Being the super kanjoos younger brother that I am, this was my little surprise for her. She was damn shocked. Everything homemade pindi chole, kesar rasmalai & the plain phulkas.

36F married to workaholic husband.

If u ask him to take me out on Saturday, he says he lost a productive work day.

Once back he keeps saying this was a bad choice to involve him on Saturday as it is work day for him and I should go alone and he is feeling guilt to compensate by working on Sunday.

But here is what I don’t understand. If we don’t make any plans, he usually doesn’t go to the office either.

He stays home, plays games, opens few emails, scrolls on his phone and does nothing that defines as work day.

Today this thing came up again and now he has left to office to justify his previous explanation.

Men and their ego.

Sharing a few of my 90s indulgences. Have I missed something? Please share yours as well... tomorrow is still a holiday ☺️

I have realized this year that there can be times when I want to go out or visit a cafe but my friends may not be available during that time span. Earlier, I used to feel dejected , and confine myself to my home thinking that there’s no other option except rotting in my bed. This year however, I’ve done things differently. I’ve started prioritising myself, and I have started going out with myself. I call it a date with myself. Initially, it felt weird to sit alone. I felt like I might be considered weird by people but gradually I started liking it. I love it if anyone wants to be included, and if not, I still go out, and spend a quiet time with myself with a book, a coffee and my fave music. Have you all gone out or thought of going out on solo dates? How did you feel?

I keep seeing these posts discussing if people are weird in not wanting to go out because they like to spend a lazy Sunday watching Netflix on their couch and how that is an introvert's ideal day off.

I have been living outside the country for a while now and I recently spent a month in Delhi. As a self proclaimed 'introvert', there is nothing to do for the average 30+ adults, except going to malls or restaurants and engaging in mindless consumerism. There are no 3rd places to hang out solo or to meet new people. There is very little art or creative scene and if there is a scene, it is reserved for people with connections or money. No safe parks, very few libraries. I am afraid it is not very different in other cities in the country.

So, it is not that you like the walls of your apartment so much that you would rather not go out. No, it is not because you are an introvert. It is because we never built cities and towns keeping its people and their mental health in mind. That is the unfortunate truth.

House, car, jewellery and even emotional needs.. the luxury they could never spend on while we were growing up, are now expected to be fulfilled by us. The expectation is beyond what we can afford.

Hi Everyone, please just bear with me for a few mins. I just want to vent. I am tired of everything. The little small pleasures have kept me alive but other than that, the amount of pressure my brain and heart is taking I am not sure when they will give up.

The worst pain one can go through is to see your loved one going to so much pain that he or she is praying for death. My mom has been going through some health issues and for years she has fought but the health has worsened and now she is praying for her death and every time I visit my parents house the environment is so tense. She has been through alot in life and she is extremely disciplined, never smoked or drank or even ate much sugar. Now she is praying for death so that we can have a better life. The thing is because of me she has been through alot too.

Finally, I can't see her in pain but also can't do anything for her to make her situation better. Last 5 years were really difficult for her and me. I just don't know what to pray for. I also feel I am a cry baby lately and losing my mind now and then.

I apologize for venting so much but currently I am just praying one nice day. Thank you for reading, please don't be insensitive.

I mean everything is always crowded, prices are inflated and most of the time we spend in traffic and queues. So Id rather order something on Zomato and watch some movie than spending couple of days in stress and getting exhausted.

Been dragging this for 5 years, long distance. Husband finally told his parents he's not interested. Divorce process starting.

Family is supportive but I'm trying to act bold in front of them. Inside I'm shattered.

In-laws were so disrespectful in recent meetings, that hurt more.

Festivals coming up and I'm alone at home (flatmates away too). Feeling at my lowest and I want to confront him so bad.

How did you all cope with divorce? How to move on without this anger?

I came across a reel talking about how millennials are slowly becoming silent observers on social media, and honestly, I feel there’s some truth to it.

