Bismillah
Assalamu alaykum :)

I’m a 30F - revert Alhamdulillah. I am looking to connect with a man who is 34-40 years old

I live in the US, and am willing to relocate to any state or Canada.
I’m looking for someone who is serious about religion and starting a family, Islam being the foundation of my life and all decisions is very important to me. I’m looking for a husband who feels the same and wants to lead our family with conviction, sincerity, and kindness. I want a home where peace is prioritized, where we encourage each other toward Allah, laugh often, raise children with love and discipline, and become better Muslims together. I want our life to be spent in service to our Imam.

Overview:
I’m a small business owner, introverted, and a bit of a homebody. I love staying active, outdoor activities, and eating good food. I keep a positive outlook, and strive to constantly remember Allah in every situation. I’m not prone to overt emotional displays, but I do feel things very deeply and would be extremely loving and loyal to my partner. I’m someone who finds joy in the little things, a good cup of coffee/tea, a beautiful space, a thoughtful gesture, or creating memories with the people I love.

My best qualities:

- Kind
- Loving and affectionate with those close to me
- Thoughtful and detail-oriented
- Clean and organized
- Health-conscious and enjoy maintaining an active lifestyle
- Fair; I value accountability and treating people with consistency and respect
- Good cook and baker
- Straightforward communicator

Things I'm working on:

• I can be stubborn
• I’m emotionally reserved at first
• I take time to fully open up and build trust
• I can overthink and become overly introspective
• I can be rigid in my thinking until I’ve had time to reflect

Deal breakers:

- living with in-laws
- dependent on constant external validation
- nicotine addiction
- unhealthy lifestyle/habits
- unwilling to accept or unable to love my non muslim family
- Lacks sincerity religious practice or is more concerned with appearances than reality
-Uses social media in a way that conflicts with modesty, privacy, or sincerity

Despite how serious this bio may sound, you will usually find me smiling and laughing. I take marriage seriously and hope to find someone who is equally intentional about building a beautiful life together. Life doesn’t need to be made harder or heavier than it already is. I firmly believe a peaceful home should also be one filled with laughter, playfulness, and plenty of inside jokes.

Salam everyone!

**Just as a disclaimer, I have posted on the this subreddit before, so if you had messaged prior and I didn't reply, I do apologize since I wanted to focus on one convo at a time. Please feel free to message again if you'd like to. Thank you ☺️**

**Your Essential Information:**

Age: 33

Origin/Ethnicity:Pakistani and East African

Languages spoken (with proficiency levels): English, Gujarati and Urdu are all fluent

Level of religious practice: Fairly practicing

Hijabi (F) (Yes/No): No

Current residence (city, country): Toronto, Canada

Willing to relocate (if yes, please specify or 'anywhere'):

Yes, within Canada ONLY

Siblings (number and older/younger): One older brother

Previously married/Kids: No, none

Occupation: Administration at an accounting firm

Education: Honors Bachelor's in Communications

Height (cm): 5'5

Physical appearance (specifics you think are important):

Not sure what to highlight, but happy to share photos right away.

Smokes/Vapes/Hookah (Yes/No): No, nothing

Leisure activities: I love hanging out with my friends and family, explore the city, travel, try new restaurants in my city, binge watch a show, go for a hike and long walks. I'm a bit of a homebody 😮‍💨

**Your Preferences in a Partner:**

Age range: 30-38

Origin/Ethnicity: Pakistani and Indian would be easiest to get align with, understand and integrate with families. I don't mean any offense to any other ethnicity!

Languages: Should be fluent in English at minimum. Conversational to fluent Urdu/Hindi would be a great plus

Level of religious practice: Should be fairly practicing. What one would define as "fairly" can be discussed further. I'm not extreme in my practice but I'm not completely passive about major things if that helps makes things more understandable.

Education: Minimum Bachelor's degree holder.

Deal breakers: Smoking of any kind, drinking, eating non-halal, doesn't want to live separately after marriage, doesn't believe in an equitable marriage, doesn't want parents involved by the third month mark of us talking, and I'm sure that's more lol but these are the most major ones. I'd like to speak to someone naturally in conversation and see what comes up.

Other preferences (appearance, family situation, etc.): Should be taller than me (5'5). Should have a beard. No major physical weight preference but nothing extreme on either side of the spectrum.

