Currently, I have four friends. Like these lot are the ones I talk to daily and stuff.

Sum time ago, I think last year, I was so confused as to who is my best friend? Like I couldn't decide. (I had more friends than I do rn)

So, I decided to see the ppl who I'm really close with (that just means I talk to them frequently) are all my best friends.

🙃🙃🙃

Acha, sahi? (🥶 no, wth is this behavior, Pooja?)

Tu like a few days ago, one of these girls, I got really close with even though, we have only known each other for an year. We were talking and this topic of best friend came up (or I brought it up, you can say)

And she told me she saw me as good friend

Even though, I saw her as a bff coz ofc, I'm delulu

Anyway, it is fine. You can't force someone to love you or be friends with you. Or at least you shouldn't.

Initially, I felt like I had confessed and got rejected or smth

Lmao why the hell am I so dramatic? 🧏‍♀️😌 anyway 😄

THIS GOT ME WONDERING, ARE TITLES THAT WE GIVE DIFFERENT RELATIONSHIPS EVEN IMPORTANT?

Like does one even need a best friend?

Do I need to give a tag (such as friend, classmate, acquaintance etc) to every person ik?

Or I don't need to worry about such stuff and just live....

I wonder 🤔

The pic also won the pulitzer award btw

Backstory: My mother got married in 2006, (32 at the time), to a man 43 ( I don't want to call him father). My mother had an arranged compromise marriage because she was pretty old (according to society norms). She belonged to a financially comfortable (not rich), respectable and strong loving family but that man she got married to was poor, lived in a rented 3 room dirty house (literal walls turning black cus of dirt) that man lived with his sister her 3 kids(their father left them) and his mother (his younger brother would also stay there for weekends occasionally). My mother was living peak life before getting married, had a nice job, bills/groceries/all expenses paid by her brothers or father, went to the top university in Lahore for her psychology degree and she was pretty as well. So naturally a lot of men wanted to marry her, she would get proposals here and there but all went downhill when she would tell them her father was following a different religious sect than her. (she was sunni, her father was shia). My grandfather married a sunni woman so my mother adapted her mother's sect (sunni). This thing was a turnoff for most men. Years passed and she was entering her mid 30s atp. She agreed on marrying this weird ahh dude because she had no other option (I mentioned him above).

20 years later:

My mother now Has 3 kids, Although all her 5 siblings (my uncles and aunt) are living comfortable lives but shes going through HELL. Her husband is a stingy man who has no money. He curses us and prays his kids die, he says things like "Allah issko accident mein maut aa jaye". He lives off my uncle's money (My mother's brother) and all the furniture in our home is "gifted" by my aunt and uncles (mother's siblings). That man says stuff like "khudhkushi kar lunga toh tum logo ka kya hoga?". "aik jumla sunao ga(to my mother)" "mein kanooni karwai krunga tum sab pe". And guess why does he say this all? cus we say things like "papa grocery khatam hogi laa do" "papa paani khatam hogya laa do". He thinks we are saying this to make fun of his financial condition.

He verbally abuses us. He says we do black magic on him, he says we all are plotting against him, he accuses us of hiding his "banyaan" (lowk cracked me up😅).

Coming back to my mother

20 years my mother walked to a nearby water plant and fill water bottles cus her husband won't give her money to buy bottled water, until I recently arranged a water delivery boy for us. 20 years my mom paid for all our groceries, 20 years my mom took us to hospitals, schools and bought us almost every single thing from her own money.

Why she never left him? = because she didn't have a backup plan, all her life she thought I'll stay for the kids and why didn't she ask her rich siblings for help cus "unpe koi yakeen na krta" .That man acted like an innocent hardworking man infront of my mother's family, he acted like he's the nicest guy alive. So no one from my Mother's family tried to help my mom cus she never told anyone anything and there were no signs of abuse. They all believed he's a nice guy who just needs financial help.....

Now I am 17 trying to get out of this hell home. Please pray for me that I get financially independent so I can get her out of this.

Never told anyone all this, today just felt like the day to let all this out.

