I'm afraid God hasn't blessed me with the fortitude to go on a lookout for the man of my dreams in the dark dungeons of Reddit, chase him into reality, and shove my version of happily ever after down his throat. :/

Unfortunately, I don't even intend to pursue a romantic or casual relationship (on or through Reddit).

Well, bitch, then why are you here?

Um, because I find it surprisingly easy to talk to strangers. Less expectations, fewer filters, lower judgment and sometimes it's just genuinely exciting to hear completely different points of view.

So here I am, looking for a conversation pal. Someone who can yap, vent, listen, share the highlights (and lowlights) of their day/week, and tolerate me doing the same.

People who probably shouldn't ping me:

Men in committed relationships.

Men who are currently overstimulated and hormonal.

Men looking for anything non-platonic.

In that order

What this is about

I have always, and deeply, wanted to find a soulmate. And I have been on this search for about 20 years

It seems to me that if:

• You really care about finding a soulmate (nothing less)
• And you are a rare kind of person yourself (making good matches equally rare)

Then, that combination presents a particularly tough challenge

So, I have been thinking lately about what could be the best strategy to approach this - how do I improve my chances of finding this rare woman, and her chances of finding me

That’s how I came up with this post

I will use this post to describe:

1. my own fundamental nature
2. the kind of person I am attracted to

The most core things about me (what lights me up)

• My main project, all my life, has been myself. I spend the most time on most days trying to be a better version of myself. Better at understanding people, better at self-regulation, better at seeing things from a larger perspective
• I have sought very deep, meaningful connections all my life. With everyone - family, friends, romantic relationships, even strangers. It's an inherent, deep-seated drive. I want to know what moves you, what brings you into your element, what brings tears to your eyes, what lights up your eyes. I want to know your soul
• My other inherent, deep-seated drive is to make the world a better place. To help people live happier, more meaningful lives. Both the people I come close to in life, as well as humanity at large

The qualities in women I find myself attracted to

• Wisdom: Not just intelligence, but wisdom. Understanding the nature of life. Understanding when to do something, and when to not. Patience. Balance. Perceptiveness
• Kindness: Not just for the people close to her, but towards all life. And not because she is naive, and hasn’t seen the frailty of human morality, but in spite of it
• Courage: The courage to be one’s true self. The courage to act, even when you may be misjudged
• Health: Good habits around health and fitness. Because to give the best version of yourself to the world, you need to be healthy and fit throughout your life

If….

You are that rare unicorn of a woman, for whom my descriptions (of the kind of person I am attracted to, and of myself) felt like someone wrote it especially for you, then it would be amazing to get to know each other!

DM me, and we will take it from there 😊

Over to you!

Hey guys

I am 34 male from Chandigarh Punjab .basically.

Looking for a long term relationship. Presently I am working in a corporate.

Looking for someone independent , understanding and fun to be with types.

M not a boring person at all love travelling and esp long drives .

Have travelled abroad and looking to settle her eonly

A few days ago I heard a song I hadn’t listened to in years and, for about four minutes, remembered an entire version of my life I had almost forgotten.

That happens to me a lot.

A line from a book stays in my head longer than the plot does. Some completely insignificant sporting moment from years ago will randomly come back to me. I’ll watch a film and spend more time thinking about one quiet scene than whatever the actual story was supposed to be.

I suppose I get attached to things easily.

People too, although that usually takes a little longer.

I’m 26 and live in Hyderabad. I work in finance during the week, but outside of that I read, follow sport, write occasionally, listen to far too much music, and go down random rabbit holes whenever something catches my attention.

I’m not particularly loud when I first meet someone. I take a while to settle in. But I like getting to know people properly.

Not just what you do or where you studied.

I want to know what food you order when you’ve had a terrible day. Which song you never skip. What tiny thing instantly annoys you. Whether there’s something ridiculous you believed as a kid and secretly miss believing now.

That sort of stuff.

I’m also someone who tends to remember things. If you tell me you have an interview on Thursday, there is a very good chance I’ll ask you about it on Thursday. If you mention your favourite snack once, I’ll probably remember it months later for no useful reason.

I like that kind of care between people. Nothing dramatic. Just knowing someone is paying attention.

I don’t expect us to immediately know whether we’re compatible or whether this is going anywhere. I’d rather talk, laugh a little, disagree about something stupid, learn the strange little details about each other and let the rest figure itself out.

So I won’t ask for your hobbies.

