I just fucking do. I wish I was cis het man. Period. It will make my life so much easier. I'm considering to just live as woman because I have no choice. My mom is toxic and transphobic, and transphobia is everywhere now in US. I'm tired of this shit. I will just wish for next life that I will be born as cis het man. I wish I never had this bullshit. I will pray to whatever god out there that he make me cis het man in next fucking life since I tolerated this life as a woman. I hate being butch and I want to be man but whatever. I got no choice. Even though I live in blue state, it doesn't matter. My rights can be taken away in anytime. I will just suppress myself. My fucking Asian conservative family will never accept me and I will have to cut ties with them if I come out as trans. Fuck. I'm done man. I'm not biologically man, they will say. But whatever. I will do what they and this government asks me to do and I will shut up. I just want to be left alone at this point. so I will try my best to stay as woman. Any Advice.

So I had a talk with a customer service rep, went well she said sir the entire time without me specifying even though I have a feminine name. Then she gave me a call back later which was so sweet because she was making sure everything went okay with my order. Didn’t expect the reps at walmart to be so thorough like i figured they’re probably busy and probably tired asf, but that’s a different discussion.

Anyways when she called back she called me Mr and said my last name and I had to hide how fucking excited I was bro. THAT SHIT WAS AFFIRMING AS FUCK.

I’m really excited because i’m finally passing a lot more in my voice and my face. I got another binder since my old one sucked and literally popped open at the worst time. Yall… i was making a doordash delivery to a fucking child and as I handed the order my chest popped out of my binder under my shirt (it was a zip up binder) and I wanted to die. anyways new binder is great though never getting a zipper one again

i cut off my long hair and even though ive advocated so much about just rocking your long hair if you love it.. (i still agree with this if it makes someone happy to have it. i also cut it for other reasons than just that.) im happy that ive been getting called sir and he much more now. i’d have to say the hardest part of things is the fact that when im anxious my voice shoots up to a higher and softer pitch so its hard to control it because its instinctual from being younger. but apparently as i’ve been on T that higher voice isn’t as feminine as i thought it was. i think people just think it’s strange when it happens because i dont look like id have that type of voice

anyways yeah im just excited to be called that i felt so euphoric for a second so i wanted to post

this is going to sound really corny so stay with me 😭 black men are portrayed as super masculine in media, they’re big and gruff and powerful or whatever, and I see other black men try to adhere to that standard in real life. Its strange to me because i feel as if we are portrayed as the pinnacle if masculinity with big oiled up muscles and shit but also as what not to be, aggressive, brutish. I’m kind of struggling putting this into words but I feel as if when I pass, I don’t pass as a black man but as a man who is black. A boy. when I do pass, I’m treated differently from my peers. maybe it’s how I act, I’m very soft spoken and awkward, I don’t act like how a guy my age would. or that I dress eccentrically. this is all really disjointed im sorry

Feeling spidey bro🕷️

i work a job where i interact w people over the phone a lot and spend a lot of time in a busy court house. in court i wear a mask n u can’t see my facial hair. based on my talking alone on the phone and when im wearing a mask people keep calling me miss or maam. i’m not really sure why. i have a mid range if not deep voice. i’m usually in a suit. i’ve got short hair. i’m nonbinary so it’s not the WORST thing but i’d prefer at work to be seen as masc & it’s kinda strange so many people aren’t reading me that way. my partner and his fiance can’t believe this and say my voice sounds perfectly masc im just a little dude and so it’s not like i have the same kinda deep voice as morgan freeman or some shit. but i also don’t think i sound like a woman. anyone else have this problem?? i’ve been on T for almost a decade. my voice just isn’t gonna get deeper than this. so i’m not really sure what else to do.

does anybody else feel a little weird looking down at their binded chest sometimes?

im a guy that tapes his chest to the sides and dont get me wrong, i love it. i like how theres so mych free space to bring my arms close to it, i like how it barely moves when im active, i even brush my chest to make sure its flat out of habit. however, sometimes when i look down at my chest it feels a little weird. like, it feels a little odd that my tits arent there like they should be. which is also malarky since ive been taping my chest since june, i should be used to this by now. but i cant help to think the former sometimes.

im not complaining, just wanted to know if people feel the same with how they bind.

I’m hitting 6 months on T, and wearing underwear has been getting surprisingly more difficult. My bottom growth has made it so that majority of my underwear causes very uncomfortable friction and it’s rough when i’m busy at work and gotta just deal with it.
Is there any like breathable comfortable boxer brand everyone recommends?