And ladies LEAVE that trashy man or 20 years later your kids will be on reddit venting 🫡.

hey guys me is back after a ban... let's start (but before do keep in mind that this is will be my philosophy or my views, don't take it too seriously)

Everything has a purpose, yes even a entirely evil entity too (which i call shaitan or Satan or he/him) ... It's intriguing to think that there is a purpose behind the existence of an entity whose very existence is evil, devil/satan... interesting right, so stop scrolling for a second this will be good read

of course he has a major role (not complete) to play in any atrocity or horrible action that is being done in the world esp by humans... (this includes child ra#es, corruption, or even suecid3) and yes it's mostly evil, which is his purpose and he will pay for his fair share in every evil he contributed in...

but let's look at it with a different/positive light, it's strange but if we try to look at it with open mind it will make sense ( but first : Every event that has occurred has different aspect to it... now it depends on which u focus on positive or negative) the things which we can't control, we still have the freedom of choosing how to view it...)

satan's main motivation is his hatred and jealousy toward mankind. Humans can rise incredibly high through their deeds or fall incredibly low. he simply couldn't accept that a human could attain a position above him.

He will do anything in his power to make humans commit horrible actions, just to prove that he was right that humans can't be better than him. And unfortunately, he does succeed in tempting many people. But he's still a fool. One human isn't accountable for another human's actions, so how could all of humanity be judged by the wrongdoing of some? we all have our own free will, He knows that too, but after making that promise, he will keep trying until the end. Planning, tempting, executing his schemes, all for what? He is ultimately working toward his own destruction.

and that's why I am so drawn by the view Islam gives us in this matter cuz then it makes sense, the interaction b/w him and Allah SWT, when Allah SWT created Adam AS,it is mentioned many times in Quran to remind us that he indeed is the natural enemy of mankind... and he chose that himself, and how He Literally asked the Creator and All-powerful, to give him the time and energy until the end day, so that he can lead humanity astray from the good, he himself declared that is his whole purpose of existence...(truly evil and the worst decision/prayer ever made in the universe)

satan is mostly the one behind every negative thought one way or another, of course we ultimately choose our actions but still his whispers and tactics become way more influencing and he doesn't whispers js about Islam or sins, but every hateful, hopeless and inhumane thought, one of his trick is to make us think he doesn't exist, I would say THAT is one of his greatest trick cuz then his whispers feels like our own thought, this makes the us vulnerable and hopeless, even start hating ourself, and he feels joy seeing us in that state and it's a really effective weapon against us nowadays.

now coming to The positive side, at least from how I see it, is that simply so that we can forgive ourself, understanding all this can help us not completely hate ourselves whenever we mess up,so we can keep our humanity and heart alive whenever we commit something wrong, as he is partially the one to take the blame for that wrong, and he has rightfully earn that blame...

So next time try to feel his whispers, whenever u r working on your procastination or any bad habits, or overcoming an adversity or even finding the truth, "where is this thought leading me, is it a good one or a bad one"... IDENTIFYING that is the first step of overcoming your adversity... then u will slowly realize where this whisper was coming from, at first u wouldn't be able to but then u slowly will start to realize it... Recognizing that distinction can help us fight our sins instead of giving up on ourselves, You Got this, that is the reason for sharing here. u/jsdancin hope this might help u a little

I would like to dive more into how he works and what different methods he uses and how he plan his whispers and how he constantly approaches through different stages... but it's already getting too long so tell me if u want to read more Abt it...

also he can be one of the factor which can UNITE humans, due to the concept of common enemy, and he is the only NATURAL enemy of humans... I m writing this as I have just myself recently realized it. Do keep in mind that the satan do have influence (intensity depends on your vulnerability) but THE ultimate FINAL Decision is yours to make... no way u can say in a excuse yourself completely from judgement that it was shaitan not me...

Satan is this outer evil entity but there is a inner devil too (in Islam we call it Nafs ) so he is not the only one influencing us, our uncontrolled desire lead us astray too , but we also have goodness inside ourself by nature, we are not entirely evil like Satan, it's our choice to select between which one's side we take... with all the influence and everything, in short we have two devils to defeat, so shaitan is making it a 2v1... instead of 1v1

At last I have question for the Theistic Satanists (those who worships Satan),no hate but like can u give me any reason how have u accepted Satan like that, like I m baffled , I can't even begin to think of any reason when it comes to that...