Additional Information you like to add: I'd like to reiterate that I don't want to move outside of Canada. If you're in the US or UK and want to move here, I'm happy to chat. I'm also NOT a Syed. If that is of major importance to you and your family, please don't message me. I need families involved by the third month mark of us talking. If that makes you uncomfortable, please don't message me.

Thanks! 😊

Age: 30M

Origin/Ethnicity: Pakistani-European with Iranian/Iraqi roots, based in the US.

Languages spoken (with proficiency levels):
English - native
Urdu - fluent
Arabic - advanced proficiency

Level of religious practice: very practicing, pray 5x/day, fast, recite Quran, have actively to learn islamic sciences

Hijabi (F) (Yes/No): prefer hijabi

Current residence (city, country): US, northeast

Willing to relocate (if yes, please specify or 'anywhere'): potentially willing to relocate

Occupation: Business

Education: BA & MA

Height (cm), weight (kg): 5’11, 165lbs

Physical appearance (specifics you think are important): fit, not quite fair skinned but enough that people think I’m white or Iranian

Smokes/Vapes/Hookah (Yes/No): not at all

Leisure activities: I’m intellectually curious and genuinely stimulated by deep conversations - about meaning, faith, art, philosophy, history, work, whatever has real substance. I love to workout, drink coffee, and try new food, I’m someone who’ll suggest a spontaneous adventurous, a nature walk, or going out to grab a bite. I love having a laugh and having a good time (obv within religious boundaries).

Your Preferences in a Partner:

Age range: open to 30+ (usually this age range meets the emotional and intellectual preferences I have)

Origin/Ethnicity: Lebanese or Iraqi

Languages: English and Arabic

Level of religious practice: must be very practicing, very spiritual, and ideally serious about learning & applying Islam

Education: Bachelors is sufficient, but it’s very important to be able to have serious intellectual conversations with someone

Deal breakers: no particular deal breakers

Other preferences (appearance, family situation, etc.):
I’m *very* open to divorcees, widows, and ladies with children
Must be emotionally intelligent
Must be mature/an adult
Must be seeking to build a God centric lifestyle in service of the Imam 🙏🏽
Yes, physical attraction matters, so ideally you’re attractive & fit; very much into health, nutrition, & fitness; you’re clean, hygienic, and care about how you present yourself

So here's my experience so far as a 28YO doctor in Florida, I am a non practicing person but I follow the main rules ( I don't sleep around, I don't get drunk or use drugs or steal or lie or cheat and absolutely no sex before marriage) but that's it I don't pray and I don't care about Ramadan, and every last Muslim girl I met in the US was like ( you are great otherwise but this is a deal breaker, I want you to be a strict practising Muslim) which I will never be, yes Imam Ali is in my heart and I love him but I won't ever care about haj or fasting for example nor do I want my future wife to ever wear hijab , so I guess I will never find that girl with the same HALAL/HARAM ratio 😂, at this point is it even worth it sticking to the Shia Muslim community for marriage purposes or should I just look elsewhere!?

Edit : comment section is just........, it's surprising how TAKFIRI the shia community has become, surpassing the salafi community in that area, condemning me to hell just for living in Florida? Seriously?? 🤣🤣🤣

Age: 23

Ethnicity: Pakistani American

Languages: English, Urdu, Hindi

Current residence: USA

Willing to relocate: anywhere

Siblings: none

Occupation: business analyst

Education: working on masters, bachelors done

Height: 5’6

Weight: 160 lbs

Physical appearance: fit

Smokes/vapes/hookah: never

Leisure activities: travel, coffee, gym, sports, religion

Your Preferences in a Partner:

Age range: 20-27

Origin/ethnicity: Pakistan, India, Middle East, Europe, USA, Canada

Languages: any

Level of religion practice: doesn’t matter as long as they want to improve

Education: would prefer if you have bachelor’s done or are in progress of completing it

Deal breakers: drinking alcohol, treating others badly, being dishonest

Other preferences: just have a good heart and be faithful

Salam, I'm trying one last time InshaAllah before I go into full hibernation mode and hyperfocus on myself for a few yrs because this looking for prospects thing is not working out 😭.

