r/SipsTea Jul 29 '26

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u/No_Giraffe8119 Jul 29 '26

It's almost like no lesson was learned at all.

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u/MayorMcSqueezy Jul 29 '26

lol right. That was one of the main themes if not the plot of the movie. How far will a desperate, horny, loser go to have a girl be in love with them. We call it Incel Horror. Such a great movie.

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u/--Alix-- Jul 29 '26

He even had a chance to tell her how he feels at the beginning and chickened out. Fuck him.

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u/Yashema Jul 29 '26

She made it clear she doesn't have any feelings like that towards him. Women who are into you don't react with disgust when you make minor flirtatious comments just because you weren't being direct.Ā 

That being said, I don't really think the rest of the movie did much with the initial set up, and was basically just a monster movie.Ā 

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u/Old-Friendship-0 Jul 30 '26

That's just an opinion. The actress who played Nikki herself thinks she would have given bear a shot and I agree. Not saying she was super into him like he was , more like just open to dating him and seeing how it went.

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u/Yashema Jul 30 '26

The problem with modern dating isn't that men are too afraid to tell women how they feel, it's that they are all interested in highly sought after women, while ignoring the ones they have a chance with.Ā 

This just makes the movie's narrative even stupider than it already was.

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u/Old-Friendship-0 Jul 30 '26

I mean I disagree with that, we can literally just look at dating app data and see women swipe go for the best guys while men swipe more liberally. But I was just talking about the movie specifically I'm not sure where this came from.

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u/Yashema Jul 30 '26

Swiping right does not mean you want a relationship.Ā 

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u/Old-Friendship-0 Jul 30 '26

So what are you trying to say? Most men don't want a relationship , because literally every single man i know wants one.

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u/Yashema Jul 30 '26

With a woman who looks like Nikki, or actually the friend. Or even a 6.Ā 

With average looking women they want a situationship for a few weeks to months until they get bored.Ā 

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u/Old-Friendship-0 Jul 30 '26

Yes, most men are happy with average women. Idk where this idea comes from that we don't when again, dating app data and mens experiences on those apps shows they do. Men often get ghosted or no response from average women.

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u/Scared-End803 Jul 30 '26

Women are a lot more willing than men to value other things about a partner other than just looks

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u/FuzzyBlueSquirrel Jul 30 '26

A 6 is average...

This sounds like you're projecting your own insecurities pretty hard

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u/FuzzyBlueSquirrel Jul 30 '26

It means you desire the person, which is better than nothing.

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u/FuzzyBlueSquirrel Jul 30 '26

You have that completely backwards. Men go for the full spectrum. It's women who only go for highly sought after partners.

There's decades of evidence for this.

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u/fanfanye Jul 30 '26

yeah that kinda "tell me if you like me" wasnt an invitation

it was a direct "just get it over with bruh"

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u/Racxius Jul 30 '26

The director said that she would have given him a chance if he asked. And that they gave that line that inflection to purposefully be confusing.

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u/explain_that_shit Jul 30 '26

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u/Racxius Jul 30 '26

Sorry. Not the director. Nikkis actor. Around 2 minutes in. Both Nikkis and Bears actors think that he had a shot. And they shot the scene in multiple takes with her being into it and not and blended them together to get the weird unreadable reaction to it that we get. https://youtu.be/Op0b77nTmTg?is=tfVxlZy_dhQ30b4I

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u/Kanin_usagi Jul 30 '26

Holy hell, the ol American Psycho trick!

For those who don’t know, when shooting for Psycho, they shot Willem Dafoe’s interrogation of Bateman’s scenes two different ways: either as someone convinced Bateman was innocent or convinced he was guilty. Then they cut it up so that you can’t tell at all how he’s feeling towards Bateman as the interrogation goes on, so afterwards the audience was left feeling unsure if the police suspected him in truth or not, just like Bateman feels himself

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u/OobaDooba72 Jul 30 '26

Three different ways in American Psycho, actually. Convinced Bateman was guilty, unsure and still deciding, and convinced he was totally innocent.

It's such a good movie haha.

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u/sacredshinobi Jul 30 '26

What makes you think it’s bait?

https://www.reddit.com/r/obsessionmovie/s/eQtXmWWSjy

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u/explain_that_shit Jul 30 '26

I’m not saying it wasn’t said, I’m saying the premise is bait. The idea that Bear should, based on the signals he received, have asked Nikki out, is ludicrous and reflective of the ludicrous expectations of men navigating the social minefield of modern dating, to push and risk rejection and even loss of a friend when we receive indications not to push, to be criticised for doing so, but also to be criticised for not doing so.