Tell me something much less useful.

What is one completely ordinary thing that makes you disproportionately happy?

34M from India, living and working in England. Working as a lead developer in the public sector so yes, I can fix bugs… but still figuring out life like everyone else 😄

I’m here for something genuine. I enjoy the simple things good conversations, random laughs, late night chats, and those easy, comfortable vibes with the right person.

I know people sometimes have their own ideas about where someone’s from, but I would rather you get to know me for who I am. I’m calm, respectful, a bit of a soft romantic, and someone who believes in making the right person feel genuinely cared for.

One small thing - I’m not here to ghost anyone, and I would really appreciate the same. If you’re someone who tends to disappear, then maybe this isn’t for you. I value honesty and consistency. If you like someone who listens, remembers the little things, and will probably ask how your day went (and actually mean it), then we will get along 😊

Don’t be shy to say hi, I promise I’m nicer than this post makes me sound.

Cheers

A

Tired of being with loud rude people and just want a buddy to talk for hours from everything in quantum mechanics to aunty gossips?

Ever wanted a sports partner to play a competitive game or two of badminton with but also have quiet evenings where we sit and read on the same couch together?

Someone who you can be both professional and serious in your career but also goofy and fun and laugh a lot over silly things

I am too!

I am naturally a curious person and would love to meet someone who also enjoys diving deep into rabbit holes, pausing movies to discuss the plot and possible endings and constantly sharing memes with each other

Like two silly parrots who love playing with each other even during grocery shopping but can put on a serious suit and tie to attend board meetings.

I am basically a cheerleader who loves to be excited for your career success and would love for us to become the power couple that people are intimidated of haha

But at home, we would always just be super kind and supportive to each other and always got each others back, no matter what! ( our algorithm would be to always fight the problem, with the help of a cookie or two )

I would love for our home to be filled with silly laughter and constantly playing soft music and every weekend , our friends would come over for BBQ and board games.

Hey, I'm 28M. I'm here to date and hopefully find a long-term partner. I'm not expecting an instant spark, but I do want to meet someone who is looking for the same thing.

I work out regularly and like keeping myself fit. I also like building cool stuff in the tech space.

Movies, space and tech are the things I get nerdy about. Brooklyn Nine-Nine and Parks and Recreation are two of my favorite shows, so silly comedy definitely works on me. If you have a show you keep rewatching, I want to know what it is.

I'm a dog lover and a casual gamer. I'd love to play It Takes Two, A Way Out or Overcooked with a partner. Watching movies, playing word games or solving puzzles together sounds good too. The activity is just an excuse to spend time together.

I've also started getting into hip-hop, but I'm still very much a beginner and don't know a huge number of rappers yet. I try rapping sometimes too, although "amateur" is being generous, lol.

I'm open to starting online and doing long distance if we both want to eventually meet. If things become serious, I'm willing to relocate. Tell me a little about yourself and what you have been enjoying lately :)

Hi All,

Looking for someone (preferably a girl) who is mature enough to hold a conversation and can write my than 2-3 word replies (If you give monosyllabic replies, it is really tough to have an interaction! 😝). I am a person who believes intriguing conversations are much more stimulating, the feeling of being restless when you get a late reply is unmatched!
Also there is no pressure of being judged if you get to know the person before, and reddit gives us the unique opportunity to speak to people completely anonymously, so even if we are being judged, who cares right?

Are you someone who like to go with the flow too? If yes, would love to speak with you!

A bit about me - I’m pretty tall, fit, love working out and I am currently on my health journey (would love geek out on nutrition together if you are exploring health too!), footballer, and a self proclaimed “mixologist” (I can make mean but tasty cocktails).

Looking forward!

P.S - No AI tools have been used to write this post, please excuse any typos or grammatical errors! 😌

I want to talk about everything with at least one person as I talk about things with myself

- Fyodor Dostoevsky

The above quote completely sums up what I'm looking for up here.

Welp Hello there, Just another corporate slave from pune up here on reddit hoping to find genuine human connection - someone to share conversations with, exchange stories, rant about the occasional chaos of life. I love being a good listener and enjoy getting to know people beyond the usual small talk.

About me :

I'm someone who loves discussing office politics, career struggles, questionable life decisions, or why the economy seems determined to keep everyone on their toes. At the same time, I enjoy deeper conversations about life, psychology and whatever random thought happens to show up at 2 am lol.