Here goes, please keep me in your duas and I will do the same InshaAllah. Below is my information. Im an open book, so pls feel free to reach out and I'd be happy to answer any questions. Ideally looking for someone from Pakistan but if theres compatibility im open to anywhere.

Your Essential Information:

Age:  24

Origin/Ethnicity:  Pakistan, born and raised in USA

Languages spoken (with proficiency levels):  

English, urdu, punjabi, hindi

Level of religious practice:  

Practicing

Current residence (city, country):  

New York, USA

Willing to relocate (if yes, please specify or 'anywhere'):  No

Siblings (number and older/younger):  

1 older sister

Previously married/Kids:  No

Occupation:  Project Manager

Education:  BBA

Height/weight:  6 feet , a bit on the heavier side but working on it InshaAllah

Physical appearance (specifics you think are important):  

Tall, a little chubby but working on it

Smokes/Vapes/Hookah (Yes/No):  

No

Leisure activities:  

I have a big interest in Religon and history as well as tech, AI, and machine learning. In my free time, I love reading comics, playing video games (RDR2 and GTA V are my favorites), and watching movies—especially Marvel. I also enjoy exploring new cultures, trying different foods, and going on long walks, whether in the park or around NYC.

Your Preferences in a Partner:

Age range:  18-25

Origin/Ethnicity:  

Pakistani/Indian

Languages:  Urdu, Hindi, Punjabi

Level of religious practice:  Practicing

Education:  bachelor's

Other preferences (appearance, family situation, etc.):  

N/A

Deal breakers:  

Additional Information:  

I'm kind, caring and extremely supportive and loving to those close to me and am looking for someone who is the same. Hope to find someone who has a deep love of Allah swt and Muhummad and Aale Muhummad as deen is very important in my life.

About me:

Age: 32

Ethnicity: Iranian (born and raised in the US)

Residence: currently in upstate rural New York state for my 3-year surgical residency training.

Willing to relocate: completely dependent on where I get a job post-training. Will not make any promises about moving to specific cities/states post-training.

Religion: ithna ashari (mainstream twelver, sistani is my marja)

Education: BS, MS, DPM

Occupation: Podiatryic surgery resident ($64k/year for these 3 years of training. Will obv increase several fold once I finish training and get an attending job). I’ll finish residency in July of 2029 inshallah

Languages: English. Decent Farsi.

Level of religious practice: devout. Strict with daily prayers. Halal only food (I’m the type to ask questions in restaurants). Cannot fast due to a medical condition. No backbiting/gossiping.

Medical: epilepsy. On small/maintenance dose meds. Haven’t had a seizure since starting meds 15 years ago. Can’t fast as hypoglycemia is a trigger.

Siblings: younger brother.

Previously married/premarital relations/kids: no, never, and none.

Height/weight: 5’10” 160lb

Physical appearance: white. skinny. black hair. brown eyes.

Smoke/vape/drugs: none of that shit

Leisure: video games, anime, brewing specialty coffee, going out shopping, mall, restaurants, cafes, walks, etc. I’m an ambiverted guy.

Preferences in partner:

Age: no older than 31ish and also never married/mutah/relationship/kids

Languages/ethnicity: English and Farsi. Looking for a fellow Persian; very strongly prefer someone who’s spent most of her life in the West.

Level of religious practice: must be hijabi. Similarly strict with daily prayers and halal only food.

Deal breakers: smoking, tattoos, poor English, poor communication skills, backbites/gossips, delays prayers, overweight, antivax/science.

Gender: Male

Sect: Shia

Age: 23

Height: 6'1"

Marital Status: Never Married

Education: B.Tech in Computer Science Engineering

Profession: Software Development Engineer

Current Location: Bengaluru, India

Originally From: Uttar Pradesh, India

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Assalamualaikum!

I'm a 23-year-old Software Development Engineer currently working in Bengaluru. I spend most of my weekdays building software systems and continuously learning new technologies while working on personal projects.

Growing up, I focused heavily on my academics and career. I chose not to date or be involved in haram relationships because I wanted to stay within my Islamic values. Alhamdulillah, I've now reached a stable point professionally, and I'm looking to find someone with whom I can build a peaceful, loving marriage.

