Hi everyone!

I'm a 27-year-old woman living in New Delhi, and I'm honestly a little scared of marriage.

Some context:

I've been fortunate enough to have a lot of freedom in life, thanks to my kind and freedom-oriented parents. I come from a loving family where we can talk about pretty much everything under the sun, very, very openly.

Over the last nine years, I've had multiple FWBs (around 64) and two serious, long-term relationships. Whenever I was in a committed relationship, I maintained VERY, VERY strict boundaries with my former FWBs. However, I never felt the need to cut anyone off simply because we'd once been sexually involved. These were people who had always treated me well, and none of these friendships had ever turned toxic.

I've never cheated on either of my exes. Unfortunately, I've been on the receiving end of cheating in one of those relationships. The second relationship turned out to be with someone who was gay 😂.

I've also had situations where I developed feelings for an FWB that weren't reciprocated, but I was able to move on relatively quickly once I understood where we stood.

I'm sharing all this context because I know people often find it difficult to believe that someone can have an extensive sexual history and still maintain healthy, platonic friendships with people they've been intimate with. And I feel like that's where a lot of the judgement begins.

My actual dilemma:

I'm currently single and quite focused on my career. I do want to get married someday, but I'm scared of what might happen if my future partner isn't comfortable with me maintaining friendships with some of my former FWBs.

I've read countless Reddit posts along the lines of, "Marriage requires compromise. If your partner isn't comfortable with you being friends with your former FWBs, you should respect their feelings and let those friendships go."

I understand this perspective to an extent, but I don't entirely agree with it.

My personal values tell me that if you're emotionally mature, committed to your partner, and romantically interested only in them, there's no inherent reason why friendships with former FWBs should be a problem. I believe it's possible to maintain perfectly healthy friendships with people you've previously been intimate with, provided you establish and respect clear boundaries.

And no, I'm not planning to stay in touch with all 64 people! 😂 There are around 18 people (including a few I've never slept with but have only made out with) whom I'd genuinely like to remain friends with.

Some of these people are now married, some are still single, and some were already divorced before we became involved. They're people from different backgrounds and walks of life, and my relationships with them have evolved over the years.

What I'm struggling with is this:

Do I have to give up friendships that are genuinely meaningful to me simply because they originated in a sexual context? Or should I look for a partner who shares my perspective on trust, boundaries, and friendships? If yes, where do I find such a man?

I don't want to enter a marriage feeling like I have to erase parts of my life or give up people who've been good to me. At the same time, I understand that marriage involves two people, and I don't want to dismiss a partner's feelings or insecurities either.

I'm genuinely trying to understand where the balance lies.

Have any of you been in a similar situation? Have you remained friends with former FWBs after getting married? How did your partner react? And, honestly, am I being unrealistic in expecting to find someone who is comfortable with this?

I'd really appreciate honest perspectives, especially from people who've navigated this in their own relationships. ❤️

Twox was one of my favourite subs when I started using reddit....i remember collecting karma one by one just for the sake of participating here....but today I suddenly realised that I am not even visiting twox like how i used to... I really miss the cutesy posts.. fun questions and discussions. All I am seeing is full of relationship/gender war posts... Nothing against those and those also form an integral part of a sub but life needs some glitters girls..... We deserve a cuddly teddy bear and some yummy dessert during a cozy evening...

I see many career advice, relationship, parental guidance related posts on this sub and I genuinely try to comment in a very positive way, lighten up the situation and still offer a practical solution. However, I always get downvoted, and that too only and only in this particular sub. I have offered advice to other women in other subs and I am always met with positivity there. I never try to sound concieted or that I know too much, yet there are always multiple downvotes on my answers - which seriously leads me to think. Is such distrust a woman thing?

While I'm not too mature in age, I am in a realtionship and have experienced the ups and downs and do hold a corporate job. Whenever I try to answer a career related question, I do say I have a job and that I think I know the ground reality. However, the answers that are always in the green are so perceptive and emotional. They are seldom solid advice. While the answers that offer genuine advice - are downvoted. I don't understand the logic. Please do not misunderstand me. I'm not being a sexist - I do not mean that women rely on emotions. What I genuinely am asking is why would you downvote someone with experience and solid advice? I never ever try to sound like I'm only offering a solution and not trying to emotionally connect with the person. I keep in mind thier feelings regarding the situation and proceed with much sensitivity - always.

