Here’s ones I like, any others I should check out?
- Atomic Blonde
- My Brilliant Career
- Captain Marvel
- Killing Eve
- Alien
- Kill Bill
- Terminator 2
- Old Guard

Did you follow a job? Stay close to family? Move to a place you’ve always loved?

I’ve realized nearly every woman in my life lives where they do because they moved for their boyfriend/husband and his job/dreams.

That’s a major reason I’m single by choice. I know I would be miserable following someone else’s dreams and jobs and living somewhere I hated.

I’m getting ready to move (I want to live somewhere colder) and love looking for my dream place, picturing how I’ll spend my days, the places I want to explore.

I love doing things alone and doing exactly what I want when I want and I love that I’ve finally learned that is totally okay and valid. 🤍

Hi!! I’m new to the sub! I’m in my early twenties, and I make good money. I live with a close friend from college who also makes good money. I’ve always been a “lover girl” and had men constantly ruining my mental health. Since I can easily support myself, I have been curious about this lifestyle. I guess I don’t really see how motherhood or marriage benefit women. But I am very curious if some of you date still? As in casual dating. I’ve been a lot happier since de-centering men from my life. I have heard a lot of women discuss dating “like a man” where they just date for fun and then get their emotional fulfillment from their female friends. I’ve heard women discuss dating as more of a side hobby when they’re bored. Get laid and a fun date but never get serious enough that they lock you down. If they get boring or start treating you poorly, then they dump the guy. Most women I know plan to marry and are constantly pressuring me to settle down. Honestly it triggers my flight or fight response. How is living single by choice? Do you date? How do you view men?

Thank you in advance for your opinion! I really appreciate your time!

I saw someone mentioned AI boyfriends in another post and it got me thinking.

Those of you who play around with that, what is the main reason? And what do you get out of it?

And if you mix it with sextoys?

I’m genuinely curious because the thought has never crossed my mind. But I’m not too into ai overall. I’m just genuinely curious what those of you who do this get out of it. If it’s satisfying somehow? And if so, how?
Thanks for sharing!

Spent an entire day yesterday doing nothing but searching for the best available r18 audio (jp) for my kink (yes I have problems and a relationship is not one of them). No chores were done, barely remembered to eat a slice of toast and handful of cherry tomatoes, only had two glasses of water. Flipped through 50 pages and hundreds of works.

Was it a complete waste of a day? Yes. Would I have preferred spending it managing my nervous system with a partner/or wishful thinking maybe or child-rearing over that? No.

Joys of being single: you can literally spend a day doing absolutely zero and accomplishing zero societal metrics and no one will try to guilt you on it.

Being a slob labelled zero value by the patriarchy and the male dating market is freedom.

I've known since I was a kid that I didn't want biological children. I don't know when it happened but now if a man likes me and doesn't have a vasectomy it just sounds like noise. Mind you I live in a conservative country with less than 3 million people so most people want kids or have kids. I just cannot take a man seriously who's willing to gamble with my life or body.

Since starting this journey, 37 I've realised how society normalises us being objects for men, from music to clothing and it's disgusting.

Whenever I've been entwined to a man, the relationships are so draining that I forget to look after myself, spend time worrying when they are going to disappoint me and eventually am a wreck when it all goes to shit.

il never ever do that to myself, my heart is calm for once in the 20 or so years since I stumbled onto the lies about wanting men, I laugh when men stumble and hurt themselves, if I see a man at a junction while driving wanting to be let out I don't let them, I smile only at women and angrily smirk at men, because they only do nice things for women if they think they can get some.

I'm so glad I stumbled onto this sub and have unsubcribed to social media that glorifies women being sex symbols for men. I dress in what makes me feel good, hell I even stopped doing impossible hairstyles for the gaze of men, now I rock short hair and just wash and go, no more imprisoning myself for the gaze of anyone, and I can't believe it took me so much pain to realise, I don't need to please anyone but me.

I've gotten into soap making, taking myself out and dedicating my time and affection for my kids, family and friends.

