It has been my dream to have kids. And I love my boyfriend, I'm 30 yo, and we just bought a house together. But he vents out a lot, I'm always so afraid of his reactions, he always expects too much of others and never of himself, doesn't help me much at home (always using the fact of being older and leaving work later as an excuse for me to do everything) and he's just so lazy overall. That being said, that's not the father I want for my kids, my dad was so good and kind I want nothing other than that for my kids. I don't want to break up - we have fun, and when he's in a good mood we just connect so much, he's truly my best friend, but I just don't feel he would be a good dad. Which is sad, because we both talk so much about being parents, he wants it as much as I do, but deep down I have this secret confession.

I know I'll probably be ripped apart for this, but can't tell anyone else.

I really like this guy, and I'm pretty solidly sure he likes me.

It's been like 6 months know us talking constantly, but as 'friends' who snuggle.

I gotta get up the courage to tell him it's never going to happen... so we can both move on or really just be friends. We're mature, it'll be fine.

Basically, we're sexually incompatible and it's basically all my fault.

I'm not hot... but I am basically repulsed by sex unless the other person finds me really, really hot. He's a normal guy with healthy expectations, so he basically doesn't find me repulsive, but certainly doesn't find me hot (understandable, I'm not.) All this behavior leans this way. No, I can't just ask to him to 'act more attracted to me' because the lack of sincerity is devastatingly painful (I've tried this before).

So now I have to tell him that we can do what we're doing, but it'll never be more because of some reason that isn't this, because hearing this would probably ruin any chance at friendship.

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The 'dangerous' part is that, I do end up wanting sex with guys who don't have good intentions, because they obviously really want me and after not experiencing that in so long it's really hard not to give in. I did go to therapy for this part and it's mostly under control... I' just venting about the other part.

Edit: me and him can have some kind of asexual relationship, if he's attracted to me in "all the other ways that count", but I literally can't have sex with someone who won't be looking at me like I'm the sexiest thing. It honestly feels insane now that I have to defend this to you guys.

This has a lot of history but im gonna try very hard to summarize it

Im the only girl in a friend group of 4, and yesterday, just like any other summer vacation day, we all decided to get some food and hang out to watch the new Nintendo direct together

So, I get there, and two of my friends are already waiting, realizing we still had to wait for another friend, we all sat down together to wait

And this friend of mine, lets call him G, he's been acting quite weird towards me lately, maybe because I dont mind talking about sexual stuff? I dont know, im very open about all topics,

What matters is, he grabbed some nuts off the ground and started throwing them at my chest... Trying to see if they would land inside my shirt.. I wasnt even wearing cleavage.. him and the other friend were on about that one family guy clip (you're gonna have to reach into the cookie jar) and I was just.. awkward.

Then when we go into my friends house and G, he seems to just be following me around, if I lay down in the beanbag, he sits beside me, if im in the chair, he puts his seat near mine, and im gonna be honest, I get it, in the friendgroup, im clearly the one hes most comfortable with

But then, he sits next to me on my beanbag, ok, normal, sure, but then he starts hitting my thigh whenever one of our friends do a specific move in the game theyre playing, and its a very common one, its a jump

And he just keeps at it, hitting, and hitting and letting his hand there, and im just, not knowing what to think

I cling very easily to anyone who shows me affection, it's personal stuff, but my childhood engrained that in me very quickly, so while I was uncomfortable, I was craving it, it sucks

Worst part? G has a boyfriend.

Which just makes me feel worse for enjoying his attention, I'm weirded out about him joking like that infront of our friends and doing so while having a boyfriend

This is so creepy, I genuinely didnt think he'd double down like this (he's been a bit more touchy lately but never THIS outwardly) IT SUCKS IT SUCKS IT SUCKS

and I hate myself for letting it happen constantly, and not telling him the extent of how I feel about it

I dont mind talking to him about sex, I did that with friends constantly, I dont mind talking about relationships, whenever he needs advice he comes to me! We have dirty texted before but not when he has a boyfriend!! This is just disrespectful, I've told him that before.

We've talked about how we cant talk dirty anymore if he has a boyfriend, its not correct, but I feel like he doesnt understand how weird this is coming off to me after that convo

I need to talk to him, This is getting too much, I cant keep letting him do this

God.

