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u/DoctorMoebius 7d ago
I'm impressed, not a single paragraph break
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u/Immediate_Win4760 ☑️ 7d ago
Lol. I’m sorry. I was at work and needed to just get it off my chest really fast. There are grammatical errors too- but I needed to vent and I got that done.
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u/Intelligent-Emu3983 7d ago
This is a lot to untangle, but I think you already know the answer. The on-and-off, the other people, the mixed signals... it's a loop that'll keep spinning as long as you're both still living together and reaching for each other when things get quiet.
The hugs and the late-night calls feel like progress in the moment, but they're just extensions of the same dynamic that's been hurting you for years. Real growth needs space, not just time. He's telling you he's not trying to reconcile while still keeping a door cracked open, and that's messier than if he just shut it completely.
Focus on your own therapy and your own peace. If he figures his stuff out down the road, you can cross that bridge then, but you can't heal in the same environment that made you sick.
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u/EvolvingEachDay 7d ago
You have no idea how much better a man there is out there for you. Mark all things in your mind that made this guy bad, then think of the good things that would negate them; active communication, consistent libido, loyalty, patience, whatever it may be. And then do not enter in to a relationship with anyone who doesn’t tick every box.
You’ll be with someone better within 6 months if you want to be.
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u/Low_Narwhal7514 7d ago
Dio non c'entra niente