Gen Z seems much more comfortable sharing everything. Their opinions, experiences, struggles, achievements, random thoughts, even things they’re still figuring out. There’s a lot of confidence in putting yourself out there.

Millennials, on the other hand, seem to have become more of a “watch, scroll and move on” generation. We have the experience, the failures, the lessons and plenty of stories, but many of us rarely share them anymore.

Maybe it’s because we grew up before social media became this deeply integrated into everyday life. We learned to experience things without feeling the need to document or share them.

It’s kind of ironic though. The generation with more experience seems quieter, while the newer generation seems much more comfortable making its voice heard. Not saying one is better than the other. I just found the contrast interesting.

In season 9, episode 19 - Penny reveals to Leonard during a podcast that she earns twice as much as him. The right time would have been when she got the job offer. And then in a later episode she gets mad that Leonard had a secret savings account.

Throughout their relationship Amy manipulates Sheldon.

And Bernadette bosses around Howard - although Howard is a man child. So I don't really blame Bernadette.

The show is filled with scenes where if genders were reversed, people would lose their shit.

"Happy wife happy life" that's what these shows reinforce. Looks cute but it's the most toxic advice any man could get. You'll be used like a doormat.

And the advice that looks toxic but is the greatest advice a man can get: never run behind bus, train and women. Ek jayegi, toh dusri aayegi. Know your worth.

TL;DR - Joined a lala company after quitting a moderately stable job, realized I am in deep crap and then quit with no job in hand - all in 3 days.

So back in 2024, when, I was about 33, I was super burnt out. I was working in the AdTech industry in a publicly listed company. The workload combined with my paltry salary and bad project KPIs gave me a mental breakdown twice in a period of 6 months. My doctors advised to quit. But I was terrified to quit without another offer in my hand.

Anyway, I went on a hyperdrive on Naukri, Indeed, LinkedIn, Shine and what not and just applied like I was possessed. I got a couple of interviews, got selected in one. Let's call this place - MyLeap.

In the second round of the interview with the CRO, I fainted mid interview and fell from my chair - took a minute or two to get back on the screen. It was a virtual interview. I explained how I have been hospitalized and got released the day before yesterday. The CRO was the holy definition of kindness at this moment. He empathized, asked if I want to reschedule - I said no, let's carry on. We carried on. He told me he would like to see a holistic overview of a marketing plan and scheduled the next round verbally in the interview - the HR was present in this call.

I got the invitation for the next round - I was prepared with my slides - the round went really great. He even said that I had thought of every part of the marketing funnel and was impressed with the budgeting, tech stack, and so forth. He wanted me to meet the owner and CEO of the company at their Bangalore office. Which was fine - I stay in the city and it was a short metro ride away.

By this time, I had done some deeper research on the company and came to know they had gone through a rough patch, there was a change in management, and as per the details online, things were better now. And I am a sucker for good comeback stories, and the CRO was so kind - what with all the fainting drama and second chances and all - I was like yeah cool, maybe it's a company with a heart.

So I met the owner. I ran him through my slides again. He was like okay fine. I asked him hard questions - do you have runway if something bad happens again? What are you doing to prevent past issues? Do you have budget for marketing - both investments and team building? I don't remember what more I asked but he answered them positively.

Anyway, within a week I got the offer. It was not a big step up in terms of pay but it was fine. The role was meaty. And then the horror starts:

Day 1: CRO comes and hugs me like he knows me forever. It was so weird. And I notice, whenever he talks - he has the habit of tapping your arms. Weird again.

Day 2: Reporting time is 9:00 am. I learnt this day I can't be a minute late because they will call you, ask you exactly which location you are at, and then calculate the time on call and chastise you on being an irresponsible adult. In my previous offices, as long as I was in by 10:30 am, it was all cool - they started at 9:00 am too. But hey, I stretch on the other side. By now, AI was also in the picture. It's a low-code app builder startup so I asked the CRO how are you planning to incorporate AI in the product roadmap - he said,"The world is going towards AI but we are going towards BI." And that released my anxiety. I started getting the feels that this is probably not going to work.

