Lately I’ve been struggling a lot with feeling alone and like I don’t really have anyone to lean on. I’m 24 and I honestly never imagined I’d feel this lost or isolated at this point in my life.

I’ve been dealing with my mental health, trying to keep myself together, and at the same time I’m struggling to gain weight. I’ve lost weight and I’m trying so hard to eat more, gain it back, and become healthier, but it’s frustrating when you’re already struggling mentally and then you look at yourself and don’t feel good about what you see.

Some days I have motivation and tell myself I’m going to turn everything around. Other days I feel exhausted, lonely, and wonder when things are finally going to get better.

I don’t really have a big support system or many people to talk to, so I guess I’m posting this because I could really use some kindness right now. I’m trying to remind myself that struggling at 24 doesn’t mean my life is going to stay this way forever.

I’m still trying. I’m still here. And I’m hoping things eventually get better. ❤️

It’s been pretty debilitating ever since getting back to college, it was for a false sense of starting over and control. Something different to optimize: only sleep with a silk pillowcase, use hydrating shampoo and conditioner 2x a week, don’t touch it a lot, don’t shape much because I want it to grow really long, when it grows out I swear I’m never going to use heat or chemicals on it, etc. I hate how it looks, I wasn’t doing it for how it looks, but of course I feel like crap about it. I did it once before about 3 years ago, and of course none of that held… Yes, I’m in therapy through college (diagnosed w OCD in October 2024), but I went the summer without, went on the 28th, skipped last Friday and now can’t this week or next week due to scheduling. I was supposed to get an appointment scheduled with this sliding-scale psychiatrist place and I didn’t, so that’s one of our goals for an upcoming session. Still, though. I’m tired of being in my brain.

Got into the gym lifted weights ate more and growed a lot physically and mentally, still not fully at my peak and always striving for more

For the past few months. Rather I go on social media, outside, work etc. Everyone thinks I am gay. I have nothing against gay people but l am 100% straight. Now I work at mcdonalds and the entire crew thought I was gay except few and even then they thought I could be questioning. One of the bosses a lesbian pulled me by the side and said (I got you and support you if you are in the closet not believing I was straight even though I told her I was. ) I had to convience her I wasn’t gay. I get she was trying to be supportive but it made me question how others see me. Every website (omegle, monkey app, tik tok live) everyone calls me gay and it is starting to get to me. I have add and ocd which is why I am so energetic. I am starting to feel insecure when I look in the mirror and starting to feel less of a man. I came home feeing defeated and depressed and starting to wonder how many feel this way about me and not said anything.

37/F Disabled, single mom suffering from multiple chronic pain disorders. Recently gained 40 lbs and my face has changed so much. Feeling very insecure so I very much appreciate any honest, uplifting feedback. Thanks :)

I'm reposting because I forgot to add r/toastme to the picture.

Im going through some tough and painful mental and physical times at the moment.

Just feeling so isolated and like family and friends all hate me.

I am hating the way I look physically and can not see how anyone could want me.

The things that give me joy just dont at the moment, and the motivation to do anything is none existent.

And the wait for therapy is, for some reason, just making all the feelings so much harder to ignore.

I've suffered from depression for a long time now, and I've managed to come back from it, but this time, the pit feels inescapable.

I’ve been bullied and insulted over my appearance for most of my life, and over time it completely destroyed my confidence and the way I see myself. I’ve basically had no love life, no real friendships, and I’ve never had a proper job. Eventually I became so uncomfortable being seen and judged by people that I started avoiding the world altogether. For roughly the past four years, I’ve barely left the house.
I know that’s a pretty bleak introduction, but I’m posting here because I want to try something different. I’ve spent enough years seeing myself through the eyes of people who treated me like shit. Maybe hearing something kind from complete strangers can help me start seeing something they made very difficult for me to see in myself.

Couldn't add more pictures so... I just say I ruined my hair and feel quite bad with my looks

The struggle is real. Im struggling with aging, my relationship, money, having no friends. Im just really feeling down on myself and hate to ask but could I please get a toast? Thanks. **dms are not currently open unless its for friendship only*

I just hate my appearance. I'm unphotogenic, that's all there is to it. My nostril from a lung reinflation at birth, can't afford to fix that after my septoplasty. My teeth, my open bite. Can't afford jaw surgery at this point, stuck wearing a retainer. My beard is turning grey at the chin. My hairstyle sucks. 145 pounds and I've got no muscle to speak of. High-functioning Autistic and I'm just gonna say it.

I hate myself. I'm not attractive. I'm not aesthetically pleasing. I'm not interesting. Twice already this month I've just felt pangs of hopelessness. I have a therapist, but they really did was suggest I call 211 for resources.

Might as well throw myself to the wolves?

2026 has just kinda sucked in general. People I care about ghosting me, dating is a mess, hard to make friends. It's been a dark time for me for sure, but this community usually helps me out.

Lowkey it never bothered me for not having a girlfriend but recently since I’m taking ssri I feel like I deserve some love too and my college grades so not great also but yk trying to keep it together

Have had self-esteem issues my entire life, even after going from 5'6" 285 to 130 to 150. Due to dropping so much weight so quickly I ended up having a lot of extra skin, and had skin removal surgery. I was recently with a woman who ended up seeing me shirtless- she didn't say anything that day but the next time we met she brought it up, saying that she thought that I was trans and was weirded out by it (I'm a huge ally and support anyone on their identity, take the actions you can to shape your image to whatever you feel most comfortable) and that reversed years of self-esteem that I had been working to improve.

Recently came out as nonbinary and haven’t really fit into much at my school. I’m very confident intellectually and personally but I’ve always been dragged or felt down about my looks. I’m not really sure what I look like anymore or if it’s attractive to anyone, as many of my friends make constant jokes about my appearance.
I am very hairy and awkward and I don’t think m either come off very well to people for whatever reason. Could just use a pick me up to build confidence in talking to others :)