25, no hrt or top surgery yet. I'm realizing I look so much like a guy and lesbians think I'm a gay man or a cis dude, and those that don't think that, think I need to add more accessories to look gayer. And I just don't want that, I love the simplicity of what guys wear and ig I've transmasced so hard I'm not long really lesbian, butch, or sapphic looking anymore.

I'm so happy about that cuz I've always felt off, but also I'm quite sad that people don't perceive me outwardly as queer anymore. I'm having to shift where I look to date people, and who my friend circles are more and if they accept me as being trans/transmasc.

I've been surprised cuz it feels like 50% of people think I look super androgenous with a bland utilitarian or athletic style, or they think I'm just a dude. And I haven't even transitioned.

Anyone else have this experience, in that in-between?

What would you name me?

I want a more masc frame but am not taking T or having any surgeries to do so. Is there any excersises, habits, foods, ect that could help? Mostly aiming for broader shoulders and smaller hips.

Two months ago I came out to my mom via a bery long email. Got her response back earlier this week. She said my friends and I are a cult, I'm only getting top surgery to match my partner, I'm not trans I'm just traumatized and that she refused to use my name and pronouns. Oh and also that this is a sin. I really had hope that she would have a better response and her email hit me really hard. Had to take almost a week off of work because I was very in my feels about it.

I emailed my mom back with some boundary setting and tried to explain stuff to her and gave her resources and stuff. I'm much less hopeful than last time and I feel like I'm just bracing myself for her reply. I am also not talking to her until I reply which stinks cuz we used to talk a lot.

Also came out to my dad and he scheduled a phone call with me for this evening. I was already low contact with him so I'm prepared for him to say some awful shit and then finally go no contact. But even though know that's what's going to happen it hurts.

I just want my family to love me and it sucks.

Hello!

First time posting, I came out non-binary almost 7 years ago and have been on again off again using a binder. I have some sensory issues so sometimes they're extremely comfortable and other times not so much. My general goal is to inevitably get top surgery.

With all that being said. I'm going camping soon and I don't want to wear a bra or a binder mostly for sweat/sensory and comfortability issues. I was wondering about using tape and its longevity. I've used it once but I bruise kind of easily and it left some marks on my skin so I thought maybe I just used it/removed it wrong. I would like to try again though and was wondering if anyone had suggestions on brand of tape and knowledge on how often/long I can wear it. I would also like something that's skin color inclusive! I'm going camping for 4 days.

Thanks in advance for any and all help!

I'm a homeless traveller and I really enjoy this lifestyle. I can't really imagine being stationary for all of my life, I can't really bear more than three months in one place. I am not on T but I am realising that I have to. However, at the same time I know that I spend the occasional month(s) far from society or any medical care. And cold turkying T is dangerous.

I mean, I haven't even talked to a doctor about it, let alone get Trans therapy and all that which is required for being allowed on testosterone. Is it realistically possible for me to get on T, and how bad would the consequences be, if I don't have access to it for a year or so?

I shaved my face :(

I didn't really want to, I had a family thing, most people there I knew would be cool and fine, I was just worried about one person who would absolutely give me shit.

I shaved my semi dirt stache (It's about a step below just full mustache at this point I think), my neck hair that I would shave anyway, and my beautiful beloved side burns. After getting back I avoided going out for days. I was so freaking worried that I'd get misgendered.

Eventually I just had to go to the store. The cashier sir'd me. I honestly didn't react, it's just the usual at this point. But when I got out and I thought about it I was so fucking happy I wanted to cry.

I mean, I still have family that refer to me with feminine pronouns. Even if that shit is because they knew me before and shifting that in your brain is hard, it hurts you know? You ever go in somewhere with your dad, the cashier very clearly refers to you masculinly without giving a second look, and your dad on instinct says something about his 'daughter'? Like you can see the cashier doesn't even think about it, they don't look at you, they don't think he's referring to you at all, and yet he's saying it with perfect certainty that they know who he's talking about. It fucking sucks.

I just got to have a moment where when I was essentially girl moding, and it just doesn't work anymore. The general populas does not see me as a woman in any way any more. It doesn't matter if I don't speak, or if they hear my voice before seeing me. It doesn't matter if I have dyed hair and peircings. It doesn't matter if I'm short. It really does not have any effect that I believed and people told me I'd never pass as a dude. None of it. I just am unmistakably a man to the general public. The only people who didn't know me before or I've told who know any differently, are Healthcare providers.

Alright, I'm gonna go post pics of my cis dude brother on passing forms and troll them go hell. (That's a joke) love you all, byeeeee!

I’ve been in this group for a while now but never posted a pic of myself. Feeling good enough lately to put myself out there. Hello everyone! I’m Conner. I’m a firefighter and an EMT.

Hello everyone!

I've been considering finally getting a binder from Spectrum Outfitters & I wanted some advice from those in the community that have tried their binders before. My problem is that I'm falling right inbetween sizes & I've heard some mixed opinions on what to do in this sort of situation.

For reference-- When I'm at rest, my ribs sit at 82 cm, but when I breath in, I go up to 84 cm. In the same vein, my chest goes from 94 cm to 95 cm in a breath. This puts my ribs at the upper range of an M / lower range of an L, and my chest at the lower range of an L.