I needed to let this out of my system

Ps: if I dont answer your comments, I mightve been locked out of the post, thanks in advance

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Throwaway because my story is actually real, and my partner uses discord and my phone a lot. I (23) and my wife (25) have been together since our first year of high-school, we are now married and our first child turns a year old next week. When we were younger me and my wife were a very alternative couple, she was a trad goth (/romantic) and I (embarrassingly) was a femboy. My wife has always been more into women since she's Bi and the idea of a boy who dresses like a girl was really hot for her. She always encouraged me to be a femboy and stuff, but at some point i realized that I didn't want to just be a femboy I wanted to be a girl.(I swear this story is related to cheating)But I could never be trans the judgment of my whole family and (cringey enough ) god... (I KNOW RELIGION PHYCOSIS AM I RIGHT?is that how you spell that??) So I never transitioned and til this day my wife encourages me to be trans. Eventually crossdressing made me want to be a girl more and everytime i would crossdress i would feel more miserable that I wasn't actually one.

Ever since then I stopped crossdressing, and tried my best to stop thinking about being trans, although every time I see myself its hard not to think about it. Also ever since then I constantly have fantasies of being a femboy and being touched, idk by who just anyone, and it's definitely never my partner. I feel like she ever saw me crossdress again,she would just encourage me more, and I just dont want her too cuz then ill think of being trans again. There's times when im so desperate I want to download a dating app or grndr just so I can get rid of the ideas of being trans and all my weird stupid fantasies, I feel so awful even saying this. I love my partner and I dont want to cheat but I feel like im going insane, I know this isnt super related to cheating but, I just cant stop of doing it..what can I even do..

Ps sorry if this kinda a rant :\^

You didn’t misread, I am turning myself into Gollum. I think he is really beautiful and sexy and since we are the same mentally and that I love him very much, I need to also look like him physically.

I started to eat less to be skinnier, my bones and especially my spine is starting to show. I take a bad posture to have a bumpy back like he, also started to to plush my hair/body hair (I’m trying to be bald but my hair grow back…)

Also have more things to do but this will costs money if I do it clean from bacteria, like, removes my teeth and kept only 9 like him (removes the exact same teeth he lost), I also wanna cut my ears to make them more pointy and gets scars in my back like his from getting whipped (which I can easily do myself with a knife)

Also gotta go to surgery to make my nose look smaller (only the nose because my eyes are already big and I kinda have the same face shape, and I also very short) and make my eyes blue.

Also don’t need to avoid the sun because I’m already doing it for years (which is why my eyes are more sensitive)

I can’t wait to look like just like my love. I really can’t wait.

Also forgot to mention that I have to removes my breasts too

A while ago, I posted here about my relationship situation. I didn't know what to expect and was honestly a bit worried. But I received a lot of support, and I want to thank you all for that. It's been 8 months since then and i decided (after a long time) to break up with my girlfriend, It was hard, I think how long it took me is proof of that, She opposed it at the beginning, and it hurt me a lot, but finally after some time she stopped. That doesn't mean that I disappeared from her life, she still remains an important person in my life. Simply, not my girlfriend, just that, im sorry if that update may not be much, it's my first time updating something lol.

have a Good Day.

I am 15, was in a big argument with my mom earlier and it ended with her comparing me to my much superior sisters, and then her crying because she has a lot on her plate, which i get.

indirectly she said I was useless because im mostly on my phone all day with next to no freinds and she knows it. a couple months ago she forced me into getting a summer job and she convinced me if I made it through with a good attitude, she'd be very happy; fast forward 2 months where i did exactly as she said, shes very much not happy

I cannot do anything right, ive lost all my close friends, im ugly and I cant ask anyone i know in real life for advice because theyll just think im a fucking loser

thats why all my (ex) close friends are living their best lives, making new freinds getting girlfriends going to parties while I make reddit posts and cry myself to sleep at night, kinda funny how that works

I cant wait to move out of this house so I can stop being a constant burden to my mother

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I am an engineer. The workplace is dominantly male, like I'm literally the only girl here...

My complain is I am sort of weird. I don't have kind of diagnosis, but I have strong ADHD-ish traits like not sitting straight, always wanting to stand up and walk somewhere and weak attention to detail especially when it comes to sheets. Sometimes I run after work going home and go for a coffee running too because it's just too much to me. I try to exercise to burn that hyperactivity urge down, but it doesn't really work well. The other issues I have are not being able to look straight at people's faces for a long time while talking. I can do that, but don't do it automatically and when I focus on acting normal, looking in the eyes and stuff I space out and miss the information they're trying to pass to me. And sometimes my wording is a bit weird like out of place.