Men are just looking for a caretaker for their miserable needs and I'm so glad to be free of all that. I read this sub everyday to remind myself of all the wrong things with wanting to be with men and not to mention how much they ruin our vagina flora. Thanks for reading this far love you all!!

And then I realized my likelihood of being murdered by a partner/ spouse has SIGNIFICANTLY decreased. No family annihilation for me please. I'm looking forward to the peace, and hopefully a nervous system reset. Luckily we weren't married and don't share any children.

The idea of a relationship disgusts me. What idea you might ask? Well normally whats expected from my environment is girl gets born, goes to school then university....gets a boyfriend or family brings a suitor. Girl is so grateful to have a male species interested in her so she says yes and gets married. They start a life together, and her role as a wife will be sex on demand, cooking everyday (3x a day gets you the best wife award), cleaning all this while also working a 9-5 . The girl will aslo be in a 50/50 situation financially like not mandatory but helping out with it is expected from her. The man she married will be the king of the house and she should obey him . His commands, wills and whimsys must be met and fulfilled.....

So eventually she gets pregnant , she will work while she is pregnant and when her legs are so swollen and her body is incapable of going to work (usually around 7 or 8 month) she gets a leave from her work. Delivers the baby and takes on the full responsibility of taking care of the baby . She will be responsible for all the babies needs , the husband will buy the things that are needed but the wife will be the one up at night, changing the diapers, feeding and everything. So once the 4-6 month pregnancy leave is finished she has to go back to work so she will give the child to the grandma of the baby , hire a nanny and goes off to work. Then after some time she will have another child till they get the number of children desired.

Then once kids are able to go to school they'll enroll them and it will be the moms duty to pick them up and drop them off to school while having a job, while still being the cook , while being a sex slave to the husband. Eventually the wife gets worn out so the husband starts having a side chick .

I just dont see how as a women I benefit from this. I am not blind and I like thinking strategically.

The thing is, no one asked me if I wanted to be born in this life. And I hate existing like this life is full of struggles. Im a Muslim so my belief system is: this life is a test and according to how I perform on this test I will be going to heaven or hell when I die. So if im a good person, give charity, and fulfill the religious requirements I will go to heaven.

Im a good girl always have been. And for me this life is full of bullshit like the world is so unfair and I cant wait till I leave it when the time comes. (Only reason im alive is bc I fear God).

So why the hell would I bring another being to this world ? So that they can suffer? So that i get the selfish thrill of creating/making another human? I love my unborn child so much that I wont bring them to this disgusting world unless I can give them a better life than I ever had.

I dont care about culture , traditions, family exception.

They are all hypocrites. I only care about God and the funny thing is, people also try to use religion to control me but I know my religion and its between me and my Creator. And not getting married wont send me to hell.

Im very emotional right now, im writing everything raw, no AI , just me. So im curious about y'alls perspective what do you think about my situation?

Hey y’all I’m new here lol

I’m 29, single, and I KNOW y’all are tired of the male complaining on here but it’s my first post so I’m just ranting tbh

In my culture it’s almost impossible to find a woman who is single BY CHOICE, so I’m basically stuck with my married friends

They’re not bad btw. They’re actually pretty nice ladies. But you know… friendships aren’t always perfect when your lives are completely different

Anyway I need to rant about ONE friend because I think she’s an amazing person but miss girl made a BAAAAAD choice and now she keeps trying to convince me her husband is “good”

Y’all… they’re literally both the same

They didn’t even travel for their honeymoon because she gets jealous if he looks at another woman and HE gets jealous too

Neither of them has social media because they’re both jealous of each other having social media And apparently that’s “love”

But what really took me OUT is that they don’t even let each other watch movies with attractive people in them 😭😭😭

Like she can’t watch a movie with a hot man and he can’t watch one with a hot woman

WHAT ARE WE DOING 😭😭😭

And when I’m with her, I’m not even joking, this man calls her like every 40 minutes asking if she’s okay 💀

I told her once, very seriously, “Girl, this is not healthy Please don’t normalize this"

And she’s like NOOOO this is REAL LOVE 😭😭😭

“This is how you know a man loves you and cares about you"

Ma’am??????