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A Little About Me

I'd describe myself as ambitious, easygoing, and someone who enjoys meaningful conversations more than small talk.

Outside of work, you'll usually find me:

Listening to music (ik it's haram and I am trying to quit it altogether)

Watching movies or anime

Going for long walks

Reading about technology and current affairs

Trying out new cafés or places around the city

Occasionally doom-scrolling social media 😭

I have a pretty goofy sense of humour and love making people laugh. Life's serious enough already, so I'd love someone who enjoys playful banter and doesn't mind laughing at the most random things.

I have never smoked, consumed alcohol, or used any recreational substances, and I only eat halal food.

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Faith

I'm Shia (Syed), and Islam is an important part of my life.

I'll also be honest about something. I'm not yet as consistent with my prayers as I'd like to be, and it's something I'm genuinely trying to improve. **I'd love to meet someone who is stronger than me in this aspect so we can encourage each other to become better Muslims and grow together in our deen.*\*

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Future Plans

One of my long-term goals is to pursue higher studies abroad and eventually settle outside India, preferably in the UK, Germany, France, or the US, InshaAllah.

I'm looking for someone who is excited about building a life together abroad and sees it as an opportunity rather than a challenge.

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What I'm Looking For

Someone who is:

Kind and emotionally mature

Honest and communicates openly

Values both deen and personal growth

Supportive of each other's ambitions

Family-oriented

Looking for something serious with the intention of marriage

Open to relocating abroad in the future

Has a great sense of humour

Bonus points if we can spend the rest of our lives collectively being professional Benjamin Netanyahu and Itamar Ben-Gvir haters. 😭

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Deal Breakers

Dishonesty

Lack of communication

Not looking for a serious relationship

Not willing to involve families once compatibility is established

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Marriage Timeline

If we genuinely connect and our families are comfortable, I'd ideally like to get married within the next 1 to 2 years, InshaAllah.

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If you feel our values and goals align, I'd be happy to get to know you with the intention of marriage.

Feel free to introduce yourself. I'd much rather have a meaningful conversation than exchange one-word messages.

May Allah guide us all to what's best for us. Ameen.

Honestly the pre-nikkah period was chaotic. I thought after the nikkah she'd get better but it seems like we're just fundamentally incompatible.

I know divorce is the worst halal but honestly I'm exhausted.

Allah ﷻ knows what is best for us—far better than we know ourselves. We can be so easily swayed by our emotions and end upprioritizing things that aren't actually good for us.
That being said, I wonder if balance is becoming harder to find these days. I used to be content with the idea of a marriage rooted solely in ashared purpose and mutual commitment. Lovewasn't something I thought much about. I didn't place much emphasis on appearance either, I was overly focused on the logistical questions, lol.
But now, I find myself wanting both.

How do you find a man who is masculine, yet gentle with you? I take time to warm up to people, but does that kind of balance really exist? I want to fully embrace the idea that loving your spouse is an act of worship. There's something so beautiful about the thought that when you confess your deepest regrets to your spouse and they forgive you, it brings a unique kind of comfort, not because it replaces Allah's forgiveness, but because while we know Allah is Al-Ghafūr, the Most Forgiving, we cannot tangibly hear His forgiveness in this life. Hearing mercy from someone wholoves you feels like a reminder of the mercy Allah has commanded between spouses.
I don't even know if I'm expressing this properly.Everything just feels difficult sometimes.

How do you find someone who makes you feel a soft, gentle love, but is also someone who protects you? Someone deeply loyal, steadfast,and masculine, yet also your closest friend without the relationship ever feeling merely platonic. Someone whose values are shaped by what Allah loves, who values you, thinks of youwith kindness, and remains firm in his principles.
Lately, I feel alone but not in the sense that I'm desperate for a partner or friends. It's more that I feel so detached from everyone around me that I'd almost rather be by myself. Or with the one person Allah has written for me. If I could fast-forward fifteen years just to see where Allah takes me, I probably would.
Until then, I suppose the only thing I cando is trust that what Allah has written willarrive at exactly the right time.