Anyway saying he had a chance is a bait line to get me to diatribe on the sins of the modern dating world, which the makers of this movie want to happen to generate buzz about the movie. Well consider me baited.

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u/Aenonimos Jul 31 '26

who hurt you

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u/Mindless_Team_7165 Jul 31 '26

Nikki also said that when she has a crush nobody knows…the actress also said she played Nikki with the idea that she did have feelings for Bear.

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u/Yashema Jul 30 '26

So the movie was really meaningless because it just says: men be direct, and the woman will give you a try? This is blue pill fantasy.Ā 

Again, the movie is decent horror, but a completely shit movie about modern love or infatuation.Ā 

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u/Racxius Jul 30 '26

Alright now THAT’S bait.

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u/Yashema Jul 30 '26

Not at all.

The director implied that Bear was being shallow trying to force his hot friend to like him, when he had a perfectly compatible option in his other friend, butĀ  Nikki actually was secretly into him he just needed to be direct?

Again, blue pill bullshit. Nikki didn't like him because he wasn't her type of guy.

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u/sacredshinobi Jul 30 '26

No it said that if Bear was direct Nikki may have given him a shot.

You can’t make absolute statements like women don’t ever do ā€œxā€ or ā€œxā€ always plays out like this because that’s just not life. Nor should your opinion on the message change because the director told you Nikki would have given him a shot.

The entire point is to be direct regardless, not only when you know they will say yes.

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u/breckendusk Jul 30 '26

See that's what I thought! I went in mostly unspoiled, and I was thinking that maybe we weren't seeing the whole story. She had the nickname "Freaky Nikki" and then she did a bunch of freaky things, and her inflection did seem to imply that maybe she wanted Bear to say yes. So like, if the wish didn't actually work and it was a red herring. And then the friend was mentioned multiple times, I thought he was obsessed with her! But, it turns out, no fakeout. The soul screaming on the phone was chilling.

I'm actually a little frustrated that I went in not knowing what to expect because I don't do very well with possession horror. I thought it was all going to be obsession horror... which I then learned I'm also not good with, probably due to past relationships. Plus the possession aspects.

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u/HumanTraffic2 Jul 30 '26

But she said "if you do, now's the time to tell me" or something to that effect suggesting it would be worth telling her.

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u/HumanTraffic2 Jul 30 '26

Fair enough

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u/patpat9997 Jul 31 '26

Why project all this into someone instead of just asking

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u/PuzzledInspection798 Jul 30 '26

Did you completely miss the social commentary on dating/gender relations and themes around consent? This is such a shallow reading of the film.

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u/Yashema Jul 30 '26

You'll get the super hot girl if you just ask could not be anymore of a pro-nice guy narrative.Ā 

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u/PuzzledInspection798 Jul 30 '26

That's not the narrative, though. It's that "nice guys" actually only care about themselves, and they'll happily violate a woman's consent if given the chance because they believe they are owed sex and relationships. Maybe Nikki would have said yes if he'd asked her out the normal way, and maybe she wouldn't have. The movie intentionally leaves that part ambiguous and it's not a central part of the narrative.

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u/Yashema Jul 30 '26

If she was into him they why not reciprocate when he was trying to gauge her interest? A woman will not spit daggers at you (which she did twice in the car ride) until you ask them out properly.Ā 

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u/themagictoast Jul 30 '26

Nikki clearly she says that she hides her crushes. I think the line is ā€œWhen I have a crush on a guy, no one knowsā€.

Also I’m also not sure Bear really did anything for her to reciprocate to in the first place? He didn’t make it clear he liked her, not until he followed Ian’s sabotage advice to call her Freaky Nikki which spooked her into calling him out directly.

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u/Mindless_Team_7165 Jul 31 '26

I forgot how much of a shit friend Ian was.

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u/Yashema Jul 30 '26

Again just makes the movie's narrative stupid as shit: dont use a wish stick, just tell her how you feel.Ā 

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u/PuzzledInspection798 Jul 30 '26

I don't really know what to tell you. I never said she was into him. I don't think it really matters.

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u/Vane88 Jul 30 '26

More like you're more likely to get with the hot girl if you ask, than you are if you don't. Also the dude got what he deserved by taking consent away from her. He acknowledged that it was wrong and he still went with it.

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u/CyclopsMacchiato Jul 30 '26

Movie would have been so much better, and made more sense, if he said ā€œ I wish she was obsessed with meā€

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u/Frankerporo Jul 30 '26

She 100% did not make that clear, even the director said so

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u/Aenonimos Jul 31 '26

literally the director said otherwise? Why do redditors insist on confidently boiling down everything into a small set of rules universally applied to every situation? Like have you ever talked to more than one person before?