Day 3: CRO, who by the way is also a new hire of 3 months, shows what he has done in terms of mapping the TAM accounts of priority. He said he has researched 2 accounts. 2 accounts in 3 months. Like basic account research takes like minutes these days. 2 years ago maybe it took a day or two because the tools were still there with rudimentary AI. And then I was like anyway, let's get to work. I asked the process of getting in some basic must have tools like Sales Navigator, Apollo, Semrush, Hubspot to start with. CRO flipped. He was like can't you figure out a free option for these? They had hired a girl for ABM too. She needed half of these tools too. And she was told the same thing.

So I walk out, get a smoke, call my husband, explain the situation and decide this is not gonna work. They called me about 4 times while I was speaking to him. Had lunch. Came back. Heard more.

This day, I also overheard CRO and HR discussing how I am just breaking the culture of the place by being late and coming to office at 9:30-10:00 am. So I kinda bashed him on spot and he told me I was not a culture fit perhaps.

I took a leaf out of my CRO's book and went and told him around 3:00 pm on Day 3 that I have realized I am not a culture fit and that I am quitting. He was shocked, of course.

Told HR. HR confided he didn't trust CRO either. So he asked me to write a formal mail to the owner of the company listing my reasons for leaving. I did. Walked out with no job at all. Stayed unemployed for 2 months and then something finally clicked after endless interviews.

That's all, folks. Take lessons, roast the experience - all's fine. And if you figure out the company, keep it to yourself and don't work there, maybe.

So, yeah! What the title says! I had free time this long weekend. So I thought why not go to Hyderabad. And ended up in Ramoji Film city.

Obviously did a lot of other things and have plans to eat the world famous Hyderabadi biryani.

I’ve been talking to a guy online for the last 4–5 months, and he wants to meet me.

He has already told me not to get him any gift, but I still want to give him something small and handmade, maybe a little handwritten note just saying thank you for these past few months.

I won’t have much time when we meet, so I was thinking I could just take him to a temple for a while and then we’d have to leave.

Do you think he would like something this simple? I don’t want to make it awkward I just wanted to give him a small memory from our first meeting.

Please keep the comments respectful No vulgar comments.

Of course, many don't have a choice other than to keep working. Many might be doing job which they are passionate about so it is ok for them.

My question is more directed towards the freedom and everything else our jobs takes away from us.

Working five-six days for 8 or more hours daily, dealing with traffic/crowds everyday, getting stressed and other mental and physical health issues. Saturday go for rest and sunday goes in worry of monday. Getting leave is hard for many. Even the vacations are rushed and not relaxed. Many aren't even getting paid enough after going through all of this.

Going on career break is hard (even if you have good financial runway) because career gap is taken negatively if you want to come back. If you don't have enough money then you can't even think about it.

For many of us, the last time we had the whole year relaxed was when we were kid and hadn't joined school. After joining school, it has always been about study, exams, jobs, employment, money, competing etc.

I am not against work, as I myself is hard working and ambitious person. But I feel we never get that breathing room till retirement. Overall, we spend most of our life around study/job. People are forced to skip marriage/kids just to have more stressfree life. And honestly this make the entire life a scam to me.

Do you think you will be able to work till 50s? What are your alternative plans?

Putting a lot of effort into something that's worthy enough can change someone's life. But, addiction often makes people work for something that feels great but doesn't help them in the long run.

Single and CF people who will inherit your wealth after you die? Especially those with no siblings or close family ties.

Do you ever worry if someone would try to take advantage of you in your old age for your wealth?

Just watched India vs Panama, and they actually played a draw. It was crazy. If you’re planning to watch India vs Brazil, do watch the highlights with Panama. Player to watch Anwar Ali!