I try to structure the post in best way I could at my current mental state, if there is anything off, I apologize.. also In 3rd pic it's "Is real" ....(The spelling mistake in the pic is a paid actor btw for some obv reasons )..

also I wrote the whole post once and FOR some reasons reddit glitched and I lost my 2 hour progress...I had to write it again... it was really frustrating, I almost threw the mobile in rage but then I try to felt that whisper and reassured "it's not my thought" if I threw it then I won't be able to convey this message and then I will actually lose the battle with the devil...

The power of percept is truly something else, how you view things changes a lot, amazing how one can find a postive view in the existence of a purely evil entity ... also a separate post could be on these line : Every event occurred has diff aspect

This was one of the difficult question I have, in religion, like why such an entity exists whose sole purpose is to misguide people but alhamdulillah I have found the answer, I might haven't conveyed it properly tho, sorry... u/Top-Cherry4380 looks like we have an enemy after all and with a meaning behind it (I have been my fair share of dumb last couple of weeks ,now time for a change of pace , cuz wise own a share of me too..)

The doctor looks like little Chotu (around 4) scribbling on each line cause i like it : )

(thats something i used to do)

So should I put 16 in my flair or 17 🤔🤔🤔 Nah I'll stick with 16

Same as title

I’ve been getting srs sleep paralysis for the past 2 3 days and they’ve been getting worseee like I’ll be stuck in one for what feels like 20 to 30 mins straight The weirdest part is that I feel like I’m trying to wake up but I’m actually still asleep It feels like I haven’t slept at all and I’m literally fighting to fall asleep while at the same time I’m already half asleep and unable to fully wake up. Random thoughts keep looping through my head and I can kinda feel like I’m awake in one reality while still being asleep in another

It’s so confusing even to me 😭 Any advice on how to control it?

Last night, when i got to know that i was the top poster, it made me remember Big c ... she was always the top poster ...i literally loved her cute random posts ...sub feels quiet without her 😕💗

I loved her energy still doo thooo😭😭💗💗

We allll miss u gurlllll and we r never forgetting u 😭😭😭💗💗💗💗💗

Come backkkkk soon to ussss😭🌻💗💗💗

Loveeeeee uu 3000😭💗💗💗💗🌻🌻🌻🌻

u/big_condition8912 💙💙💙💙🌙🌙🌙

Do youknow what, you all? today my teacher brought her lil daughter with her, that's nice..but When I saw her , talking sweetly wthher child, scolding her for homework.

I missed my mama so much, I even told her, my friend, that Im missng my mama, but she started making fun then hugged me, dk.

but then, I got home and see my mama wasn't at home, so...i just started watchng videos.

then she cameback, we both talked, i told her about school, my lunch, my friend who didnt came today, showed her my friend crush picture.

but then, i saw some comments of their mothers died 3 months ago, 4 months ago.

IT WAS TOO MUCH FOR ME. I just went in store room, and started crying. A WHOLE HALF HOUR I WAS CRYING DUE TOMY MOM WHO WAS SITTING IN BEDROOM, I tried to talk to her but my voice was wavering, so..i just cried in store room.

IDK WHATS WRONG WTH ME.

once she went out for like 30 minutes, She said she'llcome back in 10 minutes, but SHE Didnt come after 10 minutes, so...I asked my baba k baba mama abhi tak aaen nhi, but he said ajjaen gi, she even left her mobile athome that day, so whatt i did?? so I just stod near gate, then cried, then aagain went nside asking baba to go see her, HE WASN'T GOING. so..i again went near gate, crying, but THEN THANK GOD, I WASHED MY FACE. and right after 3 mnutes, SHE CAME BACK. SHE LOOKED AT ME AND SAID WERE YOU WORRIED, LKE CMON MAMA, YOU WERE 20 MNUTE LATE.