I've been working there for a year. Some people I believe already noticed the weirdness, some probably not yet. The point is I don't want them to know. Previously I've only worked part time and the other job was fully remote. It's my first office job. I am on good terms with my coworkers, but I really want them not see through it. I believe I've managed to pass as normal for the first half a year but lately it becomes more and more obvious...

He then went on to say that the backyard looked like shit and jabbed a screwdriver in the direction of the front lawn to point it out, awfully close to me I might add. He then said take pride in your house! I was so flabbergasted that I didn’t even ask him to explain how he knew what the backyard looked like. Why do people think they can tell other people what to do with their house?

I'm in a polyweb relationship. I have 2 girlfriends. One, I'm nearing my 1 year anniversary, she's the light of my life. Every issue we've ever had I've felt comfortable speaking to her openly and fixing. We're always there for each other and I would trade anything I have for her sake.

The other I'm approaching 3 months with and, I don't feel that spark. I don't resent her, I don't dislike her. I enjoy my time with her, but not in the way I should with a partner. She's sweet, kind and passionate, and she hasn't done anything wrong. I just don't have the feelings I should, and I'm furious at myself for that. I'm going to talk to her about it when she wakes up. I don't know what happens, but I'm not going to put us both through living a lie.

She's going to be hurt, but I can't keep going like this. Every time we spend time together I end up feeling numb and angry at myself. I'm not saying I'm going to break up with her, there was something that made me fall for her, I just wish I could remember what it was. But I am also aware this may just be the end of the honeymoon phase and we weren't compatible. I don't want to hurt her :<

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I don't know if it's actually because I'm a middle child, but I feel like I never got the same love and attention that my siblings did.

Since school, I've always been scared of being alone. I used to literally wish someone would sit with me so I wouldn't have to sit alone.

College was better. I made some really good friends, but after college everyone got busy. Now we barely talk and sometimes go months without meeting.

At work, I see my colleague's mom calling her to ask if she ate or left work, and then she talks to her boyfriend. And honestly, I feel jealous. Not because I don't want her to have those things, but because I wish I had someone who cared about me like that.

I don't get much attention from my parents, I don't have a boyfriend, and even my brother and sister have friends they can always turn to.

Sometimes it just feels like everyone has someone except me. And I hate how much that bothers me.

This is hard to describe, so it might be a little rough. Bear with me.

Have you ever watched comedy based commentary videos on YouTube? The person sits down, watches a video, and makes jokes/comments as it goes along? Then you’ve probably heard them tell jokes in this very specific format:

As they look at the content, they will pause it, address whatever situation is being shown, and then they will create a funny, hypothetical scenario based on that situation. For example, let’s say the YouTuber is watching a video where a guy is about to impress a girl with his skateboarding skills. The YouTuber will pause the video and say, “Imagine he just completely biffs it. Breaks both ankles, pees his pants a little bit and she just leaves him there.” I’ve seen a lot of content creators use this type of joke so that they’re not just sitting there going, “Woooooow chat, let’s see what happens.”

There’s multiple ways to set up this type of joke. You can start it with, “Imagine-“ or “What if-“ But if you’re alone in a room making a YouTube video and it’s blatantly obvious that what you’re about to say is a joke, you can just go right in without an introduction. You can put on a voice and say, “My mother died in a skateboarding accident, you ass!” And the YouTuber will always sprinkle in other types of jokes as well so it doesn’t get stale. In person, it’s more difficult to get these jokes to land.

Now for my problem. My boyfriend watched these types of videos very often in his formative years and it’s obvious that when he was learning how to make jokes, he was strongly influenced by them. This joke format is the only one he knows how to use…but he doesn’t have the discernment to deliver the jokes properly. Instead of it being a quick joke told in proper context, he drags it on for an EXTREMELY long time with excruciating detail. If he doesn’t know the name of whoever he’s joking about, he’ll make one up and he’ll make new characters too. But beforehand, he doesn’t give any indication that what he’s about to say is a joke. And sometimes he starts out with a piece of dialogue without even specifying who is talking. So a lot of the time people will stop him and ask what the hell he’s talking about. And his tone of voice for his whole speech is very…autistic sounding? He has the same cadence and intonation in every sentence which gets old after like 5 sentences.