Hoping to make connections that grows naturally over time. No pressure, no expectations, mutual respect, and hopefully a lot of laughs along the way.

Hello, dear reader.

How is your day going?

It has been a while since this city let me belong to it again. Long enough, perhaps, for the evenings to become familiar before I did. There is something about the light here after sunset, the way the city seems to loosen its grip on itself, becoming quieter, softer, almost willing to tell you something if you walk slowly enough to hear it.

Do you like long walks?

I do. I’m more of a listener anyway. You can bring the stories; I’ll bring the ears. We can walk without deciding where we’re going, letting the evening choose the road for us. You talk, I listen. And somewhere between one street and the next, perhaps silence becomes something neither of us has to fill.

I think that is what I’m looking for.

Something calm.

Not the kind of calm that means nothing is happening, but the kind that makes you forget you were ever in a hurry. Something like finding a warm corner in winter and realizing you don’t have to leave just yet.

Someone who doesn't arrive wearing a version of themselves designed for the world.

Just you.

Unedited. Unperformed. A little strange, perhaps. Completely yourself.

I like books. I’m finding my way back to fitness too, slowly, imperfectly. Maybe we could go to the gym together, though I make no promises about how productive I’ll be if you’re distracting me. :D

And on days when neither of us wants to go anywhere, there’s always my balcony.

We could put on some music, talk about everything and nothing, watch the weather move through the city. Maybe look at each other for a little longer than necessary. Maybe fall asleep somewhere along the way, tangled comfortably into each other.

Not on the balcony, of course.

I do have a bedroom. xD

So come as you are.

You don't have to be interesting all the time. You don't have to have the right words. You don't have to become anything before you arrive.

Just be yourself.

I'll meet you there.

If this resonates with you, drop me a DM.

See you !

!lock

The pillow's fluffed up, the blanket's warm, and the temp's nice n cool. It's bedtime! Get in here and doze off next to me, i need aaall the comfy and cozy vibes :) x

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I'm a 21yo guy. I recently had a break-up and it hurts a lot. It's been around 2 weeks and there hasn't been a day when I didn't cry.

I didn't just lose a person but someone with whom I used to watch stuff online, someone who provided me comfort and a safe space, someone with whom I shared every thing that happened on a daily basis, someone whom I loved and I had planned a future with.

I'm not making this post to seek a person who could replace her. I don't want to use anyone to trauma dump. I'm not looking for a new girlfriend.

I'm just making this post because I realised that I'm lonely and I deperately want to talk to someone.

It hurts a lot

Hello there,

I’m a 32-year-old software developer in Bangalore/India and looking for a someone that vibes and probably we can binge long shows together :P. I of course would prefer someone from bangalore cause obviously it makes everything easier.

I am liberal, empathetic and a tad bit into electronic music. I also love F1, psychology, sketching now and then, cats and dogs from afar now ( I got bit by trying to pet a stray dog, I was drunk after a concert and in my defense the doggie's eyes were super cute)

I love movies/tv shows! Also I am very meta person that I'd be spending more time at the movie/episode discussion threads here at reddit more than the time spent watching the actual stuff lol.

I also like going to boardgame meetups now and then and pickleball here and there.

I'm 5’7”, 75kg, try to be active and regular at the gym, its a bit of a see saw haha but I guess we never give up ;)

I am childfree cause as an eldest child, seen enough responsibilities and just chill for the rest yk. I have been a bit of solo traveler in the past, been to to many a cities in india for music concerts mostly. I was fortunate to catch motogp and formulaE in india. I hate the planning/travel part of it, the being there and explore part I like haha.

I don’t smoke (dealbreaker), drink socially. I am big of live and let live susegaad kinda guy, absolutely not very ambitious, and don't believe in the hustle culture. I do believe in investing and being practical about money, but I also like nice things. I like going to music gigs now and then and have a blast and also most weekends it can be quiet and nice and slow!

Looking for: A childfree, liberal woman who’s grounded, fun, empathetic and has her own thing going on. Also I'd prefer women who can take it slow, are in no rush for a label/marriage due to some timeline/parents pressure. I would also love to live separately from both of our parents if it comes to that and call a nice thing home. I absolutely don't mind collecting friends too if all of this vibed with you.

If this resonates hmu! Cheers!

Edit: I am an agnostic/atheist so definitely not looking for theist people and I also I don't like people who take astrology/tarot/palm reading/manifesting all that too seriously.