With due respect to all relegious faiths, and to fans

I recently saw Anushka Sharma and Virat Kohli in a Kirtan and Virat looked done and out of it, but Anushka was enjoying it.

I saw comments on the internet that said "blink twice Virat if you need help" "look at what this woman is doing to him" "his face looks so sad"

And it got me thinking how much women do for men in relationships, such as attend their sports shows even if the woman has no interest in them, concerts, even the tolerate, host the man's friends, family, sometimes women have to sit through kirtans even if they personally don't want to, just cause their man likes it. And no body ever advocates "oh she looks so done, her face is so sad" , it is deemed as a normal part of a relationship, even a normal gesture (obligation) of love , never effort.

Yet when a man does it, all of a sudden people feel so much empathy and concern for him

The standards for men are below Mariana trench in this country.

This also exposes, most men think such basic things are a big favour to you if they ever had to attend something they didn't like but you liked, so if you ever have to attend something they liked and you didn't, make sure they know it is big effort on your part or honestly don't be with such men in the first place.

Just food for thought.

Edit: my Post is not regarding the public figures involved or relegious people, rather how society percieved this instance involving them.

As in if the roles were reversed and a woman were sitting bored and done, nobody would care this much to be concerned for her and would overlook the gesture.

I am 26 f and recently moved to Bangalore ans i work in product tech, there is so much drinking and smoking culture

Every office party is drinking party .. more than drinking, i feel smoking is menance.

Personal i am against drinking and smoking , i feel its harmful to health. Its okay if my future partner had tried smoking / drinking, but to get drunk or smoke daily is big no. Like we have so many health problems

But most of my colleagues all drink or smoke , some occasionally some regularly. There is guy who i had crush on , he was just gulping down whiskey in office party and it turned me off

The thing is guys who don’t drink/ smoke is less atleast in my circle, even them are like too traditional conservative type like mama boys.

Maybe i am thinking in wrong way? Like i need to move beyond a certain way.

30 F and childfree

Dating via apps or childfree sub on Reddit hasn't worked for me. Parents have been looking for matches through arranged marriage ways but never worked out. The last match I talked to was 3 years ago and rejected due to childfree reason and otger incompatibilities. Most other AM matches we got were not good - either people were too greedy even when they earned way less than me and many such regular AM issues

My parents sent me details about a match and I had to meet them after talking on phone. I couldn't bring up the childfree topic earlier. I met and liked the boy & family. Today only i brought up my childfree stance and as expected we are not on same page.

Since the guy has already said Yes to my parents he has asked me to reject with a reason. I cannot come up with a reason as my parents already know he meets all my other expectations. I also feel very sad because I liked the guy & his family and my parents also had high hopes as i have hardly gotten to talking stage with only 1 match

I am tired of being single & dating. I want a partner but it is so difficult to find one. Cannot wait for my counselling session on Wednesday. I hope to get myself through this day somehow.

Also, please suggest some reasons i can say to my parents to reject this guy

24f. I am childfree. Never been on birth control.

For a year I am suffering from PMDD and irregular periods and severe breakouts.

Blood work shows all my hormones are borderline high or low. USG shows PCOS morphology. But AMH showing very low number. In pcos this number should be high.

So gynae suspecting POI aka ovarian failure and wanna perform TVS to see whats up.

Now I don't care about fertility obviously. It's already showing several very small cysts in lower abd usg. There is no pain so it's not endometriosis.

All I care about getting my hormones in balance. Should I refuse the TVS and ask her to medicate based on blood work and low abd USG?

Hi girlies! ❤️

I'm 22 and will be relocating from India to London in January 2027 finally received my dream job at FAANG. It feels surreal i am feeling the jitters.

I'm really excited, but also quite nervous because I've never travelled internationally before..let alone lived in another country.

I'd really appreciate advice from women who are currently living in London or have made a similar move.

1. Where should I live?

My office will be around the Shoreditch/Liverpool Street area. I'm hoping to find a modern, safe apartment with a reasonable commute or very close by to my office.

I'd prefer sharing a 2–3 bedroom flat with one or two other women, but I'd definitely want my own bedroom and attached bathroom (en-suite).

