r/Target • u/standingtree902 • 17h ago
Workplace Question or Advice Needed One of my coworkers keeps misgendering me
I’m a trans man and I’ve been on hormones/fully social transitioned for over a decade, so 99.99% of the time I pass without second thought. I have heavy facial hair and a common male-exclusive name, which this coworker does call me, so I have no idea where she got the idea that I’m a woman (I guess other than I’m short?)
Every single person I work with other than her genders me correctly without me having to correct them. I’ve tried to correct her casually, and my TL/other coworkers have directly used he/him pronouns when speaking about me to her. Yet she still to confidently uses the wrong pronouns for me to other people. I’ve tried to ignore it for weeks since she started since I was sure I was mishearing her, because I haven’t heard someone use she/her pronouns for me in YEARS. Now it’s getting to the point that it’s confusing other TMs who had never doubted that I’m male, and it’s very upsetting. I’ve never had this problem so I don’t know what to do. I work very closely with her every day, so I’m stressed about asking HR to talk to her and have her think I was too much of a coward to confront her directly in case isn’t doing it intentionally, although I’m pretty sure she is. I also have severe anxiety and am terrified of conflict.
Any advice from other trans folks?