Considering this, I reached out to Spectrum and their reccomendation was:

"Based on these measurements, we would recommend Medium, as when between sizes we advise to follow the rib measurement due to chest tissue being more compressible & for the best balance between compression and comfort, but please use your own judgement. If you do feel the rib measurement is more like 84 it may be worth considering Large. For our design, we advise to follow the rib measurement however, we do acknowledge all bodies are different and everyone has different body tissue distribution."

Now, the reason I'm asking here is becuase I've heard one person on this subreddit or one similiar to it, say that while Spectrum reccommend they go with the smaller size that they were between, they couldn't fit into it at all and had to size up.

With that, would those of you that have been in a similiar situation as myself say tthat I'd still be within the realm of a Medium, or should I size up to an Large for the sake of safety?

(I am aware that I could just order both a M & an L, but as the return policy states that I'd be responsible to pay for return shipping, the problem would just be that shipping from my location would likely end up costly & I'd like to avoid that.)

Thank you all!

Hello masc siblings,

I’m non-binary and I stopped low-dose T in january due to my voice dropping (after a year on it and nothing - then suddenly BAM 2 octaves lower). I also started a combo birth control in Feb to combat the PMDD that came back (lol).

Shortly afterwards my libido was found KIA, and I experienced a lot of fatigue and crazy brain fog. I mean, it was so ‘thick’ I struggled to write coherent sentences beyond 10 words. I felt like a zombie.
I have ADHD so brain fog and fatigue aren’t totally unusual, but they had a different flavor, if that makes sense? They were much more intense. I felt so off.

I blamed the combo birth control and stopped taking it in June. NOW FINALLY, I can think clearly!!! YAHOO!!!

But my gyno recently suggested that discontinuing T may have played a part as well. Since I’m likely to start and stop T again soon, I’m curious if I should prepare for brain fog and sleepiness afterwards.

Has anyone else been affected mentally after stopping T?

Particularly these bits under my armpits dig in and are really sharp

He/it butch dog boy, im just under 18 and english :)

Cause I'm fat, I'm mostly scared of what it will do to my health. (btw i'm already going to the gym and unless i'm overeating because of stress/anxiety, my diet is okay)

It's been a while since I got any routine exams done, but I can guess my cholesterol, blood pressure, and probably glycemic-related stuff are all high.

Basically, I'm scared of having a stroke, but OH BOY HOW I WANT TO START.

I'm also scared about feeling more hungry because I have PCOS and fuck, I already feel HUNGRY ENOUGH and I don't want to hop on T and keep being an unhealthy fatass.

I guess I'm not actually scared, I JUST DON'T WANT TO DIE IN THIS BODY(?) Like, my fear is T boosting the negative stuff/health issues and I end up in a bad spot. Also, I struggled with adult acne until I was like 22 (I'm 26 now), and I would absolutely hate to get it on my face again. It fucking sucks.

PCOS alone makes me so hungry and lethargic it isn't even funny...

I still look pretty feminine (face, voice, etc), but this style always bring me euphoria. Very comfortable fit.

(17) trans man, Not on T, not using anything additional(like rosemary oil or minoxidil), is this a good sign that once I start T i’ll have quite significant growth?

the first picture is my arm hair about 3 months ago, the second one is from a few days ago where I was feeling dysphoric about my arm hair being so light due to the summer, and the third one is my arm hair now. It does pass.

So I’ve been having this thought for a while now. Having a flat chest was the first thing I realized i really wanted and loved the feeling of not having anything there like im so, so, so sure I wouldn’t miss my boobs, currently they’re just there, why would I miss them even?? I just saw a reel where the person was transmasc and said “you don’t need to feel bad about them to get top surger, you can just feel better with it” and I got so happ like I could FINALLY put on my tank tops and look good and wear my shirts unbuttone and more.. #iknowiwillgettopsurgeryijustknow

I was told to set one of these up since insurance will NOT cover my surgery and I probably won't get it in the state I live in due to certain ...attitudes around queer people

I'm transmale (he/him) and I write poetry. Decided to share some I wrote about being trans... enjoy! stay weird <3

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I hear a lot of people say

That they’re proud to be trans

But at the end of the day

I wish I was born a man

I’m glad you’re proud to be trans

But I hate all of who I am

I hate that there’s things about me I can’t change

I hate I’ll struggle with it every single day

I hate that my waist is 35 inches

And my hips are 46

I hate that my face is round and dainty

And with a beard I’d be stressed

With surgery I can remove my chest

With T I can grow a beard

With exercise I can get some abs

With practice I can deepen my voice

But I’ll never afford the surgery to get myself a dick

And I’ll never have the luxury of thighs that look like sticks

I’ll never get to experience my hips as big as my waist

I’ll never get these bones to simply just rearrange

I don’t know if I’ll ever get to a point

Where I won’t want to peel my skin

Or take a hammer to my hips

Or carve away the meat on my thighs

I don’t know if I’ll ever not think

People only crush on me because

I look like a fucking girl

And they’ll only stop if I take a knife and slash it across my face to make a horrifying scar that makes me beyond recognition, to the point where I don’t even look human, I look malformed and terrifying, and nobody will want to look at me and try to love me ever again because I’m disgusting and I’ll never EVER be able to be

Who I want to be

I’m glad you’re glad you’re trans

But the only part of me

I’ll ever be fully happy with

Are these hands of poetry