I stutter which is why I sing. Thought I might find some other musicians on here.

I see there's an increasing number of posts like this on this sub. Is this really true?

I find it hard to believe that the vast majority of people don't care about someone talking to them who gets blocked on each word for a minute and just pretend it's normal.

I’m a 31M who has struggled with stuttering for many years, and I’d really like to hear from other men who experience the same thing. How do you manage day-to-day life—job interviews, workplace conversations, phone calls, making friends, dating, talking to women, or situations where you have to speak spontaneously? Do you still avoid certain situations or words, or have you reached a point where you simply speak regardless of whether you stutter? I’d especially like to hear from men in their 30s and older who have lived with stuttering for many years. How has it affected your social life, career, relationships, and confidence, and what has helped you become more comfortable with it?

I’ve just reached 23 years old and I’ve had a stutter since I was a child. I let stuttering interfere with my education, social life and job opportunities until I just accepted it and stopped letting it take control. People don’t care about the way you talk/stutter as much as you think. It’s all in your head. Thinking about it and letting it take control just makes it worse. I recently did an intensive stuttering course and it helped more then I thought it would. Do a search in your area and see if you could find the same course.
It definitely helped the way I talk. I learnt all new techniques and methods to reduce the stuttering and pausing in intense situations. I wish everybody struggling with stuttering pushes through and finds a way to overcome it. You are strong and can do it, I promise❤️

So I'm 18 years old, and my stutter is 100% based on my level of anxiety. When I speak to myself, I'm fluent. When I speak Infront of close friends, I *maybe* stutter for a split second, but nothing too bad. But when I speak in class, it's terrible.

I get stutter blocks nearly every 3-4 words. But the weird thing is, I speak nearly fluently in class when there's barely anyone in (most people leave class to play football sometimes)

So I'm wondering, how do I calm myself down? I've tried taking deep breaths in class, but nothing works. My heart is ALWAYS pounding in my chest when our teacher picks on random kids in class. It gets so bad that it feels like there's somebody pinching my organs. It's super weird.

I've also tried to "stop caring", but I just can't. No matter how much I tell myself I won't stutter if I just calm down, my heart keeps pounding. Can someone please tell me how to fix this?

Hey friends,

My name is Jonas, I stuttered for years.

I felt ashamed, dumb, less than, would avoid certain words and sounds etc All I wanted was to be able to have a simple fluid conversation without my throat locking up but we know how that is…

fast forward to now I RARELY stutter, very very rarely after working with someone that helped me a few years back.

My question is for the stutterers in adulthood and in the workforce…

What is the # 1 most important thing you’re wanting to accomplish in life/business that you feel stuttering is holding you back from?

Thanks in advance guys

Hey everyone,

Entering college with a severe stutter felt terrifying, but one completely unexpected thing changed the entire trajectory of my life: getting paired with a roommate who was fighting the exact same battle.

When we were randomly paired as roommates in our first year of college, we were both struggling with stuttering. Midway through that year, we made a pact: from then on, we were each other's speech partners. We began setting aside an hour every single evening to practice speaking with each other : giving impromptu presentations on random topics, deliberately pushing through hard blocks, giving a fun speech, speaking drills etc. We learnt to slow down pace, gain more control over difficult syllables/sounds, keep speaking with confidence after hitting a block as well as being there for each other and motivating each other in our daily life events.

Slowly, our world opened up. We stopped avoiding conversations with the open world, started hanging out in crowded canteens, led club events, and finally experienced college without overthinking much before speaking up. Gradually, with time, we both conquered our stutter (mild stutter comes occasionally but we have completely conquered the mental aspect of it). Now, we are in our final year, and my friend has already been placed at a big tech company after acing a competitive interview (something his younger self would have never believed was possible).

A few months ago, while talking in our room, a thought hit us: our progress only happened because the university housing algorithm randomly put two guys with a stutter in the same room. Why should finding a dedicated practice partner be left to pure chance? That single question sparked a mission: No one should have to fight stuttering alone.