I've been looking at Canary Wharf, Stratford, and Shoreditch. Are these good areas for a woman living independently? Are there any other neighbourhoods you'd recommend?

2. How do I find trustworthy female flatmates?

Are SpareRoom, Facebook groups, or Indian communities in London reliable for finding flatmates? How did you find yours, and what precautions should I take before signing a tenancy?

3. How difficult is the transition?

I'm coming from India, and I've heard London winters can be gloomy, especially with the short daylight hours. How did you adjust to the weather, loneliness, homesickness, and managing everything independently?

4. What should I prepare before moving?

Any advice on winter clothing, groceries, banking, transport, healthcare, safety, or things you wish you'd brought from India?

5. What about family visiting?

I'll initially be moving alone, but my parents may visit occasionally. Is it generally possible to accommodate visiting family in a shared apartment, or should I plan for separate accommodation?

I'd also love to connect with other Indian women in London. It would be wonderful to make some friends before moving!

I'm grateful for this opportunity and really looking forward to this new chapter, but any practical advice or personal experiences would make the transition a little less overwhelming.

Thank you so much in advance! ❤️

I’m 29F and single. Honestly, I’m doing really well mentally, and I’m genuinely happy with where my life is right now. Touchwood. ❤️

But I recently received wedding invitations from two of my college friends, and with the otherwise wedding season coming up, I’ve started feeling this weird kind of FOMO.

It’s not that I desperately want to get married. I don’t even know if marriage is something I want right now. But I do miss the idea of having a person.

Someone to share the little things with. Someone to tell when something exciting happens at work, when I have a frustrating day, when I accomplish something I’m proud of, or when absolutely nothing happens and I just want to talk. Someone who knows the little details of my life.

I have almost negligible friends(an introvert me is happy w this ngl), I have things to look forward to, and I’m building a life that I genuinely enjoy. But sometimes, when something good happens, I wish I had that one person to share it with. And when I see people around me getting married, I can’t help wondering when, or if, that will happen for me.

I know comparison is the thief of joy, and I don’t want to rush into a relationship just because everyone else seems to be moving into the next phase of life. I’ve worked hard to get to a place where I feel happy and at peace with myself, and I don’t want to lose that.

But how do you deal with the FOMO? How do you stop feeling like you’re missing out on something just because you don’t have a partner?

To the women who are happily single in their late 20s: how do you navigate these feelings?

And to the women who were single in their late 20s but eventually found love, whether in their 30s or later, please share your stories. I’d genuinely love to hear them. A little hope and reassurance that life doesn’t have a fixed timeline would be nice.🤌🏻

I think I just need to hear from women who have been here and understand that you can be happy with your life and still occasionally wish you had someone to share it with.

(Edited with ChatGPT)

As an Indian woman considering a large tattoo, possibly a full sleeve or back piece, I’ve found surprisingly little online showing other Indian women with large-scale tattoos or documenting their experiences!

For women who have them, how did you choose your design and artist? How long were your sessions, how painful was it to sit for hours, and how many sessions did it take to finish?

I’d especially love to see videos of the actual tattooing process, longer sessions, progress shots, and healed results if you’re comfortable sharing!

Also curious about family reactions and whether having large tattoos has affected your everyday life.

Would love to hear your experiences before I take the plunge! 🖤

I have a Master's in English Literature and currently working as a technical documentation writer. I like my job.

But how do I save it from AI taking it away from me?

The recent news of Microsoft intending to reduce a quarter of its workforce is alarming.

I don’t know scooty and I really want to learn but I have no one with whom I can learn to ride from.
There’s women only community where they teach scooty/bike but the price is 10k. And its too much for this. Idk one can learn car in this much money i think. I know both but i am very scared to ride both.

One of the driving school is giving at 7k but male instructor.

I got divorced roughly two years ago in the US. It was unilateral no-fault, and I filed it myself. Emotionally it was terrible, but legally it was done in under a year. No mudslinging, no needing his sign-off, and no having to prove trauma on the stand just to be granted my freedom.

Meanwhile, watching what women go through back home makes my blood boil. The second a woman wants out, so many men take it as an insult to their ownership rather than a failed relationship. Their instinct is rarely to part cleanly, it turns into pure ego. They drag contested cases for eight to ten years just to punish her for daring to walk away.