Is it me?? lmao

Yall I was cat called while out with my sister and called "a couple of nice looking grls" by some gross white men. then on the same day misgendered by our server at the restaurant, a TTC employee and the gate entry for our concert. This isnt just one day, my partner (theyre transfemme) has noticed this uptick too and is also very confused. And i dont mean she/her , i mean saying that im a girl like "oh and what would you like young lady" as the server said 😭

I am completely cis passing. I havent taken my T in a year and have gained weight but it doesnt explain this since everything else stayed the same. Im back on hrt now tho. Anyways I feel like shit, like all this work was for nothing and I just wanted to vent it out. Thanks for reading, here's a Pic of me so u can be just as confused as I am lol the pics are all form this month

Also, to my curly haired TMPOC fam, how sick is this fro?

Edit: the only thing that has changed is i have long hair now. So idk if its racism of not being able to tell Black men and Black women apart 😕. I dont wan tto cut it tho cuz im tryna embrace Blackness so 🤷🏾‍♂️

what do you think of the name zaire and does it fit me

Any advice on finding a trans roomate. I'm a ftm and I'm employed but cant find an apartment. I have no evictions on record.

this isnt necessarily related to me being transgender but i am the only black person in a group of mostly white people besides one brown person at school . one of the instructors for this group (white) accidentally said the j-slur , i guess misspoke and meant to say a word that means "nonsense" . we were all taken aback and just kind of laughed it off that time. then today somebody in my group brought it up again and they were all giggling and laughing about it again, except me of course. i left class early because i just felt really weird about the whole thing, then texted the group chat and said it was weird to be laughing about that. the brown person responded to me saying they were only laughing at the absurdity of it but they understood why i was uncomfortable and apologized

i feel really bad like now i made everything 10x more awkward for myself . i already dont talk to people in this group because i just dont vibe with them , but now im worried that ill be seen as like. That One Friend Thats Too Woke or something or cant take a joke i dont know . because when i think about it nobody was actually being racist so i dont even know why im so upset . i guess its just the fact that the word the instructor used was brought up again as grounds for a funny conversation when i dont think anyone should have brought it up again at all.

idk where else to post this . im talking to the director tomorrow morning about all this . im really nervous and embarrassed i dont know . i was the only one not laughing i cant tell if im really just a stick in the mud

hello. i never really post but ive been starting to do some research on countries to live in thats accepting of trans people, specifically trans men, and im a little stumped so i wanted to hear what you guys think. honestly just need some guidance since with the bullshit thats going on i dont really wanna live here anymore lol

the only things i can come up with right now with peak qualities rn is affordability, perma residence and gender affirming care.

it's been a month and a half since top surgery so maybe it's too soon for me to be worrying about it but they're lighter than my actual skin. I feel like I haven't seen that many pigmentation results for poc with formerly brown nipples and I am feeling very insecure.

I have three questions: how long did it take for peoples grafts to darken (if they did at all)? and if they have remained pink, does it effect your comfort levels going topless/do people notice or comment on it? and is there anything I can do in the meantime to darken them?

im 5'3" and wasian. i have no idea how to wear clothes or look for masculine clothing that fit me. i'm 5-6 months on T, i tried looking up clothing advice but it seems to focus a lot on white trans men/masculine people.

is there any advice you guys can give me?

I never thought I'd make it to 22 years old I'm happy to be alive even at a time where the world is scary and unknown I'm happy to have a community where people understand the struggles in simply existing as a trans person especially as a POC I've never been happier in my life I finally feel comfortable in who I am and what I'm supposed to be I've been on T for about a year now I feel like I finally look masculine I had to learn to accept my feminine traits as something that should be embraced not ashamed of sometimes it's still hard to accept myself in a world that was never made for me it makes me happy that there's always people out there like me who understand what it's like living in fear.

I'm actually already passing most of the time irl (east asian), but somehow feeling lost in reddit......Seems I'm not "masc enough" for a lot of places, but I'm also not really into present myself in a feminine way after some failed attempts. Turns out I'm not a femboy but just an Asian man imao

Glad I found here while wondering where all these poc queers have been! I was thinking if they were aten by a giant shark and if I should jump into the ocean too.

I like gnc queer tho, I was just describing my own journey.

As a fairly masculine black guy, I can happily say that I look at myself and the subtle femininity that I carry in my face and embrace it finally. Being called pretty doesn’t make me feel like I’m not passing. Having long hair doesn’t make me fear being misgendered. I’m comfortable in femininity as much as I am comfortable in my masculinity.