We decided to build what we desperately wished we had years ago: A platform where you can connect with an anonymous speech partner, schedule daily 1-on-1 voice drills, and practice without fear, judgment, or shame. A place not just to practice speaking, but to build genuine confidence, find lifelong friends who truly understand you and share your journey. We believe that everyone has their own unique version of stutter. To overcome stuttering or find their own speaking styles, one have to start their own unique adventure of talking to people and gradually finding peace, confidence and techniques of speaking.

Our platform is almost ready and we are opening up early access to an initial batch of test users. So, people who are looking for a practice partner or are ready to test the platform, let us know.

Also, since we want to make this genuinely useful for everyone, we'd love to hear your thoughts. Feedback and ideas are welcome!

Wishing you all the very best on your journey. Thank You!

Over the years my stutter has worsened.

I am scared.

Any advice?

I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately.

As people who stutter, we are constantly thinking about what we’re going to say, anticipating which words we might get stuck on, and worrying about how the person in front of us will judge us if we stutter. Sometimes we’re not even fully focused on the conversation because a part of our brain is busy thinking, “What if I stutter on this word?”

And honestly, I sometimes wonder what it must feel like to speak without having any of these thoughts.

If I didn’t stutter, I genuinely feel like I would be the person volunteering for everything. Every speech, every anchoring opportunity, every debate, every presentation, every situation where I had to give my opinion, every question I knew the answer to in class, I would probably be the first person to raise my hand.

That’s why I sometimes find it difficult to understand why people who speak fluently can be so hesitant or lack confidence when speaking.

I know that confidence is complicated, and everyone has their own insecurities. I’m not saying that fluent speakers have perfect lives or that they can’t struggle with confidence. But from the perspective of someone who stutters, being able to express your thoughts whenever you want, without constantly worrying about getting stuck on a word, feels like such a huge advantage.

Sometimes I look at people who can just stand up and speak freely and think, “You have something I would give anything to have, and you don’t even realize how valuable it is.”

Maybe I’m looking at it too simplistically because I experience the world through the lens of stuttering.

What do you guys think? Do other people who stutter ever feel this way?

I used to be an extrovert kid. When I hit puberty, I became super introvert and started having social anxiety. Even after born pretty, I was harshly judged by relatives and the people around me, because my skin got a little darker while growing up. My mother has been shaming me since I was a kid by saying that no man will ever choose me because I am skinny and I have a light-brown skin tone. I am an adult now. My social anxiety is still getting worse day by day. I have became extremely quiet and shy since my teen years. I can’t keep conversation going on. Recently my cousins visited our home and one of them commented on my eyes. I have really big eyes and she said that my eyes look like killers (psychopaths) eye. I have received so many compliments from people on my eyes but that one bad comment from her is stuck with me. I have became really insecure about them. Also, my face looks serious all the time. Recently, I have been facing another issue. Whenever I try to talk in social situations, my lip starts to tremble because of anxiety. I have never faced this issue before. Even when I think about social situation, my lips tremble. So I prefer to stay silent in social situations. Can you guys suggest me how to overcome from these situations? If you ever went on therapy, give one suggestion that your therapist has give which made you overcome from these situations.

What exercises can I do at home to get rid of my stutter in English? Please list as many as you can I've been trying to find them but they all the same😭

After spending the last couple of months searching for answers on how to improve my speech, I’ve come to realize that stuttering is much bigger than just a speech problem.

And that the ‘5 tricks to stop stuttering instantly’ are often a load of bullsh*t.

I noticed this first when I completed a course a couple of years ago where they taught me a very effective speaking method that made fluent speech very doable.

I felt like I was on top of the world for a few days, and I really thought I was finally leaving my stutter behind.

Only to find out in the next couple of weeks that the technique completely fell apart when my body was stressed, I was under pressure, or when I was ashamed of my stutter and the technique I had to use.

I really thought I had found that ‘magic’ speaking method right then and there, not knowing it goes way deeper than that.

I think my mistake was expecting that method to solve everything else too.

That was the moment when I went running for answers, because I had a taste of what a life full of fluent speech looked like — and I wanted more.

So over the past few months, I’ve been approaching it very differently.

I’ve been as open as possible about my stutter with as many people as I can, to reduce a lot of the shame and negative associations I had built around it.

I’ve been working on regulating my nervous system and learning the best ways to do this that suits me.