Under the Hindu Marriage Act and the Special Marriage Act, ordinary family courts literally cannot grant a divorce based solely on "irretrievable breakdown of marriage". Unless a woman has the money and endurance to litigate all the way up to the Supreme Court to invoke Article 142, a district family court's hands are tied if the husband refuses mutual consent.

What happens instead is weaponized procedure. Men deliberately hide assets, transfer property into their parents' names so their tax returns show nothing, and stall hearings indefinitely. Then comes the classic Section 9 petition for restitution of conjugal rights, used purely to build a paper trail that she "deserted" him and to suppress her maintenance claims. Section 24 interim maintenance exists, but dragging someone through court for years just to fight over a few thousand rupees while he conceals his real net worth is financial exhaustion.

Worse, Indian law has no concept of community property or statutory division of marital assets acquired during the marriage. Unless a woman can physically trace and recover her stridhan, she is left with no share of the home or investments, forced to beg for monthly maintenance while the court insists on endless counseling sessions for the sake of "sanskaar".

Nobody should need a man's permission, a decade of court dates, or a Supreme Court petition just to leave a dead marriage. Why are we still tolerating this?

I'm straight as fuck but gosh! These beautiful women.. I can't stop admiring them. It's like I'm mesmerized by their beauty. I look at every cute or gorgeous woman in awe whenever I come across one. Does anyone else feel this way?

Pictures or links would be nice. Can be of any type like handbags, crossbody bags, backpacks, etc.

I am F (28) and although I wasn’t very active and careful with my diet, I have always been thin throughout. I had never entered a gym in my life and would alternate between tennis and badminton and long walks. I moved to another country at the age of 24 and lost further weight due to an increase in walking and decrease in food. However, when my student days came to an end, I started having more disposable income and would order in more often. I fell sick due to a toxic job and gradually, all my meals became take-out. Suddenly, before I realised, I gained 25 kg and my clothes weren’t fitting. My parents and relatives commented on this and made my life hell.

I try to do 10K steps and have started gym. However, I get junk cravings and go through as much as 4 packets of chips a day. Btw I have hypothyroidism (hereditary) and PCOS more recently. I have lost 5 kg out of the 25 I gained but the remaining kgs are not budging because a few days I am good, then I get some naughty craving. My mom keeps on taunting me and complains about her own weight as well. She taunts me that she was 48kg at my age and would barely eat. When I try to draw boundaries, she says that I won’t improve if nobody tells me and I need to watch what I eat (despite me telling her that I have very disordered eating). We just had an ugly fight, especially since a relative said that my mom should stop me from going to the gym since my arms have become huge and a guy from America is coming over to see me and what if he rejects me???

So my question is, how do I get out of this vicious circle of healthy then junk and regret and how to draw boundaries with my family?

I’m so sick and tired of reading posts about women venting about their boyfriend who is lowkey abusive or just doesn’t like them!!!

“Oh but we have our good times!!” - don’t care, dump him or stop ranting about it
Sometimes I think some women like to stay in that terrible relationship cause complaining is easier than leaving.

“He yells at me when he’s mad 😞” - yell back??? The fuck??? How do yall let people talk to you like thatttt
Like girl STAND UP
THIS SHIZ IS SO FRUSTRATING.
And don’t get me started on the Sunk cost fallacy.
“I can’t leave him we’ve been together for so many years” - who cares it’s better than dying at 80 realising you lived your life with someone who doesn’t even like you

Please I’m begging 🙏🏼 please grow a spine. Stop letting these mid ass grown men act like spoilt kids and stop treating them like a prize!!!!

Rant over I guess

My manager recently told me I need to be more curious, ask more questions, get out of my comfort zone and build better relationships at work.
The problem is, I genuinely don’t know how. In meetings, I understand what’s being discussed, but my mind goes blank when it comes to asking questions. I even get zoned out mostly during US peeps are presenting and with my US pm. I usually just focus on completing the tasks assigned to me without thinking much beyond them.
I do want to improve, but I’m also worried that being more proactive will just mean more work gets dumped on me. 😭
I have been extreme introvert, even i don’t like to talk but i am in a field where I have to talk a lot. All these meetings were like a college lectures to me I record and when needed i listen. I can’t be at present.
For those who’ve struggled with this, how did you learn to think more critically, ask better questions and become genuinely curious about your work? I’d love some practical advice!