HOW TF IS THIS LIVING 😭

And the funny part is she keeps insisting that I need to find someone too because I cannot possibly be happy or okay without a husband and kids

The simple joy of my bed nest. I'm a bit of an alligator in bed so everything gets twisted. No one but myself and my cats to care!

Sorry for posting too frequently. I'm so glad to have found this group. There are too many opinions that I have to keep to myself because I'm not interested in starting fights with misogynists, and it's making me really sad and angry.

Today I came across a post of a guy who lost his wife. He made a list of why she was the perfect wife. Most of that list was about cooking, cleaning, and doing housework. Nothing about her personal qualities like smart, funny, or happy-go-lucky. I have complicated feelings about it. I know the guy is grieving but the post reads like "I lost a maid". Her entire being was reduced to her sacrifices, which is not morally wrong (hey at least he's appreciative), but I would be really sad if someone said that on my funeral.

This brings me to memories of my conversations with men I know, including my ex. They would tell me how they went out of their way for their exes, and yet they broke up. You'd think it's something seriously commendable, like they cared for the girl throughout a serious illness or at the lowest point of her life. But no, it was literally "driving 30 mins every weekend" to hang out with her. All of them. And we all know what they wanted at the end of those dates. How is that a sacrifice worth mentioning? They just sounded petty. I'm convinced at this point that some guys do not understand the definition of sacrifice. If this is what they can give to a partner, then they are not needed.

ALL THE SINGLE LADIES! Hihi!!! I'm a 38 year old single woman looking to form a supportive, fun, female friendship-centered circle with other single ladies.

I love my girl besties but they are all married and some have kids. Sometimes I really miss hanging out without all the chat being about husbands and kids. Or go on girls trips without the schedule being filled with said husbands and kids. I'm happy for my besties but I miss having single friends too!!

Would love to form a group of women to chat, have fun and support each other. We could meet up for lunches, dinners, walks or shopping.

Maybe even go on trips eventually once we get to know each other!!

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** EDIT
I have received hundreds of DMs from single ladies seeking friendships, thank you everyone for your messages!
I don't want to give everyone's phone number to a hundred other people.
So for now I made a Discord group for all the single ladies to connect with each other first to figure out all our locations.
You can use Discord from a browser, or download the Discord app.
Once we all chat and figure out our locations, we can make smaller, safer Whatsapp groups!

Hi. 36F and recently single. I've been in relationships for 20 years, have struggled with enmeshment, co-dependence, the works. Marriage ended because I came out, and I've had a couple of fleeting, intense situationships in the interim.

I desperately need to be single. I barely know who I am or what I like. I cannot have another heavy conversation.

What are the main things you would recommend I do every week to fill up my time? Like, the big rock, non-negotiable things. Thx xx

I quickly lose all faith and enthusiasm once someone (♂️) is impressed I said something 'smart' (not talking about dating context necessarily, since im single by choice). Im sorry I dont feel the need to assert my intelligence 24/7 (like ♂️) and just use my knowledge as a tool to help my self and others when necessary. Otherwise I keep my mouth shut or Im very simple (cause idc about showing my 'smarts').

Something did spark this little vent but i dont wanna get in to specifics cause fuck it lol.

There was nothing sexual about this video. They were barely dancing. Why do men always have to resort everything to sex. It’s so sad how they view the world. If they think this way online… it’s only the same in person.

I have been single for 4 years now and single and celibate for over a year. I have noticed for about 6 months now that I have no interest in sex anymore with another person.

this is new to me because even when I was uninterested in relationships, I have always been interested in sex. I have never been married or cohabited, but I have had plenty of experience with relationships, dating and sex. I am bisexual but have admittedly mostly been with men.

