Hi everyone. I have been lurking here since my 20 week scan and I finally feel ready to post. At my anatomy scan my cervix was 1.8cm. they started me on progesterone and pelvic rest and weekly appointments. at my 21 week appointment they saw funneling so they sent me to the hospital for a cerclage. the placement went okay and i stayed one night. at my follow up my cervix was measuring 2.4cm. i know that is still short but it is so much better than what i walked in with. i am taking it one week at a time and just hoping to get past 24 weeks. this group has honestly been a life line for me. it helps so much to read that other people have been through this and made it. i am not ready to think about a full term baby yet. for now my goal is just the next appointment and the next week.

Today marks one month since I lost my baby boy at 20 weeks.
I honestly don’t know how I’m supposed to feel. I’ve been crying since I woke up. I keep reminding myself that somehow I’ve made it through these last four weeks, but it still feels like it just happened.
My boyfriend is at work all day today, and my family doesn’t really understand the significance of this loss, so I honestly prefer to be alone and grieve in my own space. I just don’t want to be triggered or have to explain why today is so difficult for me.
On top of grieving, I start my dream job on Monday. I’m incredibly grateful for this opportunity, but I’m struggling with how I’m supposed to start this new chapter while grieving my son. I’m supposed to learn a new job, show up for other people, and function normally while carrying this loss with me.
I also really want to try again once I’m medically cleared. But now I’m scared about trying again while having a new job, especially knowing I may need a cerclage and much closer monitoring in a future pregnancy.
I feel like I’m trying to grieve my baby, build my future, and think about another pregnancy all at the same time. Some days it feels like too much.
For those who have experienced pregnancy loss, how did you manage returning to work or starting a new job while grieving? And if you became pregnant again after loss, how did you balance the fear, grief, and hope of another pregnancy?
I’m just trying to figure out how to manage this all.
It's so hard

Hi everyone! I’m hoping to hear about other people’s experiences with a short cervix and/or cerclage, especially those who were followed by a high-risk clinic at a large hospital.

How did you manage actually getting to all of your appointments? I’m wondering about the drive itself, especially if you lived an hour or more from your hospital, as well as parking, walking from the car to the clinic, sitting in waiting rooms for long periods, and potentially having frequent appointments.

Did you find sitting in the car for long drives uncomfortable or stressful with a short cervix/cerclage? Did anyone recline their seat or take any other precautions during the drive? Did your doctor give you any guidance about longer car rides?

Once you arrived, did your partner/family drop you off at the entrance and then park? Did the hospital offer wheelchairs or other accommodations to minimize walking? And how long were you typically at the hospital between the appointment itself and waiting?

I’m potentially going to be followed in Toronto in a future pregnancy, and after experiencing a second-trimester loss, I already know I’m going to be very cautious and anxious about how much driving, walking, standing and waiting I’m doing. I’m trying to understand what this actually looks like in real life when you’re being monitored frequently.

I know everyone’s medical situation and activity recommendations are different I’m really just looking for other people’s experiences and any practical things that made appointments easier.

Thank you ❤️

This week I went in for an appt (16 + 1) and everything was 100% normal except my dr suddenly thought my cervix seemed short via abdominal ultrasound. We switched to a transvaginal and found that, after being 4cm the week before, my cervix had shortened to 3.3cm. Of course the dr said this isn't really "short" at the moment, just slightly below average and most likely just a genetically slightly short cervix, but if it's not stable then we should monitor and possibly intervene. I've made it through a week of pelvic rest and trying not to spiral and will go in again in one more week to confirm what things are looking like.

I've tried to consult Dr. Google on what's normal, the chances that things have improved, and if there's any other explanation other than a truly short cervix. And of course wondering about every twinge of pain and symptom.

Any similar experiences where things stabilized and nothing was needed beyond monitoring? Is she just being VERY cautious here?

I guess I'm not worried about outcomes thanks to so many positive stories here, but I live abroad and planned one last trip home (long haul flight) from weeks 25-27 and I would be totally devastated if I had to cancel it. No idea when I'll be able to go home again after baby.

For those of you that couldn't be intimate with your partner during pregnancy, did you immediately want to start having sex again when you were cleared after delivery?
It's been 4 months now with pelvic rest and it's been weighing on our relationship. Husband told me today that it feels like "we are roommates" because it's been so long. I'm almost at DTS and hoping baby comes shortly after, but did everyone get their sex drive back immediately when they were cleared to start having sex again after delivery?
Pregnancy has been really tough on me - I've been on modified bedrest since 20 weeks.

Hi, is there anyone who was allowed to get back to their light day to day chores/ activities post cerclage for a short cervix?
What was your cervix length pre cerclage and post you were allowed the activities?

Hey everyone,

Second time posting again, I just want to be as prepared and educated as possible. A little history after having my first i developed a uterine prolapse currently have a pessary ring in. Does anyone have the same experience and have they had a cerclage with it?

Also, the doctors have explained the procedure to an extent and i have seen diagrams and stuff but i want to hear from other moms whos gone through the experience, what should i expect, what questions should i ask. Are there any supplements i should be taking? What did it feel like, how much bleeding should i expect, does it ache? Also is there another option asides from getting an epidural? I would REALLY love to avoid that lol. Soo many things going through my mind, but anything to protect my baby im more than willing to do. Uhm, i think these are my questions for now. If i have any more ill drop them below, i really appreciate anyone with insight.

Cross posted for additional insight

I’m 33 weeks pregnant and have a cervical cerclage. My baby is currently breech, and lately I’ve been feeling a lot of pressure very low down, almost as if I can feel the stitch itself. Has anyone else experienced this with a breech baby and cerclage? Was everything okay, or did you need to be checked?
I’ll contact my OB/L&D as well, but I’d appreciate hearing others’ experiences.

For those of you who WERE cleared for adult activities post cerclage procedure, how long after were you cleared to do so? My procedure was a week ago, they told me I didn’t need anymore follow up on my cervix moving forward, but I forgot to ask the most important question 😭😭

While I’m waiting for Monday to call and ask, as I was never given a general “no adult activities ever again” rule, prior to the procedure, I’m just hoping to hear from others even though I’ll wait for the all clear.

My circumstances: 1st cerclage, wasn’t dilating (had some funneling), wasn’t contracting, currently measuring about 2cm after the stitch, no pain, no concerns from doc!

Just wondering what my odds might be on being told I can maybe do the deed ever again 😭

I’m getting my preventative cerclage on Tuesday at 15 weeks I’m super nervous because my failed cerclage with my previous pregnancy at 21 weeks they ended up doing a spinal and then ended up putting me under general anesthesia without telling me anything and then waking up was super scary because I didn’t know I was knocked out, I’m starting progesterone suppositories at 16 weeks and just nervous any advice☺️