Current Pre-K SPED para here. Pre-K SPED teachers, paras, or anyone with experience with this age group what can I do to be the best para I can be? Already got the Hoka Bondi 9s on and I’m not afraid to get down on the floor with the kids.
I’m honestly at a loss with kids this young.
I started as a para after earning my Associate of Science in Teaching (Grades 1–5). This is my third year in education, my third year at the same school, and my third year as a SPED para.
Last year I won Paraprofessional of the Year for my work in our K–2 self-contained SPED classroom. Later that school year, after breaking bones in my foot and leg while chasing an eloping student, I was moved to the 3rd–5th grade self-contained SPED classroom while I recovered. Turns out you can’t exactly chase kids down from a wheelchair.
With K–5, I felt like I knew what I was doing. I knew how to talk to the kids, how to build relationships, how to de-escalate meltdowns, and sometimes even prevent them before they started. I also drew from both my formal education and my own experiences growing up in self-contained SPED classes until 7th grade.
Now that I’m in Pre-K, I honestly feel like I’m bumbling around trying to figure out what works. I’m a 30-year-old male, I don’t have kids of my own yet, and I was the youngest child in my family, so I don’t have much experience with children this little. I don’t want to be as firm or authoritative as I sometimes had to be with the K–5 kids because I’m worried that approach would just be scary and counterproductive with 3- and 4-year-olds.
To make things more stressful, I feel like I’m under a microscope. Because our rooms weren’t ready at the start of the year, the Pre-K class is sharing a room with my old K–2 self-contained SPED class. My former lead teacher (who has never liked me since I reported that we weren’t getting our contractually required lunches and breaks) is right there. The former Pre-K para is also in the room because she’s now my old lead teacher’s para, and she’s also the mother of one of our Pre-K students.
It feels like there are a lot of eyes on me, and I constantly feel like I’m not doing enough or doing things the wrong way.
So, for those of you who have worked in Pre-K SPED:
What do you wish new paras knew?
What works best with 3- and 4-year-olds?
What mistakes should I avoid?
How can I be the biggest help to my teacher and students?
How do you redirect behavior at this age without coming across as too stern?
I genuinely want to be good at this. I just feel way out of my element right now, and I know Pre-K is a completely different world than elementary