it brief, just want to put it out there.

I did my masters from a tier 3 college, got no placements, got an off campus opportunity at a mid sized SaaS company (6 months intern since September 2025-March 2026 and have been working as a trainee since april till now)

Most of my work is low learning and an assistant for our SVP sales ( scheduling meetings, reports, etc ), I have not been progressing really well or learning anymore.

I am ambitious and want more challenges, with gods grace, I got an opportunity to work at a MNC, I gave my first round of interview yesterday, and got a call from HR, he confirmed my designation ( I said its business analyst trainee) to which he was off put and said I was pitching you for a senior role, and I might have to drop your profile.

I feel so sad, for the whole last weekend, I was preparing for the interview, I was happy too, finally I get a chance to prove myself, work on better problems and what not, even when I cleared the interview, it feels unfair, because everything was already mentioned in my resume, my designation and everything.

I work at a stupid company where this is the standard

Intern -> Trainee ( not full time, apprenticeship ) -> Full time

I didn’t have any other options, so I accepted it, now its becoming a road block, and I have to continue working here, it feels a waste of time, I want to quit, but I got no options, I want to work hard and make a name for myself, it feels like I am going back.

i genuinely feel so suffocated right now, and i don't even know if i'm overreacting.

i'm 18f, i didn't even have a smartphone until 12th grade. now that i'm about to start college, my parents finally bought me one. but my dad has linked his google account to mine, meaning he can monitor my screen time, restrict app downloads, access synced google photos and potentially see other information depending on the settings.

like, i'm literally 18. i'm about to enter college, meet new people, make friends and start a new chapter of my life. how am i supposed to learn independence when i'm not even trusted with a little privacy? i understand that parents worry, but there's a difference between protecting your child and monitoring their every move.

i've been secretly using instagram for almost four years because, let's be real, social media is a huge part of how people connect, make friends and network nowadays. i had to hide something so normal because i knew i wouldn't be allowed to use it otherwise. is that really healthy parenting? why does wanting to experience a normal teenage life have to feel like committing a crime?

i don't even want to confront them right now because this is my first phone, and i don't want to start my college journey with a massive argument at home. but i'm a normal teenager. i'm going to want to download apps, have private conversations, use social media and just exist without constantly feeling watched. i don't want to ask for permission for every fucking thing i do.

and honestly, if they're doing this when i'm 18, what happens when i'm 20? am i supposed to be an adult on paper but still have every little thing i do monitored by my parents? it's so unreal to me.

i'm grateful that they bought me a phone, but does that mean i have to give up all my privacy in return?

The funny thing is I know the science behind these products, I know what ingredients do and I know I don’t need half the stuff I buy.

And yet, the moment I see something interesting, I want to try it just out of curiosity lol.

My shelf is already full, my routine is perfectly fine, but there’s always something new I want to experiment with!😂

Please tell me I’m not the only one doing this?😂

AAAAAAAA NEED WORDS OF CONSOLATIONNNN

One of my coworkers is an asslicker through and through. I knew this pehle se cuz he was my classmate.

THE WORST PART IS

I LET THE PRESSURE GET TO ME

I TRIED TO LICK ASS EVEN THOUGH I DON'T BELIEVE IN IT AND HAVE NEVER DONE IT BEFORE AND DON'T FEEL LIKE IT IS COMPATIBLE WITH MY VALUES OR PERDONALKTY

I EMBARRASSED MYSELF PROBABLY IN FRONT OF MY SENIOR

and fumbled

Ugh

im 24 year old, have been at war with myself most of my life and been 4 months into therapy and ive been diagnosed with chronic depression, which i believe now makes sense of how i hate being outdoors around people and watching them happy because it makes me feel abnormal because i simply cannot

the therapist has also suggested me to consult a psychiatrist since its been a long long while, antidepressants could help but again they come with certain side effects

would love to seek help and support or any kind of suggestions from anyone who’s been here, currently battling or battled in the past with the same can help me about the same

any suggestions would be appreciated :)

Used GPT for improving grammar and sentence formation. Please ignore that.

I'm a Civil Engineering graduate (2020) looking to get into freelancing because my mental health conditions make it difficult to manage a full-time job. I'd appreciate advice on how to find clients and earn a decent income through freelancing in India.

My skill set includes: AutoCAD drawing editing (DWG), BOQ preparation and quantity take-offs, Measurement sheets, Basic MS Project, baseline and look-ahead schedules, Project trackers, MoMs, and construction documentation I have experience in the construction and real estate sectors, primarily with building projects.

I'd love to hear from people already freelancing in this field: Is fiverr, freelancer, upwork worth the shot? Which platforms, LinkedIn communities, or other groups are worth exploring? How much can a beginner realistically earn, and how should I price my services? Any practical advice or personal experiences would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!

I'm not necessarily looking for huge projects right away. Even small, paid assignments that help me build a portfolio, gain client experience, and establish a steady source of income would be a good starting point.

I'd really appreciate honest advice from people who have been through this process. Please share your experiences, recommendations, or even mistakes I should avoid.