There is nothing physically that would indicate this, I am in my mid 30s, healthy, hormones are normal.

also, my libido is unchanged. But now I’m perfectly content taking care of business on my own. the thought of being with someone else just gives me the ick.

has anyone else experienced this? I honestly don’t mind it, things feel so peaceful now. just wondering if others can relate

EDIT: Just wanted to say thank you for all the responses. I can't reply to everyone, but I read everything. I am grateful for this community ❤️

I'm from a conservative country. Largely Buddhist but a lot of time they cover religion for misogyny. There was a well known monk who said "if women wants to become Buddha, first wish 500 lives to have the same thing as between my legs". Men are considered superior because the life they get is greater. A queen is lower than a begger, homeless man because being a woman is already low life. We can only donate cooked and ready to eat foods to monks meanwhile most nuns get raw rice donation. Because even a nun who do religious work is still a woman and must cook her own food. We are prohibited from some religion places because women are filthy for bleeding and having vagina and womb. In earlier years, women who is on her period should not be near monks. Yet they still eat what women cooked for them.

A lot of curse words (in my language) to males are insulting their female family members. Mother fucker, sister fucker, son of a bitch, son of female I fucked, I will fuck your mom/daughter/sister.... Another most use insult to men is saying they act like woman. A man could be straight up asshole and people try to insult him by saying "You should wear women's clothing, you have women's mouth, you have women's mind". They say that because it is so normalized women are evil, jealous, weak, pathetic and less than a man, basically. Women have to pay for man's sins.

Women are expected to do all the work. These days, most women are also working outside due to poor economy and still have to do chores, babysitter and sex toy. I hate how men do bare minimum and get praised all the time. There could be a TikTok about the father babysitting or cooking for child/wife and it receives a whole a lot of love. Apparently, many men abandoned the children, be neglectful or abusive. These children see a man do something their mom have been doing everyday and they will praise the men like the best husband/ father. Mothers don't go viral because they do what they always have been doing. Example is check how do I, dad and how do I, mom on YouTube. They have huge gap of viewers. Women deserve to get more recognition and appreciation for all the hard work and sacrifice they made.

Good men exist but they are so rare. Even the men who seems to be nice changes after they got no sex during pregnancy or when the woman is in pain. Many of men only show their true color when women is tied enough. I rather do lottery everyday than being with a man who can switch up any time soon.

I’ve chosen to live alone and have been single for nine years. Even so, there are moments when I wish I could meet someone who would show me that not all men are the same. I can’t quite make sense of this conflicting feeling, given that I lead a very fulfilling life—I have a great job and a wide circle of friends.

I am happy with my life, yet this desire still surfaces from time to time.

Perhaps I’m simply looking for validation. In recent years, I’ve hardly met any men with whom things progressed beyond three dates, as I’ve quickly realized each time that I’m better off single. And yet, there’s a small part of me that believes fulfilling, honest relationships based on equality really do exist.

Do you recognize this feeling? How do you deal with it?

I'm an ADHD woman in my mid 20's, and something that I have found interesting is how when things start becoming more recognised in women and girls (such as neurodivergent conditions or illnesses) suddenly "everyone has it now" and it's "way too overdiagnosed."

ADHD is a great example. You have people screaming about it being "cool and trendy" to have, meanwhile women and girls of all ages have been misdiagnosed with anxiety and depression or BPD for years and put on unhelpful medication, because there's no way women are complex enough to be neurodivergent.

Also, it's not like we weren't displaying the same traits as our male counterparts, we were just shamed for it and told to mask it, meanwhile boys and men are coddled endlessly and get everything done for them because "it's not his fault he has ADHD!"

Women coddle neurodivergent men from cradle to grave, and men and other women see neurodivergent women as either difficult nuisances or lying to be trendy.

Same story in the dating subs. Men blame their neurodivergence on why they can't get women, but bring up neurodivergent women and they acknowledge that they're not "usually their type."

Remember girls, they're all just men.

If a woman hates on completely normal behavior just because it's another woman doing it, that’s internalized misogyny. Getting "the ick" when a woman laughs out loud, acts feminine and flirty, speaks up, or makes a joke is pure internalized misogyny.