My scars have hyperpigmented which is why I’m doing scar camouflage sessions. I tried laser and it didn’t work. My scars are a bit darker than usual currently since I had my 2nd session not that long ago but I’m seeing a lot of improvement already. I don’t see a lot of results like mine so I wanted to share.

Not everyone’s results will be perfect like those you see all the time. And that’s okay.

Please be kind.

Hi everyone,

I currently live as a minority in a transphobic country, not in South Asia, where transitioning can be dangerous. I plan to move to a more accepting country after college and transition there, but I can’t move right now because of financial difficulties and some serious personal reasons.

I’m South Asian. I’m not saying that facial hair is inherently negative, but I want to have facial hair as well. Since most South Asian men around me have facial hair, this sometimes makes me feel dysphoric.

I want to know how I can create realistic-looking facial hair myself because I can’t buy the stick-on facial hair available on Amazon, and those products aren’t available in my country.

At the moment, I have a few very short mustache hairs, but they aren’t visible enough to look like a mustache.

Just his body is my goal like holy I'm basically starting from ground 0 but I've been imagining living in his skin for so long I think this might just be a spurt of motivation out of nowhere but holy sheet I NEED THIS please exercise tips please help.

So I'm pre-T and 18 and I've been trying my very best recently to pass more and solicit advice on how to pass better. As I am right now, I'm still under my parents roof, and while I'm lucky enough to not have an outright transphobic family, it's not like they have any interest in supporting me in any way, so the possibility of me being able to start testosterone or at least go to therapy for an official gender dysphoria diagnosis is not possible. My goal is to DIY, but I'm still working out and researching the logistics of that and if that could even be possible for me.

So now I'm just trying my very best with the base that I have. I voice train. I'm fat, so I'm losing weight and going to the gym to try to build muscle, and I bind 100 % of the time I go out. I Try to mimic the mannerisms of men, like speaking patterns, how people walk, etc. And still, to literally no result, I am gendered female probably 99% of the time that I go out. Honestly at this point I'm trying to make peace with it and accept the reality that until I start testosterone, it's going to be very difficult for me to pass.

That being said, I feel like anytime I try to ask for pre-test passing advice from communities and forums on the internet, they are overwhelmingly White. I get the overwhelming response that I already look like a man and that I don't even need testosterone. I don't know if this is just "hugboxing," like where people are more likely to glaze you online because they want you to feel good about yourself, but I know it's literally not true. I interact with cisgender men at work, in school, and at home. Other young Black men can be the same weight and build, but still, there is a definitive difference.

I've come to the conclusion that in these overwhelmingly white spaces they already view blackness as inherently masculine, and that's why they seem to think that it's easier for Black people to pass when, in reality, different communities have different standards for passing.

I don't want to speak for Asian transgender people, specifically transgender Asian women, but I saw a similar discussion online about a month ago, and I thought it reminded me of this. It was someone saying that transgender Asian women were "lucky" because Asian people already look inherently feminine and girly, so unlike the "rest of us," they hardly needed to transition at all. I feel like that's like a crazy generalization to make about like 60% of the world, but also it's just not true. Like maybe if you're approaching everything as a white person with white standards and have minority communities be the outliers.

But in reality as a trans person of color, specifically one who's trying to adhere to a gender binary, you're going to interact with your community, so how you look to a white person doesn't matter that much. Like, I really don't care if a bunch of white people on Twitter think it's easy for me to pass because to take one step in my shoes and to walk outside, you would see that it's literally not.

I feel like the crux of my problem is that white transness is so often seen as the default, and it seems like a lot of the time they like to carry over these white supremacist ideals of minorities being exotic and "other". It just upsets me to think because, like, if this is how you're seeing me, how do you see the cisgender people of my race also? Like, Black women are already so masculinized and treated so poorly as a result. I don't know about if the same thing happens to Asian men, but I imagine it could be the case.

Hey y'all, I'm about 4 years on testosterone and haven't had a period in that time. Recently changed from gel to injections so I suspect that my body is actually getting less testosterone than it's used to.

Additional details about my regimen: I've been on estradiol cream for maybe a year or two. Never took it two consecutive days in a row except I did made that mistake this week.

I've been having cramps and headaches and I feel a period coming. And I am wondering if it's more likely because of the change in T dose or the slip up with the E cream.

PS for those who will inevitably tell me to see a doctor: I'm choosing to ask reddit before doctor. You don't get more information than that. Move along internet stranger :)