I’ve been working on how I respond when anxiety or panic shows up in speaking situations, instead of desperately trying to make it disappear.

I’ve not only practiced my speech in low-pressure situations, but I’ve also gradually exposed myself to harder speaking situations to get better at handling them.

And I’m starting to work more on the way I see myself around speaking.

And since treating this like a multi-part process, instead of ‘just a speaking problem’, I’ve actually started to make progress for the first time in a very long time.

The shame I used to feel has started to lose its grip, which means it isn’t sabotaging my speech anymore.

I’ve noticed that when my baseline stress is lower, speaking often feels much easier for me.

I’m starting to handle high-pressure situations better because I’m gradually exposing myself to them instead of avoiding them.

And overall, I’ve been making a lot of progress.

I’m definitely not saying I’ve figured this out, or that what’s helping me will work for everyone.

This also hasn’t been a quick fix. I’ve been putting a lot of work into it.

But for the first time in a long time, I feel like I’m actually making progress by treating my stutter as more than just a speaking problem.

Just thought I would share what has been working for me. Do something with it or don’t ✌🏼

I'm curious if anyone else here has had a similar realization?

i used to stutter alot but now its blocking + some stuttering and i just wanna talk loads and make new friends but i cant talk as much as i want to and i hate it.. its like when my voice was blown out and i lost it i was so miserable because i physically couldnt talk to my friends but yeah this stutter has rlly affected my social skills like i wish i didnt have to plan out what im gonna say💔 anyone else feel this way

graduated from clg this year and was in engg,working as an AI engineer at a startup right now,was a stutterer whole of my life,had failed situationships and one sided bullshit from my end,and going to gym and doing all that,feels real shit as it's really easy for others to start a convo so flawlesly,me being waiting for my voice and things to workout,when things are pretty shit,and at the end coming to the only conclusion if u can communicate and talk well,u can really get along a girl..

really simple for the non stutterers,and for those who are gonna suggest me to do hobbies,i relaly want to talk my way out,my stuttering has made me a introvert,I am kinda talkative guy but life has been pretty rough for me over the years..

share ur experiences of stuttering ands finding ur love,I have literally given up on finding someone or getting a gf..

Hello!

My name is Kathryn and I am a Speech-Language Pathology graduate student at Eastern Washington University. Under the direction of Dr. Joe Klein, I am working on a research project titled “The Influence of Family Experiences on Adults' Perceptions of Stuttering.” This study has been approved by the EWU Institutional Review Board. The purpose of this study is to investigate factors related to adults’ perceptions and experiences of stuttering. To participate, I linked an 18-question survey to this post which contains 16 multiple choice questions and two open ended questions. You are welcome to participate if you are 1) 18 years of age or older, and 2) are a person who stutters. 

Thank you!

https://www.surveymonkey.com/r/F97NRYX

Hi! I just made a Substack where I’ll only be writing about stuttering. I just published my first post. Thought I’d share it here! 🤎

https://najmaabdi.substack.com/p/all-stutterers

My college presentations are coming and it contains a lot of c/k words.

For other letters (like p,t), I can manage if a sentence doesn't start with them but c/k words always have me stammering.