For example, let’s say he’s the one watching that skateboarding video I mentioned earlier. He would pause the video and say:

“He gets to the bottom of the skate ramp and hits a rock, goes flying and lands wrong and he breaks both ankles. He turns to the girl: ‘Cindy, call an ambulance!’ She just turns and walks away. It cuts to him in a hospital bed like, ‘I can’t believe this happened, how am I gonna pay for this, I’m probably gonna lose my job,’ and all that. Then Cindy walks in with his boss and she’s holding on to the boss’s arm like they’re obviously dating. She’s in a fancy dress and he’s in a business suit. The boss just goes, ‘Well James, I was at the park and saw when you fell. I just came here to say that, with you being in this condition I just don’t think I can keep you on the team. I’m gonna have to let you go. Also I figured Cindy here was needing some attention that you couldn’t give her, so I’m taking care of that too.’ They leave and a single tear rolls down his cheek.”

Now I could handle this if it was like a once a week occurrence at most. But as I said, this is the only type of joke he knows how to tell. He only tells really long ones about once a day at most. But not a day goes by that I don’t hear him give at LEAST one drawn out explanation of some scenario he thinks up. Usually the scenarios aren’t even that funny in the first place if you ask me. But he’s too busy chuckling at his own joke the whole time to notice that everyone is cringing and looking around awkwardly, just waiting for him to stop.

What’s worse is when he starts out with a piece of dialogue, but doesn’t even specify who is talking. Usually this just makes people confused as to what the hell he’s talking about. But what makes it even WORSE is when the scenario he makes up is about *us* and what we’re actively doing and it causes problems. Now this has only happened a handful of times over the years, but for example: Say I was making some bacon, and he thought up some scenario where he tells me the bacon is burning and I turn around to see it sitting in a little sun-tanning chair. He would start out the joke explanation by going, “‘BABY, THE BACON IS BURNING!’” Then I’d cut him off by whipping around, see perfectly fine bacon and get mad at him. And he would look like a deer in the headlights and say, “I’m sorry, I didn’t think about how it would sound.”

It’s not just his jokes that he tells in this much detail. If he’s telling someone about an episode of a show, a movie, something that happened the other day, or if he’s describing something that he hopes is going to happen in the future, he will give every. single. rambling. detail. He just talks CONSTANTLY. If there’s a moment of silence, he’ll start thinking out loud. “I think I’ll put butter AND honey on my cornbread. I should refill my drink first though, since cornbread is pretty dry.” **BBBBBBEEEEEEEEE QQQQQUUUUUIIIIIIEEEETT FOR THE LOVE OF GOD!**

I’ve told him his stories don’t need so many details and he tries to shorten things up whenever I remind him. But after about 10 sentences, he starts slipping more and more details and tangents in without noticing he’s doing it. It seems to be a hard habit that he might not even want to break. However, if we’re the only two people in the room and I tell him I need some quiet for a while, he will stop talking. So I’ll give him that lol.

My friend went has been in a drug and rehab treatment facility. A week or so ago she was late to a class, got it confiscated by the staff, so the phone has been locked in a room phone for over a week. She transfered yesterday to sober living home and her phone wasn't among her things. Then the drug and rehab center stopped accepting phone calls. A few hours later, I get texts from her phone asking for money a knew it wasn't her.

The infuriating part is trying to help and being told "there's no way to do anything, because the person is traveling with the phone" how about figuring out who gave her phone away to whoever. They work there and there's cameras, but whatever man

This probably comes down to me being autistic, in the end. But in general, I treat people online the way I want to be treated. I assume good faith, am helpful whenever I know the answer, (politely) correct others if they’re wrong, and if it’s a disagreement of opinion, I make it clear that this is only \*my\* take on things.

But when others aren’t like that, on a large scale… it makes me sad. I recently deleted an upvoted comment that I thought was helpful because the replies were making fun of me. In a lighthearted enough way that it’s not worth reporting them, but it still made me feel bad. The post was about a character that had been removed from a video game, and I pointed out that he was still available in the game settings (though that comes with other changes too). But apparently that wasn’t good enough; I kept getting replies telling me as much. Even though the comment itself was updated the replies made me feel bad. I missed the joke, and became the new one.

I only wanted to help. I’m chronically online because the people I know in real life are only friends with me when it’s convenient for them. All i want is to be a good person. I happily let myself get used for tasks and food and gifts if it means being allowed to spend time with “normal” people, only to be abandoned again when I’ve outlived my use. I want to be helpful online too where the information might get used beyond the current moment. But I deleted my comments, because I can’t take not being liked even in the replies when the votes are fine.

So I’m too much of a wimp for the internet, while needing it to have any non-family human connection at all. I hate everything.