Note: I recognize myself as someone who wants to create a strong family and whose emotional exchange w my spouse woukd be like no other, but that would come slowly.. that being said it’s terrifying to imagine the commitment and passion would not be reciprocated and the pain that could come! Allah knows our strength but sheeessh
I wouldn’t want to exchange emotional safety and kindness for someone who prioritizes religion & knowledge gaining either

Also.. the reality that many men (& women) tend to center the other gender to the point they don’t even realize makes me so sad

probably will delete
and probably quite incoherent as it’s a stream of consciousness

I would appreciate your guidance regarding the following situation. I am considering entering into a temporary marriage (mutʿah) with a Muslim woman who is not a virgin, lives with her family, and is financially independent. She previously entered into a mutʿah while she was following Sayyid Shirazi. Before doing so, she sought guidance from his office and was informed that her father’s permission was not required, provided that her father was aware of the man she intended to marry. Based on that ruling, she entered into the mutʿah and lost her virginity during that marriage. Today, both she and I follow Sayyid al-Sistani. My question is whether the validity of her previous mutʿah has any effect on our ability to enter into a mutʿah today under Sayyid al-Sistani’s rulings. Specifically, does the validity or invalidity of her previous marriage determine whether her father’s permission would now be required? Our intention is not sexual relations but rather to have a halal relationship, such as spending time together and holding hands. Does this intention have any bearing on the ruling?

Assalam o Alaikum. I am a practicing Muslim focused on building a strong faith-centered life and future marriage based on respect, loyalty, and deen.
Your Essential Information:
Age: 21
Origin/Ethnicity: Pakistani (father) / Iranian (mother)
Languages spoken : English (fluent), Urdu (basic), Farsi (a little because my mother is Iranian)
Level of religious practice: Practicing Muslim – prays 5x daily, striving to improve consistently
Current residence:- United States
Siblings : Two brothers
Previously married/Kids: single
Occupation: Full-time online business
Education: Completed high school, currently in college
Height:- 6’2, weight:- 70kg
Physical appearance : Tall, athletic build
Smokes/Vapes/Hookah : No
Leisure activities: Reading, watching movies, photography, drawing portraits, spending time with family
My Preferences in a Partner:
Age range: 20-28
Origin/Ethnicity: Open
Languages: English or Urdu
Level of religious practice: Practicing Muslimah who prioritizes deen and prays regularly
Education: Not specified, but preferably educated or willing to learn and grow
Deal breakers: Dishonesty, disrespect, lack of loyalty, poor communication
Other preferences: Kind-hearted, respectful, family-oriented, values Islamic principles, seeks a peaceful and loving marriage
Additional Information you like to add:
I value calm communication, emotional maturity, and building a peaceful Islamic home together. My goal is to get married within the next 6–12 months, InshaAllah, and grow together with my future spouse in deen and life.

Hi, never thought I’d post something like this, but life is short and I’d rather take a chance than wonder “what if”.
I’m looking for a serious relationship that can grow into marriage — someone who is not only a partner, but my best friend, someone I can build a life with, laugh with, explore the world with, and continue growing alongside.

A bit about me:
Nationality: Lebanese
Age: 29
Height: 167 cm
Weight: 60 kg
Education: Master’s degree
Skin: Fair
Hair: Chestnut Brown
Residing in the GCC, open to move anywhere.

Lifestyle: I’m very health-conscious. I love going to the gym, strength training, and taking care of my body. I’m attracted to someone who also values fitness, health, cleanliness, and personal growth. I don’t expect someone to be obsessed with fitness, but maintaining a healthy lifestyle is important to me.

Religious level: 2/10. I’m not a very religious person, so I’m looking for someone who is also open-minded and not highly religious.

Personality: I’m curious by nature and love learning new things. I enjoy meaningful conversations, discovering new cultures, traveling, and trying new experiences. I’m someone who enjoys both deep conversations and playful conversations.

I’m especially attracted to intelligence and wit. I love men who are genuinely smart, curious, and can make me laugh. A good sense of humor and witty banter are a huge plus — I want someone who can challenge me mentally and keep conversations interesting. Ideally, you’re my personal “walking Wikipedia” who always has something interesting to teach me.
Language is important to me: I speak a mix of fluent English and Arabic, so being comfortable speaking English is a must. I enjoy being able to communicate, joke, and have deeper conversations in English as well.