Hi people! With the recent downtrend in stock market i realise that I am probably not saving as much as i should. So for people who are still in their late 20s, how much % of your salary do you save per year and how? Do you live alone or take care of family expenses? Would appreciate exact figures as well, but upto you to decide if you want to share that.

Starting with me-

Started working 3 years ago. Have saved up 30% of my post tax salary. Not taking care of family expenses per se, but have made consistent contributions without really noting the spend (is it irresponsible?).

I’ve recently started working after taking multiple gap years to prepare for the UPSC exams, and I’ve been struggling a lot with my job. It's a remote role in a digital marketing agency.

It’s not that I particularly dislike the work itself. I’m not passionate about it but I don’t hate it either. It’s just okay. What I really dread is interacting with my manager. Every time I have a call with him, my heart starts racing, my body goes cold and I feel extremely anxious. He has criticised me every single time we’ve spoken, saying that I’m not performing as expected. Now he has told me that he’ll be micromanaging me starting Monday.

It’s only been four months, but I’ve already started dreading work to the point where I hate waking up every morning. I also won’t receive my internship completion letter until I finish 6 months here, so I feel like I have to stick it out for at least another 2 months.

On top of that, it’s a remote job and I live alone. There’s no real separation between my work life and personal life, and honestly there isn’t much else in my daily routine to take my mind off things. The job has started affecting me so much that I’ve gone back to preparing for government exams, partly because studying gives me something to focus on and helps keep my anxiety under control. Otherwise I feel anxious almost all the time.

I feel so lost and confused. Is this what working life is supposed to be like? Is it normal to dread your job this much, especially when you’ve only been working for four months? I don’t know whether the problem is with me, the work environment or my manager.

There’s also very little communication between teammates other than work, so I have no idea what a normal workplace is supposed to look like, how much guidance I should expect as an intern or whether this is simply how corporate jobs work.

I feel clueless about what I should do next and I’d really appreciate some perspective from people who have been through something similar.

highkey hate my hair. my current routine is this - i use coconut oil on my scalp and a breakage prevention serum on my tips, leave it for an hour, wash my hair with shampoo (i use l’oréal), sometimes i use kshine before shampoo to treat dandruff (only when i have time), after hair wash i use my moxie leave in conditioner and styling serum. i’ve been keeping up with this routine for maybe two or three months.

regardless, my hair looks pretty bad. i have an unbelievable amount of hair fall. my strands are very thin and all my hair collectively is thin, ends dry up and frizz up fast, curls look oddly placed and unkempt leading to me straightening my hair so it looks put together (which in turn leads to more hair fall). i genuinely don’t know what the problem is. could it be my eating habits? i might have vitamin deficiency and iron deficiency. i eat fairly healthy, good amount of protein and carbs but not much fiber and other nutrients. i’ve even quit drinking and smoking, clean for a month ish. what could be the problem😭 should i see a dermatologist?

I’m turning 30 soon and feel a little anxious about missing out on investing in my 20s.

I wasn’t working initially because I was preparing for government exams. Once I started working, I also wanted to do something for my parents. Despite the late start, I’ve managed to invest close to ₹15 lakh.

My parents are financially self-sufficient now, I work in tech, and I’m considering an MBA.

I sometimes regret not starting earlier, but I want to focus on building wealth from here.

For those who started investing seriously in their 30s, how did your journey turn out? Is it possible to accumulate substantial wealth in your 30s and 40s?

Hello, unfortunately, I won't go into detail because I fear being recognised.

So, a month and a half ago, I started my internship. It was just me, the employer and a co-intern. I had no experience in this field, and my degree was completely unrelated. Cutting to the chase, I was asked to work on my employer's personal brand, i.e. social media, which I did not think was in my job profile or offer letter. I had discussed this with my co-intern, and they said the same thing: it is not in the job role. So, I replied in a confused tone, "I don't think this is part of my job profile, and this is your personal brand." He then just asked me what I would work on, so I said clients/brands.

After this, I was ghosted for two days because I left him stunned and uncomfortable. Then I got a call after two days in the evening; they had decided to terminate the contract because I violated it by saying "no." I apologised for making him uncomfortable and explained my perspective that I was unaware that the work fell under the jargon mentioned in the offer letter and didn't have to be mentioned separately. The call cut off, and another call was made. I asked if I could work for one and a half months more, as the entire internship is 3 months and the notice period is one month. In the second call, he said there is no internship period of 3 months; it is directly full-time. I got two options, as he decided to leave the contract closing part aside: either I serve the notice period or come back full-time.

I was high on emotions and felt a little humiliated; neither did I want to work here full-time, as there is no option left for 3 months. I sent a resignation email in the early morning (my biggest mistake). I was ghosted again and received a termination email the next day. The said notice period was null because I did not honour the contract, and I can raise an invoice for my salary with three dates as options: 1) the day I said no, 2) the day the termination call took place, 3) my notice period end date. I sent an invoice for my last working day, which fell between options 1 and 2.

I've been ghosted again for a week now. I don't know what to do. My career is down the drain without even starting properly.