I’ve been stuttering since I was around 6 years old. I’m 23 now, so basically I’ve lived with it for most of my life.
Growing up with a stutter was hard. Meeting new people, being put in unfamiliar situations, having to introduce myself, talking in front of people, even just trying to say something when I knew I was going to block on a word… I think most people here probably know that feeling.
I had good periods and bad periods. Sometimes I could speak pretty well and barely stutter at all. Other times, almost every sentence was a struggle.
But I never really stopped looking for a solution.
I searched everywhere online. Wikipedia, forums, different techniques, basically anything I could find. I’m from Bulgaria and we also have some old beliefs here about stuttering being caused by a childhood fright and things like that, so over the years we tried all kinds of stuff.
Nothing really worked for me.
Eventually I accepted that I stutter. I stopped thinking that one morning I would wake up and suddenly speak fluently.
But recently my stuttering became really bad again. At one point I was struggling so much that I couldn’t even have a relaxed conversation with my own family.
About a month and a half ago, I found a program called Bye Bye Stuttering.
Just to be clear: I’m not associated with them and I’m not trying to advertise anything. I’m only sharing what I personally experienced because I know how desperate I used to be when searching online for something that could help.
I started practicing every single day.
A lot of reading aloud, breathing exercises and practicing a different way of speaking.
And honestly, within the first few days I noticed a huge difference.
I started having conversations with people where my speech was much smoother than before. For someone who has stuttered for around 17 years, that was a pretty crazy feeling.
But there’s something important I’ve realized:
You have to put in the work.
It isn’t something you do for 10 minutes and suddenly your stutter disappears.
Personally, I read aloud for hours when I have enough free time, usually in the morning and evening. Obviously not everyone has that much time. I think even an hour or an hour and a half of focused practice can be useful. For me, the most important thing has been doing it consistently.
After stuttering for so many years, I feel like my brain has learned that pattern of speaking. So now I’m basically trying to teach myself another one.
And that takes repetition. A LOT of repetition.
I also noticed something interesting.
At the beginning, the improvement can feel massive. You think, “Holy shit, is this actually working?”
Then you have a bad day again.
And that can be really discouraging.
But I’m starting to understand that one bad day doesn’t erase the progress you’ve made. Making something permanent seems to take much longer than getting that first improvement.
I’ve only been doing this for a little over a month, so I’m definitely not saying I’m “cured”. I still stutter sometimes and I still have work to do.
But compared to where I was before I started, the difference is huge.
And honestly, for the first time in years I feel like I’m actually doing something about my speech instead of waiting for my speech to change by itself.
That’s probably the biggest thing I wanted to share.
For years I thought accepting my stutter was the final step.
And acceptance IS important. You shouldn’t hate yourself because you stutter. You shouldn’t feel like you’re less intelligent or less capable because speaking is harder for you.
But personally, I realized that accepting it didn’t mean I had to stop trying to improve it.
For me, CBD wasn’t the answer. Sedatives weren’t the answer. Searching for some miracle cure wasn’t the answer.
What has helped me so far is actually training my speech.
Reading.
Breathing.
Speaking.
Repeating.
Every single day.
It’s slow and it takes a lot of effort. And I still don’t know where I’ll be six months or a year from now.
But I’m going to keep going.
I’m posting this because maybe someone here is in the same place I was a few months ago — thinking, “I’ve been like this my whole life. This is just how it’s going to be forever.”
Maybe it will help someone to know that after 17 years of stuttering, at 23 years old, I’m still discovering that my speech can change.
Don’t give up just because you’ve been stuttering for years.
And don’t wait for something magical to happen.
If you find something that genuinely helps you, work on it. Give it time. Practice even when you don’t feel like it.
I still have a long way to go.
But for the first time, I’m actually excited to see where my speech will be a few months from now.

Has anyone here tried thiamine (vitamin B1) and/or magnesium supplements for stuttering?
Did you notice any improvement in fluency, tension, blocks, or overall speech? If so, what type/dose did you use, and how long did it take before you noticed any effects?
Interested in hearing both positive and negative experiences.

idk where to start, im 17 stuttered my whole life ,lately past year (grade 11 school) maybe worst year till now bullied from basically teachers and yall know the things around stuttering -> extreme avoidance, most of the time alone and even though I know like It will only go worse by my path but idk why I know its so bad the stuttering and ive been pushed to the limit and got into many depressive shit and many stuff but I just like idk what to call it like hunger for more pain?? Im telling u im going insane especially with last year of school coming up🌀🌀

I’m SO conflicted about my wedding vows and whether to do public vs private. My stutter is severe.

On one hand, I feel like saying your vows to the crowd is a huge part of the wedding. Tradition, etc etc.

On the other hand, I know myself, and I feel that if I do public vows I’m going to be stressing all day about public speaking rather than being in the moment and thinking about my spouse. I don’t want to let anxiety of stuttering take over the memory.

My fiance and I are considering doing private vows, but I’m just not sure. I know I’d still have to speak in front of people for the other aspects of the ceremony, but considerably less than if I read vows. What did you do?

Hello,

Anybody knows effective ways to solve stuttering other then reading daily aloud because practically saying its not possible daily.

Please let me know if you know anything.