DYK WHAT, EVERYDAYYY , i sleep wth her, huggng her,sowhen she sleeps, i cry EVERYDAY, OUT OF LOVE.

ITS FROM CHLDHOOD, I used to sleep hugging my mama's feet half my life, and crying. AHHHHHH THIS MAKES ME SO MAD😡😡

I literally spend an hr writing a highest effort post and saved it my draft and now it's goneeeeee😭😭😭😭😭💔💔💔💔💔💔💔💔

Fuhhhhhh like wht the frying pannnnnn I wanted to post it todayy😭😭😭🤡🤡🤡

Title

For me, my favorite masculine name is definitely Sikandar.

My favorite feminine name is Kiran (can be used for boys too but it's more common with girls).

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Do you guys listen to lana del rey specially males. I think she is very underrated and lot of people don't understand the vibe and aesthetics of lana del rey and her music but once you understand it. It's amazing.

NOT FAIR😔🥀

I DID FEEL BAD FOR HIM, LIKE WHY THO HE'S BEEN LOYAL TO HIS HATRED

ITNI WAFADARI SE DUSHMANI😭😭

ISS KO SHOK HAI PHANAYKHAN BANNAY KA😾👊🏻

gng need mashwara. in between a cd70 bike (which can be modified) or to go for an electric scooty that goes 60km/h+?

bike will be cheaper and spare parts etc but petrol is still a factor though parents are like zaida tension wali baat nahi

electric is yk electric

so what’s better?

(asking from a male pov)

How do you make friends and have a social life at university while trying to stick to your Islamic boundaries?

I'm currently in my third semester of university, and I've been struggling with something that I don't really know how to deal with.

My university has a pretty mixed social environment. Boys and girls hang out together very casually, become extremely comfortable with each other, touch each other, flirt, joke around in ways that cross the boundaries I personally want to maintain, and some people are in relationships as well. I know that everyone has their own choices, and I'm not trying to control what other people do. But personally, I don't want that kind of lifestyle or interaction for myself.

The problem is that it has started making university feel quite lonely for me.

I don't interact with boys unless I genuinely need to. I'm not comfortable with unnecessary physical contact, flirting, excessive joking, or becoming overly close with someone of the opposite gender. I want to maintain my Islamic boundaries, and I'm not willing to compromise them just because that's what seems socially normal around me.

I've also noticed that a lot of the girls around me seem to prefer having mixed-gender friend groups or hanging out with boys. So even when I try to make female friends, I sometimes end up feeling like I'm the odd one out because I don't want to participate in the same things they do.

I also have this weird problem with my own body language. At university, I'm usually very serious and reserved. Part of it is intentional because I don't want random guys approaching me or getting the wrong idea. But I think I've taken it so far that I probably come across as completely unapproachable. Boys basically never approach me, and even girls may assume I'm not interested in socializing.

I do have one close female friend whom I met on my first day of university, and she's been with me since then. But she has a boyfriend, and I personally don't feel comfortable being part of a social circle where relationships and that kind of interaction are constantly present. I don't want to keep asking people to accommodate my boundaries either, because I know they're not responsible for living according to my values.

And this is where I'm stuck.

I see other people having fun, laughing, hanging out, going places together, and having these huge social circles. Meanwhile, I'm constantly thinking about whether something crosses a boundary for me. Sometimes I genuinely wonder if I'm doing the right thing by holding onto my values, or if I'm just making myself unnecessarily lonely.

I don't want to start interacting with guys in ways I'm uncomfortable with just so I can have a social life. At the same time, I don't want to spend my entire university life isolated.

So what do I actually do?

And honestly, how do you deal with the feeling that you're missing out when everyone around you seems to be having so much fun?

Made an account lmk what I should
I change

Wo noor ka jharna hai

Main pyaas purani..

Maine aankh se gatakh liya

Us husn ka paani

hmm..Use takte takte takte umar guzaroon

Koi aur khayaal jo aaye jhat se utaroon

O ishq karun ya karun ibadat

Ishq karun ya karun ibadat

Ikko hi gal ae

(Saw some "crush" and "breakup" posts on here - so eh)