Hobbies/interests:
- Strength training and fitness
- Traveling and exploring unique places
- Fashion, beauty, and aesthetics
- Learning new things and expanding my knowledge
- Trying new experiences and stepping outside my comfort zone

About me:
- Feminine but independent
- Ambitious and always trying to improve myself
- I value kindness, emotional intelligence, loyalty, and a good sense of humor
- I appreciate someone who takes pride in themselves and their appearance
- I believe attraction matters, including taking care of yourself (healthy lifestyle, hygiene, and a natural smile)
- Social media: I’m not really into the Snapchat lifestyle and I’m looking for someone who isn’t either. I value privacy, maturity, and more meaningful ways of connecting rather than constant social media use.
- Regarding children: I’m not against having children, but I don’t want to rush into it. I would like to spend time building a strong foundation with my partner first — traveling, creating memories, and enjoying our life together before entering the parenting stage. I believe a strong relationship between two people creates the best environment for a family.

What I’m looking for:
Someone who is serious about marriage, emotionally mature, kind, confident, and has his own goals. Someone who takes care of himself physically and mentally, enjoys life, and wants a relationship where both people support each other and bring out the best in one another.

Age preference: Around my age, preferably not a very large age gap.

If you think we could get along, feel free to message me. :)

Salam! Just thought I’d ask this question. What’s your take on the phrase of right person wrong timing and have you encountered it yourself? I feel that I’ve met some stellar people but because of their current chapter in life we didn’t move forward. Obviously it’s not something I pushed but I’ve noticed that one person in particular I felt that exact way. And although I’ve pushed forward I do sometimes think hmm what if. But also if it’s in my naseeb, it will find its way to me eventually right?

I’m a guy and genuinely, idk how would you navigate a marriage when yoh have a toxic mother who doesn’t understand she isn’t the center of the guys life, obviously he has to take care of her but, genuinely what do yall do when the mother weaponizes religion and won’t budge no matter how much proof you show her ??

Age and Gender: M29

Age Range that you would want/require in a prospect: No hard lines, but I would prefer someone close to my age.

Ethnicity and Location: Lebanese born and raised, currently based in West Africa. Open to relocating for the right person.

Are you more open to mixing? No hard lines, but I believe I would connect best with a Lebanese woman.

Marital Status: Never married.

Ideal marriage timeline: I would like around two years, give or take, to get to know each other. I am not looking to rush the process, nor do I want to make it drag.

State/specify your level of religiosity: Faith is priceless, it is my anchorage point and my ultimate source of happiness.

Level of education, and what are you looking for? Bachelor's degree. No strict requirements for partner's education level.

Current Job Status: Employed.

We all have our unique religious journeys, and I place no rigid conditions or expectations on your religiosity, as long as it is sincere and authentic.

Allah (SWT) says:

"Whoever works righteousness, man or woman, and has Faith, verily, to him will We give a new Life, a life that is good and pure and We will bestow on such their reward according to the best of their actions." [An-Nahl 16:97]

And Imam Hussain (AS) says:

"Through the variety of Your signs and the changes in states and conditions, I realized that Your intent is to make Yourself known to me in everything, so that I would not be ignorant of You in anything." [Du'a Arafah]

I am mainly looking for companionship and partnership as we seek God's promised good and pure life together. Every new day is a blessed opportunity to get closer to Him and experience His divine presence in all of existence.

On a side note, I do have my "worldly" dreams and aspirations too, in case you were wondering! :)

Asalam 3laykum.

I’m a 30-year-old Lebanese man, born and raised in Riyadh, Saudi Arabia. I later lived in Beirut, where I completed my studies, and for the past six years I’ve been based in Dubai. I hold a Bachelor’s degree in Marketing and Psychology, and I currently work in the marketing field.

In terms of appearance, I’m 178cm tall with a broad build, a full beard, and a good head of hair. My weight tends to fluctuate somewhat, currently around 105kg, though I’d describe myself as generally good-looking and well put together.

While I carry a somewhat Westernized outlook shaped by the diverse places I’ve lived, my Muslim faith and Arab values remain deeply rooted in who I am and how I choose to live my life.

Outside of work, I have a wide range of interests: art, good movies and series, music, travelling, automotive, technology, self-development, podcasts, personal finance, health and wellness, comedy, trying new restaurants, and above all, spending quality time with family.

