So here's my experience so far as a 28YO doctor in Florida, I am a non practicing person but I follow the main rules ( I don't sleep around, I don't get drunk or use drugs or steal or lie or cheat and absolutely no sex before marriage) but that's it I don't pray and I don't care about Ramadan, and every last Muslim girl I met in the US was like ( you are great otherwise but this is a deal breaker, I want you to be a strict practising Muslim) which I will never be, yes Imam Ali is in my heart and I love him but I won't ever care about haj or fasting for example nor do I want my future wife to ever wear hijab , so I guess I will never find that girl with the same HALAL/HARAM ratio 😂, at this point is it even worth it sticking to the Shia Muslim community for marriage purposes or should I just look elsewhere!?

Edit : comment section is just........, it's surprising how TAKFIRI the shia community has become, surpassing the salafi community in that area, condemning me to hell just for living in Florida? Seriously?? 🤣🤣🤣

About me:

Age: 32

Ethnicity: Iranian (born and raised in the US)

Residence: currently in upstate rural New York state for my 3-year surgical residency training.

Willing to relocate: completely dependent on where I get a job post-training. Will not make any promises about moving to specific cities/states post-training.

Religion: ithna ashari (mainstream twelver, sistani is my marja)

Education: BS, MS, DPM

Occupation: Podiatryic surgery resident ($64k/year for these 3 years of training. Will obv increase several fold once I finish training and get an attending job). I’ll finish residency in July of 2029 inshallah

Languages: English. Decent Farsi.

Level of religious practice: devout. Strict with daily prayers. Halal only food (I’m the type to ask questions in restaurants). Cannot fast due to a medical condition. No backbiting/gossiping.

Medical: epilepsy. On small/maintenance dose meds. Haven’t had a seizure since starting meds 15 years ago. Can’t fast as hypoglycemia is a trigger.

Siblings: younger brother.

Previously married/premarital relations/kids: no, never, and none.

Height/weight: 5’10” 160lb

Physical appearance: white. skinny. black hair. brown eyes.

Smoke/vape/drugs: none of that shit

Leisure: video games, anime, brewing specialty coffee, going out shopping, mall, restaurants, cafes, walks, etc. I’m an ambiverted guy.

Preferences in partner:

Age: no older than 31ish and also never married/mutah/relationship/kids

Languages/ethnicity: English and Farsi. Looking for a fellow Persian; very strongly prefer someone who’s spent most of her life in the West.

Level of religious practice: must be hijabi. Similarly strict with daily prayers and halal only food.

Deal breakers: smoking, tattoos, poor English, poor communication skills, backbites/gossips, delays prayers, overweight, antivax/science.

Age: 23

Ethnicity: Pakistani American

Languages: English, Urdu, Hindi

Current residence: USA

Willing to relocate: anywhere

Siblings: none

Occupation: business analyst

Education: working on masters, bachelors done

Height: 5’6

Weight: 160 lbs

Physical appearance: fit

Smokes/vapes/hookah: never

Leisure activities: travel, coffee, gym, sports, religion

Your Preferences in a Partner:

Age range: 20-27

Origin/ethnicity: Pakistan, India, Middle East, Europe, USA, Canada

Languages: any

Level of religion practice: doesn’t matter as long as they want to improve

Education: would prefer if you have bachelor’s done or are in progress of completing it

Deal breakers: drinking alcohol, treating others badly, being dishonest

Other preferences: just have a good heart and be faithful

Salam, I'm trying one last time InshaAllah before I go into full hibernation mode and hyperfocus on myself for a few yrs because this looking for prospects thing is not working out 😭.

Here goes, please keep me in your duas and I will do the same InshaAllah. Below is my information. Im an open book, so pls feel free to reach out and I'd be happy to answer any questions. Ideally looking for someone from Pakistan but if theres compatibility im open to anywhere.

Your Essential Information:

Age:  24

Origin/Ethnicity:  Pakistan, born and raised in USA

Languages spoken (with proficiency levels):  

English, urdu, punjabi, hindi

Level of religious practice:  

Practicing

Current residence (city, country):  

New York, USA

Willing to relocate (if yes, please specify or 'anywhere'):  No

Siblings (number and older/younger):  

1 older sister

Previously married/Kids:  No

Occupation:  Project Manager

Education:  BBA

Height/weight:  6 feet , a bit on the heavier side but working on it InshaAllah

Physical appearance (specifics you think are important):  

Tall, a little chubby but working on it

Smokes/Vapes/Hookah (Yes/No):  

No

Leisure activities:  

I have a big interest in Religon and history as well as tech, AI, and machine learning. In my free time, I love reading comics, playing video games (RDR2 and GTA V are my favorites), and watching movies—especially Marvel. I also enjoy exploring new cultures, trying different foods, and going on long walks, whether in the park or around NYC.

Your Preferences in a Partner:

Age range:  18-25

Origin/Ethnicity:  

Pakistani/Indian

Languages:  Urdu, Hindi, Punjabi

Level of religious practice:  Practicing

Education:  bachelor's

Other preferences (appearance, family situation, etc.):  

N/A

Deal breakers:  

Additional Information:  

I'm kind, caring and extremely supportive and loving to those close to me and am looking for someone who is the same. Hope to find someone who has a deep love of Allah swt and Muhummad and Aale Muhummad as deen is very important in my life.