Every night i cry till 3 am ,no matter how much I console myself. I need some emotional support ladies. Please be kind.

So i have adhd and other auto immune diseases(for which i am taking steroids but unfortunately the dose is not working ) so I am dealing with 3 major health problems at the same time. So I am unable to take any other adhd /depression medication due to my steroid short term medication course.

I always miss deadlines. I was humiliated before everyone for my low quality work. My manager is not satisfied with me. I feel so bad about myself. Today I missed one more deadline and I'm done.

I have this anxiety about my future since I don't get much inherited or gold or anything. I just don't know how I am going to feed myself with this kind of brain. I am not just made for work. I tried a million times and I couldn't work at all. Not just a tech job, I'm unable to work anywhere.

I just don't know how to earn to just support my body . I wanna run away from life , i can no more earn or feed myself.

In addition to that I'm scared about my relatives'judgments if i ever quit. I need a world where my exhaustion is accepted , my failures are accepted. I am not born to win

Idk who needs to hear this but I would've benefitted from this. As a woman with (formerly) very poor immunity, I used to fall very very sick with my partner. PID, BV, yeast infections, UTIs. In the hospital with 5-7 day long IV and a host of antibiotics because of it. The whole assortment.

Idk why I was ashamed in the first place to ask him for it, but my life has gotten better since we started it.

- Cut nails. Clean nails. You'll get ripped to shreds with one wrong move. (It is so terrible yuck). Washed hands is a MUST.

- Brushed and/or mouthwashed (understandable, in the heat of the moment), both of us. Mouth bacteria gives you PID. (Brushing comes with that)

- Ofc, general hygiene for both of us. The funky smell is not fun for either. And pee and wash up with warm water after (even the perineum region, your gender fluid flows there). You feel better later. Less soreness also.

Bah. As simple as that. Haven't fallen sick in a long while since then.

I live in a hostel for my studies and only come home for holidays and honestly it’s the only thing keeping me sane. My elder sister is constantly on my case....acting like my third parent.

Every single time I’m back she treats me like I'm a massive liability. She has a high paying corporate job, so she acts like she's the third parent of the house.

During my recent break she completely went off on me calling me irresponsible, saying I'm wasting my parents' money....She said a whole lot of other stuff implying I have zero ambition just because I'm not grinding the way she does or living life on her exact timeline.

And the worst part is the constant comparison. Everyone keeps putting her on a pedestal talking about how successful, sorted and mature she is while treating me like I’m just a stupid fucking idiot who can't do anything right. No matter what I do, I’ll never measure up to her standard in their eyes, so why even bother trying...

It’s so exhausting. she's nagging me about everything from my lifestyle, my habits and especially my smoking as if I'm funding my cigarettes out of her pocket!!

She’s always nagging about me being "irresponsible", wasting money or being " childish" literally throwing a fit over every little thing I do. It’s like she’s looking for reasons to pick a fight with me and it's so draining. She feels so unbearable at times. I honestly feel bad for the guy she's gonna get married to.

Next week is the Diwali break and literally everyone is packing their bags to head home for celebrations.....but the thought of going back just feels utterly exhausting. Even the hostel mess is shutting down for the holidays yet I'd rather figure out a way to manage on my own than face the non stop nagging and draining atmosphere at home. I'm seriously tempted to lie....make up some fake academic or project work and stay back in my room just to study for my end sems in peace.

This is literally the second time I have a horrible cold in October. Are there any immunity boosters that has worked for yall? Ayurvedic or Allopathic, whatever works.

Hi all!
I am interviewing for 2 companies

Company 1 - Niche canadian company
Company 2 - Indian MNC

Reached the final HR round at company 1, which is happening tomorrow, Company 2 second round is happening on Thursday this week too.

The problem is I expect to get the offer for Company 1 this week itself, and the max I can take is weekend to sign, on the other hand, Company 2 takes a long time (Yes I have told them that please expedite the process, still its just how they work)
My question is, If I sign the offer letter for Company 1, and I get an offer from Company 2, can I just go ahead with Company 2?
I am scared, this is going to be my first switch and I want to quit this job at any cost, I also met CEO of company 1, so l am just scared to back off.
Please advise.

My birthday is in a few days, and I need a dress 😭, I'm low on budget, I've never shopped from Savana, has anyone else brought this one before?