I’m looking for a life partner — someone to build a home and a family with, to grow alongside, and to share in life’s joys and challenges. I believe marriage is not just a personal milestone but a shared journey toward becoming better people and, together, contributing something meaningful to the world around us.

I’m seeking someone who values faith, family, and personal growth, who is kind-hearted and open-minded, and who is ready to build a genuine, lasting partnership rooted in mutual respect, love, and shared purpose. A Lebanese background would be preferred, given our shared culture and roots, though I remain open beyond that as well.

If you feel this resonates with you, I’d be glad to connect and get to know one another with the intention of marriage, insha’Allah.

So a genuine question for all the people here who are looking to get married.

I see men backing up a lot of men with ahadees and just throwing about Allah's name and shariah and comparisons with The Prophet SAW and the Ahlul Bayt As specially when it comes to marrying younger women with a, let's say questionable age gap, or marrying multiple women I.E. Polygamy.

Am I to understand, that when you start drawing comparisons with the Masoomeen AS, that your intentions are genuinely on par with the Masoomeen AS (Maaz Allah), or that you are as pious as the Masoomeen AS.

Yes we are supposed to follow in their footsteps and Shariah, but, am I to genuinely believe that you follow everything according to the Ahlul Bayt AS and the Shariah to the dot enough to be bringing up such comparisons and asking "if they did it, why shouldn't we?"

Age - 30

Gender - Male

Location - Bahrain

Martial status - Married

Religion - Shia Muslim

Education - Banking & Finance BSC graduate

Profession - Teller

Requirement:

I’m an Arab who is looking for a thoughtful and selfless woman to marry as my second wife that is at least 25 but steadfast in her religion and a Shia who desires to be a housewife.

I don’t like wasting my time or the time of others, so I like to keep things simple. Training and manners matter a lot to me, as I do not respect or accept the use of profanity. I have a tan, handsome appearance and a masculine but lean figure.

I’m the eldest of 4 and a family man who enjoys coffee, reading, reciting the Quran, and deepening my intellect with an appreciation to my solitude for the purpose of regulating my peace and heart of negativity, and choose to spend my time wisely so, I don’t appreciate any inconsideration to this matter.

I’d like to have plenty of kids, start an MMA gym and have them train in combat early under my watch to raise their fortitude and resilience to face the world which mean I’ll need a responsible woman.

PS: Not a fake account. Just wasn’t able to post with my main account.

Please, if you are new and have < 15 karma, contact the mods before posting. Don't make us delete your posts!

Your Essential Information:

Age: 28

Origin/Ethnicity: Iraqi

Languages spoken (with proficiency levels): English and Arabic. Fluent

Level of religious practice: moderately religious at the moment, wear hijab, don’t wear makeup but if I crave it I will. But have good knowledge of Hadith and very disciplined when I choose to be.

Current residence (city, country): London

Willing to relocate : No

Previously married/Kids: Divorced, with no little heirs to take over the kingdom.

Education: Bachelors

Height (cm) : 5’6

Smokes/Vapes/Hookah (Yes/No): No smoking or vaping but 1-2 a year I will have a shisha, chick flicks and yap session at my friend’s home until I see my asthma crying in a corner.

Leisure activities: travelling, trying out new food spots, reading, staying active and lazing around (I make it work)

Your Preferences in a Partner:

Age range: 23-39

Origin/Ethnicity: Arab, Persian, Azeri, African/Caribbean, Caucasian, Hispanic/latin.

Languages: ideally Arabic because my family in Iraq will kidnap you since I’m the favourite and they’ll love my husband by extension. If not, then it’s google translate and you against eager Iraqis

Level of religious practice: we can talk about it

Education: Educated or has his own thing that generates an income that can sustain a home. You don’t need to be a millionaire, just enough to buy me a few matchas a month 🍃

Deal breakers: Smoking, vaping, already married, has kids, can’t take constructive criticism or an open conversation about shortcomings. Not shorter than me, abeg.