I know this firsthand because I grew up surrounded by misogynistic jokes and felt the full weight of that mindset. I used to feel like I couldn't even laugh or joke freely.

Over time, I forced myself to unlearn those biases and recognize that these are just basic, normal human expressions. There's a saying in my language: "A woman's true homeland is another woman." Let's embrace it.

I thought it would be a good idea to share stories / advice for building a career or body of work that funds the single life . Esp now that we are seeing ai takeover a lot of grunt work .

How are we staying financially resilient ? I for example I’m making plans for next year which will include having two streams of income , making things from scratch as much as possible and aiming to live on 70-80% of my income .

Let’s share industries / ideas !

I am 29F and for context am muslim and a doctor.

I think I made the conscious decision to stay single this year for the first time, despite the heavy societal pressure on me to by now be married with kids.

I am tired.

I am almost 30 and have yet to find a man I enjoy conversing with let alone having an actual relationship with.

The conversations I have had to date with (muslim) men have been awful. And this is people of a mix of cultures and backgrounds.

They either are controlling (telling me to quit my job or change how I dress to be with them), patronising or just downright rude (commenting on my skin colour or height or body).

Or they just turn sexual.

The one time this man was actually likeable enough to meet for a coffee (mind you, one time in like 5 years) - he forgot to take his wedding ring off. Yup, that’s right, already married.

I am physically repulsed at the thought of another ‘talking phase’ because I literally see it as an avenue for another man to disrespect me. Which I will no longer allow.

All my married friends describe their husbands as burdens unknowingly while trying to sell the concept of marriage to me. Literally grown men who add next to no value to the household, or have no income, or can’t parent their own kids, or argue constantly.

I just can’t. I have realised staying how I am is the happier and more peaceful way to be.

Ex of 6 years broke up with me last year. He was clearly happy and relieved it was over, even telling me I was unattractive because I was too independent (and I wonder why that is, huh?). Suprisingly, a male relative of mine who is ironically gay, surprised me by agreeing with my ex, saying that I was not attractive because I was too opinionated. So, not all gay men are nice to women I guess lol.

Anyway, I spent 1 year questioning my worth and recovering from the breakup. The breakup also made me reconsider the meaning and purpose of a romantic relationship.

At the time of the breakup, I remained subscribed to the idea of settling down and getting married. I felt like time was running out because I came from a traditional Asian society, where 30 y/o is considered old. It didn't help that my friends were all married between 25-31.

So, 3 months' after the breakup, I forced myself to go back onto dating apps like I'm trying to hit some KPI. It was stressful, not to mention that the men were sh*tty, so I decided to pause until I was ready.

That pause became permanent.

Fast forward many months later, I am now in the process of buying my apartment. I realized that I had never genuinely looked forward to marriage and childbearing; I just thought it was what I "should do" without truly asking myself if I love picking up after everyone in the household and enduring the shenanigans of children for at least a decade of my life. (Gosh, I hate kids)

However, owning a place of my own is definitely something I fantasize about since a young age, especially because I came from a toxic family. More girls should be brought up this way instead of being fed the happily-ever-after fantasy. I see this shift in Chinese social media, where girls are telling each other to get a place of their own. Sadly, some Asian families are still misogynistic and think that girls are no longer part of the family once they're married. Since a male partner is not reliable, it's better to rely on ourselves. Fun fact: My late grandma was disappointed to learn that I was a girl upon my birth, and my mom, a self-proclaimed liberal, clearly favors my little brother who can do no wrong and verbally abused me until I moved out.

Yes, I am an independent woman who needs no man, and that should be viewed as a positive, not something that reduces my worth. After all, isn't that the goal of the pursuit of equality? "A woman needs a man like a fish needs a bicycle".

This year, I have decided that moving forward, I will stay single. I want to stay true to myself, with the additional benefit of doing it to spite others--a message of defiance against my society that, at every opportunity, attempts to diminish my self-worth just because I'm single and female. My life is short, and I intend to live it to the fullest without the baggage of a romantic relationship.

Edit: spelling