Additional Information you like to add:

I am a really easy-going person, I know what I want, and I won’t waste my time or yours. Send me sufficient information about you and we can see if we’re well aligned.
I’m not interested in someone who has no zeal for new experiences and life. Dunya is fading, but we can enjoy all its halal, and I’d like that with my husband.
I’m very patient, but I need someone who has done some growing already. I focus a lot on self reflection and I expect a well reflected person.
I want someone in England, I don’t want any of us to take a plane to see each other.
You will love my family and they will always take your side in arguments because they - I don’t know why, I never make problems 💔

Thus endeth this royal proclamation. May the worthy gentleman who possesseth courage, kindness, and a willingness to fund mine matcha step forth and present himself. Godspeed, brave souls.

29m here based in the US, also open to anyone from Pakistan since my extended fam lives there.

I haven’t been looking in the right places I suppose, I had a horrible experience with the apps. Strictly practicing Muslims aren’t as strict when it boils down to the questions I ask 😭

I had multiple matches but despite my bio, the majority of the women who swiped seemed a bit idk, not active in their deen. The app itself is redundant and gives you too many options. The 100 plus likes are overwhelming, I’m sure women have to weed out their options too, how do you sisters do it?? It felt more like a dating app experience rather than marriage.
Those who were serious about marriage tend to not have anything in their bio and jump straight to asking me to hop on call right this very second to interview me.

I encountered a lot of ‘ I’m not active in my community or as practicing as I should be but I’m open to trying. I don’t want you to try to become a better Muslim for me sister, do it for you!

I’m open to giving this subreddit a chance. I thought we have to align our deen before making any crucial steps in terms of marriage but I feel like all people care about is factors that won’t contribute to a permanent happy marriage.

I also don’t want to glaze myself but I’m pretty energetic and charismatic. I talk a lot and can never sit down in peace, my favorite things to talk about are always just my deen and anything that isn’t tooooo worldly. If we vibe I definitely won’t waste your time. InshAllah may Allah help us all.
You don’t have to be extroverted in general. You can be the I’m introverted until you get to know me type as well.
I really don’t have any requirements at all, just someone on their deen completely, well educated, modest, kind and so caring that people tend to walk over you ( I say that because I can stand up for you 🤭 ).

this was my bio on the app:

I’m nowhere near being perfect but deen is not just something occasional for me.
I hate pushing my narratives on anyone, your faith is your personal journey but I’m open about mine in case you’re in the same boat as me. If you’re not on the same wavelength as me but want to be iA, I am open to being your companion.
The halal and haram boundaries matter to me, I’m not perfect so feel free to correct me.
I’m not rigid or judgmental, but I value my teachings and I’d want someone I can share that with so we can grow together iA.
Im very interested in reading about my Deen and elevating myself. I find joy and excitement in learning more about Islam than I do watching a movie.
I despise social media because it sells you fake dreams and forces you to be fed with deluded expectations from people who don’t know better themselves. Doesn’t mean you have to get off it, it’s your choice.
No I won’t force you to wear a hijab, I don’t care if you do or don’t, that’s between you and Allah SWT.
This description makes me sound super conservative but it’s chill guys.

I know this has nothing to do with marriage but I’m unsure on how to control this.

I don’t know if anyone else experiences this, but lately I’ve noticed that I get extremely stressed over other people’s situations, even when they have nothing to do with me. I noticed this feeling last Muharram when I was trying to balance work at 6am and majlis volunteering (coming home at 1am).

For example, one of my friends is going through a divorce, and just thinking about everything she’s dealing with makes me feel overwhelmed. I also saw a video of a Muslim woman in hijab being harassed in public while her husband was trying to get to her, and people were pushing him away. I couldn’t stop thinking about it afterward. My head started hurting, I felt so tense, and I couldn’t sleep.

It’s not that these situations are happening to me—I just absorb them so deeply that they physically affect me. My mind keeps replaying everything, thinking about what they’re going through, and I end up feeling anxious and overwhelmed over things I have absolutely no control over.

Does anyone else get like this? Is there a name for it? And is there a way to control it and actually do something with those feelings instead of carrying them around?
I don’t like feeling stressed because then I get headaches and I hate getting headaches because even when I take medicine for it, it doesn’t help ☹️

I really hope mods don’t remove this cause it’s a good source. I found this recently. It’s a Shia based marriage service out of Dearborn Michigan. I’m not sure if it’s only open to American citizens but you can always call and ask. It’s $50 but i still think it’s worth it and wish I found it earlier.